I'm dealing with a 16 year old who I think is on the brink of harming himself.
The environment he grew up in wasn't gay friendly, anything less masculine was made fun of.
But the worst part is I think older "str8" men used to take advantage of him, but he won't open up and say.
Any advice would help
Also, I joke around a lot on here. But he doesn't view me as an out gay man, I'm very private.
And I feel like I could share my experiences, but I also feel like maybe I need to link him up with an out person to really help him
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on March 08, 2017, 09:58:23 AM
I'm dealing with a 16 year old who I think is on the brink of harming himself.
The environment he grew up in wasn't gay friendly, anything less masculine was made fun of.
But the worst part is I think older "str8" men used to take advantage of him, but he won't open up and say.
Any advice would help
Fight back...he got to beat a ass or 2 to get the msg sent out
Yeah, I use to get bullied from elementary school until the end of middle school. Honestly, the only thing that changed things for me was learning how to fight and standing up for myself afterward. Thing subsided more when I started defending myself but then I got tired of fighting dudes or getting jumped; ended up becoming cool with folks once they realized I wasn't dealing with there shit.
That came with a price though, I began to emulate the men in my community, they weren't the best role models and still to this day that's one aspect of my life I really regret.
Course if this is a professional connection you can't tell him to defend himself and start kicking everyone's ass. I'd probably just let him know that after high school is over he won't look back, he'll find others like him, he'll grow and experience so many different things, and he'll be proud of the person he is despite what people say now.
It would be better if you could give a personal example or have someone who serves as a model for all of that, but i would understand if you want to keep that boundary up.
If he's legit having suicidal ideation you should definitely get him to talk to a therapist.
No, was never bullied because they knew I was not to be fucked with.
Yea
But I liked it. Could have easily tossed them tho.
But his is more so mental bullying if that makes sense
I think he could beat a lot of their asses, but still the fact they're saying the stuff
This all happened because I'm basically raising my teen cousin now 😏
So I'm sitting outside with the other moms, and I go to check up on the kiddos
And they're talking about some Kodak Black rumor about being gay, and it was joking that turned disrespectful. And it's crazy how kids brush it off, but I could tell he didn't find it funny from the jump which is why it got heated.
He's not a feminine kid, iono what they're picking up on, I mean I can tell he's gonna be a gay, but that's because I've been around the block
Yeah I was. Very dark period of my life and that's why I'm the person I am today
Quote from: Scott. on March 08, 2017, 11:37:34 AM
Yeah I was. Very dark period of my life and that's why I'm the person I am today
:'( :wub: