so i was dealing with this LOWDOWN ass nigga that i LOVE for 3 years on & off. and three weeks ago i got fed up wit his bull shit and blocked him on my phone and all social media.
i was going THROUGH it.
but healing :stressed:
i was really doing so good, even tho i had been going off on him in my head cuz i never had that closure
THEN this mf just tried to video call me on whatsapp. i forgot i even had that mess. so i... resistantly paid it. but i couldn't resist knowing WHY he hit me up so i text back a real dry "whassup"
he text back
"just wanted to see your face"
boy fuck you. BUT I MISS HIM SO MUCH. bby i'm WEAK. i don't know what to do. imma say some slick shit back but i wanna see him TOO
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Girl how old are you
Remember the reason you cut him off
"Just wanted to see your face"
That's so corny. It may be true but that's so....... Basic. And corny. I'm cringing and rolling my eyes for you. If he's lowdown and no good, then understand that. There are a bunch of better options outside
Quote from: L0NZ. on July 27, 2023, 01:54:08 PMGirl how old are you
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y r u kicking me while am down
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Yea bitch because. Let me break it down for you. The only reason you still pout about the mess is because he did something to you that hurt your feelings and it bruised your ego. So him "wanting to see you" is your chance to sit up and let him "see what he been missing! Come crawlin back!" To boost your ego back up and act cunty. If that's what will make you feel better, do it..... but leave it at that. It ain't going NOWHERE. get your "nann nann!" lick back and move on sir
Quote from: ivorian oph on July 27, 2023, 01:58:03 PMQuote from: L0NZ. on July 27, 2023, 01:54:08 PMGirl how old are you
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y r u kicking me while am down
:everythingok:
Nah we really get to an age where this shit (grown ass fuck boys) is so childish.
yall r right but its REALLY difficult cuz i truly love this man. we've had our good times.
im trynna be strong and stay angry.
Quote from: ivorian oph on July 27, 2023, 02:01:18 PMyall r right but its REALLY difficult cuz i truly love this man. we've had our good times.
im trynna be strong and stay angry.
How long were y'all together
Now if you have to 'try' to be angry, then u not really that angry. Your reaction would be more like mine. So follow your heart but use your brain......maybe I'm just feeling super irritated with everything because it's HOT as FUCK
Quote from: L0NZ. on July 27, 2023, 01:59:11 PMYea bitch because. Let me break it down for you. The only reason you still pout about the mess is because he did something to you that hurt your feelings and it bruised your ego. So him "wanting to see you" is your chance to sit up and let him "see what he been missing! Come crawlin back!" To boost your ego back up and act cunty. If that's what will make you feel better, do it..... but leave it at that. It ain't going NOWHERE. get your "nann nann!" lick back and move on sir
nah, it's deeper than hurt my feelings. i kept the description light cuz i didn't wanna put ALL my business out there. having my life intertwined with his over the past 3 years, it's not that easy for me to just cut all emotional ties. but at the ned of the day i know we can't be in a relationship again, thats not an option. but i know i wanna see him for closure but i dont know if im strong enough not to get pulled in again. cuz when its good it's GOOD. ugh. i think i need to stay away longer
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Quote from: L0NZ. on July 27, 2023, 02:02:57 PMQuote from: ivorian oph on July 27, 2023, 02:01:18 PMyall r right but its REALLY difficult cuz i truly love this man. we've had our good times.
im trynna be strong and stay angry.
How long were y'all together
3 yrs
Quote from: L0NZ. on July 27, 2023, 02:05:01 PMNow if you have to 'try' to be angry, then u not really that angry. Your reaction would be more like mine. So follow your heart but use your brain......maybe I'm just feeling super irritated with everything because it's HOT as FUCK
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If he's truly low down bby; then stay strong and remember why you are doing what you're doing
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put him in the friends with benefits zone if u can do so without gettin caught all the way back up
If he's a good fuck
Otherwise keep it pushing .
Quote from: Black Aweikoma on July 27, 2023, 02:55:34 PMput him in the friends with benefits zone if u can do so without gettin caught all the way back up
If he's a good fuck
Otherwise keep it pushing .
thats what i need to do !
but we tried that before and he ended up claiming me as his man again
bitch, how old are you, again.
He claimed me!
bitch did you claim HIM? put your foot down. speak up for yourself
Quote from: L0NZ. on July 27, 2023, 04:03:31 PMbitch, how old are you, again.
He claimed me!
bitch did you claim HIM? put your foot down. speak up for yourself
i mean he can speak up all he wants but if the guy doesn't know how to separate sex and relationship it's just not gonna register regardless
Which is understandable tbh. Not everyone can really just do a FWB mess and call it a day especially if there's a history
That's kinda why I warned Oph to only use my suggestion if he knows he's able to draw those lines and stand in them
i dont know you but i want better for you bby dll.
There are thousands of amazing black men out there who would love you the right way.
The other guy claiming him as his bf means nothing if he doesn't claim him back. It takes 2 people to be in an actual relationship. So if he just went with the flow and didnt speak up, he needed to.
Quote from: L0NZ. on July 27, 2023, 04:46:15 PMThe other guy claiming him as his bf means nothing if he doesn't claim him back. It takes 2 people to be in an actual relationship. So if he just went with the flow and didnt speak up, he needed to.
Well ur kinda assuming Oph didn't say anything to him after he began claiming him again
Maybe I overlooked something but Oph didn't get that far in this mini story of the FWB thing not working out
At least not in his response to me
He just said he started claiming him again. He didn't speak to how he handled it
Well he said "WE tried but HE claimed me, So it didn't work." So I gathered Maybe it could have worked if he'd spoken up, put his foot down and said "we're not in a relationship, this is what it is." Seems as if he went along with the flow and here we are....
Gather some damn breath mints
:hehe:
Quote from: L0NZ. on July 27, 2023, 04:03:31 PMbitch, how old are you, again.
He claimed me!
bitch did you claim HIM? put your foot down. speak up for yourself
:calmdownsis:
it was mutual, calm down sis
Quote from: ivorian oph on July 27, 2023, 05:18:12 PMQuote from: L0NZ. on July 27, 2023, 04:03:31 PMbitch, how old are you, again.
He claimed me!
bitch did you claim HIM? put your foot down. speak up for yourself
:calmdownsis:
it was mutual, calm down sisi
see booba
U gotta gather the fax first
@L0NZ.
Quote from: ivorian oph on July 27, 2023, 05:18:12 PMQuote from: L0NZ. on July 27, 2023, 04:03:31 PMbitch, how old are you, again.
He claimed me!
bitch did you claim HIM? put your foot down. speak up for yourself
:calmdownsis:
it was mutual, calm down sis
That's odd to leave out.
If you want advice you gotta be forthcoming with the tea
Quote from: Black Aweikoma on July 27, 2023, 04:56:27 PMQuote from: L0NZ. on July 27, 2023, 04:46:15 PMThe other guy claiming him as his bf means nothing if he doesn't claim him back. It takes 2 people to be in an actual relationship. So if he just went with the flow and didnt speak up, he needed to.
Well ur kinda assuming Oph didn't say anything to him after he began claiming him again
Maybe I overlooked something but Oph didn't get that far in this mini story of the FWB thing not working out
At least not in his response to me
He just said he started claiming him again. He didn't speak to how he handled it
yea we def had a conversation about why we were where we were and what i needed in order for us to work. him fumbling
that is how we ended up here.
now he all apologizin and shit
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Quote from: L0NZ. on July 27, 2023, 05:22:50 PMIf you want advice you gotta be forthcoming with the tea
i aint know you was gon go iyanla on me
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Am here for the gorls when they need me
Sounds like you want him so just keep him until you find better.
Lonz was PREACHING a bit. It's a tough position to be in but you'll have to cut him off unless there's been some real change/growth. It's obvious you want to be with him and he does too but it doesn't sound like you can accept his stipulations. I would say to go the fwb route but it's clear that neither one of you are capable of that without catching feelings which is fine but you have to be honest with yourself.