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Title: Update: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:26:13 PM
If you met someone and you guys hit it off...vibed really well....Chemistry was there....figured out you guys had a lot in common...was looking forward to getting to know each other a little more...then find out they?re the ex of someone you used to mess with...what would you do?

:-/
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:26:54 PM
God and the universe really be playing with me...like wtf

:stressed:
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: BAPHOMET. on January 20, 2019, 09:27:55 PM
I don't think that matters. As long as they're not a previous prostitute or Aided/diseased up. Ion care.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on January 20, 2019, 09:28:58 PM
u continue and see where it leads

energetically

they probably intended to come in your circle anyway but got sidetracked by someone else on the way to you

dont bring that baggage in to your union
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: GLOCK on January 20, 2019, 09:29:52 PM
After all that time and bonding..
I?d not give af

The gay world is small.

U didn?t pursue them because of it so they shouldn?t matter
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: FRANCE on January 20, 2019, 09:30:07 PM
Depends on how close that ex was with me, how long ago we broke it off and they broke it off and why. Spill the deets...
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:32:44 PM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on January 20, 2019, 09:28:58 PM
u continue and see where it leads

energetically

they probably intended to come in your circle anyway but got sidetracked by someone else on the way to you

dont bring that baggage in to your union

I honestly started to put peices of the puzzle together and was hoping for a different outcome. But we just had a 2 hour conversation and I find out they dated for 4 years  :'(
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:34:01 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:29:52 PM
After all that time and bonding..
I?d not give af

The gay world is small.

U didn?t pursue them because of it so they shouldn?t matter

It?s so fucking weird how it happened. What are the fucking odds out of al ppl this dude would be the ex of someone I was dealing with.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: GLOCK on January 20, 2019, 09:35:43 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:34:01 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:29:52 PM
After all that time and bonding..
I?d not give af

The gay world is small.

U didn?t pursue them because of it so they shouldn?t matter

It?s so fucking weird how it happened. What are the fucking odds out of al ppl this dude would be the ex of someone I was dealing with.
eek.
Ultimately it doesn?t matter
Y?all found each other
Keep building
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:36:09 PM
Quote from: SPARK on January 20, 2019, 09:30:07 PM
Depends on how close that ex was with me, how long ago we broke it off and they broke it off and why. Spill the deets...

So I was messing with his ex on and off for about a year or so. The last time they actually messed was in 2017 but they weren?t together at the time. Once he told me his nationality and that he went to school in Pittsburg I pretty much put 2 and 2 together based on what his ex told me about his last relationship.  I?m so conflicted. Cuz I really like this guy.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on January 20, 2019, 09:37:50 PM
Hugo gonna be givin
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7J2MA0Og_Kk
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: MelMel on January 20, 2019, 09:38:29 PM
hoe, they are always going to be an ex of somebody. Keep it going and try to keep a man for once
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:38:54 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:35:43 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:34:01 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:29:52 PM
After all that time and bonding..
I?d not give af

The gay world is small.

U didn?t pursue them because of it so they shouldn?t matter

It?s so fucking weird how it happened. What are the fucking odds out of al ppl this dude would be the ex of someone I was dealing with.
eek.
Ultimately it doesn?t matter
Y?all found each other
Keep building
So yesterday we were just chillin and I was telling him about my past and told him about dude. I asked him straight up like  ?do you know so so and so because you guys went to school in the same area? He told me no because he says he likes me and really wanted to get to know me. So today during our phone conversation he broke everything down to me. Now he feels like he?s conflicted as well because he doesn?t want the ex thinking he?s doing this to get back at him.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:39:56 PM
Quote from: MelMel on January 20, 2019, 09:38:29 PM
hoe, they are always going to be an ex of somebody. Keep it going and try to keep a man for once

Bitch cut the shit. I?m in my feelings.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: GLOCK on January 20, 2019, 09:41:29 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:38:54 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:35:43 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:34:01 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:29:52 PM
After all that time and bonding..
I?d not give af

The gay world is small.

U didn?t pursue them because of it so they shouldn?t matter

It?s so fucking weird how it happened. What are the fucking odds out of al ppl this dude would be the ex of someone I was dealing with.
eek.
Ultimately it doesn?t matter
Y?all found each other
Keep building
So yesterday we were just chillin and I was telling him about my past and told him about dude. I asked him straight up like  ?do you know so so and so because you guys went to school in the same area? He told me no because he says he likes me and really wanted to get to know me. So today during our phone conversation he broke everything down to me. Now he feels like he?s conflicted as well because he doesn?t want the ex thinking he?s doing this to get back at him.
if he cares that much about what the ex thinks then meh

but if it kills u both.. how about yall reach out to him and let him know yall are getting to know each other and didnt know they knew each other

it's hard to find ppl u can really vibe with .. so i dont think this is some deal breaker

fuck that othr nigga
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: MelMel on January 20, 2019, 09:42:01 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:39:56 PM
Quote from: MelMel on January 20, 2019, 09:38:29 PM
hoe, they are always going to be an ex of somebody. Keep it going and try to keep a man for once

Bitch cut the shit. I?m in my feelings.
I was being supportive! what the hell man  :omgwatshappening:
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on January 20, 2019, 09:43:43 PM
Hugo whats the problem with them hooking up with an ex of yours? lets discuss
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:44:04 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:41:29 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:38:54 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:35:43 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:34:01 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:29:52 PM
After all that time and bonding..
I?d not give af

The gay world is small.

U didn?t pursue them because of it so they shouldn?t matter

It?s so fucking weird how it happened. What are the fucking odds out of al ppl this dude would be the ex of someone I was dealing with.
eek.
Ultimately it doesn?t matter
Y?all found each other
Keep building
So yesterday we were just chillin and I was telling him about my past and told him about dude. I asked him straight up like  ?do you know so so and so because you guys went to school in the same area? He told me no because he says he likes me and really wanted to get to know me. So today during our phone conversation he broke everything down to me. Now he feels like he?s conflicted as well because he doesn?t want the ex thinking he?s doing this to get back at him.
if he cares that much about what the ex thinks then meh

but if it kills u both.. how about yall reach out to him and let him know yall are getting to know each other and didnt know they knew each other

it's hard to find ppl u can really vibe with .. so i dont think this is some deal breaker

fuck that othr nigga

Well idk if he ?cares? it?s just that this isn?t the first time he?s met a guy who also dealt with his ex. According to him, he helped him move last year, they got into an argument and he basically changed his number so he has no communication with him. I don?t even feel like reaching out to the ex and letting him know cuz we not even on good terms from my perspective.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:44:36 PM
I just don?t like when the room is this small for me. I like to keep pretty lowkey. I really don?t want any drama.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:45:31 PM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on January 20, 2019, 09:43:43 PM
Hugo whats the problem with them hooking up with an ex of yours? lets discuss

Idc about my ex like that. Go for it
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: GLOCK on January 20, 2019, 09:46:11 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:44:04 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:41:29 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:38:54 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:35:43 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:34:01 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:29:52 PM
After all that time and bonding..
I?d not give af

The gay world is small.

U didn?t pursue them because of it so they shouldn?t matter

It?s so fucking weird how it happened. What are the fucking odds out of al ppl this dude would be the ex of someone I was dealing with.
eek.
Ultimately it doesn?t matter
Y?all found each other
Keep building
So yesterday we were just chillin and I was telling him about my past and told him about dude. I asked him straight up like  ?do you know so so and so because you guys went to school in the same area? He told me no because he says he likes me and really wanted to get to know me. So today during our phone conversation he broke everything down to me. Now he feels like he?s conflicted as well because he doesn?t want the ex thinking he?s doing this to get back at him.
if he cares that much about what the ex thinks then meh

but if it kills u both.. how about yall reach out to him and let him know yall are getting to know each other and didnt know they knew each other

it's hard to find ppl u can really vibe with .. so i dont think this is some deal breaker

fuck that othr nigga

Well idk if he ?cares? it?s just that this isn?t the first time he?s met a guy who also dealt with his ex. According to him, he helped him move last year, they got into an argument and he basically changed his number so he has no communication with him. I don?t even feel like reaching out to the ex and letting him know cuz we not even on good terms from my perspective.
ijbn;

well his ex is a HOE.
theres that..
:cheerup:
dont mess up what yall been building because his ex is so accessible ..

u dont owe that ex anything so dont.
i was just saying if it would make u feel better about it..

u need to make it official with this guy tbh
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:47:18 PM
It?s so fucking weird hearing 2 different sides of the story. According to the ex, his ex (the one I?m interested in) was a crazy African. According to him, his ex was a sneaky cheater. But 4 years is a long time. That?s a lot of fucking history together.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on January 20, 2019, 09:47:33 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:45:31 PM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on January 20, 2019, 09:43:43 PM
Hugo whats the problem with them hooking up with an ex of yours? lets discuss

Idc about my ex like that. Go for it

The fact that hes your ex means you learned and moved on
Your new guy seems to have done the same

I think its perfect tbh

cut owt the middle man
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:50:18 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:46:11 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:44:04 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:41:29 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:38:54 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:35:43 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:34:01 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:29:52 PM
After all that time and bonding..
I?d not give af

The gay world is small.

