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Title: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: FlowerBomb on June 19, 2018, 01:23:15 PM
Watch This


I started my new job recently....still working in depressing ass Sexual Health, but now specializing in vulnerable adults and children, and they played this at the induction

:gorlonfire:

So informative


It's basically talking about how childhood neglect, abuse whether sexual, emotional or physical during childhood, can actually change the brain during development, not just mentally but also bring on other diseases.
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: Heated🔥 on June 19, 2018, 01:23:58 PM
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Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: FlowerBomb on June 19, 2018, 01:24:25 PM
It's a little above your taste hun'
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: HUGO on June 19, 2018, 01:28:10 PM
Quote from: Guilty on June 19, 2018, 01:24:25 PM
It's a little above your taste hun'

:plzstop:
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: HUGO on June 19, 2018, 01:28:37 PM
I?ll check it out later sis and we can discuss

:justabit:
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: Kurama on June 19, 2018, 01:31:55 PM
Ugh, u are just everything. Lets become a power couple in our field

:gorlonfire:
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: FlowerBomb on June 19, 2018, 01:37:09 PM
Quote from: Kurama on June 19, 2018, 01:31:55 PM
Ugh, u are just everything. Lets become a power couple in our field

:gorlonfire:
:gorlonfire: :gorlonfire: :gorlonfire: :gorlonfire:
It was so eye opening
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: Kaeli. on June 19, 2018, 01:44:33 PM
Quote from: Guilty on June 19, 2018, 01:24:25 PM
It's a little above your taste hun'
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Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: LOONA. on June 19, 2018, 01:54:03 PM
Quote from: Guilty on June 19, 2018, 01:24:25 PM
It's a little above your taste hun'

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Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: Kalifornia. on June 19, 2018, 01:57:08 PM
I watched this a few months ago. She really hit the nail on the head.

A lot of people need to hear this, especially Black folks.
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: FlowerBomb on June 19, 2018, 01:57:53 PM
Quote from: StarKitty on June 19, 2018, 01:57:08 PM
I watched this a few months ago. She really hit the nail on the head.

A lot of people need to hear this, especially Black folks.
!!!!
I feel like a lot of big health people know this but stay silent
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: Kalifornia. on June 19, 2018, 02:40:03 PM
Quote from: Guilty on June 19, 2018, 01:57:53 PM
Quote from: StarKitty on June 19, 2018, 01:57:08 PM
I watched this a few months ago. She really hit the nail on the head.

A lot of people need to hear this, especially Black folks.
!!!!
I feel like a lot of big health people know this but stay silent

I recently started therapy and he touched on a lot of this.

People are always so quick to say, "Stop dwelling on the past. Let it go", but our past is what shapes us as adults.

I firmly believe that you cannot be a whole adult until you're able to deal with and make peace with childhood trauma,
but unfortunately for us Black folks most times that just means sweeping it under the rug or praying about it.
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: Annie on June 19, 2018, 03:06:20 PM
Thanks for posting!
I think there was an episode of Dr Drew about this and he tried to convince DMX to not beat his children. Not sure if he convinced him tho
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: FlowerBomb on June 19, 2018, 03:07:18 PM
Quote from: Annie on June 19, 2018, 03:06:20 PM
Thanks for posting!
I think there was an episode of Dr Drew about this and he tried to convince DMX to not beat his children. Not sure if he convinced him tho
it's a damn cycle and it's sad when you think about it
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: BAPHOMET. on June 19, 2018, 03:07:42 PM
Wtf
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: Annie on June 19, 2018, 03:21:09 PM
https://youtube.com/watch?v=jqiusfrKWZc
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: FlowerBomb on June 19, 2018, 03:21:30 PM
The comments below



QuoteWhat I spend 90% of my work with clients exploring.  Childhood trauma is the cause of most of the ills of the world.  All the cuts in child welfare programs, the difficulty finding child care for children under 5 or 6, our attitudes towards single mothers, and our punishment of their children, all contribute to the ills of our society, and are VERY expensive later in life (prison, cancer treatment, etc.).

After decades of work in Offender Rehabilitation, I KNOW this is true.


This is a white man btw

Quote+Edward Garren Thanks for weighing in, Mr. Garren. As someone working on the front lines, you are in a clear position to know. I can only imagine the suffering that you have witnessed. Thank you for doing the work that is so necessary because our power structures will not do the right thing.



Quote+Edward Garren Edward, it got me thinking, do you then think, this ACE study explains why those blacks who came from generations of slaves explain they have been stuck in this cycle, not to mention the already still existing prejudice they suffer from that employers hesitate to hire them??



Quote+blognewb Yes, Yes and Yes.  One of my clients is reading "Post Traumatic Slavery Syndrome."  I don't know the book, but having come from a family of "Bastards" and Orphans, who lived in desperate poverty and lack of a larger family infrastructure, I know this is true.  Family therapy looks at three generations of a family's emotional infrastructure.  I often remind clients that Black people in this country didn't even have access to decent housing until 40 years ago.  The ghosts of our grandparents lives inside of us.  And, the United States is a nation of genocide survivors (in the "old" countries our ancestors came from).  We brought all that pain with us, along with the fears, which is why so many of us are so fearful.  What was going on in Europe for the 300 years that North America "infilled" was things like the inquisition, class genocide, torture, and enslavement of anyone who didn't own land, which was most of the populace then and there.  So the dark side of that history lives in us.  Donald Trump being the "poster boy" for a lot of it.  Barbara Boxer said it best, "The Republican Party is the politics of fear."?

Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: Annie on June 19, 2018, 03:29:28 PM
I do believe some of this fear/trauma can still be in DNA, it is so sad.

I do see little things in our family from the second world war (don?t speak about feelings, don?t cry or complain), I am glad my parents did try to change that and are more open about what they are feeling.
But my grandparents at least had their own identity, (some) freedom and pride, slavery really takes everything away from you

Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: Annie on June 19, 2018, 03:32:21 PM
Quote from: Guilty on June 19, 2018, 03:21:30 PM


Quote+blognewb Yes, Yes and Yes.  One of my clients is reading "Post Traumatic Slavery Syndrome."  I don't know the book, but having come from a family of "Bastards" and Orphans, who lived in desperate poverty and lack of a larger family infrastructure, I know this is true.  Family therapy looks at three generations of a family's emotional infrastructure.  I often remind clients that Black people in this country didn't even have access to decent housing until 40 years ago.  The ghosts of our grandparents lives inside of us.  And, the United States is a nation of genocide survivors (in the "old" countries our ancestors came from).  We brought all that pain with us, along with the fears, which is why so many of us are so fearful.  What was going on in Europe for the 300 years that North America "infilled" was things like the inquisition, class genocide, torture, and enslavement of anyone who didn't own land, which was most of the populace then and there.  So the dark side of that history lives in us.  Donald Trump being the "poster boy" for a lot of it.  Barbara Boxer said it best, "The Republican Party is the politics of fear."?


Wow i don?t even know what to say
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: FlowerBomb on June 19, 2018, 03:38:06 PM
Quote from: Annie on June 19, 2018, 03:29:28 PM
I do believe some of this fear/trauma can still be in DNA, it is so sad.

I do see little things in our family from the second world war (don?t speak about feelings, don?t cry or complain), I am glad my parents did try to change that and are more open about what they are feeling.
But my grandparents at least had their own identity, (some) freedom and pride, slavery really takes everything away from you
Isn't it called Survivors Syndrome?
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: FlowerBomb on June 19, 2018, 03:39:24 PM
Correction it's called Epigenetics, they touched on it a little on Dear White People
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: b7 on June 19, 2018, 03:50:42 PM
Quote from: Legacy on June 19, 2018, 03:06:51 PM
Quote from: Annie on June 19, 2018, 03:06:20 PM
Thanks for posting!
I think there was an episode of Dr Drew about this and he tried to convince DMX to not beat his children. Not sure if he convinced him tho
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u know wh
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: FlowerBomb on June 19, 2018, 05:26:28 PM
Quote from: 1RIG on June 19, 2018, 03:50:42 PM
Quote from: Legacy on June 19, 2018, 03:06:51 PM
Quote from: Annie on June 19, 2018, 03:06:20 PM
Thanks for posting!
I think there was an episode of Dr Drew about this and he tried to convince DMX to not beat his children. Not sure if he convinced him tho
,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
u know wh
:damselindistress:
Title: Re: Guys when you have the time!
Post by: FlowerBomb on June 19, 2018, 07:56:04 PM
Bump