I'm a family oriented guy and its heart-breaking to realize that my family DOESN'T USE ME. I try to go around family functions but they don't want to around. They always lie about location and my own father has been doing some shady shit. I move to Atlanta in November, so I'm happy I'll be able to be on my own. But I really would love their support. I believe he's trying to get me in a psych ward. If I hadn't taken a friends advice on the colonics, I would've been relasped and fallen into his trap. My family can be hateful and luving at the same time. Its sad that because I came out to them, they have been treating me like a rat on the street. My own mother made this comment, "How can another man let another man stick his dick up his ass, where shit comes out...its disgusting." I was fuming but didn't respond because I'm under her roof and she's still paying the bills, while I work these two shitty jobs. Anyway, how did y'all cope with homophobic family?
Quote from: navyn on October 15, 2015, 06:29:29 PM
My own mother made this comment, "How can another man let another man stick his dick up his ass, where shit comes out...its disgusting."
:omgwatshappening:
Your mom is damn rude.
:overit:
Aww
Why are they trying to send you to a psych ward
I avoid they asses... :uhh: start paying them dust... watch they start acting like you abandoned them then you have the upper hand win/win
Quote from: navyn on October 15, 2015, 06:29:29 PM
I'm a family oriented guy and its heart-breaking to realize that my family DOESN'T USE ME. I try to go around family functions but they don't want to around. They always lie about location and my own father has been doing some shady shit. I move to Atlanta in November, so I'm happy I'll be able to be on my own. But I really would love their support. I believe he's trying to get me in a psych ward. If I hadn't taken a friends advice on the colonics, I would've been relasped and fallen into his trap. My family can be hateful and luving at the same time. Its sad that because I came out to them, they have been treating me like a rat on the street. My own mother made this comment, "How can another man let another man stick his dick up his ass, where shit comes out...its disgusting." I was fuming but didn't respond because I'm under her roof and she's still paying the bills, while I work these two shitty jobs. Anyway, how did y'all cope with homophobic family?
n
Quote from: SUPREME on October 15, 2015, 06:38:14 PM
Aww
Why are they trying to send you to a psych ward
Because they don't understand why I'm gay. I believe they drove my Aunt into a psych ward as well. She was raped by her own brother. My father side of the family is sick and fucking looney. They think drug dealers is ok but if u a faggot then u damned.
i would just get focused on yourself.. you dont need to invest your time into anyone who's not gonna do the same for you. that goes for friends family ANYONE
I've cut all ties with my family. Simple as that. Create your own family with your friends. Surround yourself with positive people who would love and support you no matter what. That's what I've done and I'm so much better for it. I haven't seen any of my family in nearly 10 years and could care less if I ever see them again or vice versa. There comes a time where you have to cut your family off. It's not easy to do, but you'll be so much happier and relieved when you do.
Half of my family I don't even like so who gives a fuck what they think.
:supluv:
hjbhddd
Idk I got so used to homophobia growing up that I don't react to it as much as I should.
I mean if someone says something ignorant I'll call them out but I'd probably cackle if I heard someone call someone a faggot instead of being offended.
Quote from: 9九 on October 15, 2015, 06:43:15 PM
Half of my family I don't even like so who gives a fuck what they think.
:supluv:
THIS!!!!!!
Quote from: navyn on October 15, 2015, 06:41:03 PM
Quote from: SUPREME on October 15, 2015, 06:38:14 PM
Aww
Why are they trying to send you to a psych ward
Because they don't understand why I'm gay. I believe they drove my Aunt into a psych ward as well. She was raped by her own brother. My father side of the family is sick and fucking looney. They think drug dealers is ok but if u a faggot then u damned.
They might be your family but it sounds to me like you need to limit the time you spend with them anyway. Maybe the distance will make them realize how valuable you are and get them to think differently.
Quote from: 9九 on October 15, 2015, 06:43:15 PM
Half of my family I don't even like so who gives a fuck what they think.
