I start tomorrow and I'm kinda second guessing myself
I would. I've actually been thinking of going myself.
You're doing the right thing, Scottland.
Love you.
And yes, I would.
n
But yeah. If I was in dire need.
Quote from: herbie on March 17, 2018, 12:43:57 AM
Of course.
We grow up in the Black church being told to pray about any and everything for a fix, waiting on hold for jesus to pick up the mainline etc.
Get what you need. Sometimes nothing but a listening ear can make people feel better. Especially when its a very neutral party.
It?s the emotional aspect that has me nervous about it. I?m the one who suggested it because l know i have anger/temper problem. I?ve calmed down a lot over the years but it?s still there. I hold a lot of things in, so when I?m angry l explode.
Quote from: StarKitty on March 17, 2018, 12:38:49 AM
I would. I've actually been thinking of going myself.
I know l need to do it to be a better person and to learn to handle things better
Quote from: ???? on March 17, 2018, 12:39:42 AM
You're doing the right thing, Scottland.
Love you.
And yes, I would.
I hope. I?m nervous AF
Yes
Nothing wrong with speaking to someone who has an unbiased opinion on things
This is healthy
This will def provide the healing u need as well
Proud of u
Quote from: M'Baku on March 17, 2018, 12:57:14 AM
Yes
Nothing wrong with speaking to someone who has an unbiased opinion on things
This is healthy
This will def provide the healing u need as well
Im sure this is something else that will be used against me here but it?s cool.
I need it. I have many triggers and i know i need to get it under control
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 12:59:16 AM
Quote from: M'Baku on March 17, 2018, 12:57:14 AM
Yes
Nothing wrong with speaking to someone who has an unbiased opinion on things
This is healthy
This will def provide the healing u need as well
Im sure this is something else that will be used against me here but it?s cool.
I need it. I have many triggers and i know i need to get it under control
honestly a lot of people here and in the world need therapy
I don?t see a kii
Going to a mentor/pastor or confidant is no different
Do the right thing for u Scott
Fuck these girls
Quote from: herbie on March 17, 2018, 12:58:14 AM
You have nothing to lose. Ultimately this is your decision to make. I think that the therapy could be able to provide you with tools that will help you to to stop holding in so much - and teach you how to do it in a way that's tactful enough not to cause conflict but effective and straightforward enough for you not to be left with more baggage to carry around.
Yeah i hate emotions. I hate tapping into them but I know it?s something that should be done. When I?m angry, that?s IT. That?s the only time you see emotion from me is when I?m angry
Quote from: M'Baku on March 17, 2018, 01:01:18 AM
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 12:59:16 AM
Quote from: M'Baku on March 17, 2018, 12:57:14 AM
Yes
Nothing wrong with speaking to someone who has an unbiased opinion on things
This is healthy
This will def provide the healing u need as well
Im sure this is something else that will be used against me here but it?s cool.
I need it. I have many triggers and i know i need to get it under control
honestly a lot of people here and in the world need therapy
I don?t see a kii
Going to a mentor/pastor or confidant is no different
Do the right thing for u Scott
Fuck these girls
Love you
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 12:29:06 AM
I start tomorrow and I'm kinda second guessing myself
Yes! Go, it will be one of the best investments you ever made for yourself, within yourself. I did it because my burdens felt so heavy always angry and mad and by talking about it with some in confident, and them having a different perspective and helping me pull everything that I was bottling up and bring it to the surface so I can release it! One of the best things I could've ever did, I move through life with so much freedom, and as light as possible; I love it. Of course I'm not perfect, but where I use to be I have came along way to go. Therapy helped a lot with that.
I have and it was honestly great and I'm happy I did it.
It's really just talking to someone who knows how to handle these situations about your feelings. It gets a bad rap because people think of mental institutions and holding you down to force medication down your throat, but it's not.
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 01:03:25 AM
Quote from: M'Baku on March 17, 2018, 01:01:18 AM
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 12:59:16 AM
Quote from: M'Baku on March 17, 2018, 12:57:14 AM
Yes
Nothing wrong with speaking to someone who has an unbiased opinion on things
This is healthy
This will def provide the healing u need as well
Im sure this is something else that will be used against me here but it?s cool.
I need it. I have many triggers and i know i need to get it under control
honestly a lot of people here and in the world need therapy
I don?t see a kii
Going to a mentor/pastor or confidant is no different
Do the right thing for u Scott
Fuck these girls
Love you
love u too
Quote from: Tonkaman on March 17, 2018, 01:05:57 AM
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 12:29:06 AM
I start tomorrow and I'm kinda second guessing myself
Yes! Go, it will be one of the best investments you ever made for yourself, within yourself. I did it because my burdens felt so heavy always angry and mad and by talking about with some in confident and them having a different perspective and helping me pull everything tthat I was bottling up and bring to the surface so I can release it! And one of the best things I could've ever did, I love through life so much freedom, and light as possible and I love it. Of course I'm not perfect, but where I use to be I have came along way to go. Therapy helped a lot with that.
this is dope real talk
Society has done a number on blacks
So it?s great to see ppl do the right thing rather than allowing the weight of the world to beat them down
Quote from: herbie on March 17, 2018, 01:06:48 AM
Quote from: Shangela on March 17, 2018, 01:06:09 AM
. It gets a bad rap because people think of mental institutions and holding you down to force medication down your throat, but it's not.
pk[oj9hpi8g'u
r u t..
skndkjnddddddd
Wow this is sexual harassment.
I'm calling CNN, MTV, BET, CSpin, ABC, Spiketv, and the CW network to report you. I'll see you on the View and The Real. You won't get away with this.
Quote from: Tonkaman on March 17, 2018, 01:05:57 AM
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 12:29:06 AM
I start tomorrow and I'm kinda second guessing myself
Yes! Go, it will be one of the best investments you ever made for yourself, within yourself. I did it because my burdens felt so heavy always angry and mad and by talking about it with some in confident, and them having a different perspective and helping me pull everything that I was bottling up and bring it to the surface so I can release it! One of the best things I could've ever did, I move through life with so much freedom, and as light as possible; I love it. Of course I'm not perfect, but where I use to be I have came along way to go. Therapy helped a lot with that.
When I first made the decision to go, I was really ready to unleash this load off of me. But now it's the night before and I'm CRINGING. :dead:
I'm so detached, that it's crazy.
Quote from: Shangela on March 17, 2018, 01:06:09 AM
I have and it was honestly great and I'm happy I did it.
It's really just talking to someone who knows how to handle these situations about your feelings. It gets a bad rap because people think of mental institutions and holding you down to force medication down your throat, but it's not.
Yeah.
If you say you're in therapy, you're "crazy".
Quote from: M'Baku on March 17, 2018, 01:09:01 AM
Quote from: Tonkaman on March 17, 2018, 01:05:57 AM
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 12:29:06 AM
I start tomorrow and I'm kinda second guessing myself
Yes! Go, it will be one of the best investments you ever made for yourself, within yourself. I did it because my burdens felt so heavy always angry and mad and by talking about with some in confident and them having a different perspective and helping me pull everything tthat I was bottling up and bring to the surface so I can release it! And one of the best things I could've ever did, I love through life so much freedom, and light as possible and I love it. Of course I'm not perfect, but where I use to be I have came along way to go. Therapy helped a lot with that.
this is dope real talk
Society has done a number on blacks
So it?s great to see ppl do the right thing rather than allowing the weight of the world to beat them down
Yeah, I've really really realized that now. Some stuff I used to think was normal, I don't anymore. Like the way Black parents try to beat their children into submission for having personality.
I realized this when I read some comments about Blue Ivy and saw so many damn people basically begging for the chance to beat her because she was smiling and bouncing and talking to Bey. :uhh: :uhh: :uhh:
Quote from: M'Baku on March 17, 2018, 12:57:14 AM
Yes
Nothing wrong with speaking to someone who has an unbiased opinion on things
This is healthy
This will def provide the healing u need as well
I agree.
:hmph:
Quote from: Shangela on March 17, 2018, 01:14:17 AM
Quote from: M'Baku on March 17, 2018, 01:09:01 AM
Quote from: Tonkaman on March 17, 2018, 01:05:57 AM
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 12:29:06 AM
I start tomorrow and I'm kinda second guessing myself
Yes! Go, it will be one of the best investments you ever made for yourself, within yourself. I did it because my burdens felt so heavy always angry and mad and by talking about with some in confident and them having a different perspective and helping me pull everything tthat I was bottling up and bring to the surface so I can release it! And one of the best things I could've ever did, I love through life so much freedom, and light as possible and I love it. Of course I'm not perfect, but where I use to be I have came along way to go. Therapy helped a lot with that.
this is dope real talk
Society has done a number on blacks
So it?s great to see ppl do the right thing rather than allowing the weight of the world to beat them down
Yeah, I've really really realized that now. Some stuff I used to think was normal, I don't anymore. Like the way Black parents try to beat their children into submission for having personality.
I realized this when I read some comments about Blue Ivy and saw so many damn people basically begging for the chance to beat her because she was smiling and bouncing and talking to Bey. :uhh: :uhh: :uhh:
It's really ridiculous
Quote from: herbie on March 17, 2018, 01:12:38 AM
Quote from: Shangela on March 17, 2018, 01:09:42 AM
Quote from: herbie on March 17, 2018, 01:06:48 AM
Quote from: Shangela on March 17, 2018, 01:06:09 AM
. It gets a bad rap because people think of mental institutions and holding you down to force medication down your throat, but it's not.
pk[oj9hpi8g'u
r u t..
skndkjnddddddd
Wow this is sexual harassment.
I'm calling CNN, MTV, BET, CSpin, ABC, Spiketv, and the CW network to report you. I'll see you on the View and The Real. You won't get away with this.
;,lm'l
u forgot TVOne.
so report me and ill say ur racist! :cheerup:
(https://i.imgur.com/JwgLSrP.gif)
KMdklmfkf
TVwho?
:diddraispoot:
Quote from: Shangela on March 17, 2018, 01:14:17 AM
Quote from: M'Baku on March 17, 2018, 01:09:01 AM
Quote from: Tonkaman on March 17, 2018, 01:05:57 AM
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 12:29:06 AM
I start tomorrow and I'm kinda second guessing myself
Yes! Go, it will be one of the best investments you ever made for yourself, within yourself. I did it because my burdens felt so heavy always angry and mad and by talking about with some in confident and them having a different perspective and helping me pull everything tthat I was bottling up and bring to the surface so I can release it! And one of the best things I could've ever did, I love through life so much freedom, and light as possible and I love it. Of course I'm not perfect, but where I use to be I have came along way to go. Therapy helped a lot with that.
this is dope real talk
Society has done a number on blacks
So it?s great to see ppl do the right thing rather than allowing the weight of the world to beat them down
Yeah, I've really really realized that now. Some stuff I used to think was normal, I don't anymore. Like the way Black parents try to beat their children into submission for having personality.
I realized this when I read some comments about Blue Ivy and saw so many damn people basically begging for the chance to beat her because she was smiling and bouncing and talking to Bey. :uhh: :uhh: :uhh:
im glad that shit is changing
Cuz my moms nem was like that with me
But that shit didn?t help
What was effective tho.. was open conversations and dialogue
Not the lashings .. I?ll admit
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 12:29:06 AM
I start tomorrow and I'm kinda second guessing myself
Don?t second guess bby
There?s strength in having the willpower to find help when it?s needed
I have had three therapist throughout my adult life.
?????
But I?m also sorta bat shit
https://instagram.com/p/BfZnfBoARJx/
This one, the comments were a mess. They wanted to lash Blue for this
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 12:29:06 AM
I start tomorrow and I'm kinda second guessing myself
go for it babe
I understand the stigma and sometimes we think we don?t necessarily need it but I?ve considered it and am still considering it.
It doesn?t mean we?re weak, broken or even necessarily mentally damaged. People seek therapy for a multitude of reasons and we have to stop judging ourselves and others for choosing to go that route.
I say that in general by the way, because
i haven?t read the thread yet to know why you?re doing second guessing yourself and the idea. I watched a vid of someone recently saying that therapy is a long commitment and almost like dating
Maybe the first therapist isn?t right for you and you have to keep trying with others, but try and go in with an open mind. You don?t have to completely open up the very first time, i don?t think. Any therapist that requires that is nuts lol
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 12:29:06 AM
I start tomorrow and I'm kinda second guessing myself
I went in 2012.
I think it?s an amazing thing and would recommend it to anyone.
Sometimes you just need a well equipped outsider to offer you a different perspective. And it?s good to get things off your chest with someone who isn?t going to throw it back in your face later. I learned so many things about myself and how I used to react to situations. My one advise is if it doesn?t click with the therapist, request a new 1 instantly.
Yes go
I think most of us need someone to talk to sometimes
We're just hesitant or afraid to go, especially as African Americans
All it is, atleast for me, was just talking to someone about stuff that stresses you out. I went because one of my college classes was stresses me tf out, but didn't want to complain about it to people.
They just listen and that's surprisingly enough. It doesn't have to be this big drawn out over emotional cry fest with balloons, tissue, and a hospital nurse on stand by waiting for the go ahead to book your room.
I definitely would.
I think I need to actually...
I actually regret not becoming one
Mind fucking people and making them think I actually care about their feelings is one of my best talents
Everyone should go actually.
We should all experience a counselling session at least once.
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 12:29:06 AM
I start tomorrow and I'm kinda second guessing myself
Yes I would go, it is always good to talk to someone and get advice. You don?t have to agree with everything they say but you might learn something. I?m trying to become more aware of my negative mind patterns and change them. I also focus more on my reactions on other people?s behavior and instead of blaming the other I try to learn why I am reacting this way. And I try to learn more about how I grew up and the people around me that also influenced me and still influence me. Sometimes it is not easy tho, recently I had to push one of my best friends away to release some of that negative thinking (his way of thinking was really contagious, I finally have more clarity)
I'm all for therapy.
Nothing to be ashamed of. I?ve been to therapy before and honestly with the way this world is going most of us are going to need help at some point.
Nothing wrong with seeking out advice from an unbiased party. It's pretty insightful and much more helpful than going to someone you already know. I've personally never gone to therapy but I'm not against it by any means.
I'm glad black people are more open to going because all that praying shit away is detrimental to out mental health.
Quote from: M'Baku on March 17, 2018, 01:09:01 AM
Quote from: Tonkaman on March 17, 2018, 01:05:57 AM
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 12:29:06 AM
I start tomorrow and I'm kinda second guessing myself
Yes! Go, it will be one of the best investments you ever made for yourself, within yourself. I did it because my burdens felt so heavy always angry and mad and by talking about with some in confident and them having a different perspective and helping me pull everything tthat I was bottling up and bring to the surface so I can release it! And one of the best things I could've ever did, I love through life so much freedom, and light as possible and I love it. Of course I'm not perfect, but where I use to be I have came along way to go. Therapy helped a lot with that.
this is dope real talk
Society has done a number on blacks
So it?s great to see ppl do the right thing rather than allowing the weight of the world to beat them down
Man I'm going to be real with you on some real honest shit, one of the worst things we've been taught is to keep secrets etc. That shit subconsciously somehow weighs on our spirit's and it manifest into the physical form and other parts of our life. We've been taught to carry struggle within, making life way more harder for us than it needs to be tbh.
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 01:10:25 AM
Quote from: Tonkaman on March 17, 2018, 01:05:57 AM
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 12:29:06 AM
I start tomorrow and I'm kinda second guessing myself
Yes! Go, it will be one of the best investments you ever made for yourself, within yourself. I did it because my burdens felt so heavy always angry and mad and by talking about it with some in confident, and them having a different perspective and helping me pull everything that I was bottling up and bring it to the surface so I can release it! One of the best things I could've ever did, I move through life with so much freedom, and as light as possible; I love it. Of course I'm not perfect, but where I use to be I have came along way to go. Therapy helped a lot with that.
When I first made the decision to go, I was really ready to unleash this load off of me. But now it's the night before and I'm CRINGING. :dead:
I'm so detached, that it's crazy.
Fight through it. Do it for yourself, just continue to tell your self you deserve better. Keep going! That shots going to be easy at all, you will probably shed a lot of tears and feel a lot of emotions, feel em. Do it, go through it, it's gonna come to the surface either way, wouldn't you rather have control of it? Instead of it coming out in a rage and you doing something you can't take back etc...
Guys. Im on the way there now with my mom and I?m nervous as hell. I?m praying in my head lol
Can't say but I wouldn't rule it out though. Good luck to you though, Scott. I hope you work through whatever issues you have with yourself and your family. You have my support.
Quote from: herbie on March 17, 2018, 11:20:08 AM
I'd say turn your phone/wifi off for a moment and just have this time completely to yourself.
!!!!
You?ll def feel a lot better coming out
If it came to that Yes... Ain't no shame in getting yourself reprogrammed.
Yeah, I've been before.
However, I didn't really like the person much, so I never went again.
I'd do it again considering I find someone I felt I could trust.
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 11:16:34 AM
Guys. Im on the way there now with my mom and I?m nervous as hell. I?m praying in my head lol
Let us know how it goes sis. Luv you
We?re done. I feel better getting some stuff on my chest.
Had my mom in tears
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 02:10:36 PM
We?re done. I feel better getting some stuff on my chest.
Had my mom in tears
having ur Mom with you is everything
You?re really blessed cuz everybody can?t say that. I also like that idea because i feel like it can bring you even closer and it can even give ur mom a new perspective on many things, likely understanding you even more than she already does. That?s dope af
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 02:10:36 PM
We?re done. I feel better getting some stuff on my chest.
Had my mom in tears
Good!!
Quote from: Annie on March 17, 2018, 06:36:59 PM
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 02:10:36 PM
We?re done. I feel better getting some stuff on my chest.
Had my mom in tears
Good!!
She brought up the bullying stuff but i revealed more about it than she knew and she was hurt because she didn?t know it was like that
Nothing wrong with seeking help. I say go and get it if it?s going to benefit you and help make you a better person. Blessings to you!
I?m seeking a therapist right now, I?ve been battling with depression ever since my parents, my best friend, and my grandmother passed away. I?m coping, but haven?t really dealt with the issue head on.
Quote from: M-Rocka on March 17, 2018, 09:12:06 PM
I?m seeking a therapist right now, I?ve been battling with depression ever since my parents, my best friend, and my grandmother passed away. I?m coping, but haven?t really dealt with the issue head on.
wow that's rough ... you never know what somebody may be dealing with
if you ever need to vent PM me
:stressed: :stressed:
Quote from: M-Rocka on March 17, 2018, 09:12:06 PM
I?m seeking a therapist right now, I?ve been battling with depression ever since my parents, my best friend, and my grandmother passed away. I?m coping, but haven?t really dealt with the issue head on.
Awww twin :'( :'(
Quote from: SAINT BENTLEY. on March 17, 2018, 09:29:23 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on March 17, 2018, 09:12:06 PM
I?m seeking a therapist right now, I?ve been battling with depression ever since my parents, my best friend, and my grandmother passed away. I?m coping, but haven?t really dealt with the issue head on.
wow that's rough ... you never know what somebody may be dealing with
if you ever need to vent PM me
:stressed: :stressed:
Aww thank you sis. I will do that. I'm actually glad this thread was made. We all throw shade at one another and kii, but like you said, you never know what anyone's going through internally.
Quote from: Scott. on March 17, 2018, 09:32:52 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on March 17, 2018, 09:12:06 PM
I?m seeking a therapist right now, I?ve been battling with depression ever since my parents, my best friend, and my grandmother passed away. I?m coping, but haven?t really dealt with the issue head on.
Awww twin :'( :'(
Yeah Friday, March 2nd 2012, my mom died of breast cancer after putting up a 15 year battle. Ironic enough, tomorrow marks the anniversary when we held her funeral. I cry around this time frame a lot. And I know I'm going to be fucked up next month. April 13 is my dad's birthday, April 14 is my best friend's birthday, and April 16th is my grandma's birthday. :-(
M-rocka we?ve followed each other on social media for a while and i would?ve never known you were going through all of this. I?m definitely another guy you can message
Not just to vent or anything like that, but to take your mind off of anything stressful as well. God bless you man, i know i could never really know what?s that?s like until it happens to me.
Quote from: 1RIG on March 18, 2018, 02:46:37 AM
M-rocka we?ve followed each other on social media for a while and i would?ve never known you were going through all of this. I?m definitely another guy you can message
Not just to vent or anything like that, but to take your mind off of anything stressful as well. God bless you man, i know i could never really know what?s that?s like until it happens to me.
Depression is nothing to play with. I was deep into depression last year. March 1 was a emotional day for me cause I could've been gone that day.
Quote from: Scott. on March 18, 2018, 03:20:38 AM
Quote from: 1RIG on March 18, 2018, 02:46:37 AM
M-rocka we?ve followed each other on social media for a while and i would?ve never known you were going through all of this. I?m definitely another guy you can message
Not just to vent or anything like that, but to take your mind off of anything stressful as well. God bless you man, i know i could never really know what?s that?s like until it happens to me.
Depression is nothing to play with. I was deep into depression last year. March 1 was a emotional day for me cause I could've been gone that day.
im so glad you?re here. It?s for a reason and more than one reason, actually
I was randomly watching an old Oprah clip last night and she said verbatim: ?You?re worthy, because you?re born and you?re here, and you are alive. Your being here, makes worthiness your
birthright. you alone, are enough.?
I really believe that. About you, and about everyone. It?s never too late for change, growth, understanding and mending any kind of brokenness. We?ll be just fine but we gotta take it day by day as cliche as it sounds
I really love this thread, thanks for sharing Scott. Proud of you!
!!!!!
this definitely gets the most fearless thread award
with all the shit that goes down on here, a good reminder that there are full personalities behind a username