So, I have a few biases (as everyone does). One of my involves real friendship with hetero Black men. While growing up, most of the black men around me acted as if they hated gays. When I was younger this caused issues for me for obvi' reasons up until the time I began to fight back and change how I behaved. Once I started emulating the dudes in my neighborhood, I developed friendship with a lot of them.
Then I stopped fighting my urges and started messing with dudes towards the end of high school. I was frightened cuz I figured that once my friends found out they wouldn't want to be my friend anymore. So once I really started to embrace my rainbow nature and started losing friends I developed this bias about Black gay men and Black straight men. Never believing that real friendship could develop because of how we were conditioned and how much they'd hate me or think I'd try some shit with them.
This shit followed me up into GRADUATE school. I was one of the few only black men in the entire school and I met another Blk man (cool af, handsome, smart, liked to turn up)during orientation but he was straight. We exchanged numbers and were cool and hung out for a few weeks in the first semester. He could have really been a good friend. Then I really started to embrace and figure out who I was so I pushed him away.I figured he wouldnt accept me and we couldnt coexist. I regret the fuck out of that. Especially seeing how hard it is out here in our field. I really wish I would have given things a chance and just expressed how I felt.
I guess I mentioned this because recently I went back to my hometown and linked with a lot of my friends from high school. I came out "officially" to my straight homeboi's and they were kinda like "yeah nigga we been knew
you still my nigga". I would have never imagined they'd respond like that.
Then seeing this accepting and open-minded posts from REAL's mangy ass. Idk. Just made me wish I wasn't so biased about friendship between Blk straight and gay men.