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Title: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: MAY on December 02, 2016, 07:02:42 PM
I was reading this about why Tammy stayed with Waka after he cheated:

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Tammy said,

? Times are not the same, women nowadays you know they say oh let me just do this, I can go out and find me another man, niggas ain?t nothing. You know, all of that, and I get it.?

?But then on the other side you have men who aren?t growing up with fathers,  not making excuses for men to cheat, but you have men who never seen what a household is supposed to look like ? my husband was never in a married household. He didn?t know.  His mom was a hustler, you know what i?m saying, she was out in the streets she was the mom and the dad. He doesn?t know?he grew up in the industry. He had early stardom with his career, I think Waka was in his early 20s mid 20s when he dropped his first hit.?

?So you have all these groupies, you have all these things but despite all of that,  behind closed doors -this man loves me to death and I know he loves my child to death. He does anything for us. ?

?So, my mom always told me? you can find a man who can financially take care of you, you can find a man who might not be a cheater, might have it all together, might of grew up with a father in their household, but it?s hard to find real love and a person who genuinely loves you and who is willing to change, my husband was willing to change for his family. ?

?So why would I give up on my husband. I?m not that type, I think that?s weak of a woman to do that. It?s easier to walk away as opposed to than to speaking up!  No we?re going to fight for this we got married. My family is worth fighting for.?

http://theshaderoom.com/tammy-rivera-opens-chose-stay-waka-flocka-infidelity/
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 07:04:26 PM
A serial cheater is a deal breaker
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on December 02, 2016, 07:08:11 PM
QuoteI think that?s weak of a woman to do that.

v

fucking please. You're not strong for staying. Just stupid.
and until I hear about a cheater that cheats ONCE... nah
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: NewNu on December 02, 2016, 07:10:25 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 07:04:26 PM
A serial cheater is a deal breaker


!!!!
We're men at the end of the day, it's very likely to happen tbh. If you're honest I can look past one...maybe 2. But anything else is a wrap. :stressed:
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Kurama on December 02, 2016, 07:11:45 PM
....
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Nine on December 02, 2016, 07:12:13 PM
n Tammy's a dumb bitch
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 07:12:41 PM
Quote from: NewNu on December 02, 2016, 07:10:25 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 07:04:26 PM
A serial cheater is a deal breaker


!!!!
If you're honest I can look past one...maybe 2. But anything else is a wrap. :stressed:
I agree
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: MAY on December 02, 2016, 07:18:35 PM
IDK...

If you cheat I don't know if I can get over it, especially if the only reason you confess is
because you got caught. I already have trust issues, so that would only make things worse.
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Harlem on December 02, 2016, 07:20:18 PM
It's def a deal breaker for me cuz the person needs to learn their lesson just to value ur respect especially since I'm open to like 3 somes down the line n shit to keep shit littt....

but it depends on the situation and history u have with that person too...

I think I may be more lineant if someone tried my partner and he responded b/c maybe he was too drunk which is just as bad no excuses but I understand temptation especially when someone's throwing it at u compared to u side texting a hoe and initiating that shit...

Idk at the end of the day, that shit not cool
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: CHOKE on December 02, 2016, 07:21:19 PM
Sex with another person doesn't bother me, it's just sex

If you confess to the mess I could get over it

It's the lying about it or not saying anything is what I can't get past
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: 🦚 on December 03, 2016, 12:22:20 AM
She's pathetic. Making all these excuses while he continues to fuck everything with a pulse.

And yes, it's a deal breaker. It tells me you don't respect me or what we have.
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: GLOCK on December 03, 2016, 12:25:09 AM
I just couldn't work it out with someone that stepped out on me
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Heated🔥 on December 03, 2016, 12:26:49 AM
some women are so dumb.
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Pearls Khan on December 03, 2016, 12:27:24 AM
Not a total deal breaker but the added stress it puts on a relationship is hell. Once trust is lost, I second guess every action and that in itself kinda kills the relationship.
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Heated🔥 on December 03, 2016, 12:33:44 AM
Quote from: Pearls on December 03, 2016, 12:27:24 AM
Not a total deal breaker but the added stress it puts on a relationship is hell. Once trust is lost, I second guess every action and that in itself kinda kills the relationship.
in the end u gonna end up wasting your time cause u will never trust them again.
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: 🦚 on December 03, 2016, 12:39:16 AM
In the infamous words of Beatrix Kiddo:
Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if it's broken, but you can still see the crack in that mother fucker's reflection.  :raycharles2urmess:
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Kaeli. on December 03, 2016, 12:48:39 AM
Yea

If u cheated u didn't want me in the first place or u wanted a lil yummy on the side & i'm not here for either. U do u & I'll do me.

