This Megan girl..... it's so sad. Even as a Black woman, you don't understand how colorism works. It's so weird how "light skinned" people in these conversations always have to take it back to some shit that happened on the playground. "they said I wasn't Black enough! Long hair! Wanted to cut it!"
The way she immediately started to almost gloat in her presumed "trauma" was weird to watch. Her tone, attitude about it.....almost came off as bragging in some way?? You can immediately see Monaleo pick up on it as well like girl these things are not the same, but she still tried to handle it carefully...... she was tip toeing too much for me though. Although I do understand how easily people tend to say "oh! Bitter!" When darker women express themselves about this.
https://mobile.twitter.com/girlsinrap/status/1610797477828902917
I love Monaleo. Lemme check this out.
"Do you believe in colorism?"
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Is it a myth? :uhh:
Megan has always been ugly and annoying to me
I'm careful about disregarding peoples experiences and how it may have affected them
A lot of people do go back to their childhood to talk about what happened to them but what happens to us as children def sticks with us throughout adulthood, and in many cases it even molds who we are . Therapists often take people back to their childhood to address current issues . So it's not surprising those memories pop up
Maybe some people do make up stories for attention but I just don't feel it's my place to say who's doing that since I don't know. And I don't feel it's my place to tell people how to feel about those experiences if they actually did happen . Or tell them when they should and shouldn't talk about it.
However whoever is actually embellishing or completely making up experiences - I feel sorry for them if the need for attention is that bad that they'd just make things up . But ultimately that's their problem not mine.
I'll just lend a listening ear and give support if it's someone I am familiar with ...with the assumption that they're not blatantly lying to my face for no reason.
Quote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 11:06:00 AMI'm careful about disregarding peoples experiences and how it may have affected them
A lot of people do go back to their childhood to talk about what happened to them but what happens to us as children def sticks with us throughout adulthood, and in many cases it even molds who we are . Therapists often take people back to their childhood to address current issues . So it's not surprising those memories pop up
Maybe some people do make up stories for attention but I just don't feel it's my place to say who's doing that since I don't know. And I don't feel it's my place to tell people how to feel about those experiences if they actually did happen . Or tell them when they should and shouldn't talk about it.
However whoever is actually embellishing or completely making up experiences - I feel sorry for them if the need for attention is that bad that they'd just make things up . But ultimately that's their problem not mine.
I'll just lend a listening ear and give support if it's someone I am familiar with ...with the assumption that they're not blatantly lying to my face for no reason.
I'm sure she experienced SOMETHING on that see-saw, but it wasn't colorism. Kids will pick out anything to tease another kid about, and I feel this particular teasing was most likely jealously and projection on the darker Black kids part, because even at that age, the world finds ways to let you know you are "inferior" even if it's just based on the skin you're in. That's not discounting her experience, but that's also not colorism.
edit: i was incorrect. light skin women by definition cannot experience colorism.
Quote from: L0NZ. on January 06, 2023, 11:15:53 AMQuote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 11:06:00 AMI'm careful about disregarding peoples experiences and how it may have affected them
A lot of people do go back to their childhood to talk about what happened to them but what happens to us as children def sticks with us throughout adulthood, and in many cases it even molds who we are . Therapists often take people back to their childhood to address current issues . So it's not surprising those memories pop up
Maybe some people do make up stories for attention but I just don't feel it's my place to say who's doing that since I don't know. And I don't feel it's my place to tell people how to feel about those experiences if they actually did happen . Or tell them when they should and shouldn't talk about it.
However whoever is actually embellishing or completely making up experiences - I feel sorry for them if the need for attention is that bad that they'd just make things up . But ultimately that's their problem not mine.
I'll just lend a listening ear and give support if it's someone I am familiar with ...with the assumption that they're not blatantly lying to my face for no reason.
I'm sure she experienced SOMETHING on that see-saw, but it wasn't colorism. Kids will pick out anything to tease another kid about, and I feel this particular teasing was most likely jealously and projection on the darker Black kids part, because even at that age, the world finds ways to let you know you are "inferior" even if it's just based on the skin you're in. That's not discounting her experience, but that's also not colorism.
maybe she's just not articulate enough to describe what she felt or experienced in a way that would make more sense to u . I thinks that's all it is
I can see how her saying "Ive experienced colorism" would raise question marks and a bit of confusion.
I think in this instance you just need to look past technical terminology to see that she's simply saying she felt like an "other" around other black kids because they made it a point to... point out things about her that were different in their eyes.
