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Title: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: Glenda on May 11, 2019, 10:33:02 AM
Now, I'm gonna be honest with you girls. I only got this job because I needed extra money (I live alone now and pay my own rent) and also the boss is my uncles girlfriend.  :dead:

However, I still show up and do my job just fine, the issue is I dont work like the other guys. I'm the only gay gorl here (as far as I know) and I've already had issues with 2 of the guys (one white, the other latino) and they keep complaining to the boss about my work ethic. My boss says I work just fine, however they keep my name in their mouths.  :plzstop: I've done rootwork on the two guys already and it seems to be helping, but I'd like to know the gorls perspectives.

How do you deal with coworkers who irritate your wig and scalp to no end?  :ohwow:  :ATLcameo:
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: CREAM. on May 11, 2019, 10:36:26 AM
Do stronger root work 
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: 🦚 on May 11, 2019, 10:37:30 AM
I pay them dust. They dont exist to me.
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: Glenda on May 11, 2019, 10:38:47 AM
Quote from: CREAM. on May 11, 2019, 10:36:26 AM
Do stronger root work

:ohwow: :tistheseas:
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: Glenda on May 11, 2019, 10:39:22 AM
Quote from: .:::Slærya Stark:::. on May 11, 2019, 10:37:30 AM
I pay them dust. They dont exist to me.

I try to do that too. Unfortunately we work so close together.  :uhh:
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: oph. on May 11, 2019, 10:42:27 AM
i give a SUPER cordial yet DRY mess.

i'll give a really professional greeting then wont say shit to your ass for the rest of the day (unless completely necessary). then im super professional too. basically they know i don't fuck w/ them but i don't give them ANY ammunition to complain about "hostile work environment" or any other bullshit like that. love seein 'em squirm, tbh

then when they like whats wrong? u ok? nothin. lovely weather lolz

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Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: CREAM. on May 11, 2019, 10:47:51 AM
Quote from: twopiecenobiscuit imonadiet on May 11, 2019, 10:46:47 AM
Long as they're not getting in the way of my work or productivity in any way, and are not being blatantly disrespectful, I simply ignore them.
yeah. This.
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: Glenda on May 11, 2019, 10:51:04 AM
Quote from: ophelia_b on May 11, 2019, 10:42:27 AM
i give a SUPER cordial yet DRY mess.

i'll give a really professional greeting then wont say shit to your ass for the rest of the day (unless completely necessary). then im super professional too. basically they know i don't fuck w/ them but i don't give them ANY ammunition to complain about "hostile work environment" or any other bullshit like that. love seein 'em squirm, tbh

then when they like whats wrong? u ok? nothin. lovely weather lolz

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I need to take a page from your book sis

Because as soon as I walk in I give a  :fuming: tea
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: Glenda on May 11, 2019, 10:52:53 AM
Quote from: twopiecenobiscuit imonadiet on May 11, 2019, 10:46:47 AM
Long as they're not getting in the way of my work or productivity in any way, and are not being blatantly disrespectful, I simply ignore them.

That's what everyone keeps telling me tbh. Just ignore them.
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: Glenda on May 11, 2019, 10:54:12 AM
Quote from: twopiecenobiscuit imonadiet on May 11, 2019, 10:51:49 AM
Oh wait, I just read your whole story.

They're coming for your bag. sffsfsfsfsfs

Oh hell no.

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What are the complaints they have about your work ethic? It sounds as if they're accusing you of not contributing enough to team goals or not doing your share of work.

If there are two of them complaining, have you ever paused to consider that their complaints may be reasonable in any way? Have you done any self-evaluation?

That's pretty much it. They're accusing me of not pulling my weight, doing what I want, etc. Maybe SOME of it has some merit, but I think most of it is steam from them being so pressed.
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: Glenda on May 11, 2019, 11:10:43 AM
Quote from: twopiecenobiscuit imonadiet on May 11, 2019, 11:01:28 AM
Quote from: Glenda on May 11, 2019, 10:54:12 AM
Quote from: twopiecenobiscuit imonadiet on May 11, 2019, 10:51:49 AM
Oh wait, I just read your whole story.

They're coming for your bag. sffsfsfsfsfs

Oh hell no.

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What are the complaints they have about your work ethic? It sounds as if they're accusing you of not contributing enough to team goals or not doing your share of work.

If there are two of them complaining, have you ever paused to consider that their complaints may be reasonable in any way? Have you done any self-evaluation?

That's pretty much it. They're accusing me of not pulling my weight, doing what I want, etc. Maybe SOME of it has some merit, but I think most of it is steam from them being so pressed.
Now see....

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I love you boo so Imma keep it one hundred with you. If there are two people complaining then most likely there could be some truth to what they're saying. Not all the time, but usually where's there is smoke there could be fire. And I'm glad you can admit that.

What I'd in this instance do is kill them with kindness, and hard work. When I say kindness, I don't mean be their bestie. I mean approach them in a professional manner and as your team members, to ensure you guys are all on the same page when it comes to getting business done for the day.

Take down whatever wall is between yourself and these coworkers. It's gonna make your life a lot less stressful - at least while you're at work. Keep it professional. No need to be fake. You don't like them, they don't like you. This is clear. But you're all there to get your bag. Check in with them regarding any projects you all are working on as a collective.

Don't let them push you into a corner and have you uncomfortable at your job. No need to buck up and fight them or be childish with shade. Just show them what you're made of. Give them NO room to complain. Because now it seems like they have a bit.

And keep notes of check-ins that you have with them. Log every conversation related to work if you have the time. Be proactive by approaching your boss with updates and check in with him/her as well (within reason - don't "bug" your boss as I'm sure his hands are full each day).

If you know your ducks are all in a row, you're sleep a lot easier each night. Good luck boo. :sobusyjetsetter:

You're right. Tbh I dont know why I'm letting it bother me. I just hate workplace politics. I can't wait to quit.  :loose2when:
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: 🦚 on May 11, 2019, 11:15:31 AM
Quote from: Glenda on May 11, 2019, 10:39:22 AM
Quote from: .:::Slærya Stark:::. on May 11, 2019, 10:37:30 AM
I pay them dust. They dont exist to me.

I try to do that too. Unfortunately we work so close together.  :uhh:

I Had a person at the desk next to me. Never exchanged a single word with them.

N ppl know better than to fuck with me. I know all the code of conducts by heart and im bff's with HR.  :sobusyjetsetter:
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: Gilgamesh. on May 11, 2019, 11:16:26 AM
No. This is the first job in a long time where I like everyone :dead:
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: African Queen on May 11, 2019, 11:19:49 AM
These are my facial expression at work: :usuresis: :whogonbook: :fuming:


AND I don't say hi or bi.


I can't deal with humans. They all need to be exterminated.
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: CREAM. on May 11, 2019, 11:24:32 AM
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Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: African Queen on May 11, 2019, 11:44:08 AM
Quote from: twopiecenobiscuit imonadiet on May 11, 2019, 11:40:53 AM
Quote from: CREAM. on May 11, 2019, 11:24:32 AM
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Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: African Queen on May 11, 2019, 11:46:55 AM
I HATE workplace politics.

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Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: FAMÈ on May 11, 2019, 11:48:23 AM
Quote from: CREAM. on May 11, 2019, 11:24:32 AM
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Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: Glenda on May 11, 2019, 11:54:01 AM
Quote from: twopiecenobiscuit imonadiet on May 11, 2019, 11:21:14 AM
I work from home a lot now so it's so much easier to ignore annoying coworkers.

The most annoying ones to me are the ones who YEARN to be in leadership so bad that they exhibit the behavior of a leader, while possessing not one quality of a leader. fsffsf

:omf: It's kinda sad.

Like, what the hell is wrong with simply playing your position. Long as they don't bring their mess over my way, we're good.

One girl tried it and I got her ass together real quick....in a very professional manner, with nothing but the facts.
Put my pen to god damn WORK so fast it had her head spinning.

:scrumptious:

I was so close to getting ghetto on her because she really tried it.
But I took a breath, shoved the Southside Queens fag into the closet and used my brain.
Cuz only ONE of those options were gonna leave me with a job once I was done.
Trust me. :woohoo:

That's part of the issue too I think. Everyone wants to be in a leadership position and I'm just tryna play my role. Luckily this ain't my only bag and I can make money on my own. They don't need to know that tho.  :raycharles2urmess: :howfestive:
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: GLOCK on May 11, 2019, 12:12:25 PM
root work?
vhbkuilnjo;k'pl


glen ur still as edgy as i remember 
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: GLOCK on May 11, 2019, 12:13:03 PM
Quote from: CREAM. on May 11, 2019, 11:24:32 AM
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this just turned me tf on
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: Glenda on May 11, 2019, 01:17:53 PM
Quote from: GLO' UP on May 11, 2019, 12:12:25 PM
root work?
vhbkuilnjo;k'pl


glen ur still as edgy as i remember

Is this Glock?

Hey my Capricorn luv

:feelinmyself: :tistheseas:
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: GLOCK on May 11, 2019, 01:32:46 PM
Quote from: Glenda on May 11, 2019, 01:17:53 PM
Quote from: GLO' UP on May 11, 2019, 12:12:25 PM
root work?
vhbkuilnjo;k'pl


glen ur still as edgy as i remember

Is this Glock?

Hey my Capricorn luv

:feelinmyself: :tistheseas:
of course boo!

Missed u :feelinmyself:
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: Scott. on May 11, 2019, 02:12:09 PM
Quote from: .:::Slærya Stark:::. on May 11, 2019, 10:37:30 AM
I pay them dust. They dont exist to me.

!!!!

And that BOTHERS them
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: LOONA. on May 11, 2019, 02:15:33 PM
If your boss is paying it then I don't see the problem.

Unless their critics are valid I don't see why it would bother you. I don't put energy into my coworkers. If you're not supervisor or asking me job related questions then you will be paid absolute dust.  
Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: fedswatchin on May 11, 2019, 02:44:20 PM
Quote from: Glenda on May 11, 2019, 10:38:47 AM
Quote from: CREAM. on May 11, 2019, 10:36:26 AM
Do stronger root work

:ohwow: :tistheseas:
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Title: Re: Do you have coworkers you can't stand? How do you deal?
Post by: Hatsumomo on May 11, 2019, 03:54:49 PM
If it continues then you need to take action, even if that means looping in HR.  But make sure you are doing what you're supposed to be doing,  your work is flawless, and that  you are on time without attendance problems. These types of coworkers are dangerous because they coming at you unfair and sneaky. The spell work will backfire if you are comimg for,them simply because you screwed up and they caught it. Don't put anymore spells on them and keep it professional.