:supluv:
n
My brother and I never really used one another anyway. So fuck his criminal ass. :supluv:
people dont understand that just because you dont agree doesnot give you the right to be disrespectful.
for instance my cousin doesnt agree with my lifestyle and is extremely rude... but i dont agree that she a 6 kids by 4 different fathers either, but it doesnt warrant me to just be rude off the bat. sooooo... :letsmessfag:
Quote from: AjBeenOn on October 15, 2015, 06:48:51 PM
people dont understand that just because you dont agree doesnot give you the right to be disrespectful.
for instance my cousin doesnt agree with my lifestyle and is extremely rude... but i dont agree that she a 6 kids by 4 different fathers either, but it doesnt warrant me to just be rude off the bat. sooooo... :letsmessfag:
I would be rude right back to her ass. I do it to my brother and his whore of a fiancee. I don't use that bitch. So many dicks and pussy have ran through her ass ain't no telling what she got. I simply don't use her at all and I let her know every fucking chance I get. I don't hold back either. :supluv:
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Quote from: navyn on October 15, 2015, 06:29:29 PM
I'm a family oriented guy and its heart-breaking to realize that my family DOESN'T USE ME. I try to go around family functions but they don't want to around. They always lie about location and my own father has been doing some shady shit. I move to Atlanta in November, so I'm happy I'll be able to be on my own. But I really would love their support. I believe he's trying to get me in a psych ward. If I hadn't taken a friends advice on the colonics, I would've been relasped and fallen into his trap. My family can be hateful and luving at the same time. Its sad that because I came out to them, they have been treating me like a rat on the street. My own mother made this comment, "How can another man let another man stick his dick up his ass, where shit comes out...its disgusting." I was fuming but didn't respond because I'm under her roof and she's still paying the bills, while I work these two shitty jobs. Anyway, how did y'all cope with homophobic family?
You can't make up for their ignorance. Live your life for you, baby.
Quote from: Jay. on October 15, 2015, 06:53:23 PM
Quote from: AjBeenOn on October 15, 2015, 06:48:51 PM
people dont understand that just because you dont agree doesnot give you the right to be disrespectful.
for instance my cousin doesnt agree with my lifestyle and is extremely rude... but i dont agree that she a 6 kids by 4 different fathers either, but it doesnt warrant me to just be rude off the bat. sooooo... :letsmessfag:
I would be rude right back to her ass. I do it to my brother and his whore of a fiancee. I don't use that bitch. So many dicks and pussy have ran through her ass ain't no telling what she got. I simply don't use her at all and I let her know every fucking chance I get. I don't hold back either. :supluv:
i am... thats why i said rude off the bat
Quote from: RIG on October 15, 2015, 07:04:42 PM
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ddd
this BOOB sayin 'hi'
Yeah, fuck them.
Life's too short for this negative ignorant shit. Do as you please.
Quote from: navyn on October 15, 2015, 06:29:29 PM
I'm a family oriented guy and its heart-breaking to realize that my family DOESN'T USE ME. I try to go around family functions but they don't want to around. They always lie about location and my own father has been doing some shady shit. I move to Atlanta in November, so I'm happy I'll be able to be on my own. But I really would love their support. I believe he's trying to get me in a psych ward. If I hadn't taken a friends advice on the colonics, I would've been relasped and fallen into his trap. My family can be hateful and luving at the same time. Its sad that because I came out to them, they have been treating me like a rat on the street. My own mother made this comment, "How can another man let another man stick his dick up his ass, where shit comes out...its disgusting." I was fuming but didn't respond because I'm under her roof and she's still paying the bills, while I work these two shitty jobs. Anyway, how did y'all cope with homophobic family?
You have to love yourself enough to know your worth. Don't go anywhere you're not wanted, and realize that those people are missing out its not the other way around. Why do you feel as though you're missing out when this "family" is obviously a sham? You shouldn't have an interest in CONDITIONAL love, where you have to meet the terms and agreements they have set forth in order to accept you. Realize that you are loved by a higher power and you came into this world alone. We all aren't blessed with ideal circumstances but fortunately DNA is not the sole factor in determining who your REAL FAMILY is.
It's sad that some of you can't stand your family. I wasn't close to my fathers family at all until last year and I love all of them. Very accepting. I just hate seeing families divided like my mom's family because none of them fuck with each other
Quote from: AjBeenOn on October 15, 2015, 06:42:05 PM
i would just get focused on yourself.. you dont need to invest your time into anyone who's not gonna do the same for you. that goes for friends family ANYONE
Thank u so much for thsi advice!!! I really needed that!!!!!!!!!
