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Title: do “soulmates” truly exist?
Post by: The Only BLACK Kalmyks on January 05, 2021, 08:26:08 AM
obviously the idea of relationships is highly romanticized left and right through movies, product marketing, etc

this idea that....somewhere out there, there is ONE person that is "meant for" someone.

i personally think it's less about that and more about just:

- finding someone who shares common interests
- you find them physically attractive
- ideally within close proximity

and, although you can definitely develop REAL feelings which certainly fit the definition of "love"...there's still no guarantee that this will "last forever" - 50% of marriages end in divorce.

i think it's more understandable for someone who is my grandmother's age to make a conclusion of who the "love of her life" was.
in her case, it would be her husband whom she stayed married to for over 50 years.
she's at the final stages of her life where can she really say what was what, conclusively.

but for someone younger, i think it's beneficial to forego the super romanticized notion of "soulmates ". and take it a step at a time.
i think a lot less people would rush into things and really take more time to feel a situation out - which could probably help the horrible divorce rate in this country.


Title: Re: does "the love of my life" truly exist?
Post by: United Nations Barbie 🇺🇳 on January 05, 2021, 08:33:36 AM
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Title: Re: does "the love of my life" truly exist?
Post by: The Only BLACK Kalmyks on January 05, 2021, 08:48:44 AM
Quote from: TinaSnow on January 05, 2021, 08:33:36 AM
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i was just about to say

Who's to say that the "love of my life" isn't somewhere in Zimbabwe?

Cnnfnfnfnfnfnf

We often limit our "search for the one" to our immediate surroundings - within our city.


Title: Re: does "the love of my life" truly exist?
Post by: CHOKE on January 05, 2021, 09:32:42 AM
https://youtu.be/Ch0LEsJs4vo

Title: Re: does "the love of my life" truly exist?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on January 05, 2021, 09:36:54 AM
finding a deeper connection typically does not happen untill later in life  (30s to 50s)
so in our world of you gotta get married and have kids young 
you most likely will not find that partner right away 
but ppul like to force things

sometimes a few partners just prepare you for the one 
but it is best to take ur time enjoy who you are with dont put pressure on it 
cause everything will fall in place when its time
Title: Re: does "the love of my life" truly exist?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on January 05, 2021, 09:39:45 AM
Quote from: Martin Luther Kang on January 05, 2021, 08:48:44 AM
Quote from: TinaSnow on January 05, 2021, 08:33:36 AM
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i was just about to say

Who's to say that the "love of my life" isn't somewhere in Zimbabwe?

Cnnfnfnfnfnfnf

We often limit our "search for the one" to our immediate surroundings - within our city.

yes speaking from someone whos dealt with a twin flame connection as well as a soulmate connection ( who is in nigeria btw)
it definetly is more than one

so much so ive opened the door for a form for a polyamorous deal
Title: Re: does "the love of my life" truly exist?
Post by: The Only BLACK Kalmyks on January 05, 2021, 10:12:16 AM
:guys:
Title: Re: does "the love of my life" truly exist?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on January 05, 2021, 10:22:31 AM
Quote from: Martin Luther Kang on January 05, 2021, 10:12:16 AM
:guys:

lol when you think about it " love of my life" is simply a belief system
one created out of fear and lack and scaricity

when you can love several ppul
and more than one person that be the love of your life  :welllol:
Title: Re: does "the love of my life" truly exist?
Post by: L0NZ. on January 05, 2021, 11:24:46 AM
I think you're describing a soul mate. Love of your life is simply the best love youve had, and he/she doesn't necessarily have to have been your "one." Just the one you had the best experience with
Title: Re: do “soulmates” truly exist?
Post by: The Only BLACK Kalmyks on January 05, 2021, 11:41:21 AM
I agree

Someone can def measure one love against others at any point in their life and say it was the best thus far

Like I mentioned in the OP .... my grandmother could def do that.

The whole concept of. Soulmates is what i was getting at
Title: Re: do “soulmates” truly exist?
Post by: JCJ on January 05, 2021, 11:42:30 AM
No.
Title: Re: do “soulmates” truly exist?
Post by: klappa. on January 05, 2021, 11:58:22 AM
soul mates! no such ting!

n

cut that fuckin ramen and maybe you'll find a man

Title: Re: do “soulmates” truly exist?
Post by: Freemala Harris on January 05, 2021, 12:03:03 PM
Possibly, I dunno

You only really know if you ever meet that person

And it might not even be a potential romantic partner. They could really just be a good friend you really vibe with. Basically your other half.
Title: Re: do “soulmates” truly exist?
Post by: The Only BLACK Kalmyks on January 05, 2021, 12:07:09 PM
That's how I feel a bit too

it's totally possible to find someone who u think is cute
u enjoy their company ... they fit ur criteria for what's acceptable for a "partner"

without it getting all deep into a "soulmate" tea.

Emotion is pretty much unavoidable in any relationship but the way things are labeled can make a big diffeeence when it comes to establishing realistic expectations , etc.

Imo
Title: Re: do “soulmates” truly exist?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on January 05, 2021, 12:44:39 PM
actually everyone in our awareness is a soul mate
family
friends
platonic
romantic
enemies
haters
aquantences

all of it

there are different soul mates for different soul developments

karmic soulmates
catalysts
soul tribe
twin flames
false twins

your family is like the first group of soulmates you encounter which also can be very karmic depending on your souls journey
when you have children as well same thing

what your referring to i guess would be a high level soul mate

but even when you meet someone where the relationship goes to shit and becomes toxic
there was usually a magnetism that brought you together a core wound you both contracted to heal and trigger each other with
once the lesson is learned and that wound is healed that goes away

Title: Re: do “soulmates” truly exist?
Post by: The Only BLACK Kalmyks on January 05, 2021, 12:50:28 PM
Quote from: mophelia_b on January 05, 2021, 11:58:22 AM
soul mates! no such ting!

n

cut that fuckin ramen and maybe you'll find a man
i will kill u today
Title: Re: do “soulmates” truly exist?
Post by: JCJ on January 05, 2021, 12:55:37 PM
Quote from: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on January 05, 2021, 12:44:39 PM
actually everyone in our awareness is a soul mate
family
friends
platonic
romantic
enemies
haters
aquantences

all of it

there are different soul mates for different soul developments

karmic soulmates
catalysts
soul tribe
twin flames
false twins

your family is like the first group of soulmates you encounter which also can be very karmic depending on your souls journey
when you have children as well same thing

what your referring to i guess would be a high level soul mate

but even when you meet someone where the relationship goes to shit and becomes toxic
there was usually a magnetism that brought you together a core wound you both contracted to heal and trigger each other with
once the lesson is learned and that wound is healed that goes away


v
Title: Re: do “soulmates” truly exist?
Post by: klappa. on January 05, 2021, 01:03:02 PM
Quote from: Martin Luther Kang on January 05, 2021, 12:50:28 PM
Quote from: mophelia_b on January 05, 2021, 11:58:22 AM
soul mates! no such ting!

n

cut that fuckin ramen and maybe you'll find a man
i will kill u today
:cmerefag: