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Title: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: ATLien on March 30, 2022, 09:11:34 PM
telling someone they look like someone else u know or a especially a well known celeb?

i think some are super safe and more likely to be universally accepted as compliment
like telling a woman she reminds u of halle berry or naomi campbell
or a guy that he reminds u of denzel or morris chestnut or something

but then there are some where u just never know
even if u personally feel that celeb/personality is beautiful

sfsfsfsfsf

im super careful about that
its kinda one of those things where impact def overrules ur intent


Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: JCJ on March 30, 2022, 09:34:46 PM
wow so true nfnfnf
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: klappa. on March 30, 2022, 09:44:50 PM
nah its easy

if the look-a-like is questionable, i'll just say " you look like a cute version of ________ "

never fails (offends)
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: ATLien on March 30, 2022, 09:48:36 PM
thats still iffy to me

if i have to basically follow it up with "ur the cute version tho"

i probably wouldnt compare them to that person to begin with.
i would feel rude. "u look like this person who i clearly dont think is cute, but dont worry - ur cute tho".

:plzstop:

sfsfsfsfsfsf sounds like something youd say ABOUT someone , not necessarily directly TO them.


Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: klappa. on March 31, 2022, 08:58:15 AM
eh, maybe that's just projection/personal fear of yours

youre basically calling them cute. literally never had anyone be offended by it.
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: ATLien on March 31, 2022, 09:02:08 AM
That's the thing ...

it's one of those things where someone won't actually tell u they're offended .

very few people are gonna say "excuse me?" Most will probably smile and nod and keep it moving.

and it's also unnecessarily low key referring to the celeb in question  as unattractive / ugly. It's just not very positive .

If I'm complimenting someone i want it to be devoid of negativity , with no "buts" involved . I shouldn't have to explain or proactively defend the intent of a compliment .

If I have to do all that I'm gonna just say nothing at all.
Or just simply say "you're so cute" without the extra stuff.


Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: Cartierline on March 31, 2022, 09:18:11 AM
I agree with Af' tbh.

Unless the person is generally regarded as attractive, it can be taken the wrong way.

My sister showed me a picture of her and my other sister recently and I was like 'Oh [other sister] kinda looks like Bree Runway here' and my sister was like 'Erm yeah, she'd kinda be offended if you actually told her that'.
I was like 'Oh...' :dead:
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: ATLien on March 31, 2022, 09:30:37 AM
Quote from: Cartierline on March 31, 2022, 09:18:11 AM
I agree with Af' tbh.

Unless the person is generally regarded as attractive, it can be taken the wrong way.

My sister showed me a picture of her and my other sister recently and I was like 'Oh [other sister] kinda looks like Bree Runway here' and my sister was like 'Erm yeah, she'd kinda be offended if you actually told her that'.
I was like 'Oh...' :dead:
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I think it's those celebs who fall in a "midpoint" of sorts

Like they're not universally regarded or pushed as unattractive/undesirable , but they're not universally regarded as beauty kwees either

So The way it's taken can go either way
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: Amazing on March 31, 2022, 09:42:26 AM
There are these two ugly tubby short Indian guys at work and I call them twins.
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: Amazing on March 31, 2022, 09:45:00 AM
One off them called me Ms Coconut today because I sound "white" and the Ms. cos they think I'm confirmed gay because they noticed I had a facial and mask treatment during the weekend and my has been glowing all week.
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: CHOKE on March 31, 2022, 09:48:56 AM
Nah, like I know this girl who looks like Chloe Bailey and I kept it to myself. One day she brought it up how she gets tired of people telling her how much they look alike 

and I was like oh yeah, I kinda see it 
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: ATLien on March 31, 2022, 10:03:15 AM
Quote from: Amazing on March 31, 2022, 09:42:26 AM
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This Indian guy at my job said me and my coworker who's afro-Latina look like twins . Was kinda bold but he's very familiar and playful with both of us so I can see why he was comfortable saying it

We embraced it though . I actually saw the likeness and she's a cutie IMO so I wasn't offended. We call each other "twinzy" all the time now .

Was still very ballsy of him telling black people they look alike but he's one of those people who is  likable enough for u to just take it for what it is .

And She's one of those afro-latinas who are super duper pro black . Which I love . So we here >><<  on so many levels . :scrumptious:






Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: Amazing on March 31, 2022, 10:11:15 AM
Quote from: Lady of Lithuania ✡️ on March 31, 2022, 10:03:15 AM
Quote from: Amazing on March 31, 2022, 09:42:26 AM
There are these two ugly tubby short Indian guys at work and I call them twins.
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This Indian guy at my job said me and my coworker who's afro-Latina look like twins . Was kinda bold but he's very familiar and playful with both of us so I can see why he was comfortable saying it

We embraced it though . I actually saw the likeness and she's a cutie IMO so I wasn't offended. We call each other "twinzy" all the time now .

Was still very ballsy of him telling black people they look alike but he's one of those people who is  likable enough for u to just take it for what it is .

I was being racist deliberately
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: ATLien on March 31, 2022, 10:16:08 AM
Hdbdjdjfjfjfnjfjfnjfnfnnfnfnfnfnnfn

Well a curry roti value meal to u too
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: GRAND ETERNAL SUPREME on March 31, 2022, 11:35:03 PM
I find that insulting to receive and say not because of how attractive the compared person is or isn't, but I'd want someone I'm seeing to feel unique, and see me as the same. 

Might as well call me a piece of fcking chocolate
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: ATLien on March 31, 2022, 11:41:51 PM
Quote from: ton on March 31, 2022, 11:35:03 PM
I find that insulting to receive and say not because of how attractive the compared person is or isn't, but I'd want someone I'm seeing to feel unique, and see me as the same.

Might as well call me a piece of fcking chocolate
thats a good point too

it kinda takes from someones individuality
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: klappa. on April 01, 2022, 04:16:02 AM
vbvvvvv im sorr' thats just insecurity

if someone telling you that you favor someone else or that they favor you makes you feel "not unique", you have deeper issues
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: ATLien on April 01, 2022, 04:33:38 AM
that's really rude to psychoanalyze someone like that oph.

If I were u I'd Be mindful of that. Even if someone does have "deeper issues " it's nothing to lightly kii about .

There's nothing wrong with someone wanting to feel unique and special  . Not everyone wants to be told they're a clone of someone else they don't even know personally.

I really don't have an issue with it but I'm reasonable enough to see where someone else is coming from.


Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: klappa. on April 01, 2022, 04:47:01 AM
obviously i wouldn't be kiing in someone's face about it. didn't think that needed to be clarified.

and yes, ppl wanna feel unique. my point is, if someone merely saying that you favor someone takes away from that, that's NOT reasonable. hence me saying there are deeper issues there. aint nobody said nothin about no clones.
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: ATLien on April 01, 2022, 04:51:07 AM
u did kinda say it to him tho luv

ton said himself that he wants to feel unique

And u come with this "must be insecurity... deeper issues lolz" mess .

Maybe u missed the part of his post where he expressed that he personally feels that way too . im just saying be mindful ... that's not cool

Try to be more sensitive and understanding
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: GRAND ETERNAL SUPREME on April 01, 2022, 07:08:41 AM
Quote from: wheelie on April 01, 2022, 04:33:38 AM
that's really rude to psychoanalyze someone like that oph.

If I were u I'd Be mindful of that. Even if someone does have "deeper issues " it's nothing to lightly kii about .

There's nothing wrong with someone wanting to feel unique and special  . Not everyone wants to be told they're a clone of someone else they don't even know personally.

I really don't have an issue with it but I'm reasonable enough to see where someone else is coming from.
zxcxxxx

oph is a white mans whore, all he knows is a life of unapproval and disappointment

I don't pay that fool any mind

Anyone who lets their white friends call him "my nigga" can't even get a look from me

Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: GRAND ETERNAL SUPREME on April 01, 2022, 07:12:42 AM
But thanks Ken

Good morning everyone. TGIF.  :helloimangie:
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: ATLien on April 01, 2022, 07:51:22 AM
mornin boo :woohoo:
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: klappa. on April 01, 2022, 08:10:53 AM
Quote from: ton on April 01, 2022, 07:08:41 AM
Quote from: wheelie on April 01, 2022, 04:33:38 AM
that's really rude to psychoanalyze someone like that oph.

If I were u I'd Be mindful of that. Even if someone does have "deeper issues " it's nothing to lightly kii about .

There's nothing wrong with someone wanting to feel unique and special  . Not everyone wants to be told they're a clone of someone else they don't even know personally.

I really don't have an issue with it but I'm reasonable enough to see where someone else is coming from.
zxcxxxx

oph is

still on you rotting brain after all this time

obsessed lying faggot vvcccccc

:ohhey:
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: klappa. on April 01, 2022, 08:12:55 AM
Quote from: wheelie on April 01, 2022, 04:51:07 AM
u did kinda say it to him tho luv

ton said himself that he wants to feel unique

n

what we not gon do is equate this board to real life, since ALL of us say mess on here we wouldn't in real life  :dead:
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: klappa. on April 01, 2022, 08:13:09 AM
and fuck ton vvvcxxxxxxx
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: ATLien on April 01, 2022, 08:15:46 AM
Quote from: ophelia_b on April 01, 2022, 08:12:55 AM
Quote from: wheelie on April 01, 2022, 04:51:07 AM
u did kinda say it to him tho luv

ton said himself that he wants to feel unique

n

what we not gon do is equate this board to real life, since ALL of us say mess on here we wouldn't in real life  :dead:
ok so next time u feel like sharing how u feel about things in real life and open up to us in some way

ill just be completely insensitive, say "u have issues lolz" then hide behind "its just a message board that boy will be ok lol".

got it.
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: klappa. on April 01, 2022, 08:25:03 AM
Quote from: wheelie on April 01, 2022, 08:15:46 AM
Quote from: ophelia_b on April 01, 2022, 08:12:55 AM
Quote from: wheelie on April 01, 2022, 04:51:07 AM
u did kinda say it to him tho luv

ton said himself that he wants to feel unique

n

what we not gon do is equate this board to real life, since ALL of us say mess on here we wouldn't in real life  :dead:
ok so next time u feel like sharing how u feel about things in real life and open up to us in some way

ill just be completely insensitive, say "u have issues lolz" then hide behind "its just a message board that boy will be ok lol".

got it.

um.... if that will help you feel like ur makin some sort of point... ok?

👍🏾
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: GRAND ETERNAL SUPREME on April 01, 2022, 08:26:47 AM
oph do you let your white bf call you nigger during sex? <3
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: klappa. on April 01, 2022, 08:28:23 AM
n

so late

:omf:
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: GRAND ETERNAL SUPREME on April 01, 2022, 08:30:27 AM
Still haven't denied a thing I said
Title: Re: are you extra careful when it comes to...
Post by: klappa. on April 01, 2022, 08:59:09 AM
not about to address this mess again. find sumn new dummy gor  :dead: