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I've been dating this guy since July and we've finally made it official. We're both in love. But I find myself being very distant from him and it's only because my guards are up extremely, mainly due to past hurts from several men. It's like he's showing me the attention that I've always craved and doing things that no other guy has ever done for me Always compliments me, checks on me and appreciates me.  He even said that I'm very nonchalant . Which I am. I'm not exactly a warm and fuzzy person.

But I'm VERY scared. I've been single for so long, so it's hard to adjust being with someone else and compromising with someone when I'm so USED to doing shit JUST FOR ME and not worrying about how any person will feel. You know how you want something and once you get it, you're afraid? That's me.

Hun....

If God has given you exactly what you asked for then why not  live and relish in your blessing . It sounds like you have exactly what you?ve been looking for sis . Snap out of it . Love is REAL, and it sounds like it?s right  in front of you . We?ve talked about things in the past privately and this sounds like something totally different from those experiences .

Fall into this blessing sis. Sounds like you got a real One .
Don?t be afraid anymore . Live in the moment and bring down those guards . The feeling you want to have in love can happen if you give into it . I understand why its taking you time to warm up fully. And that?s smart that you held out and kind stood back a bit . But now it?s time for the next step .  Sounds like 2018 can be AMAZING for you if you let it 

love you.

Love you too ! Happy for you !

[Lazarus]

Don't overthink it. Embrace it all. Everybody doesn't have a hidden agenda or is out to hurt you Scotty. Continue to let things flourish and progress between you two.

[LOONA.]

and it's only because my guards are up extremely, mainly due to past hurts from several men.

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You need to let that go before you end up chasing a good man away.

     

[Rxxf]

I've been dating this guy since July and we've finally made it official. We're both in love. But I find myself being very distant from him and it's only because my guards are up extremely, mainly due to past hurts from several men. It's like he's showing me the attention that I've always craved and doing things that no other guy has ever done for me Always compliments me, checks on me and appreciates me.  He even said that I'm very nonchalant . Which I am. I'm not exactly a warm and fuzzy person.

But I'm VERY scared. I've been single for so long, so it's hard to adjust being with someone else and compromising with someone when I'm so USED to doing shit JUST FOR ME and not worrying about how any person will feel. You know how you want something and once you get it, you're afraid? That's me.

You dating someone else other than me?

Uh, ok.


Follow your heart and mind. They DO work in TANDEM.

[Gekkouga]

Don't be so afraid of failure lol

If it doesn't go as planned, too bad! You'll find another one eventually.

All this insecurity and anticipation for discovering skeletons in other people's closets will make you lose your fcking mind over tiny/pointless stuff. It is extremely tiring when someone is always suspicious of every goddamn move you make.

Just enjoy the ride hun, if it lasts it lasts.

[KING BENTLEY.]

And you might let something good go away because you are clinging to the past and what other men did. Stop the madness love!

It's like I'm always prepared for the bullshit. I'm just waiting for it So you're right.

I mean you pack an umbrella on a cloudy day just in case, but you still fuckin go out and enjoy the day.

you so damn wise bby!!!

THIS ... I'm to the point, I'm tired of the game, you have flaws, I have flaws ... I'm not gonna wreck my brain sitting and thinking of shit you might do to fck it up, cause it might end up making me do something fck it up. that mindset was so exhausting

but yea Scott, you gotta let that guard down. You seem to think he's a great guy, loving and treats you right. So you have to think about it in reverse... doesn't he deserve the same?

you can be that, just let go a little at a time.