Thank you all for your kind wisdom and advice, I truly appreciate it! Love you alll my bbyvies! :D
Quote from: Jay. on October 15, 2015, 06:43:04 PM
I've cut all ties with my family. Simple as that. Create your own family with your friends. Surround yourself with positive people who would love and support you no matter what. That's what I've done and I'm so much better for it. I haven't seen any of my family in nearly 10 years and could care less if I ever see them again or vice versa. There comes a time where you have to cut your family off. It's not easy to do, but you'll be so much happier and relieved when you do.
Thank you so much Jay :bighugs:
i dnt talk to them & they could die for all i care
Quote from: Plankesha on October 15, 2015, 08:39:24 PM
i dnt talk to them & they could die for all i care
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this thread is about homophobia not transphobia....get the fuck out (http://i1123.photobucket.com/albums/l547/veryfunnygifs2/Glee-If_I_Were_A_Boy_Full_Performance_zpse60f43c3.gif)
Quote from: SCOTTland on October 15, 2015, 08:28:38 PM
It's sad that some of you can't stand your family. I wasn't close to my fathers family at all until last year and I love all of them. Very accepting. I just hate seeing families divided like my mom's family because none of them fuck with each other
Well if family doesn't accept you nor wants you around them, then fuck them. Simple as that. It's not sad. I've created my own family with my friends. They're way better than my blood family will ever be.
Meh, just because you share the same blood with someone doesn't mean you have to love em.
Quote from: 9九 on October 15, 2015, 09:16:40 PM
Meh, just because you share the same blood with someone doesn't mean you have to love em.
!!!!
I've never understood this mantra of 'oh that's blood! gotta love em!' Fuck that.
Everyone can get cut off, tf blood is supposed to do. If you want to disrespect and degrade me then there's no need to maintain a relationship. Mother, father, brother, whoever.
Quote from: emzen on October 15, 2015, 10:48:12 PM
Quote from: 9九 on October 15, 2015, 09:16:40 PM
Meh, just because you share the same blood with someone doesn't mean you have to love em.
!!!!
I've never understood this mantra of 'oh that's blood! gotta love em!' Fuck that. Everyone can get cut off, tf blood is supposed to do. If you want to disrespect and degrade me then there's no need to maintain a relationship. Mother, father, brother, whoever.
!!!!!!!!!!!!
Quote from: 9九 on October 15, 2015, 09:16:40 PM
Meh, just because you share the same blood with someone doesn't mean you have to love em.
Exactly....
n
Quote from: FINE. on October 16, 2015, 12:25:02 AM
n
nnnnnnnnnnnn * goes back to Tina's Instagram page* :plzstop:
Quote from: 9九 on October 15, 2015, 09:16:40 PM
Meh, just because you share the same blood with someone doesn't mean you have to love em.
i never said you had to
I just hate to see families divided
Quote from: Jay. on October 15, 2015, 09:13:03 PM
Quote from: SCOTTland on October 15, 2015, 08:28:38 PM
It's sad that some of you can't stand your family. I wasn't close to my fathers family at all until last year and I love all of them. Very accepting. I just hate seeing families divided like my mom's family because none of them fuck with each other
Well if family doesn't accept you nor wants you around them, then fuck them. Simple as that. It's not sad. I've created my own family with my friends. They're way better than my blood family will ever be.
You're missing the point but OKAY!
This "family" of yours sounds disgusting sorry. And like many have mentioned....just because you share the same blood doesn't mean a damn thing :usureuok:
Family is someone who loves you, supports you and who wants the best for you and is there for you whenever you need it.
Your mom sounds like she's the one who needs to be sent to a mental hospital tbh. To make a comment like that in front of your own child when she knows you're gay :diddraispoot:
she sounds like a miserable, hateful bitch. no offense! :nogrammynoneck:
You don't need people like that in your life. Run far, far away and find your own happiness with people who deserve to be around you. You don't need trash like that in YOUR life bringing you down.
Life is too damn short anyways. Why spend it with people like THAT
:uhh:
Fuck them. Go be happy.
It's selfish to come out when you are not paying your own bills.
I'm one of the lucky ones
Especially coming from an African background where tradition and religion is law of the land :dead:
My family don't care and love me the same
Quote from: Miranda on October 16, 2015, 04:51:53 AM
It's selfish to come out when you are not paying your own bills.
I came out when I was 6. And?
:nowgorl:
Can you not keep your dating life to yourself until you stacked up enough coins to live by yourself? I never understand that.
Right
What a moronic statement
It's your sexuality, not your 'dating life' :uhh:
And I don't see how it's 'selfish' for anyone to want to share that part of their life with their family
If anything it's brave and their right
It is selfish and stupid, especially if you know your family does not tolerate it.
