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[Scott.]

But I think having gay friends is healthy and necessary for personal development and relatability as fags. I never had a solid group of gay friends before until I moved to NYC and now I see how necessary it is to have that.

In college i had a group of Black SGL friends, I didn't value it as much until I moved here. It is/was very tough to connect with other Blk gays here but when I finally connected with some folks I really valued the ethos we would create.

I prefer bonding with others like me. I can befriend anyone though. Whites only can get but so close tho lolz

I just feel so out of place when it comes to being around a lot of gay guys at one time and that's why I feel the way I do. Outside of my core circle of gay male friends you see me posted with all the time on social media, you won't see me with too many.

Like even in gay clubs, I'm off to myself.

Understandable. I think that's most of us. Im not saying link up with people you don't have a rapport with. I know our community has a LOT of issues but I enjoy myself most -socially- when Im surrounded by other Blk SGL men and there's no best.

You really have to be vigorous, persistent, & diligent to find meaningful connections with other gay blk men in general. Hell, with any relationship with anyone tbh. I feel you.

People act all offended when I say the things I say when it's regarding this. Most of my experiences with gay guys, mainly the more effeminate ones were all bad. I don't care if you're masculine or feminine, if you're cool, then we can be cool. It's just that I can't deal with the cattiness, the shadiness and all that because I'm really a laid back guy. So that's why I hate attending all gay functions and all that cause it's never a positive situation for me. Just like I'm an odd one on this board. It's the same way in real life with the gay guys.

[Opposites Attract.]

I'll befriend anybody but alot of gay men are so competitive, jealous natured, overly shady, catty etc and I have a really low tolerance for that. I'm very laid back so I have very few gay friends. The same goes for women.
 

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That's the best way to put it. And I used to hang with nothing but females, but they are so catty and it's nothing but drama. I've kinda distanced myself from the girls I grew up with. Like we still talk every other day, but I don't hang out with them the way I used to.

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Agreed. I don't like girls at all. I had one female friend in middle school and she ruined all interactions with girls in the future. Love women but can't be ya friend baby sis. I have a cool little circle of friends that I'm happy with. I mean I hang a lot of people but I wouldn't consider them all friends. They're fun. We all share common interests.

[Kaeli.]

Everyone's an asshole in middle school

[Scott.]

I'll befriend anybody but alot of gay men are so competitive, jealous natured, overly shady, catty etc and I have a really low tolerance for that. I'm very laid back so I have very few gay friends. The same goes for women.
 

!!!!!!!

That's the best way to put it. And I used to hang with nothing but females, but they are so catty and it's nothing but drama. I've kinda distanced myself from the girls I grew up with. Like we still talk every other day, but I don't hang out with them the way I used to.

!!!!!!

Agreed. I don't like girls at all. I had one female friend in middle school and she ruined all interactions with girls in the future. Love women but can't be ya friend baby sis. I have a cool little circle of friends that I'm happy with. I mean I hang a lot of people but I wouldn't consider them all friends. They're fun. We all share common interests.

I cut off two of my female friends I met in college when the whole gay marriage thing came out. Sometimes I feel like straight guys are way more supportive of us than women. It looks like straight dudes are rougher on us, but I kinda feel like the women are. These two girls were in the trenches with me about 7 years ago when I first came out the closet and they were holding my hand and encouraging to live my life and be me.

But as soon as the gay marriage bill was PASSED, "Oh! Disgusting! Demonic! Going to hell!" Really BITCH? I cussed them both out.

[Kurama]

But I think having gay friends is healthy and necessary for personal development and relatability as fags. I never had a solid group of gay friends before until I moved to NYC and now I see how necessary it is to have that.

In college i had a group of Black SGL friends, I didn't value it as much until I moved here. It is/was very tough to connect with other Blk gays here but when I finally connected with some folks I really valued the ethos we would create.

I prefer bonding with others like me. I can befriend anyone though. Whites only can get but so close tho lolz

I just feel so out of place when it comes to being around a lot of gay guys at one time and that's why I feel the way I do. Outside of my core circle of gay male friends you see me posted with all the time on social media, you won't see me with too many.

Like even in gay clubs, I'm off to myself.

Understandable. I think that's most of us. Im not saying link up with people you don't have a rapport with. I know our community has a LOT of issues but I enjoy myself most -socially- when Im surrounded by other Blk SGL men and there's no best.

You really have to be vigorous, persistent, & diligent to find meaningful connections with other gay blk men in general. Hell, with any relationship with anyone tbh. I feel you.

People act all offended when I say the things I say when it's regarding this. Most of my experiences with gay guys, mainly the more effeminate ones were all bad. I don't care if you're masculine or feminine, if you're cool, then we can be cool. It's just that I can't deal with the cattiness, the shadiness and all that because I'm really a laid back guy. So that's why I hate attending all gay functions and all that cause it's never a positive situation for me. Just like I'm an odd one on this board. It's the same way in real life with the gay guys.

No I understand where your coming from. I guess I stopped feeling that way when I had more positive experiences with other Blk gay men and when I also started understanding why some gays act the way that they act.  For me, Im just at an event to enjoy myself and my people. If someone wants to be shady or catty then that's on them. I can't control how they act but I can control how I respond. Understanding that really helped me pay things instead of the alternatives lol.

I don't think you're the odd one on this board. Also, Idk what you're expecting to happen when we link but you're going to be around my black  gay ass friends and we're going to have a great time.

[Scott.]

But I think having gay friends is healthy and necessary for personal development and relatability as fags. I never had a solid group of gay friends before until I moved to NYC and now I see how necessary it is to have that.

In college i had a group of Black SGL friends, I didn't value it as much until I moved here. It is/was very tough to connect with other Blk gays here but when I finally connected with some folks I really valued the ethos we would create.

I prefer bonding with others like me. I can befriend anyone though. Whites only can get but so close tho lolz

I just feel so out of place when it comes to being around a lot of gay guys at one time and that's why I feel the way I do. Outside of my core circle of gay male friends you see me posted with all the time on social media, you won't see me with too many.

Like even in gay clubs, I'm off to myself.

Understandable. I think that's most of us. Im not saying link up with people you don't have a rapport with. I know our community has a LOT of issues but I enjoy myself most -socially- when Im surrounded by other Blk SGL men and there's no best.

You really have to be vigorous, persistent, & diligent to find meaningful connections with other gay blk men in general. Hell, with any relationship with anyone tbh. I feel you.

People act all offended when I say the things I say when it's regarding this. Most of my experiences with gay guys, mainly the more effeminate ones were all bad. I don't care if you're masculine or feminine, if you're cool, then we can be cool. It's just that I can't deal with the cattiness, the shadiness and all that because I'm really a laid back guy. So that's why I hate attending all gay functions and all that cause it's never a positive situation for me. Just like I'm an odd one on this board. It's the same way in real life with the gay guys.

No I understand where your coming from. I guess I stopped feeling that way when I had more positive experiences with other Blk gay men and when I also started understanding why some gays act the way that they act.  For me, Im just at an event to enjoy myself and my people. If someone wants to be shady or catty then that's on them. I can't control how they act but I can control how I respond. Understanding that really helped me pay things instead of the alternatives lol.

I don't think you're the odd one on this board. Also, Idk what you're expecting to happen when we link but you're going to be around my black  gay ass friends and we're going to have a great time.

Well see you have self-control. I'm still learning how to control my anger  , so all that shade and cattiness will lead into something else with me and then I wouldn't be proud of myself after that, so that's why I stay away lol

And I'm not gonna lie, when you and I discussed hanging out, the first thing I thought of, "I wonder if he's gonna have a bunch of fags around and then I'mma have to fight one of them for being shady" 

[Kurama]

 

[Opposites Attract.]

I'll befriend anybody but alot of gay men are so competitive, jealous natured, overly shady, catty etc and I have a really low tolerance for that. I'm very laid back so I have very few gay friends. The same goes for women.
 

!!!!!!!

That's the best way to put it. And I used to hang with nothing but females, but they are so catty and it's nothing but drama. I've kinda distanced myself from the girls I grew up with. Like we still talk every other day, but I don't hang out with them the way I used to.

!!!!!!

Agreed. I don't like girls at all. I had one female friend in middle school and she ruined all interactions with girls in the future. Love women but can't be ya friend baby sis. I have a cool little circle of friends that I'm happy with. I mean I hang a lot of people but I wouldn't consider them all friends. They're fun. We all share common interests.

I cut off two of my female friends I met in college when the whole gay marriage thing came out. Sometimes I feel like straight guys are way more supportive of us than women. It looks like straight dudes are rougher on us, but I kinda feel like the women are. These two girls were in the trenches with me about 7 years ago when I first came out the closet and they were holding my hand and encouraging to live my life and be me.

But as soon as the gay marriage bill was PASSED, "Oh! Disgusting! Demonic! Going to hell!" Really BITCH? I cussed them both out.

dsssssssssssssssss yeah that's another reason why I can't befriend the bitties. They are so two faced with the girls. They'll kii kii all up in your face but as soon as the kiis turn serious they on the Abomination sodom and gomorrah mess out. I can't. I don't trust any women tbh except my mommy.

[Scott.]

I told you I'm always on guard

[Kurama]

I told you I'm always on guard

dfdffff

But emm love, so if I were to be hanging with a bunch of "fags" that you may have to fight, what is that saying about me?

[Kurama]

and how the hell are yall defining "fag" anyway?

[fedswatchin]

Everyone's an asshole in middle school

[Kaeli.]

 

[Scott.]

I told you I'm always on guard

dfdffff

But emm love, so if I were to be hanging with a bunch of "fags" that you may have to fight, what is that saying about me?

I didn't think about it that way. It's just that I don't know them, so I don't know what to expect. I actually know you so that's the difference.

[KING BENTLEY.]

and how the hell are yall defining "fag" anyway?

Right, I thought that was gonna be discussed early in the thread

I mean, pretty much nobody wants to be around anybody obnoxious and loud and messy

The question really is, do you befriend niggas who take or give dick in the booty tbh

That will separate a lot of ppls answers in here, right now everybody just saying the same thangs!