U didn?t pursue them because of it so they shouldn?t matter

It?s so fucking weird how it happened. What are the fucking odds out of al ppl this dude would be the ex of someone I was dealing with.
eek.
Ultimately it doesn?t matter
Y?all found each other
Keep building
So yesterday we were just chillin and I was telling him about my past and told him about dude. I asked him straight up like  ?do you know so so and so because you guys went to school in the same area? He told me no because he says he likes me and really wanted to get to know me. So today during our phone conversation he broke everything down to me. Now he feels like he?s conflicted as well because he doesn?t want the ex thinking he?s doing this to get back at him.
if he cares that much about what the ex thinks then meh

but if it kills u both.. how about yall reach out to him and let him know yall are getting to know each other and didnt know they knew each other

it's hard to find ppl u can really vibe with .. so i dont think this is some deal breaker

fuck that othr nigga

Well idk if he ?cares? it?s just that this isn?t the first time he?s met a guy who also dealt with his ex. According to him, he helped him move last year, they got into an argument and he basically changed his number so he has no communication with him. I don?t even feel like reaching out to the ex and letting him know cuz we not even on good terms from my perspective.
ijbn;

well his ex is a HOE.
theres that..
:cheerup:
dont mess up what yall been building because his ex is so accessible ..

u dont owe that ex anything so dont.
i was just saying if it would make u feel better about it..

u need to make it official with this guy tbh
Sjsjsjsj

And this nigga swear he?s so ?exclusive? out here in NYC. Like nigga the whole philly and DC seem to be real familiar with you. He told me in Mexico he rather ppl to fantasize about being with him rather than actually being with him sexually so he tried to keep himself exclusive.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: Navyman on January 20, 2019, 09:51:04 PM
Honestly based off of my ex's, It would depend entirely on who that ex is. I have one ex where I want nothing to do or be associated with in any shape or form.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: GLOCK on January 20, 2019, 09:51:17 PM
fghvjbknlm;

the ex said that?
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: b7 on January 20, 2019, 09:51:22 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:26:13 PM
If you met someone and you guys hit it off...vibed really well....Chemistry was there....figured out you guys had a lot in common...was looking forward to getting to know each other a little more...then find out they?re the ex of someone you used to mess with...what would you do?

:-/
i wouldn?t care

used to mess with?  :dead:  what does that even mean. I don?t owe that nigga a damn thing
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:52:33 PM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on January 20, 2019, 09:47:33 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:45:31 PM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on January 20, 2019, 09:43:43 PM
Hugo whats the problem with them hooking up with an ex of yours? lets discuss

Idc about my ex like that. Go for it

The fact that hes your ex means you learned and moved on
Your new guy seems to have done the same

I think its perfect tbh

cut owt the middle man

I think that?s why when I asked him if he knew dude he pretty much denied it. And then today he?s like ?oh if I did would it be a deal breaker for you? then he just told me their entire history and kept reassuring me it was so long ago.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: FRANCE on January 20, 2019, 09:52:40 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:47:18 PM
It?s so fucking weird hearing 2 different sides of the story. According to the ex, his ex (the one I?m interested in) was a crazy African. According to him, his ex was a sneaky cheater. But 4 years is a long time. That?s a lot of fucking history together.
Don't do it. Scrap it. There's other guys. 4 years with him and 1 year with you. That's some Kylie, Blacc Chyna, Tyga, Rob K mess. Just with niggas who cant have kids.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:53:24 PM
Quote from: Glock on January 20, 2019, 09:51:17 PM
fghvjbknlm;

the ex said that?

Yes!!!
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: FRANCE on January 20, 2019, 09:54:57 PM
Quote from: Tonkaman on January 20, 2019, 09:51:04 PM
Honestly based off of my ex's, It would depend entirely on who that ex is. I have one ex where I want nothing to do or be associated with in any shape or form.

Yeah, it really just all depends. It's not so black and white for me.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:55:51 PM
Why do they have to fucking know each other? My heart literally sank Once I seen dude on his fucking linkedin...it pretty much confirmed it for me but I was hopping for the better. Ugh

:'(
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:56:58 PM
I told him it was a lot for me to take in.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: Scott. on January 20, 2019, 09:57:15 PM
Who cares?