:kii:
Malcolm you're just.....something else.
Just when I was beginning to warm up to you
You remind me why I don't like you
Just closed minded, ignorant and unaware :dead:
Not everyone has a accepting and understanding family but to label someone stupid and selfish because they want to share their sexuality with their family is just damn ignorant.
Quote from: .CodyJade. on October 16, 2015, 05:09:32 AM
:kii:
Malcolm you're just.....something else.
! I've had it
Can't deal with it anymore
:rudone:
Quote from: RED on October 16, 2015, 05:09:48 AM
Just when I was beginning to warm up to you
You remind me why I don't like you
Just closed minded, ignorant and unaware :dead:
Not everyone has a accepting and understanding family but to label someone stupid and selfish because they want to share their sexuality with their family is just damn ignorant.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wasn't Malc on the dl for years? :overit:
like.....the last person who should be telling anyone how to handle anything.
Quote from: .CodyJade. on October 16, 2015, 05:11:09 AM
Quote from: RED on October 16, 2015, 05:09:48 AM
Just when I was beginning to warm up to you
You remind me why I don't like you
Just closed minded, ignorant and unaware :dead:
Not everyone has a accepting and understanding family but to label someone stupid and selfish because they want to share their sexuality with their family is just damn ignorant.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wasn't Malc on the dl for years? :overit:
like.....the last person who should be telling anyone how to handle anything.
!!! :uhh:
One would think it's more selfish of the family to want to to keep your sexuality hidden just for their comfort ideology
'Eat ass! Ew!! No! Can't fathom!'
I hope his brother clocks his Grindr account and outs him to his family and and gets sent back to Nigeria
Like....gay people face ENOUGH scrutiny. The basic thing that most gay/lesbian people want is to know that their family loves and accepts them regardless.
Quote from: .CodyJade. on October 16, 2015, 05:14:11 AM
Like....gay people face ENOUGH scrutiny. The basic thing that most gay/lesbian people want is to know that their family loves and accepts them regardless.
jjjjj
and if they're 'stupid' and 'selfish' for wanting to feel loved and accepted by their family...
Then fuck everyone else
Quote from: RED on October 16, 2015, 05:09:48 AM
Just when I was beginning to warm up to you
lies you tell. dddd
Quote from: RED on October 16, 2015, 05:13:28 AM
Quote from: .CodyJade. on October 16, 2015, 05:11:09 AM
Quote from: RED on October 16, 2015, 05:09:48 AM
Just when I was beginning to warm up to you
You remind me why I don't like you
Just closed minded, ignorant and unaware :dead:
Not everyone has a accepting and understanding family but to label someone stupid and selfish because they want to share their sexuality with their family is just damn ignorant.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wasn't Malc on the dl for years? :overit:
like.....the last person who should be telling anyone how to handle anything.
!!! :uhh:
One would think it's more selfish of the family to want to to keep your sexuality hidden just for their comfort ideology
'Eat ass! Ew!! No! Can't fathom!'
I hope his brother clocks his Grindr account and outs him to his family and and gets sent back to Nigeria
:plzstop:
and I like Malc' it's just that I can't believe some of the stuff he types sometimes :plzstop: it's mind blowing.
Yh I was lying
Can't stand your faggoty stupid ass
It is stupid because you know the reaction, and it is selfish because you want your parents to deal with something, you needed years to deal with yourself. I am not saying this jugdementally or in a combative fashion, moreso as advice. It breaks my heart to hear about a grown man being victim of scrutiny within their family. Why give them that leverage, why make it dependent on their reaction whether you are ok with your sexual preference. Unless you marry I really do not think there is a need to announce you like to suck penis, especially if you can't pay your own rent. The same with girls wanting to bring guys over or talk dating drama, sis if you got your own house you can also have man problems.
God bless
Lemme get back to this Nollywood movie
Quote from: Miranda on October 16, 2015, 05:18:25 AM
It is stupid because you know the reaction, and it is selfish because you want your parents to deal with something, you needed years to deal with yourself.
But you're assuming that all parents would have a problem with it. That's not the case. And 9 times out of 10, they already KNOW anyways :plzstop: it's not some big reveal! surprise! i'm a fag!
:cheerup:
But yea, like Jayden said I'm out.
Let me go finish this book
:overit: