i know a lot of people are quick to side eye men who still live with their parents/family
but to me, if a man cannot really afford to live on his own yet
or can afford it, but prefers to stay with his family and help out
i don't see the issue. like, would it be smarter for them to go out and pay a stranger rent money every month
putting their whole paycheck towards something that they'll ultimately have to give back? sfsffsfsf
or stay and help his family who may still have a mortgage they're tryna pay off...contributing to an asset that will one day benefit them when it's passed down.
if they can afford to live alone or simply have a strong preference of more personal space, it makes sense.
but i wouldn't be quick to give a "YOUZ A BUM ASS NIGGA!" tea
unless he wasn't working and was living off of his parents.
personally, i wouldn't date a man who doesn't have his own place
but that's only because i actually love the idea of hopping back and forth between homes of urself and partner :blush: :blush:
but i won't be sitting around clowning them.
A grown RESPONSIBLE man can live on his own and still help his family. There should be no reason a grown man isn't out on his own. If he can't afford it, he just needs to work a little harder to do so. There is money to be made. If this is an issue, they are probably just not motivated in life for their own personal goals. It all comes down to taking on being responsible. Don't "pay a stranger rent" but OWN your real estate and gain equity in what you own....
I know it's possible to live on ur own and help ur family
i Have a couple of my grandmothers household bills on autopay
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but everyone's situation isn't the same .
If someone cannot afford to certain things that shouldn't be demonized
That doesn't speak to their character.
Quote from: sexy. on December 31, 2020, 08:23:15 AM
i know a lot of people are quick to side eye men who still live with their parents/family
I wish a nigga would try to talk to me and he still stay at home with his mama
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Quote from: sexy. on December 31, 2020, 08:23:15 AM
i know a lot of people are quick to side eye men who still live with their parents/family
I wish a nigga would try to talk to me and he still stay at home with his mama
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Quote from: sexy. on December 31, 2020, 08:40:12 AM
If someone cannot afford to certain things that shouldn't be demonized
That doesn't speak to their character.
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Quote from: Choke on December 31, 2020, 08:56:17 AM
Quote from: sexy. on December 31, 2020, 08:40:12 AM
If someone cannot afford to certain things that shouldn't be demonized
That doesn't speak to their character.
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Quote from: Choke on December 31, 2020, 08:59:08 AM
Their character is they a bum ass nigga sis.
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Fro does ur new man live in his mom's basement mess :diddraispoot:
cus I'm not here to judge
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Well Codependency Red flags come up with me
you really wanna be all up under ya fam like that
to me it signifies co-dependency issues which bleed in to their romantic relationships i can smell it a mile a wway
Close familys are cute helping out your family is cute but if you still living with them to help them out or save money i look less at the financial snd more at the psychological
There was an episode of single ladies where Stacy dash character met a great guy but he lives with his brother his sister and his niece snd she had a newborn
and he invited her to the house with everyone there
and then he asked her to take one of the nieces to the doctors
and then he gon talk about we cant get away cause so an so gonna be alone with the baby
and val was like its her baby lmaoooo
and hes like i want a woman who can handle all this family stuff and she bounced lol
If a mans desire isnt strong enough to pull away from the fam and create his own space something is wrong Period
now if a family member is renting a house from another family member thats coool but
the rest nah
and if ya mama live with you like are we really gon be chillin at ya place with ya momz therfe and im tryina get pipe or we gotta go to mine
hell nah
i like going back and foirth as well so
i would not clown the guy either but my suspicions would be raised for other reasons
Quote from: plastic on December 31, 2020, 09:03:10 AM
Fro does ur new man live in his mom's basement mess :diddraispoot:
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Quotepersonally, i wouldn't date a man who doesn't have his own place
but that's only because i actually love the idea of hopping back and forth between homes of urself and partner :blush: :blush:
but i won't be sitting around clowning them.
Quote from: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on December 31, 2020, 09:06:21 AM
There was an episode of single ladies where Stacy dash character met a great guy b-
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if ya live at home witcha mama oh yes son im tawkin to yew
Quote from: Choke on December 31, 2020, 09:08:42 AM
Quote from: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on December 31, 2020, 09:06:21 AM
There was an episode of single ladies where Stacy dash character met a great guy b-
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I couldn't date a man who makes significantly less or has a totally different living situation but that's just because it would be too much of a lifestyle difference.
but this guy hit me up and once we got into the convo about his living situation he was so embarrassed and admitted that people judge him cuz of it
I felt so bad for him cuz It was mostly due to how much money he makes. He just can't afford another situation
eventually I ended the convo with him but not because he's a bad or horrible person , but because it wouldn't be a good fit .
Quote from: sexy. on December 31, 2020, 09:10:42 AM
I couldn't date a man who makes significantly less or has a totally different living situation but that's just because it would be too much of a lifestyle difference.
but this guy hit me up and once we got into the convo about his living situation he was so embarrassed and admitted that people judge him cuz of it
I felt so bad for him cuz It was mostly due to how much money he makes. He just can't afford another situation
eventually I ended the convo with him but not because he's a bar person , but because it wouldn't be a good fit .
This b simone mess
how would the lifestyle difference effect the dating?
Quote from: sexy. on December 31, 2020, 09:10:42 AM
this guy hit me up and once we got into the convo about his living situation he was so embarrassed and admitted that people judge him cuz of it
eventually I ended the convo with him
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Quote from: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on December 31, 2020, 09:12:27 AM
Quote from: sexy. on December 31, 2020, 09:10:42 AM
I couldn't date a man who makes significantly less or has a totally different living situation but that's just because it would be too much of a lifestyle difference.
but this guy hit me up and once we got into the convo about his living situation he was so embarrassed and admitted that people judge him cuz of it
I felt so bad for him cuz It was mostly due to how much money he makes. He just can't afford another situation
eventually I ended the convo with him but not because he's a bar person , but because it wouldn't be a good fit .
This b simone mess
how would the lifestyle difference effect the dating?
lifestyle may not be the perfect word
I should say someone who's on a similar path. There's more to relate to.
Quote from: Choke on December 31, 2020, 09:13:45 AM
Quote from: sexy. on December 31, 2020, 09:10:42 AM
this guy hit me up and once we got into the convo about his living situation he was so embarrassed and admitted that people judge him cuz of it
eventually I ended the convo with him
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Quote from: plastic on December 31, 2020, 09:03:10 AM
Fro does ur new man live in his mom's basement mess :diddraispoot:
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Quotepersonally, i wouldn't date a man who doesn't have his own place
but that's only because i actually love the idea of hopping back and forth between homes of urself and partner :blush: :blush:
but i won't be sitting around clowning them.
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Issa hard no for me.
I live on my own, and prefer to date someone who does as well!
In my experience, they all use the same excuse. "I'm helping my mom out" or "my mom lives with me". A lotta times they're lying. Rivaling "oh my car is in the shop".
I understand life happens, but a part of maturity is being able to branch out on your own and navigate the world independently. And they know damn well their strong, independent mamas would FLIP if they knew their grown ass sons were out here lying to potential suitors. Your mom is a whole entrepreneur out here with no financial hardships, yet your living in her home to "help her out."
Be real with yourself boo boo. :plzstop:
I've been home for 2 weeks for the Holiday and I want to claw my eyes owt
I may leave at 12:01 on New Years
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Quote from: Choke on December 31, 2020, 09:30:27 AM
I've been home for 2 weeks for the Holiday and I want to claw my eyes owt
I may leave at 12:01 on New Years
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I love my parents to death but living with them isn't an option for me. No ma'am.
Quote from: bby ddy on December 31, 2020, 09:27:39 AM
Issa hard no for me.
I live on my own, and prefer to date someone who does as well!
In my experience, they all use the same excuse. "I'm helping my mom out" or "my mom lives with me". A lotta times they're lying. Rivaling "oh my car is in the shop".
I understand life happens, but a part of maturity is being able to branch out on your own and navigate the world independently. And they know damn well their strong, independent mamas would FLIP if they knew their grown ass sons were out here lying to potential suitors. Your mom is a whole entrepreneur out here with no financial hardships, yet your living in her home to "help her out."
Be real with yourself boo boo. :plzstop:
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I'm not reading all of this but 1 of my best friends mother has always stayed with him and I've never looked down on him because of it, I actually thought it was awesome and selfless of him. He felt like he should take care of her bc of all the sacrifices she made for him. She lived with him and basically did nothing...he paid all the bills, cooked, took care of her all the way until she passed like 2 weeks ago.
Plus my grandmother lived with us(me, mother, stepfather) when I was growing up so I guess I've never seen an issue with a parent living with their child
Quote from: sexy. on December 31, 2020, 09:10:42 AM
I couldn't date a man who makes significantly less or has a totally different living situation but that's just because it would be too much of a lifestyle difference.
but this guy hit me up and once we got into the convo about his living situation he was so embarrassed and admitted that people judge him cuz of it
I felt so bad for him cuz It was mostly due to how much money he makes. He just can't afford another situation
eventually I ended the convo with him but not because he's a bad or horrible person , but because it wouldn't be a good fit .
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Quote from: Eh... on December 31, 2020, 10:02:47 AM
I'm not reading all of this but 1 of my best friends mother has always stayed with him and I've never looked down on him because of it, I actually thought it was awesome and selfless of him. He felt like he should take care of her bc of all the sacrifices she made for him. She lived with him and basically did nothing...he paid all the bills, cooked, took care of her all the way until she passed like 2 weeks ago.
Plus my grandmother lived with us(me, mother, stepfather) when I was growing up so I guess I've never seen an issue with a parent living with their child
thats so sweet .
And that's the kinda stuff I'm talking about
In no way am I encouraging people to date men who live at home with mama
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But just maybe have some compassion and understanding for people and their situations . Their living situation doesn't merit an all out attack on their character...unless they are clearly are just unmotivated playing PS4 all day.
You can have compassion/understanding and still keep it moving to the next.
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Cut the crap and let's go
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Quote from: Choke on December 31, 2020, 10:36:33 AM
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Cut the crap and let's go
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I know this is about men, but one of my coworkers (she's 31 years old) has been studying architecture in the UK for 4 years and came back to Germany this summer because of Covid, plus her not being able to find work. She basically had to move back with her mother, cause she's broke as hell atm.
What a bum ass bitch. :plea: Not every situation is the same. :helloimangie:
Quote from: Choke on December 31, 2020, 10:36:33 AM
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So sweet
Cut the crap and let's go
https://youtu.be/FrLequ6dUdM
I love TLC, but it is kinda ironic that a group that went bankrupt because they can't release contracts released a song like this just a couple years later. :dead:
Quote from: 𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉 on December 31, 2020, 10:57:11 AM
I know this is about men, but one of my coworkers (she's 31 years old) has been studying architecture in the UK for 4 years and came back to Germany this summer because of Covid, plus her not being able to find work. She basically had to move back with her mother, cause she's broke as hell atm.
What a bum ass bitch. :plea: Not every situation is the same. :helloimangie:
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You never know.
Someone's financial situation being rocky just isn't the same as someone being lazy and unmotivated to do anything
The former is case by case the latter is clearly bum status
I think a problem may be that many times having a rocky financial situation AND being lazy/unemployed are often intertwined. So we may automatically associate one with the other without even knowing it.
Quote from: 𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉 on December 31, 2020, 10:59:06 AM
Quote from: Choke on December 31, 2020, 10:36:33 AM
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So sweet
Cut the crap and let's go
https://youtu.be/FrLequ6dUdM
I love TLC, but it is kinda ironic that a group that went bankrupt because they can't release contracts released a song like this just a couple years later. :dead:
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Chilli was the most bankrupt. :wellheythere:
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i stayed with my parents until I bought my house at 24. I never lived on my own before then. My parents grew up in a time where once you turned 18, good luck. Unfortunately, that continues to cycle of debt and financial instability. Thankfully, they didn't do that with me. They let me stay at home, even after I graduated from college.
I also could give a shit about impressing anybody...I stacked my money and moved out when it made sense.
I don't think a man should be living with his family and NOT working. But if he's working and making smart decisions, I don't see an issue with it until it's time to start his OWN family.
Yeah I'm not dealing with a 30 year old man living at home with mommy just because. Gotta cross Ms Juanita while she's watching Family Feud on the couch everytime you visit. Sister in the kitchen frying chicken while her two kids run amuck. Cat clawing at my leg and shit. Auntie Ophelia staring me down. Nope! That was cute when I was 21, but a decade later no ma'am. I'm good. God bless and god speed.
Quote from: bby ddy on December 31, 2020, 12:22:47 PM
Yeah I'm not dealing with a 30 year old man living at home with mommy just because. Gotta cross Ms Juanita while she's watching Family Feud on the couch everytime you visit. Sister in the kitchen frying chicken while her two kids run amuck. Cat clawing at my leg and shit. Auntie Ophelia staring me down. Nope! That was cute when I was 21, but a decade later no ma'am. I'm good. God bless and god speed.
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i stayed with my parents until I bought my house at 24. I never lived on my own before then. My parents grew up in a time where once you turned 18, good luck. Unfortunately, that continues to cycle of debt and financial instability. Thankfully, they didn't do that with me. They let me stay at home, even after I graduated from college.
I also could give a shit about impressing anybody...I stacked my money and moved out when it made sense.
I don't think a man should be living with his family and NOT working. But if he's working and making smart decisions, I don't see an issue with it until it's time to start his OWN family.
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And it's smarter financially.I wish I had that option.
NOT MAKING EXCUSES FOR A GROWN ASS BUM :melmel:
Quote from: Say-Something-ReVon on December 31, 2020, 01:02:28 PM
NOT MAKING EXCUSES FOR A GROWN ASS BUM :melmel:
lolz
Tune in next week when I make justifications for selling drugs!
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At what age should you move out of your family's home?
My parents kinda kept me hostage for years but I broke free and escaped in my late 20s.
African parents are kinda like that. You stay till you get married.
Breaking free was the best thing I ever did for myself.
:oof:
Quote from: Candiace on December 31, 2020, 01:37:18 PM
At what age should you move out of your family's home?
My parents kinda kept me hostage for years but I broke free and escaped in my late 20s.
African parents are kinda like that. You stay till you get married.
Breaking free was the best thing I ever did for myself.
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I honestly don't know if there's a specific age. Things are so much more expensive these days than when my parents grew up. When I have kids, I wouldn't mind them staying until they started their own family.
My friend did that, and he was making almost 6 figures. When he moved out, his wife and him moved into a house that he BUILT :dead:
That's the way to do it if you can IMO
Quote from: Candiace on December 31, 2020, 01:37:18 PM
At what age should you move out of your family's home?
My parents kinda kept me hostage for years but I broke free and escaped in my late 20s.
African parents are kinda like that. You stay till you get married.
Breaking free was the best thing I ever did for myself.
:oof:
Once I got a taste of independence in college, I didn't wanna go back. I did briefly and it just wasn't for me.
I feel like as an adult you need your own space. Peace. A sanctuary of your own. My mom was the traditional "my house, my rules" kinda gal. Don't get me wrong, I respected her home but I needed to get outta there.
I learned so much about myself after I left the nest. Then there's a sense of pride that comes with having your own. Life happens, financial hardships happen, traditions happen, illnesses happen. Understandable. My parents would always welcome me back with open arms but ain't no way. :plzstop:
Quote from: Are you a recording artist? on December 31, 2020, 11:30:31 AM
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i stayed with my parents until I bought my house at 24. I never lived on my own before then. My parents grew up in a time where once you turned 18, good luck. Unfortunately, that continues to cycle of debt and financial instability. Thankfully, they didn't do that with me. They let me stay at home, even after I graduated from college.
I also could give a shit about impressing anybody...I stacked my money and moved out when it made sense.
I don't think a man should be living with his family and NOT working. But if he's working and making smart decisions, I don't see an issue with it until it's time to start his OWN family.
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People automatically assume that because you live at home it means you're broke, a bum, unemployed and this and that and that's not always the case at all.
Quote from: Candiace on December 31, 2020, 01:37:18 PM
At what age should you move out of your family's home?
My parents kinda kept me hostage for years but I broke free and escaped in my late 20s.
African parents are kinda like that. You stay till you get married.
Breaking free was the best thing I ever did for myself.
:oof:
25 IS THE MAX
What about living with crackheads?
wats happening
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Quote from: Candiace on December 31, 2020, 01:37:18 PM
At what age should you move out of your family's home?
My parents kinda kept me hostage for years but I broke free and escaped in my late 20s.
African parents are kinda like that. You stay till you get married.
Breaking free was the best thing I ever did for myself.
:oof:
25 IS THE MAX
So you can piss in bottles in peace? :usuresis:
Quote from: Candiace on December 31, 2020, 09:23:54 PM
Quote from: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on December 31, 2020, 03:59:48 PM
Quote from: Candiace on December 31, 2020, 01:37:18 PM
At what age should you move out of your family's home?
My parents kinda kept me hostage for years but I broke free and escaped in my late 20s.
African parents are kinda like that. You stay till you get married.
Breaking free was the best thing I ever did for myself.
:oof:
25 IS THE MAX
So you can piss in bottles in peace? :usuresis:
My mom knew i did that and knew why i needed to :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii:
it was the bottle or her furniture from leakage so
but yes so you can do that in peace
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Quote from: Candiace on December 31, 2020, 09:23:54 PM
Quote from: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on December 31, 2020, 03:59:48 PM
Quote from: Candiace on December 31, 2020, 01:37:18 PM
At what age should you move out of your family's home?
My parents kinda kept me hostage for years but I broke free and escaped in my late 20s.
African parents are kinda like that. You stay till you get married.
Breaking free was the best thing I ever did for myself.
:oof:
25 IS THE MAX
So you can piss in bottles in peace? :usuresis:
My mom knew i did that and knew why i needed to :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii:
it was the bottle or her furniture from leakage so
but yes so you can do that in peace
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