He's always made it known that he can acknowledge when a guy is handsome, he even calls me pretty from time to time...He doesn't mind when I tell him guy stories, so I just thought he's super open. I mean I did once ask him if he is only into girls and he said yes, which also made sense cause he has a new girl every other week and acts like a frat bro most of the time...
But now one of my gay male friends was browsing tinder and guess who appeared there as a suggestion? :howfestive: Mr. Straight friend!
So now I'm not sure if I should address this or not. I mean it's no big deal really (obviously), but since we are kinda good friends and I always share so much, I feel like he's been dishonest. On the other hand he is probably really unsure about his sexuality and therefore not open about it. Which to me still doesn't make sense because he's one of the few people I know who really don't give a fuck about what other people think of them.
Should I confront him?
Sidenote: I once had a minor crush on him...but that ship has sailed a while ago.
Opinions?
:gorlonfire:
Are you sure it's him?
Anybody can use his pics especially if he's a nice looking guy.
yea make sure irv'
cuz ppl be usin' my pics n mess for all sorta social media things
be sure firs b'fore u do anything
Quote from: MrMoon on January 21, 2017, 08:02:04 PM
Are you sure it's him?
Anybody can use his pics especially if he's a nice looking guy.
I guess it's him. He usually lies about where he works on his Tinder profile, and that same info is what I saw in the screenshot that my friend showed me.
Funny thing is that whenever we played around on Tinder together, there would be the occasional picture of a guy popping up and I would confront him, but he said those were probably guys who registered as "female", which I initially believed, because I do get females in my Tinder myself sometimes (and lord knows im not looking for no fish).
Quote from: Bad Gorl Tinker on January 21, 2017, 08:06:53 PM
yea make sure irv'
cuz ppl be usin' my pics n mess for all sorta social media things
be sure firs b'fore u do anything
i bet they do! popular self. :letsmessfag:
He's straight maybe he uses tinder to get to know people
If thats even him, he's not obligated to share that with u. Address it for what? he clearly doesnt wanna discuss that and that's his choice. as his friend, your duty is to be there if he needs to discuss it with u and understand that he may NEVER wanna discuss it with u. It's hilarious that you somehow found a way to turn this around and become the victim :dead:
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 21, 2017, 08:21:09 PM
If thats even him, his not obligated to share that with u. Address it for what? he clearly doesnt wanna discuss that and that's his choice. as his friend, your duty is to be there if he needs to discuss it with u and understand that he may NEVER wanna discuss it with u. It's hilarious that you somehow found a way to turn this around and become the victim :dead:
Maybe you'll understand more if I say that we have a somewhat weird friendship. sometimes he treats me like a gay best friend and tries to rub it in peoples faces that i like guys, when i myself am not completely comfortable doing that with random people that I dont know that well. I've put him in check for that already and informed him that I'm more than my sexual orientation.
So now finding out that he likes himself some dick, does seem a little odd.
This almost seems too relatable for some.
:omgwatshappening:
Quote from: شيطان on January 21, 2017, 08:17:35 PM
He's straight maybe he uses tinder to get to know people
Interesting. I would consider that option if he didn't brush off the few guys that appeared on his Tinder screen in the past, as some technical error. :ohwow:
Quote from: شيطان on January 21, 2017, 08:28:44 PM
This almost seems too relatable for some.
:omgwatshappening:
You mean for yourself?
Let's hear your mess. :howfestive:
That is the most embarrassing thing when you see someone you know or share mutual friends with or family and they end up on your Tinder
Quote from: formate on January 21, 2017, 08:34:14 PM
depends on how close you guys are.
if he's a really close friend and this is bothering you, to the point where its affecting your perception of him...its worth it to have a conversation with him. just be careful with how you approach it. if my bestie had tea on me and didn't tell me I'd kinda be upset if she kept it from me, knowing she was SMIRKINg up in my face the whole time and snickering under her breath.
so again, it depends.
if its not bothering you, or if he's not that close of a friend, its a different story.
not really any of ur business, his answer should suffice, keep it moving.
I love the guy...he considers me one of his best friends (those are his words). So I guess that's why I'm just confused. But maybe it really is none of my business in the end. :raycharles2urmess:
Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on January 21, 2017, 08:28:07 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 21, 2017, 08:21:09 PM
If thats even him, his not obligated to share that with u. Address it for what? he clearly doesnt wanna discuss that and that's his choice. as his friend, your duty is to be there if he needs to discuss it with u and understand that he may NEVER wanna discuss it with u. It's hilarious that you somehow found a way to turn this around and become the victim :dead:
Maybe you'll understand more if I say that we have a somewhat weird friendship. sometimes he treats me like a gay best friend and tries to rub it in peoples faces that i like guys, when i myself am not completely comfortable doing that with random people that I dont know that well. I've put him in check for that already and informed him that I'm more than my sexual orientation.
So now finding out that he likes himself some dick, does seem a little odd.
I still dont think he's obligated to tell u anything. We have to check friends all the time to let them know what we will and wont accept, so that situation shouldve ended with the chceking. This makes it sound like a spiteful thing a lil to me now. I think if he chooses to confide in u then thats great but I wouldnt impose myself on my friend like
WHY DIDNT U TELL MEur making it about u and it's not about u. I recently had a situation similar to this happen. I introduced 2 friends of mine. The father of my friend died and he didnt disclose it to me but he did to my other friend. went over drank and smoked and had a whole commiseration day. My friend that he told asked me did I feel some kinda way. No, why would I? People have different relationships with different people. If he chooses to tell me then Im here to receive it. If not, then I accept that as well. I didnt take that moment and make it about me, and I feel like thats what ur doing here...........but this is just my opinion
I remember once I was hanging out with him and the girl that he was seeing at the time and he randomly said that if I was a girl, I would be the perfect girlfriend for him.
We all gave him a slight :uhh: for that.
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Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 21, 2017, 08:44:38 PM
Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on January 21, 2017, 08:28:07 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 21, 2017, 08:21:09 PM
If thats even him, his not obligated to share that with u. Address it for what? he clearly doesnt wanna discuss that and that's his choice. as his friend, your duty is to be there if he needs to discuss it with u and understand that he may NEVER wanna discuss it with u. It's hilarious that you somehow found a way to turn this around and become the victim :dead:
Maybe you'll understand more if I say that we have a somewhat weird friendship. sometimes he treats me like a gay best friend and tries to rub it in peoples faces that i like guys, when i myself am not completely comfortable doing that with random people that I dont know that well. I've put him in check for that already and informed him that I'm more than my sexual orientation.
So now finding out that he likes himself some dick, does seem a little odd.
I still dont think he's obligated to tell u anything. We have to check friends all the time to let them know what we will and wont accept, so that situation shouldve ended with the chceking. This makes it sound like a spiteful thing a lil to me now. I think if he chooses to confide in u then thats great but I wouldnt impose myself on my friend like WHY DIDNT U TELL ME
ur making it about u and it's not about u. I recently had a situation similar to this happen. I introduced 2 friends of mine. The father of my friend died and he didnt disclose it to me but he did to my other friend. went over drank and smoked and had a whole commiseration day. My friend that he told asked me did I feel some kinda way. No, why would I? People have different relationships with different people. If he chooses to tell me then Im here to receive it. If not, then I accept that as well. I didnt take that moment and make it about me, and I feel like thats what ur doing here...........but this is just my opinion
I appreciate your point of view, maybe I'm being a little too harsh on him here. There are some friends that I don't share certain stuff with, who I still consider to be good friends. I will try to just ignore this for now, as in the end it shouldn't affect our relationship. Telling him that my friend saw him on Tinder might only make him uncomfortable and that's not the goal for me either.
