Porsha needs to practice "de-centering" men with the next man she gets with
Simon is a clown but part of the reason he thinks these jabs will hurt is because she was so focused on "being his peace" and taking on his culture and mess during their relationship .
To "de-center" a man is to invite him into your life, appreciate what he brings to the table but not center your life and your existence around him .
It's not about being a bitch and cold or disconnected, but its about making sure your connection with this man isn't THEE primary source of your joy, fulfillment, and
purpose .
This way, when and if it's time to kick that ass to the curb - he's not feeling as if he gave you a new identity that he's able to take with him. And more importantly , you're not wondering who you are.... now that the relationship is done.
And even during the course of the relationship it will make things easier for both of you ... as when you are not centering a man, your expectations of the relationship are more likely to be reasonable - simply because you're not so
emotionally reliant on him .. which means less pressure on him.
Easier said than done of course , as love tends to fry our brain cells sometimes. But just something to be mindful of .