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Started by Scott., March 16, 2016, 02:00:28 AM

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Scott.

March 16, 2016, 02:00:28 AM Last Edit: March 16, 2016, 02:00:52 AM by Scott.
So this time last year, the exact week and month (I can't forget it due to facebook's "On This Day" mess), I was mourning a relationship I had with this guy. The last time we saw each other, he took me on a trip for my birthday. We shared "I love you's" and all that, only to see him announce on facebook about a week later that he was in a new relationship. Wow, but it wasn't me. A few weeks after that announcement, he announced that they were engaged (got married in December). I was enraged and hurt. Put all of my feelings into my craft (Dorian and Tarig saw every song I wrote about him lol).

So, there's a guy that's been in my life on and off for the last three years and we've always flirted around with the idea of dating  and now we finally just decided to give it a go. I don't know. I'm feeling myself falling for this guy and I don't want to out of fear, but the more time we spend, the more I find myself so AFRAID. I was so damaged from this last guy and I thought I'd never give anyone else another try. He met my friends yesterday and they love him. We go out again tomorrow. I don't know what I'm feeling but I'm so scared (I feel like I'm damaged goods). :stressed:

RekeRig

No such thing as damaged goods, man. If ur in sound mind and healthy, then you are good to GO, no matter the age. Especially with you being so damn young :dead: i know what you mean, but the only thing that needs changing around (through time) is your thoughts. Give ur self credit for even giving the guy a chance and taking that huge step in introducing him to ur friends

if u can do that, then you can do anything. Including the ability to trust and really open up again! watch and see. Im already happy for you

MAY

Sis, it's gonna feel like that at first because the other guy hurt you so badly, but try not to let his bullshit ruin something that can potentially be great with this new guy. Just take it one day at a time and live more in the moment instead of worrying about what could happen. Take your time and try not to put too much pressure on yourself or the relationship right now. You'll eventually become more comfortable and hopefully he will start to make you feel secure enough to let go of the baggage from the previous guy.

MAY

And take a got damn shower dyke :plea:


:wub:

LOONA.

People are gonna hurt. That's just part of life. The important thing is that they try to learn from their mistakes and not do it again. Don't let that discourage you from being open to love and finding a connection. Just go for it tbh.   

Chameleon

aww Scotty :stressed:


What a fuckin asshole. Give me his info baby. I'll have him and his husband wishing they never crossed you. But I think being scared/anxious/nervous are pretty normal especially when approaching a new relationship/situation. Just take it slow bby. I think the first step is forgiving that dick in your own heart therefor you're no longer holding onto the pain. Don't let what he did ruin a potentially good thing. Hope you had time to reflect on the situation

DraeDrizzl3

It's normal to feel scared and the Facebook memory probably had you in your feelings but don't let that hold you back. You're not damaged goods bro and the progress you're making with the guy now is proof. It's okay to be careful but don't miss out over fear.

Scott.

Quote from: shenellica_Bettencourt on March 16, 2016, 05:01:05 AM
aww Scotty :stressed:


What a fuckin asshole. Give me his info baby. I'll have him and his husband wishing they never crossed you. But I think being scared/anxious/nervous are pretty normal especially when approaching a new relationship/situation. Just take it slow bby. I think the first step is forgiving that dick in your own heart therefor you're no longer holding onto the pain. Don't let what he did ruin a potentially good thing. Hope you had time to reflect on the situation


Sometimes I wonder if I ever forgave him cause I say I have but then something opens up that wound again and I'm reminded

Scott.

Quote from: Sirius on March 16, 2016, 06:55:48 AM
It's normal to feel scared and the Facebook memory probably had you in your feelings but don't let that hold you back. You're not damaged goods bro and the progress you're making with the guy now is proof. It's okay to be careful but don't miss out over fear.

Yeah.

It's like I have a huge wall up and my trust factor is at 0. I don't want this new guy to suffer based on my past

Rxxf

i stopped reading at "relationship with this guy"
BRANDY