Quote from: makeme on Today at 03:48:37 PMQuote from: andre 3000 on Today at 12:32:48 PMQuote from: makeme on Today at 11:11:20 AMQuote from: andre 3000 on Today at 10:50:34 AMQuote from: makeme on Today at 10:34:58 AMCommunication is key, I mean, aren't we grown? He should speak in a direct way and express any concerns or needs that may be lacking. I went through something like this with someone who I refused to take seriously. Once I put you in that box, ain't no amount of huffing and puffing or passive aggressive mess going to change it. To be taken seriously is a privilege, not a right, and that privilege must be EARNED. In my book
overall he's a good guy. He's sweet. I don't wanna make it seem like he's horrible .
And he's the type of guy that I look for
Older, established with a successful business. A leader. A boss. I love that in men.
But with those types of guys also come a need to control things .
They're used to getting their way. People doing what they're told. Throwing their money at things to get it solved.
I've come to terms with that. I can't have my cake and eat it too . As in, entertaining a guy who fits the profile I'm looking for but demanding that all the other stuff that comes with it somehow disappears completely.
I'm fair and reasonable in that sense.
But I have my limits. I push back when I feel it's needed and I'm always ready to exit if I have to.
Yes he's great and all and that's why I'm here but clearly there's something I bring that is of value to him as well. That's not lost on me at all
So let's figure this owt
Yeah, see, I tend to be the president in the relationship. It just works out that way. Hell, I'd love to ride in the passenger seat! It's a rare man that I would trust behind the wheel, though.
Alas, I kinda figure dealing with a guy like the one you're describing would require a fair amount of 'submitting'. That seems to be the pathology behind the facade..they work and strive and pay the cost to..well..be the boss. Anything less than that would probably defeat the purpose, I would think.
So, how are you responding to his attempts to make you jealous? Have you considered meditation or counseling? And what's both of your zodiac signs, boo?
both cancers.
Which in itself is mess
But it hasn't been overbearing . Only 1 attempt I've counted
I don't entertain it . And that's pretty easy to do becuz I really and honestly don't care
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I'm detached enough from tea to just see what's being tried , make a note of it and keep it pushing.
But at the same time I'm not just sitting around looking for or jumping at reasons to end things . Because if that's the case you have to wonder if you're giving a saboteur tea.
It's mild for now so no huge issues. but if it ever escalates he'll be pointed to the door . That simple
Oh, the tea I'm gathering is 2 Cancers actually go the distance for the most part. Yeah, you might be blowing things (what little there is) out of proportion. It's good to vent, though. And share.
Yeah, I give saboteur down lol. It's really 'freedom seeking' because as an Aquarian man, I just have to do my own thing and I'm very picky. And experimental. And the men I find it h-a-r-d to pull away from.. actually scare me the most! They hold WAY too much power and I just have to flee bnnnnnnvbvnn and when it's impossible to flee.. I'm a bird in a cage. A fckn HOSTAGE lol
I'm evolving over time though, I don't find myself in troublesome situations quite as often, thank the Lord.
But, yeah, can I hear some more about this gent? How long's it been? How did you meet? Are you in love? I'm a good ear and pretty nosy inquisitive
yeah nothing super concerning
Just a mild attempt at him doin a lil mess. I didn't think it was "cute" but I didn't think it was life threatening either.
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I don't wanna go into too too much detail about him but I def care for him
And u seem like such a sweetheart . And ur so funny. I'm sure whoever u pair up with has a blast with u ❤️❤️