Quote from: formate on January 21, 2017, 08:54:58 PM
hun I think u want to be more than friends with him.
sss
i used to want more, but i'm over it i think. also he doesn't want me obviously.
so .... nobody else realized Irf still has a crush on his boy :dead:
That's why he wants this SOLVED
:guys:
Quote from: BENTLEY. on January 21, 2017, 09:01:10 PM
so .... nobody else realized Irf still has a crush on his boy :dead:
That's why he wants this SOLVED
Yea cause is seeming a lil deeper. It really shouldn't matter either way.
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 21, 2017, 08:21:09 PM
If thats even him, he's not obligated to share that with u. Address it for what? he clearly doesnt wanna discuss that and that's his choice. as his friend, your duty is to be there if he needs to discuss it with u and understand that he may NEVER wanna discuss it with u. It's hilarious that you somehow found a way to turn this around and become the victim :dead:
jjjjjjjijjj why are you LIKE this
guys i forgot to mention that my gay friend (who I also had a crush on when I first got to know him), liked my straight friend on tinder when he saw him there. so if they actually do match, it's time for some fucking mess in these streets.
Quote from: formate on January 21, 2017, 08:54:58 PM
hun I think u want to be more than friends with him.
sss
!!! dfskdsmkdfsfdk
inspector gadget! confrontation!hun ya want him
:usuresis:
Quote from: Nude on January 21, 2017, 09:04:22 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 21, 2017, 08:21:09 PM
If thats even him, he's not obligated to share that with u. Address it for what? he clearly doesnt wanna discuss that and that's his choice. as his friend, your duty is to be there if he needs to discuss it with u and understand that he may NEVER wanna discuss it with u. It's hilarious that you somehow found a way to turn this around and become the victim :dead:
jjjjjjjijjj why are you LIKE this
i think he doesnt like me :ohwow:
but i actually appreciate his harsh opinionata.
Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on January 21, 2017, 09:08:39 PM
Quote from: Nude on January 21, 2017, 09:04:22 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 21, 2017, 08:21:09 PM
If thats even him, he's not obligated to share that with u. Address it for what? he clearly doesnt wanna discuss that and that's his choice. as his friend, your duty is to be there if he needs to discuss it with u and understand that he may NEVER wanna discuss it with u. It's hilarious that you somehow found a way to turn this around and become the victim :dead:
jjjjjjjijjj why are you LIKE this
i think he doesnt like me :ohwow:
but i actually appreciate his harsh opinionata.
:dead:
Irf i have absolutely no problem with u. Im just stating my opinion..........unadulterated
guys it would be less tricky if he wouldnt call me gorgeous, compliment my hair etc every other day.
anybody would feel a little flattered and wonder if it's time to MESS a bit.
sssss
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 21, 2017, 09:10:26 PM
Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on January 21, 2017, 09:08:39 PM
Quote from: Nude on January 21, 2017, 09:04:22 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 21, 2017, 08:21:09 PM
If thats even him, he's not obligated to share that with u. Address it for what? he clearly doesnt wanna discuss that and that's his choice. as his friend, your duty is to be there if he needs to discuss it with u and understand that he may NEVER wanna discuss it with u. It's hilarious that you somehow found a way to turn this around and become the victim :dead:
jjjjjjjijjj why are you LIKE this
i think he doesnt like me :ohwow:
but i actually appreciate his harsh opinionata.
:dead:
Irf i have absolutely no problem with u. Im just stating my opinion..........unadulterated
I know it's all love Vonc :wub:
I tend to make everything about me, I'm sorry.
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 21, 2017, 08:21:09 PM
If thats even him, he's not obligated to share that with u. Address it for what? he clearly doesnt wanna discuss that and that's his choice. as his friend, your duty is to be there if he needs to discuss it with u and understand that he may NEVER wanna discuss it with u. It's hilarious that you somehow found a way to turn this around and become the victim :dead:
Omffffffffffffff But I agree with every word of this!!
Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on January 21, 2017, 09:10:46 PM
guys it would be less tricky if he wouldnt call me gorgeous, compliment my hair etc every other day.
anybody would feel a little flattered and wonder if it's time to MESS a bit.
sssss
so u do wanna suck his dick then
:ATLcameo:
Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on January 21, 2017, 09:10:46 PM
guys it would be less tricky if he wouldnt call me gorgeous, compliment my hair etc every other day.
anybody would feel a little flattered and wonder if it's time to MESS a bit.
sssss
I compliment friends all the time. I think the only reason it's "tricky" is because u still feel a way. A compliment doesn't automatically mean SEX :dead:
Yea this is none of ur business
if he were interested in u, he would've been made a move. So if he doesn't make moves on you AND doesn't fill you in about anyone else, he clearly wants to mess in private
I know plenty of straight men who would compliment another guy. That doesn't mean anything. It's not your business to confront him about what he does on Tinder. It's simple.
Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on January 21, 2017, 09:06:35 PM
guys i forgot to mention that my gay friend (who I also had a crush on when I first got to know him), liked my straight friend on tinder when he saw him there. so if they actually do match, it's time for some fucking mess in these streets.
ssssssssssssssssss
Hate to tell ya hun
But they are already fckn, if we're being honest
Reading these responses is making me feel pathetic as fuck
ssssssssssssssss
Quote from: formate on January 21, 2017, 08:54:58 PM
hun I think u want to be more than friends with him.
sss
sddddfffffggg quite obvious
awwww
Quote from: Jay. on January 21, 2017, 09:15:18 PM
I know plenty of straight men who would compliment another guy. That doesn't mean anything. It's not your business to confront him about what he does on Tinder. It's simple.
Ok but it's not like I was trying to find that out, my friend just sent me a screenshot along with a LOL. I didn't ask for it, but now I just needed to know how to handle the situation. One would think that you'd have some helpful input here as a psychologist.
(https://uploadir.com/u/bkc9cnhg)
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 21, 2017, 09:14:41 PM
Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on January 21, 2017, 09:10:46 PM
guys it would be less tricky if he wouldnt call me gorgeous, compliment my hair etc every other day.
anybody would feel a little flattered and wonder if it's time to MESS a bit.
sssss
I compliment friends all the time. I think the only reason it's "tricky" is because u still feel a way. A compliment doesn't automatically mean SEX :dead:
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And Irf ur an attractive guy, I'm sure u should be used to compliments by now. Ew
:udontlookok:
Quote from: BENTLEY. on January 21, 2017, 09:18:12 PM
Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on January 21, 2017, 09:06:35 PM
guys i forgot to mention that my gay friend (who I also had a crush on when I first got to know him), liked my straight friend on tinder when he saw him there. so if they actually do match, it's time for some fucking mess in these streets.
ssssssssssssssssss
Hate to tell ya hun
But they are already fckn, if we're being honest
sdddffffffggffff
Quote from: RIGS on January 21, 2017, 09:24:51 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 21, 2017, 09:14:41 PM
Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on January 21, 2017, 09:10:46 PM
guys it would be less tricky if he wouldnt call me gorgeous, compliment my hair etc every other day.
anybody would feel a little flattered and wonder if it's time to MESS a bit.
sssss
I compliment friends all the time. I think the only reason it's "tricky" is because u still feel a way. A compliment doesn't automatically mean SEX :dead:
bdbcncncncnncnc
And Irf ur an attractive guy, I'm sure u should be used to compliments by now. Ew
:udontlookok:
Did you just say ew :ohwow:
It's different when somebody you like compliments you. And it's different with him, he does it like all the time. At least once every time I see him. That's why I got my hopes up initially.
But all of you are right - A compliment is just that, not an invitation to the bedroom. Unless the setting is a gay club.
But it's funny how we do learn about ppls habits here
Because Irf is attractive, but falls quick and moves in FAST
I think this is the third guy that has said :calmdownsis:
And in contrast Mack is the German Cardi B
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 21, 2017, 08:21:09 PM
If thats even him, he's not obligated to share that with u. Address it for what? he clearly doesnt wanna discuss that and that's his choice. as his friend, your duty is to be there if he needs to discuss it with u and understand that he may NEVER wanna discuss it with u. It's hilarious that you somehow found a way to turn this around and become the victim :dead:
Not ur business bro.