Long as it's not an ex of a friend or family member.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: Navyman on January 20, 2019, 09:57:46 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:44:36 PM
I just don?t like when the room is this small for me. I like to keep pretty lowkey. I really don?t want any drama.
!!!!
Based off what you were saying just be sure they aren't still contacting. Idk that's just too messy and close to me.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: Navyman on January 20, 2019, 09:59:54 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 09:55:51 PM
Why do they have to fucking know each other? My heart literally sank Once I seen dude on his fucking linkedin...it pretty much confirmed it for me but I was hopping for the better. Ugh

:'(
And honestly you know what's best for you and your well being. There's a reason this was revealed to you and their is a reason as to why your questioning it. Listen to yourself. You will never go wrong.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 10:02:48 PM
I actually believe this guys story more as to what happened in their relationship. The other guy was just way to ssecretive and his story always seemed choppy.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: Navyman on January 20, 2019, 10:35:41 PM
Quote from: HUGO on January 20, 2019, 10:02:48 PM
I actually believe this guys story more as to what happened in their relationship. The other guy was just way to ssecretive and his story always seemed choppy.
Of course. I'm skeptical of guys who say their ex's were crazy. The first thing that goes through my mind is what did you do to make them "crazy" because usually their responses are normal to some fucked up shit you did to them.
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: FlowerBomb on January 21, 2019, 04:41:18 AM

You need a slap
Stop being so extra and make it official
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: FlowerBomb on January 21, 2019, 04:53:14 AM
Vgcuvuvuuvuvvuvg
Mine too, but we, like everyone else hates that piece of SHIT and he literally looks like he's about to die whenever he sees us together
Whew I hope we stay together just so he keeps bothered
Title: Re: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on January 21, 2019, 06:56:06 AM
Quote from: Hey, I'm Slick Woods on January 21, 2019, 04:41:18 AM

You need a slap
Stop being so extra and make it official

ffff
I just found out bitch. I actually had feelings for the ex. So a lot of shit he told me I?m finding out ain?t even true.
Title: Update: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on February 03, 2019, 12:56:23 PM
So dude finally told me he was talking to someone for 2 months before we met. I?m like cool... let me take myself out of the situation because I don?t want any mess. He insisted there was no need for me to do that because they were ?just getting to know? each other and he likes me and wants to get to know me as well. Fast forward to last night...I had a date last night and he hit me up. I told him I was out. He tells me today he thinks we should ?just be friends? after asking me hella questions as far as who I was with, if I did anything with them... :uhh:

Title: Re: Update: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on February 03, 2019, 12:58:11 PM
Like is this not some double standard mess?

African Men I swear

:hmph:
Title: Re: Update: Serious Question
Post by: 🦚 on February 03, 2019, 01:05:34 PM
Why y?all following niggas y?all fuck on LinkedIn  :plzstop:

Or are y?all in the business of selling buss? ?
Title: Re: Update: Serious Question
Post by: LOONA. on February 03, 2019, 01:18:12 PM
Quote from: HUGO on February 03, 2019, 12:56:23 PM
So dude finally told me he was talking to someone for 2 months before we met. I?m like cool... let me take myself out of the situation because I don?t want any mess. He insisted there was no need for me to do that because they were ?just getting to know? each other and he likes me and wants to get to know me as well. Fast forward to last night...I had a date last night and he hit me up. I told him I was out. He tells me today he thinks we should ?just be friends? after asking me hella questions as far as who I was with, if I did anything with them... :uhh:

If you're still going on dates with other men why do you even care? You can't be that interested in him.     

:dead:
Title: Re: Update: Serious Question
Post by: HUGO on February 03, 2019, 01:22:35 PM
Quote from: LOONA. on February 03, 2019, 01:18:12 PM
Quote from: HUGO on February 03, 2019, 12:56:23 PM
So dude finally told me he was talking to someone for 2 months before we met. I?m like cool... let me take myself out of the situation because I don?t want any mess. He insisted there was no need for me to do that because they were ?just getting to know? each other and he likes me and wants to get to know me as well. Fast forward to last night...I had a date last night and he hit me up. I told him I was out. He tells me today he thinks we should ?just be friends? after asking me hella questions as far as who I was with, if I did anything with them... :uhh:

If you're still going on dates with other men why do you even care? You can't be that interested in him.     

:dead:

He was too tho.  :uhh:
Title: Re: Update: Serious Question
Post by: LOONA. on February 03, 2019, 01:35:01 PM
So neither of y'all are really THAT interested in each other?