gays... did you grow up in a homophobic environment?

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Cartierline

Yeah my parents are African and super religious so you can imagine that they do not tolerate homosexuality at all. :dead: Always talking about gays being immoral, going to hell, the end of days etc.

But tbh, it didn't really affect my behaviour growing up. As a kid, I always liked 'girly' things (me and my sister used to always play dressup in her dresses :dead: ) but they never once scolded me for it. I remember my dad tried so hard to get me into football/soccer but I just wasn't here for it tbh.

As I got older, I realised that I was 'different' and it kinda affected my behaviour, not just at home but overall. I tried hard to distance myself from homosexuality and developed a boring, uninteresting personality during my high school years which I still regret to this day because high school sucked because of it.

I'm still not out to my family (or anyone else, really) but I'm pretty sure my sisters know my tea at this stage. I'm planning on telling my parents as soon as I'm financially independent from them, which should be in the next year or so. My dad most likely won't take it too well but I feel like my mum would come around to it.


Zankou.

Quote from: Cartier on May 04, 2016, 02:07:41 AM
Yeah my parents are African and super religious so you can imagine that they do not tolerate homosexuality at all. :dead: Always talking about gays being immoral, going to hell, the end of days etc.

But tbh, it didn't really affect my behaviour growing up. As a kid, I always liked 'girly' things (me and my sister used to always play dressup in her dresses :dead: ) but they never once scolded me for it. I remember my dad tried so hard to get me into football/soccer but I just wasn't here for it tbh.

As I got older, I realised that I was 'different' and it kinda affected my behaviour, not just at home but overall. I tried hard to distance myself from homosexuality and developed a boring, uninteresting personality during my high school years which I still regret to this day because high school sucked because of it.

I'm still not out to my family (or anyone else, really) but I'm pretty sure my sisters know my tea at this stage. I'm planning on telling my parents as soon as I'm financially independent from them, which should be in the next year or so. My dad most likely won't take it too well but I feel like my mum would come around to it.

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Quote from: Cartier on May 04, 2016, 02:07:41 AM
Yeah my parents are African and super religious so you can imagine that they do not tolerate homosexuality at all. :dead: Always talking about gays being immoral, going to hell, the end of days etc.

But tbh, it didn't really affect my behaviour growing up. As a kid, I always liked 'girly' things (me and my sister used to always play dressup in her dresses :dead: ) but they never once scolded me for it. I remember my dad tried so hard to get me into football/soccer but I just wasn't here for it tbh.

As I got older, I realised that I was 'different' and it kinda affected my behaviour, not just at home but overall. I tried hard to distance myself from homosexuality and developed a boring, uninteresting personality during my high school years which I still regret to this day because high school sucked because of it.

I'm still not out to my family (or anyone else, really) but I'm pretty sure my sisters know my tea at this stage. I'm planning on telling my parents as soon as I'm financially independent from them, which should be in the next year or so. My dad most likely won't take it too well but I feel like my mum would come around to it.
OMG

:kii: :kii: :kii:

This is eerie

I waited until my parents weren't paying my rent   And until I had my career on track before I stopped putting up a facade for them

My dad is Kenyan and financed me when I moved away for school.

I wasn't having him tell me I was cut off

:nowgorl:

Now that I'm set, my mom and I are finally having these conversations

:rthosehotwings:

Glenda


❄️☃️🌨� Shuji Feels Different 🌨�☃️❄️

Anyone from the Caribbean region knows how inherently homophobic persons are here, so yes. VERY homophobic. My Mom wasn't like that though. It was easy to come out to her.


b7

Quote from: ANIMMAI on May 03, 2016, 07:27:03 PM
my family is trinidadian so that 'batty boy' foolishness was never tolerated. :dead:

if anything, it made me more introverted and quiet; don't talk too much or get too comfortable because they might clock your tea at any given moment.

it was a very exhausting way to live, glad I've moved past that.
aw I'm glad you got away from that. If there's one thing we can all relate to (to an extent) it's that. Having to either keep quiet or be someone else entirely, and it's a mess. It's just crazy to think about now, because I can't imagine not being myself

I think it was ok at a time when I was still searching and figuring myself out, in total. Covering up my sexuality wasn't a big deal and it was pretty easy in my mind because I didn't completely know who I was in the first place. Smh

b7

My family is fine overall, but my main issues were in school. Can't believe I used to try and fit in.eek. I can't imagine that now