Let him come to u on his own
Quote from: BENTLEY. on January 21, 2017, 09:31:51 PM
But it's funny how we do learn about ppls habits here
Because Irf is attractive, but falls quick and moves in FAST
I think this is the third guy that has said :calmdownsis:
And in contrast Mack is the German Cardi B
I know my pattern :dead:
But with this guy it was always a friendship.
Quote from: formate on January 21, 2017, 09:39:19 PM
I do think that, to a certain extent, gays who are open feel that everyone should be. We have a hard time understanding why someone wouldn't be out and proud -- and almost feel like we have a RIGHT to know when someone is gay.
I have no problem with men who choose to be discreet. It's when I see men who are clearly one of the gorls, going in on someone else who is open and proud, is when I will have no problem clocking them. Half of the time, most of the gorls who think no one is clocking are getting clocked anyway -- one way or another.
This thread is proof of it.
s
bitch did you just out me?
:guys:
b
Boy
HE'S NOT INTO YOU
Don't dive into his business. Stop trying to get his dick
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME MARSHALL on January 21, 2017, 09:55:56 PM
b
Boy
HE'S NOT INTO YOU
Don't dive into his business. Stop trying to get his dick
i dont know you.
Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on January 21, 2017, 09:57:24 PM
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME MARSHALL on January 21, 2017, 09:55:56 PM
b
Boy
HE'S NOT INTO YOU
Don't dive into his business. Stop trying to get his dick
i dont know you.
Well that's not really important, listen to what he said bby :dead:
That's preme btw, u HAVE to know him
Fact is, this thread wasn't about if he's into me or not...i'm totally fine with him being my friend at this moment in time. I know who 'Preme is, still I don't know her.
night y'awl
ssssss
yawl pissed Irf off in here
Whitney is dead faggot
This is just like that last boy that used you for sex
You need to realize if a Fag isn't actively pursuing you, its not worth it
whats going on in here?
Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on January 21, 2017, 10:00:57 PM
I know who 'Preme is, still I don't know her.
v
You're not mariah hun
Irf is still different
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME MARSHALL on January 21, 2017, 10:06:24 PM
This is just like that last boy that used you for sex
You need to realize if a Fag isn't actively pursuing you, its not worth it
that's really mean. He ate my ass real good btw, no wonder I saw a future there!
Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on January 21, 2017, 09:21:05 PM
Quote from: Jay. on January 21, 2017, 09:15:18 PM
I know plenty of straight men who would compliment another guy. That doesn't mean anything. It's not your business to confront him about what he does on Tinder. It's simple.
Ok but it's not like I was trying to find that out, my friend just sent me a screenshot along with a LOL. I didn't ask for it, but now I just needed to know how to handle the situation. One would think that you'd have some helpful input here as a psychologist.
Why are you getting defensive? That's a huge sign right there. You have feelings for this friend of yours and don't know how to deal. And FYI, there are different forms of Psychology. There's research and medical psychology. Before you catch an attitude. I was just simply stating that it's none of your business even if your friend did send you a screenshot, it's still none of your business to feel some kind of way about it. He's just your friend, not your boyfriend.
And there's no situation to handle. Just mind your business and leave it alone. It's simple.
Here's a question for you: Do you have feelings for this friend? Be honest and truthful.
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 21, 2017, 08:21:09 PM
If thats even him, he's not obligated to share that with u. Address it for what? he clearly doesnt wanna discuss that and that's his choice. as his friend, your duty is to be there if he needs to discuss it with u and understand that he may NEVER wanna discuss it with u. It's hilarious that you somehow found a way to turn this around and become the victim :dead:
I agree with this.
Straight people don't have to come out as straight to everyone. So why do the gay and bi ones have to.
To the OP unless y'all are fucking it is none of your business what he likes between the sheets.