If that's how she was made to feel I can understand that. The story/concept isn't new or unheard of , or super unique at all so it's not far fetched that she actually went thru it
Quote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 11:33:29 AMQuote from: L0NZ. on January 06, 2023, 11:15:53 AMQuote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 11:06:00 AMI'm careful about disregarding peoples experiences and how it may have affected them
A lot of people do go back to their childhood to talk about what happened to them but what happens to us as children def sticks with us throughout adulthood, and in many cases it even molds who we are . Therapists often take people back to their childhood to address current issues . So it's not surprising those memories pop up
Maybe some people do make up stories for attention but I just don't feel it's my place to say who's doing that since I don't know. And I don't feel it's my place to tell people how to feel about those experiences if they actually did happen . Or tell them when they should and shouldn't talk about it.
However whoever is actually embellishing or completely making up experiences - I feel sorry for them if the need for attention is that bad that they'd just make things up . But ultimately that's their problem not mine.
I'll just lend a listening ear and give support if it's someone I am familiar with ...with the assumption that they're not blatantly lying to my face for no reason.
I'm sure she experienced SOMETHING on that see-saw, but it wasn't colorism. Kids will pick out anything to tease another kid about, and I feel this particular teasing was most likely jealously and projection on the darker Black kids part, because even at that age, the world finds ways to let you know you are "inferior" even if it's just based on the skin you're in. That's not discounting her experience, but that's also not colorism.
maybe she's just not articulate enough to describe what she felt or experienced in a way that would make more sense to u . I thinks that's all it is
I can see how her saying "Ive experienced colorism" would raise question marks and a bit of confusion.
I think in this instance you just need to look past technical terminology to see that she's simply saying she felt like an "other" around other black kids because they made it a point to... point out things about her that were different in their eyes.
If that's how she was made to feel I can understand that. The story/concept isn't new or unheard of , or super unique at all so it's not far fetched that she actually went thru it
Well that's just what I'm saying, she needs to find the technical term for that, because she posed a question about something very evident with clear examples of how it works and affects adult people in workspaces and industries. If she doesn't have the range, stick to convos about fighting.
Quote from: L0NZ. on January 06, 2023, 11:42:12 AMQuote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 11:33:29 AMQuote from: L0NZ. on January 06, 2023, 11:15:53 AMQuote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 11:06:00 AMI'm careful about disregarding peoples experiences and how it may have affected them
A lot of people do go back to their childhood to talk about what happened to them but what happens to us as children def sticks with us throughout adulthood, and in many cases it even molds who we are . Therapists often take people back to their childhood to address current issues . So it's not surprising those memories pop up
Maybe some people do make up stories for attention but I just don't feel it's my place to say who's doing that since I don't know. And I don't feel it's my place to tell people how to feel about those experiences if they actually did happen . Or tell them when they should and shouldn't talk about it.
However whoever is actually embellishing or completely making up experiences - I feel sorry for them if the need for attention is that bad that they'd just make things up . But ultimately that's their problem not mine.
I'll just lend a listening ear and give support if it's someone I am familiar with ...with the assumption that they're not blatantly lying to my face for no reason.
I'm sure she experienced SOMETHING on that see-saw, but it wasn't colorism. Kids will pick out anything to tease another kid about, and I feel this particular teasing was most likely jealously and projection on the darker Black kids part, because even at that age, the world finds ways to let you know you are "inferior" even if it's just based on the skin you're in. That's not discounting her experience, but that's also not colorism.
maybe she's just not articulate enough to describe what she felt or experienced in a way that would make more sense to u . I thinks that's all it is
I can see how her saying "Ive experienced colorism" would raise question marks and a bit of confusion.
I think in this instance you just need to look past technical terminology to see that she's simply saying she felt like an "other" around other black kids because they made it a point to... point out things about her that were different in their eyes.
If that's how she was made to feel I can understand that. The story/concept isn't new or unheard of , or super unique at all so it's not far fetched that she actually went thru it
Well that's just what I'm saying, she needs to find the technical term for that, because she posed a question about something very evident with clear examples of how it works and affects adult people in workspaces and industries. If she doesn't have the range, stick to convos about fighting.
ultimately she's saying had negative experiences based on the color of her skin. One could say that actually falls under the "colorism" or more specifically the "reverse colorism" umbrella so I wouldn't tell her to find another word to use as I can actually understand what she's saying
But I can understand why some people may be confused
She asked a question about colorism as a function, and how it relates to success in the workplace..... then goes on to say she can relate to that, because she was teased for being light skinned with good hair, the very attributes that people who REALLY experience colorism would probably LOVE to have. Get the fuck off my line (Meghan lolz) She absolutely needs to describe that as something else.
Thank God my favorite Bad Girls are unproblematic. MEHgan has always been insufferable and miserable. Used to love her, but nah... :plzstop:
Meghan is a mess.she's def gloating here. Yuck.
I just believe in allowing black women of all shades to have and share their experiences
For dark skinned women it's always "girl shut up u just bitter and angry. It's not cuz u was dark it's cuz u were ugly lmao"
For lighter skinned women it's "oh boo boo woe is me light girl 🙄 u were bullied we get it! Want a cookie!"
The way women are treated on opposite ends of the spectrum when they share their experiences actually gives credence to what they're saying happened to them. The whole "shut up darkie burnt ugly self " and "u just wanna remind us that u light skin! We get it! Stfu no one cares about ur alleged trauma "
Think about it
i love mehgan my texas SIS. she is telling her own experience as well nothing wrong with that.
(https://media.tenor.com/KBYG4E3nCaEAAAAC/bad-girls-club-mehgan-james.gif)
Quote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 12:11:05 PMI just believe in allowing black women of all shades to have and share their experiences
For dark skinned women it's always "girl shut up u just bitter and angry. It's not cuz u was dark it's cuz u were ugly lmao"
For lighter skinned women it's "oh boo boo woe is me light girl 🙄 u were bullied we get it! Want a cookie!"
The way women are treated on opposite ends of the spectrum when they share their experiences actually gives credence to what they're saying happened to them. The whole "shut up darkie burnt ugly self " and "u just wanna remind us that u light skin! We get it! Stfu no one cares about ur alleged trauma "
Think about it
well said!!! anytime us lighter ppl speak up about what we have faced we get told to SHUT UP cause we are light its not that bad which isnt true. it all sucks at the end of the day
And I'm really speaking to the larger conversation btw ... not very familiar with this Meghan girl or her history
The problem is that she started an oppression volleyball game after asking the question. She asked Monaleo but insisted on sharing her own experience.
Quote from: Buy The Stars✨ on January 06, 2023, 12:11:13 PMi love mehgan my texas SIS. she is telling her own experience as well nothing wrong with that.
(https://media.tenor.com/KBYG4E3nCaEAAAAC/bad-girls-club-mehgan-james.gif)
Surprise surprise
Quote from: Big Barbie on January 06, 2023, 12:33:00 PMThe problem is that she started an oppression volleyball game after asking the question. She asked Monaleo but insisted on sharing her own experience.
An experience which isn't even colorism.
Quote from: Buy The Stars✨ on January 06, 2023, 12:12:51 PMQuote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 12:11:05 PMI just believe in allowing black women of all shades to have and share their experiences
For dark skinned women it's always "girl shut up u just bitter and angry. It's not cuz u was dark it's cuz u were ugly lmao"
For lighter skinned women it's "oh boo boo woe is me light girl 🙄 u were bullied we get it! Want a cookie!"
The way women are treated on opposite ends of the spectrum when they share their experiences actually gives credence to what they're saying happened to them. The whole "shut up darkie burnt ugly self " and "u just wanna remind us that u light skin! We get it! Stfu no one cares about ur alleged trauma "
Think about it
well said!!! anytime us lighter ppl speak up about what we have faced we get told to SHUT UP cause we are light its not that bad which isnt true. it all sucks at the end of the day
What did you go through? Honestly interested.
Quote from: Big Barbie on January 06, 2023, 12:33:00 PMThe problem is that she started an oppression volleyball game after asking the question. She asked Monaleo but insisted on sharing her own experience.
Quote from: Buy The Stars✨ on January 06, 2023, 12:12:51 PMQuote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 12:11:05 PMI just believe in allowing black women of all shades to have and share their experiences
For dark skinned women it's always "girl shut up u just bitter and angry. It's not cuz u was dark it's cuz u were ugly lmao"
For lighter skinned women it's "oh boo boo woe is me light girl 🙄 u were bullied we get it! Want a cookie!"
The way women are treated on opposite ends of the spectrum when they share their experiences actually gives credence to what they're saying happened to them. The whole "shut up darkie burnt ugly self " and "u just wanna remind us that u light skin! We get it! Stfu no one cares about ur alleged trauma "
Think about it
well said!!! anytime us lighter ppl speak up about what we have faced we get told to SHUT UP cause we are light its not that bad which isnt true. it all sucks at the end of the day
I don't know what you're irl experiences are but that's not why we tell you shut up on here, I can assure :disgusted:
Quote from: Buy The Stars✨ on January 06, 2023, 12:11:13 PMi love mehgan my texas SIS. she is telling her own experience as well nothing wrong with that.
(https://media.tenor.com/KBYG4E3nCaEAAAAC/bad-girls-club-mehgan-james.gif)
Case in point.
Quote from: L0NZ. on January 06, 2023, 01:37:33 PMQuote from: Big Barbie on January 06, 2023, 12:33:00 PMThe problem is that she started an oppression volleyball game after asking the question. She asked Monaleo but insisted on sharing her own experience.
An experience which isn't even colorism.
!!
Megan's reaction was actually lowkey colorism disguised as "a vulnerable moment" that she thought she was giving.
I didn't view the entire clip so I can't speak to their interaction in full
But again , generally speaking , there is definitely a "oh woe is u, cry a river" or "stop bragging" attitude whenever a lighter skinned / mixed black woman brings up her trauma that is tied to her complexion.
If any of you aren't familiar with that and this is news to you that's understandable
Quote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 02:30:42 PMI didn't view the entire clip
So lmk when you dew.
:plea:
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This Meghan girl is a kii
She's def being extra . And making this all about herself
People asking u "are u mixed :ohwow: " is not a struggle and is not colorism
Usually if someone's asking something like that it's from a place of curiosity and it's never malicious .
Quote from: L0NZ. on January 06, 2023, 01:38:32 PMQuote from: Buy The Stars✨ on January 06, 2023, 12:12:51 PMQuote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 12:11:05 PMI just believe in allowing black women of all shades to have and share their experiences
For dark skinned women it's always "girl shut up u just bitter and angry. It's not cuz u was dark it's cuz u were ugly lmao"
For lighter skinned women it's "oh boo boo woe is me light girl 🙄 u were bullied we get it! Want a cookie!"
The way women are treated on opposite ends of the spectrum when they share their experiences actually gives credence to what they're saying happened to them. The whole "shut up darkie burnt ugly self " and "u just wanna remind us that u light skin! We get it! Stfu no one cares about ur alleged trauma "
Think about it
well said!!! anytime us lighter ppl speak up about what we have faced we get told to SHUT UP cause we are light its not that bad which isnt true. it all sucks at the end of the day
What did you go through? Honestly interested.
HONESTLY there is no point in telling yall cause at the end of the day whatever personal stuff i say on here yall will use against me ( seen it happen many times over the years) and yall still wont care and will hate me still so it doesnt matter.
Quote from: Gilgamesh. on January 06, 2023, 01:41:49 PMQuote from: Big Barbie on January 06, 2023, 12:33:00 PMThe problem is that she started an oppression volleyball game after asking the question. She asked Monaleo but insisted on sharing her own experience.
Quote from: Buy The Stars✨ on January 06, 2023, 12:12:51 PMQuote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 12:11:05 PMI just believe in allowing black women of all shades to have and share their experiences
For dark skinned women it's always "girl shut up u just bitter and angry. It's not cuz u was dark it's cuz u were ugly lmao"
For lighter skinned women it's "oh boo boo woe is me light girl 🙄 u were bullied we get it! Want a cookie!"
The way women are treated on opposite ends of the spectrum when they share their experiences actually gives credence to what they're saying happened to them. The whole "shut up darkie burnt ugly self " and "u just wanna remind us that u light skin! We get it! Stfu no one cares about ur alleged trauma "
Think about it
well said!!! anytime us lighter ppl speak up about what we have faced we get told to SHUT UP cause we are light its not that bad which isnt true. it all sucks at the end of the day
I don't know what you're irl experiences are but that's not why we tell you shut up on here, I can assure :disgusted:
thats fine.
Quote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 02:30:42 PMI didn't view the entire clip so I can't speak to their interaction in full
But again , generally speaking , there is definitely a "oh woe is u, cry a river" or "stop bragging" attitude whenever a lighter skinned / mixed black woman brings up her trauma that is tied to her complexion.
If any of you aren't familiar with that and this is news to you that's understandable
I get that. I haven't discounted her experience, just calling out that she, in my opinion, shouldnt be sitting up on a platform discussing a topic like colorism, saying she's experienced it because she was burdened with light skin and good hair :plzstop:
Quote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 02:39:00 PMNfnf nfnfnfnff f f f bfbfbfbfbdbdbdbbbd c fbcfbbcbdvbbdbdd dnnfndndndnddndn
This Meghan girl is a kii
She's def being extra . And making this all about herself
People asking u "are u mixed :ohwow: " is not a struggle and is not colorism
Usually if someone's asking something like that it's from a place of curiosity and it's never malicious .
