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The most  question they ask at border patrol is how much cash do you have with you.

Hmm it?s 2018. Ppl still country hopping with cash as opposed to credit cards? 

Fuck the currency exchange mess, even within the same country I can?t be bothered to go to a damn atm. I keep like 20 in my wallet in case of an emergency and it?s been in there for at least 3 years.

I honestly wonder which ppl (unless you at a damn strip club) walk around with cash.

[Kurama]

Is Broderick okay? 

[Young]

Is Broderick okay? 

What happened

[Young]

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[MelMel]

Am I the only one that doesn't feel the need to let the world know I'm gay?

Like, I don't hide it or anything, but it's no one's business.

I'm all for being proud of who you are, but I'll never be one of those gorls walking around with rainbow flags & bumper stickers.

I agree

but fuck u faggot

[Kurama]

Is Broderick okay? 

What happened

He was showing hella love on his story to that gay guy from love and hip hop Miami I think. Bobby or some shit.

Noticed he was going up for a couple of Tokyo's pics too. 

[Young]

Is Broderick okay? 

What happened

He was showing hella love on his story to that gay guy from love and hip hop Miami I think. Bobby or some shit.

Noticed he was going up for a couple of Tokyo's pics too. 

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oh yeah! I saw that!

That's why I made that Bobby thread

Well ACK then King Brod'
Maybe he likes fems

[Young]

Ugh

Tokyo gives me life

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[Kurama]

I get it. Men aren't conditioned to be emotionally expressive. Gay men (especially gay Black men) are conditioned to live a covert life for most of their existence, so lying can become an intrinsic part of who we are.

Still, how accepting/understanding of this should you be when trying to build a relationship with someone. How does anyone build a real relationship without vulnerability and honesty? How long are you supposed to wait (if you even are) for everyone to realize this and get their shit together? If they ever do that is.

[Young]

I get it. Men aren't conditioned to be emotionally expressive. Gay men (especially gay Black men) are conditioned to live a covert life for most of their existence, so lying can become an intrinsic part of who we are.

Still, how accepting/understanding of this should you be when trying to build a relationship with someone. How does anyone build a real relationship without vulnerability and honesty? How long are you supposed to wait (if you even are) for everyone to realize this and get their shit together? If they ever do that is.

This is really true. I had a hard time in the start of my relationship for this very reason actually. And I had to lay it all out on the line and kinda drag him for fckn filth for it. I had to let him really understand that we cant GO anywhere, especially on a deeper level unless you open up and get thing in order internally. And that I need honesty and transparency. I need soul to soul love, not just keeping everything "cute" and putting on for the sake of it. It took a lil bit before it really got the way I wanted it to be tbh.

On the flipside, I myself had to realize that everyone is really different. I wear my heart and emotions on my sleeve and if I wanted to hide something, my face would say it anyway. So it was hard for me to understand his mentality behind being so closed off. But I would say there's no set time-limit on how long to wait for that kind of change. It really is a case by case basis mess. How long are you willing to wait, is the person worth it, is this the only issue they have, do they seem receptive to having dialogue about the issue(s), open to growth/change? etc...

[Kurama]

I get it. Men aren't conditioned to be emotionally expressive. Gay men (especially gay Black men) are conditioned to live a covert life for most of their existence, so lying can become an intrinsic part of who we are.

Still, how accepting/understanding of this should you be when trying to build a relationship with someone. How does anyone build a real relationship without vulnerability and honesty? How long are you supposed to wait (if you even are) for everyone to realize this and get their shit together? If they ever do that is.

This is really true. I had a hard time in the start of my relationship for this very reason actually. And I had to lay it all out on the line and kinda drag him for fckn filth for it. I had to let him really understand that we cant GO anywhere, especially on a deeper level unless you open up and get thing in order internally. And that I need honesty and transparency. I need soul to soul love, not just keeping everything "cute" and putting on for the sake of it. It took a lil bit before it really got the way I wanted it to be tbh.

On the flipside, I myself had to realize that everyone is really different. I wear my heart and emotions on my sleeve and if I wanted to hide something, my face would say it anyway. So it was hard for me to understand his mentality behind being so closed off. But I would say there's no set time-limit on how long to wait for that kind of change. It really is a case by case basis mess. How long are you willing to wait, is the person worth it, is this the only issue they have, do they seem receptive to having dialogue about the issue(s), open to growth/change? etc...

All of this resonates with me, thank you. These questions are definitely important too. I have been evaluating things a lot and for me I think it boils down to the feeling that this will always be a thing while trying to connect with my ppl. I guess I am just approaching this place where I understand why this is an issue with us but does that mean I should quit trying to make intimate connections with folks until we're geezers? Its harmful to me and I think I'm drained trying to help others get to this place,  but if ppl like us dont who will? Meh idk.

[Young]

I get it. Men aren't conditioned to be emotionally expressive. Gay men (especially gay Black men) are conditioned to live a covert life for most of their existence, so lying can become an intrinsic part of who we are.

Still, how accepting/understanding of this should you be when trying to build a relationship with someone. How does anyone build a real relationship without vulnerability and honesty? How long are you supposed to wait (if you even are) for everyone to realize this and get their shit together? If they ever do that is.

This is really true. I had a hard time in the start of my relationship for this very reason actually. And I had to lay it all out on the line and kinda drag him for fckn filth for it. I had to let him really understand that we cant GO anywhere, especially on a deeper level unless you open up and get thing in order internally. And that I need honesty and transparency. I need soul to soul love, not just keeping everything "cute" and putting on for the sake of it. It took a lil bit before it really got the way I wanted it to be tbh.

On the flipside, I myself had to realize that everyone is really different. I wear my heart and emotions on my sleeve and if I wanted to hide something, my face would say it anyway. So it was hard for me to understand his mentality behind being so closed off. But I would say there's no set time-limit on how long to wait for that kind of change. It really is a case by case basis mess. How long are you willing to wait, is the person worth it, is this the only issue they have, do they seem receptive to having dialogue about the issue(s), open to growth/change? etc...

All of this resonates with me, thank you. These questions are definitely important too. I have been evaluating things a lot and for me I think it boils down to the feeling that this will always be a thing while trying to connect with my ppl. I guess I am just approaching this place where I understand why this is an issue with us but does that mean I should quit trying to make intimate connections with folks until we're geezers? Its harmful to me and I think I'm drained trying to help others get to this place,  but if ppl like us dont who will? Meh idk.

I know exactly what you mean, and it is definitely draining! Typically I don't operate in nor care to discuss surface level things all the damn time. It does nothing for me tbh.
But It really is one of those things I think though where it's like "you can't help everyone." Some people truly have to go through certain things in life until they really have that "ah-ha!" about themselves. But I will say, I feel like there's a shift in this shallow mentality as a whole. I feel like our people are also caught in the wave of trying to be "deep". So maybe this could end up being a good thing in some senses. I'd say just continue to pray for/manifest people who are like-minded.  I got what I prayed for with this very thing! 2 Friends came out of nowhere and we're really close now.

& Since coming back to the DC area I've definitely noticed an increase in gorls who are more self-aware and open as a whole.
But WOO is it hard being around damaged goods. Especially when you KNOW and see that they can be so much better.

[BAPHOMET.]

Listening to the "Call me by your Name" ebook again....

[Ma Lo]

I get it. Men aren't conditioned to be emotionally expressive. Gay men (especially gay Black men) are conditioned to live a covert life for most of their existence, so lying can become an intrinsic part of who we are.

Still, how accepting/understanding of this should you be when trying to build a relationship with someone. How does anyone build a real relationship without vulnerability and honesty? How long are you supposed to wait (if you even are) for everyone to realize this and get their shit together? If they ever do that is.

This is really true. I had a hard time in the start of my relationship for this very reason actually. And I had to lay it all out on the line and kinda drag him for fckn filth for it. I had to let him really understand that we cant GO anywhere, especially on a deeper level unless you open up and get thing in order internally. And that I need honesty and transparency. I need soul to soul love, not just keeping everything "cute" and putting on for the sake of it. It took a lil bit before it really got the way I wanted it to be tbh.

On the flipside, I myself had to realize that everyone is really different. I wear my heart and emotions on my sleeve and if I wanted to hide something, my face would say it anyway. So it was hard for me to understand his mentality behind being so closed off. But I would say there's no set time-limit on how long to wait for that kind of change. It really is a case by case basis mess. How long are you willing to wait, is the person worth it, is this the only issue they have, do they seem receptive to having dialogue about the issue(s), open to growth/change? etc...

All of this resonates with me, thank you. These questions are definitely important too. I have been evaluating things a lot and for me I think it boils down to the feeling that this will always be a thing while trying to connect with my ppl. I guess I am just approaching this place where I understand why this is an issue with us but does that mean I should quit trying to make intimate connections with folks until we're geezers? Its harmful to me and I think I'm drained trying to help others get to this place,  but if ppl like us dont who will? Meh idk.

Sadly Bre its not your responsibility to help anyone come to terms with who they are and some men are comfortable living a covert life as gay men for the rest of their lives....

[BAPHOMET.]

Listening to the "Call me by your Name" ebook again....

Man.... I can never FULLY reach the end of the book. Shit hurts too fucking much. I'll finish this last part maybe this weekend. Thought about watching the movie but fuck that. I need TIME. maybe in a year or so.  Whew. My emotions have been all over the place the last 24 hours.