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Ask your family :nowgorl:
i was thinking "well if its just family thats what she wanted"
til i kept reading to see she needed coin specifically because of the wedding
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no wonder so many marriages end so quickly in divorce
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I wouldn't give her anything for this
If anything I would have just bought something off the registry before the wedding, even though I wasn't invited. That's the extent of my "grace"
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That is so bold
They definitely made this story up
I may give a lil sumn for a wedding gift tbh. It said LEND. So, yea. Don't make it personal. This was a day about them. How does it become about you?
if i gave i'd prob just gift it.
if someone's in a tough financial situation already honestly i would assume they're gonna be in one for a while
those things can be very cyclical, and borrowing money to just give it back rarely helps anyone IMO. you need to try and get ahead ideally, not just get back to square 1.
lending to friends is so uncomfortable because there's literally a debt lingering over ur friendship once you do that. if i am blessed enough to be in a place where i can gift it and not be worried about it breaking my wallet, i just gift it
and proactively relieve them (and me tbh) of any feeling that they "owe me".
Ask your damn family :uhh:
I'm not close enough to come but close enough for you to ask me to pay for it?
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Yea. It prolly just means that she has been struggling financially. Especially having a small wedding.
A good friend would help rather than being salty about not being invited to her lil wedding
Quote from: Ulysses on April 15, 2026, 10:08:51 PMYea. It prolly just means that she has been struggling financially. Especially having a small wedding.
thats what i was thinking
could be a situation where if you let ONE person other than ur family get in...other non-family members will find out once those pics start gettin posted and be like "why SHE got in ur wedding and not me? :uhh: she aint family either! "
those things can get really nasty very quickly .... so it's best to strictly adhere to a "family only" mess and give no one a pass, if thats what ur budget allows..or hell it could just be a preference or how they imagined their special day.
so if someone told me "family only" i wouldn't be offended. there's obviously a reason behind it...which is prob none of my business but that's a boundary they've set for THEIR moment. and being a good friend is also about respecting set boundaries.
i don't even need to know the reason behind it.
Really terrible friends in here
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 15, 2026, 10:26:39 PMReally terrible friends in here
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It sounds like the friend is going THROUGH it. She really shouldn't've had a reception to begin with if it was already scaled-down yet STILL making HER suffer financially.
I would've been completely fine and understanding with not being invited. I get wanting something small and family-only.
My issue is asking me for money after excluding me.... Yall are saying you're a bad friend for declining, but honestly, I think it makes THEM a questionable friend. That's so inconsiderate and GHETTO to ask someone to help fund a ceremony they weren't even included in.
I understand the whole "if you invite one friend, you have to invite them all" logic. But if you feel comfortable enough to ask me for financial support, the least you could've done is come back and include me in the moment.
That says a lot about how that person thinks and how they value the friendship. I understand where some of yall coming from.... GENUINELY.... But I think it says more about the BRIDE as a friend and how they operate.
Truthfully.... I probably would've supported... and quietly move away from the friendship.
This isn't about their ceremony tho. People get married ALL the time and it's just family that's there or its a very small and intimate ceremony. Im ASSUMING in this scenario, it's someone that im not questioning their friendship. If someone has shown up in my life as a good friend otherwise but they chose to celebrate their day in this way then I'm not taking that personally. I'm not talking about the mf that's been a bad friend, I wasn't invited to the wedding, THEN they asking me for money. It sounds like in alot of these responses yall taking something personal and made it about you and it really has nothing to do with u. So if they came to you and just asked for money and didn't disclose what it was for then you would give money? It just sounds a Lil petty to me. Ion like when mfs figure out a way to be the victim in a situation that really ain't fr b about them. Now, I'll say this. If I found out other friends were invited and u wasn't then THAT might change things. But even then,
Im a communicator. So I would tell them that I'm offended that other friends were invited but i wasn't but then you're coming to me to help fund an event that i wasn't invited to. Id respectfully decline and redirect them to the friends they did decide to invite. But if it's just small or close family then I'm not taking that personally. I lowkey don't wanna go to someone's wedding ANYWAY!