Quote from: VirgoMind on April 26, 2018, 05:39:57 AM
Quote from: Bulldagger on April 26, 2018, 05:30:49 AM
Most men women meet online are off. Think about it, there are more women than men. Therefore, it is easy for a man to walk out of his door and meet a woman. I give gay men a pass because we?re like less than 5% of the popular and most of us have no way of meeting each other outside of dating apps. That doesn?t mean gay men shouldn?t be cautious, loook at Grindr... But if this so-called great guy is on Tinder and he lives in like a major city or something, something is wrong with that man. I don?t know any sane straight men who use dating apps because they don?t have to.
You can be a great guy but possibly socially awkward or not much experience dating/approaching others. So the apps create a barrier & ?safe space?. So I get why people may use it. Especially in this era. Most people don?t know how to have effective face-to-face communication due to technology.
Also, before apps and sites, these seemingly good guys would meet people on the street and kill, rape etc.. too so a crazy is a crazy regardless.
However, I think the apps and sites have taken away some of the steps in meeting /getting to know people. They send a few messages and then ?hey wanna come over?!?
Most desirable men are already taken. I?ve dealt with the socially awkward ones that didn?t have much experience and there was a reason. They were off to put it nicely. You?re socially awkward which means you don?t have people skills and that you?re most likely insecure. that is a problem. Describing yourself as socially awkward or social phobic or as having social anxiety isn?t a good thing. Most people like that are hermits and it?s usually because of some trauma. There?s a difference between being shy and socially awkward. A grown man saying he?s socially awkward is a bad sign. You mean to tell me of all the women you meet in a day you?ve had no contact with any of them? This is very alarming for men who work in social environments or go to college. What will a socially awkward man say to the women he meets on these apps in person?
You have a point though, good men can be creepy too, but in most cases, the creeps are on these apps and online trying to solicit women they can?t get otherwise. It?s easy to dress up a profile. You can?t fake the funk in person.