Fjdjdjdjruur now you see the bragging part. People like that def warrant a "boo hoo bitch" tbh
Quote from: Buy The Stars✨ on January 06, 2023, 03:16:27 PMQuote from: L0NZ. on January 06, 2023, 01:38:32 PMQuote from: Buy The Stars✨ on January 06, 2023, 12:12:51 PMQuote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 12:11:05 PMI just believe in allowing black women of all shades to have and share their experiences
For dark skinned women it's always "girl shut up u just bitter and angry. It's not cuz u was dark it's cuz u were ugly lmao"
For lighter skinned women it's "oh boo boo woe is me light girl 🙄 u were bullied we get it! Want a cookie!"
The way women are treated on opposite ends of the spectrum when they share their experiences actually gives credence to what they're saying happened to them. The whole "shut up darkie burnt ugly self " and "u just wanna remind us that u light skin! We get it! Stfu no one cares about ur alleged trauma "
Think about it
well said!!! anytime us lighter ppl speak up about what we have faced we get told to SHUT UP cause we are light its not that bad which isnt true. it all sucks at the end of the day
What did you go through? Honestly interested.
HONESTLY there is no point in telling yall cause at the end of the day whatever personal stuff i say on here yall will use against me ( seen it happen many times over the years) and yall still wont care and will hate me still so it doesnt matter.
:diddraispoot:
Quote from: L0NZ. on January 06, 2023, 03:23:58 PMQuote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 02:39:00 PMNfnf nfnfnfnff f f f bfbfbfbfbdbdbdbbbd c fbcfbbcbdvbbdbdd dnnfndndndnddndn
This Meghan girl is a kii
She's def being extra . And making this all about herself
People asking u "are u mixed :ohwow: " is not a struggle and is not colorism
Usually if someone's asking something like that it's from a place of curiosity and it's never malicious .
Fjdjdjdjruur now you see the bragging part. People like that def warrant a "boo hoo bitch" tbh
yeah unless u can explain how stuff like that actually affected u negatively there is a question of what's the point of bringing that up during a serious conversation involving colorism .
Same energy here as speaking to a white person about racism
She clearly wasn't listening to understand, she was just trying to centre herself and make it about her. Yuck.
Quote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 03:35:28 PMQuote from: L0NZ. on January 06, 2023, 03:23:58 PMQuote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 02:39:00 PMNfnf nfnfnfnff f f f bfbfbfbfbdbdbdbbbd c fbcfbbcbdvbbdbdd dnnfndndndnddndn
This Meghan girl is a kii
She's def being extra . And making this all about herself
People asking u "are u mixed :ohwow: " is not a struggle and is not colorism
Usually if someone's asking something like that it's from a place of curiosity and it's never malicious .
Fjdjdjdjruur now you see the bragging part. People like that def warrant a "boo hoo bitch" tbh
yeah unless u can explain how stuff like that actually affected u negatively there is a question of what's the point of bringing that up during a serious conversation involving colorism .
Luv u :butwait!:
Quote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 03:35:28 PMQuote from: L0NZ. on January 06, 2023, 03:23:58 PMQuote from: índio negro on January 06, 2023, 02:39:00 PMNfnf nfnfnfnff f f f bfbfbfbfbdbdbdbbbd c fbcfbbcbdvbbdbdd dnnfndndndnddndn
This Meghan girl is a kii
She's def being extra . And making this all about herself
People asking u "are u mixed :ohwow: " is not a struggle and is not colorism
Usually if someone's asking something like that it's from a place of curiosity and it's never malicious .
Fjdjdjdjruur now you see the bragging part. People like that def warrant a "boo hoo bitch" tbh
yeah unless u can explain how stuff like that actually affected u negatively there is a question of what's the point of bringing that up during a serious conversation involving colorism .
But to your point I mean I guess who are we to say that it didn't affect her negatively from a trauma standpoint. Being teased about anything is traumatic, but she was reaching.
I wanted to see how White she looked as a kid, for the Blacks to say "go over there with them" because to me......... she really just looks like a Black girl :uhh: .....
Anyway I didn't find any childhood pics, just adult pics of her wearing makeup 6 shades too light, BLONDE!, nose jobs, etc. so I guess this is where the trauma of being told "you're not Black" shows up for her
Quote from: Nine on January 06, 2023, 03:39:03 PMSame energy here as speaking to a white person about racism
She clearly wasn't listening to understand, she was just trying to centre herself and make it about her. Yuck.
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