Quote from: L0NZ. on April 08, 2018, 01:12:25 PM
Quote from: shanghai. on April 08, 2018, 01:06:22 PM
i mean i agree its supposed to be done
but if we're havin a really honest conversation today we'd have to admit that a lot of Black men grow up in single parent households where mom is the mom, dad and everything else.
so them saying "hey, im not gonna go that route,imma push against what i know and actually do whats right" could understandably be a big thing for them.
But what he "knows" is that he was raised by one parent. Why do we focus on the gender role of the absent parent and not the fact that the one parent doing what they have to do as a single parent is the best example to "push against and do what's right?"
This reminds me of that grapevine discussion with the Hoteps. One of the Hoteps obviously had alot of contempt for women because he was raised by women and didn't have any male figures, so we pretty much explained without saying it that he felt like Black women made him feminine and it angered him because so many people kept telling him there was one way to be a man and at first I couldn't understand because it's like they still raised you
But then I realized I kinda had an opposite reaction. I was raised by women too and both men and women kept trying to force one way to be a man on me, but I had an opposite reaction. I couldn't stand older black men and tbh Hoteps are like the eptiome of what those older black men thought so whenever I see a hotep it sends me into a fit of rage.