I just... Stay single if u want multiple gorls. What's so hard about that :diddraispoot:
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Opposites Attract. on December 03, 2016, 01:54:08 AM
At this age in life nah it isn't because I still have to navigate around and find out exactly what it is I really want but be clear, if I'm up in age ready for more than just dick and superficial shit then hell yeah cheating is a deal breaker. After a certain period in life, you can't keep doing the same shit over and over. If we gonna be together then that's it. Don't settle for less. There are other guys out there willing to be all you want and need. I just can't fathom dealing with the bullshit.

I think that's one of the reasons I'm scared to fall in love because I don't want to end up hurt and looking stupid.
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Buy The Stars✨ on December 03, 2016, 02:03:12 AM
There is no coming back from cheating. I'll never be able to fully trust you .. Im petty af too I'll always bring it up

"Oh you were 5 min late home from work.. You cheating again ? "
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Freemala Harris on December 03, 2016, 07:03:59 AM
Quote from: Corporate Cannibal. on December 03, 2016, 04:47:27 AM
Yes. You cheat once and it's a wrap.
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: b7 on December 03, 2016, 08:04:03 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 07:12:41 PM
Quote from: NewNu on December 02, 2016, 07:10:25 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 07:04:26 PM
A serial cheater is a deal breaker


!!!!
If you're honest I can look past one...maybe 2. But anything else is a wrap. :stressed:
I agree
im honestly shocked you would  :dead:
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: FlowerBomb on December 03, 2016, 08:06:48 PM
Once is enough :uhh:
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on December 03, 2016, 08:06:58 PM
Quote from: TEXASbama on December 03, 2016, 02:03:12 AM
There is no coming back from cheating. I'll never be able to fully trust you .. Im petty af too I'll always bring it up

"Oh you were 5 min late home from work.. You cheating again ? "

:kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :nowgorl:
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Scott. on December 03, 2016, 09:34:33 PM
I really don't know because my trust is shaky. I don't know if I can trust you the same.
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Opposites Attract. on December 03, 2016, 09:36:26 PM
Quote from: kinda WILD! lol on December 03, 2016, 08:06:26 PM
Quote from: K♚NG. on December 03, 2016, 01:54:08 AM
At this age in life nah it isn't because I still have to navigate around and find out exactly what it is I really want but be clear, if I'm up in age ready for more than just dick and superficial shit then hell yeah cheating is a deal breaker. After a certain period in life, you can't keep doing the same shit over and over. If we gonna be together then that's it. Don't settle for less. There are other guys out there willing to be all you want and need. I just can't fathom dealing with the bullshit.

I think that's one of the reasons I'm scared to fall in love because I don't want to end up hurt and looking stupid.
,

n

Have you ever been in a relationship hun? No shade ja
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Harlem on December 04, 2016, 10:44:51 AM
Quote from: TheNextLew on December 03, 2016, 08:06:58 PM
Quote from: TEXASbama on December 03, 2016, 02:03:12 AM
There is no coming back from cheating. I'll never be able to fully trust you .. Im petty af too I'll always bring it up

"Oh you were 5 min late home from work.. You cheating again ? "

:kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :nowgorl:

!!!!!!!!!!!
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Hatsumomo on December 04, 2016, 10:49:35 AM
Lost of trust is a deal breaker for me . And if you cheat on me , I'll never be able to trust you .
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: BranLover on December 04, 2016, 11:15:36 AM
I wouldn't be able to handle it. Once you make me feel like I wasn't enough, it's hard to come back from that and go back to normal. But sometimes it depends on the history and dynamic of the relationship.
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: BranLover on December 04, 2016, 11:18:57 AM
Not justifying cheating, but let's say the person who cheated felt like they were being taken for granted in the relationship and have expressed it, but the person who got cheated on hasn't made any changes. Would it be "ok" then? Or something you'd be willing to work through? Sometimes I feel both parties have to take responsibility.
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Crazy8 on December 04, 2016, 11:20:03 AM
Quote from: Scott. on December 03, 2016, 09:34:33 PM
I really don't know because my trust is shaky. I don't know if I can trust you the same.
Or even be attracted to them the same. After that I'm disgusted. Yeah, I think it's a one and done for me.
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: BranLover on December 04, 2016, 11:21:26 AM
Quote from: Alphabet on December 04, 2016, 11:20:03 AM
Quote from: Scott. on December 03, 2016, 09:34:33 PM
I really don't know because my trust is shaky. I don't know if I can trust you the same.
Or even be attracted to them the same. After that I'm disgusted. Yeah, I think it's a one and done for me.

Yea I would be a bit disgusted. Definitely wouldn't give head to them ever again lol.
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: LOONA. on December 04, 2016, 06:24:16 PM
It depends on how far along we are in our relationship. If we've been dating 2 or 3 months I'll most likely drop your ass.

If it was something long term or we're possibly engaged/married I'd try to work things out.       

Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: LOONA. on December 04, 2016, 06:25:51 PM
Quote from: TAE! on December 04, 2016, 11:18:57 AM
Not justifying cheating, but let's say the person who cheated felt like they were being taken for granted in the relationship and have expressed it, but the person who got cheated on hasn't made any changes. Would it be "ok" then? Or something you'd be willing to work through? Sometimes I feel both parties have to take responsibility.

!!!!!

My friend neglected her husband and treated him like shit. He only stayed with her because they had a kid together.

Long story short he did cheat on her but I'm not surprised. I don't really look at cheating on the surface anymore. For alot of people who go that route it's about alot more than being greedy or trying to get an extra nut.       

Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Opposites Attract. on December 04, 2016, 06:41:10 PM
But if you're not happy in your relationship why not express that? What's the point of cheating when you can say how you feel, try to fix it and if there is no change just leave?

Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: 4 fucking k on December 04, 2016, 07:25:22 PM
Something I learned as I got older is that many women don't like to 'start over' so they will deal with their cheating husbands as long as he "comes home to me." It's ridiculous af, IMO.
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: GRAND on December 04, 2016, 07:39:38 PM
Quote from: K♚NG. on December 04, 2016, 06:41:10 PM
But if you're not happy in your relationship why not express that? What's the point of cheating when you can say how you feel, try to fix it and if there is no change just leave?
v

You'll find people are terrible at expressing themselves to significant others as time goes on

Whether they're 16 or 60
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: RatherBe on December 04, 2016, 07:44:47 PM
It's a deal breaker for me because when I commit, I commit. I know how loyal I am and because I know this I feel like it would be a deservice to myself to accept anything less than what I give out


In a relationship I can give and take on basically anything comittment isn't one of those things
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: Opposites Attract. on December 04, 2016, 07:49:37 PM
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME MARSHALL on December 04, 2016, 07:39:38 PM
Quote from: K♚NG. on December 04, 2016, 06:41:10 PM
But if you're not happy in your relationship why not express that? What's the point of cheating when you can say how you feel, try to fix it and if there is no change just leave?
v

You'll find people are terrible at expressing themselves to significant others as time goes on

Whether they're 16 or 60

That's weak imo
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: 4 fucking k on December 04, 2016, 07:52:49 PM
I think a lot of times men cheat to be edgy, try something new or try some new pussy. A lot of times there's no feelings behind it so I can see why a wife would take back a cheating husband. I think for a lot of women the dealbreaker is if the man is in a genuine relationship with the women (going on dates, doing sentimental shit, etc.)
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: FUCK Bey on December 04, 2016, 08:24:02 PM
H

Yea.... I dont have time to be playing Inspector Gadget and losing sleep, wondering if a nigger is still creeping into MelMel's bed.

These poor girls...

:overit:
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: LOONA. on December 04, 2016, 08:35:24 PM
What the       
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: FlowerBomb on December 04, 2016, 11:45:21 PM
Quote from: Trey on December 04, 2016, 08:24:02 PM
H

Yea.... I dont have time to be playing Inspector Gadget and losing sleep, wondering if a nigger is still creeping into MelMel's bed.

These poor girls...

:overit:
:plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop:
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: b7 on December 11, 2016, 06:52:38 PM
Quote from: TAE! on December 04, 2016, 11:18:57 AM
Not justifying cheating, but let's say the person who cheated felt like they were being taken for granted in the relationship and have expressed it, but the person who got cheated on hasn't made any changes. Would it be "ok" then? Or something you'd be willing to work through? Sometimes I feel both parties have to take responsibility.
i just feel like a lot of conversations need to happen in between and someone needs to leave or at least discuss leaving so it doesn't even have to get to that

Fuck whoever u want without the guilt
Title: Re: HONESTY HOUR: Is cheating a deal breaker for you?
Post by: LOONA. on December 12, 2016, 10:15:01 AM
I just feel like you need to stop texting that other nigga

:overit: