I was def thinking of that whole "competition " mess too
I dunno . Being surrounded by black women all my life , being raised by a beautiful black woman ... it comes super natural for me to love on them, admire them, feel a need to protect them ...
So it's a lil

for me when I see others who clearly got some type of black females up in their family not able to do the same.
Now to be fair to my gay blk folks... I will say I've experienced moments where women have directly compared me to themselves. I could legit just be minding my business and they'll tell me things that are like

so sometimes this "competition" thing can go both ways.
But I can actually understand why they do it and I empathize , shut up and listen . And if I open my mouth it's to uplift them and return genuine love and admiration . Not turn it into some showdown . Plus it's always flattering and never something to get upset about.
I'm a whole man who stands up to piss and they're still a woman at the end of the day. I treat them with the delicacy they deserve 😍🥰