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[KING BENTLEY.]

I FELT that. It SPOKE to me

[LOONA.]

the fact that he asked a woman to spend her life with him, for whatever reason. The fact that he picked out a ring, kneeled down, probably had an engagement party, etc makes me really upset.

This is the part I don't understand. Why does that matter if everything with you all is good and they didn't work out?

[FAMÈ]

well we aren't closeted or "bi"

we know ur the poster child for faggotry..

no need to brag

dbndndndjsksksi

[L0NZ.]

the fact that he asked a woman to spend her life with him, for whatever reason. The fact that he picked out a ring, kneeled down, probably had an engagement party, etc makes me really upset.

This is the part I don't understand. Why does that matter if everything with you all is good and they didn't work out?

I really don't know. It really just BOTHERS me to know that someone else potentially had his heart like that. And that it almost led to something so life changing and "important." You know how you never want to picture your mate sleeping with someone else? Well, I don't like picturing mine proposing to someone else, even if it's in the past. Call me crazy

[Zankou.]

FAME

[Kurama]

Well, I don't share much about myself on here for obvious reasons...but the reason I made this thread is because I'm dealing with this, as the gay boyfriend to a guy who identifies as bisexual, and has entertained women in the past, as far as an engagement. Apparently she was aware of his "other" interests too but It didn't work out obviously. Something about he feel out of love and feeling neglected. now from what I know and have experienced from him, he's fuckin gay. Visually and personality wise, a woman COULD fit right next to him. I can see him pulling that off seamlessly if he wanted it that way. However the things he's done in the past, places he's been, company he's kept, his tight circle of 3/4 gay guys (well 1 has kids and the other was also engaged once) and simply the way he is with me tells me he's more into men. That comforts me, but in the back of my mind I resent the fact that he asked a woman to spend her life with him, for whatever reason. The fact that he picked out a ring, kneeled down, probably had an engagement party, etc makes me really upset. I've never said anything about it outside of passively dragging him in related conversations by making sure I say things like "living a lie" and making fun of gay guys with women as "beards" and so on. It's to the point where I don't even like to watch shows about marriage or engagement around him. And I've been to the ex-fianc?s page more than a few times. Out of curiousity. He has said that with women, he never felt fulfilled, and that at some point in his life he "found himself." Not trying to convince me that he's truly for me (because he doesn't know how I really feel about it) but just in conversation about the life journey. But yea to put it simply I'm intimidated by his PAST. And jealous of it. It's a big fear that one day he'll just feel it would be "easier" to date/marry a woman..... I feel like the normalcy part is attractive to him. I once asked which did he prefer over the other, his response was its "whoever makes me happy." One time I asked are there things that you more freely did with women that we don't necessarily do, and he said yeah things like holding hands.... these actually don't bother me because he sneaks and slaps my ass in public, has grabbed my hands across the dinner table while out, etc. Just giving y'all some insight into his psyche.

and The thing is, our relationship is fuckin amazing. The best I've ever been in. He's really good to me. What I'm sharing with y'all is really the only thing that haunts me. and it sucks because it's probably the LAST thing on his mind. I'm on break and this is probably all over the place but ch.

Whoa, this is dope. You shouldn't regret sharing tbh.

I think you honestly already recognize that your insecurity or intimidation about his past is impacting the way you feel (or your future with him) more than it should, but isn't that what an insecurity does anyway; until you're able to get over it that is. It's understandable it its something most people go through. I know a few people who have dated bisexual men who have felt the same way.

This resonates with me because I sometimes am intimidated by my partners sexual histories in contrast to my own. That kinda develops into an insecurity around if they will cheat on me or not, if we dont have sex enough. Eh...idk.

[Real]

the fact that he asked a woman to spend her life with him, for whatever reason. The fact that he picked out a ring, kneeled down, probably had an engagement party, etc makes me really upset.

This is the part I don't understand. Why does that matter if everything with you all is good and they didn't work out?

I really don't know. It really just BOTHERS me to know that someone else potentially had his heart like that. And that it almost led to something so life changing and "important." You know how you never want to picture your mate sleeping with someone else? Well, I don't like picturing mine proposing to someone else, even if it's in the past. Call me crazy

Oh ok, so it's not the fact that it's a woman.....but that he proposed to someone other than you, period?

[LOONA.]

I feel like this "he's gonna eventually leave me for a woman" scenario is grossly exaggerated and has people freaked out.     

[FAMÈ]

FAME

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Fag I'm just kiiin

[L0NZ.]

He doesn't seem like a bad person or anything but you sound insecure because he entertained the idea of marriage in a previous relationship and it happened to be a woman. As long as he's with you and faithful to you I don't see the problem though. Leave the past in the past.

   

Your analysis is right. Spot on. I'll shake it eventually, I have to believe our connection.

[Kurama]

Damn how long did it take me to type that

What kind of time lapse

[L0NZ.]

Well, I don't share much about myself on here for obvious reasons...but the reason I made this thread is because I'm dealing with this, as the gay boyfriend to a guy who identifies as bisexual, and has entertained women in the past, as far as an engagement. Apparently she was aware of his "other" interests too but It didn't work out obviously. Something about he feel out of love and feeling neglected. now from what I know and have experienced from him, he's fuckin gay. Visually and personality wise, a woman COULD fit right next to him. I can see him pulling that off seamlessly if he wanted it that way. However the things he's done in the past, places he's been, company he's kept, his tight circle of 3/4 gay guys (well 1 has kids and the other was also engaged once) and simply the way he is with me tells me he's more into men. That comforts me, but in the back of my mind I resent the fact that he asked a woman to spend her life with him, for whatever reason. The fact that he picked out a ring, kneeled down, probably had an engagement party, etc makes me really upset. I've never said anything about it outside of passively dragging him in related conversations by making sure I say things like "living a lie" and making fun of gay guys with women as "beards" and so on. It's to the point where I don't even like to watch shows about marriage or engagement around him. And I've been to the ex-fianc?s page more than a few times. Out of curiousity. He has said that with women, he never felt fulfilled, and that at some point in his life he "found himself." Not trying to convince me that he's truly for me (because he doesn't know how I really feel about it) but just in conversation about the life journey. But yea to put it simply I'm intimidated by his PAST. And jealous of it. It's a big fear that one day he'll just feel it would be "easier" to date/marry a woman..... I feel like the normalcy part is attractive to him. I once asked which did he prefer over the other, his response was its "whoever makes me happy." One time I asked are there things that you more freely did with women that we don't necessarily do, and he said yeah things like holding hands.... these actually don't bother me because he sneaks and slaps my ass in public, has grabbed my hands across the dinner table while out, etc. Just giving y'all some insight into his psyche.

and The thing is, our relationship is fuckin amazing. The best I've ever been in. He's really good to me. What I'm sharing with y'all is really the only thing that haunts me. and it sucks because it's probably the LAST thing on his mind. I'm on break and this is probably all over the place but ch.

Whoa, this is dope. You shouldn't regret sharing tbh.

I think you honestly already recognize that your insecurity or intimidation about his past is impacting the way you feel (or your future with him) more than it should, but isn't that what an insecurity does anyway; until you're able to get over it that is. It's understandable it its something most people go through. I know a few people who have dated bisexual men who have felt the same way.

This resonates with me because I sometimes am intimidated by my partners sexual histories in contrast to my own. That kinda develops into an insecurity around if they will cheat on me or not, if we dont have sex enough. Eh...idk.

thanks so much for that. And yes I also relate to feeling less "experienced." He's def lived more than I have.

[LOONA.]

Damn how long did it take me to type that

What kind of time lapse

[L0NZ.]

I feel like this "he's gonna eventually leave me for a woman" scenario is grossly exaggerated and has people freaked out.     

I think it has to do with what we've seen more of. I really don't have any examples of old happy gay couples. I see DL men with wives and children as a lifestyle who have escapades with men because they're secretly into them.

[KING BENTLEY.]

Well, I don't share much about myself on here for obvious reasons...but the reason I made this thread is because I'm dealing with this, as the gay boyfriend to a guy who identifies as bisexual, and has entertained women in the past, as far as an engagement. Apparently she was aware of his "other" interests too but It didn't work out obviously. Something about he feel out of love and feeling neglected. now from what I know and have experienced from him, he's fuckin gay. Visually and personality wise, a woman COULD fit right next to him. I can see him pulling that off seamlessly if he wanted it that way. However the things he's done in the past, places he's been, company he's kept, his tight circle of 3/4 gay guys (well 1 has kids and the other was also engaged once) and simply the way he is with me tells me he's more into men. That comforts me, but in the back of my mind I resent the fact that he asked a woman to spend her life with him, for whatever reason. The fact that he picked out a ring, kneeled down, probably had an engagement party, etc makes me really upset. I've never said anything about it outside of passively dragging him in related conversations by making sure I say things like "living a lie" and making fun of gay guys with women as "beards" and so on. It's to the point where I don't even like to watch shows about marriage or engagement around him. And I've been to the ex-fianc?s page more than a few times. Out of curiousity. He has said that with women, he never felt fulfilled, and that at some point in his life he "found himself." Not trying to convince me that he's truly for me (because he doesn't know how I really feel about it) but just in conversation about the life journey. But yea to put it simply I'm intimidated by his PAST. And jealous of it. It's a big fear that one day he'll just feel it would be "easier" to date/marry a woman..... I feel like the normalcy part is attractive to him. I once asked which did he prefer over the other, his response was its "whoever makes me happy." One time I asked are there things that you more freely did with women that we don't necessarily do, and he said yeah things like holding hands.... these actually don't bother me because he sneaks and slaps my ass in public, has grabbed my hands across the dinner table while out, etc. Just giving y'all some insight into his psyche.

and The thing is, our relationship is fuckin amazing. The best I've ever been in. He's really good to me. What I'm sharing with y'all is really the only thing that haunts me. and it sucks because it's probably the LAST thing on his mind. I'm on break and this is probably all over the place but ch.

this SPOKE to me 

I experience this too, and admitting it's an insecurity is hard
I hate for the boy to talk about this one ex girl he had

for me, it was a host of things, mostly a bit of jealousy because apparently she was cool with his family

not so much intimidated or comparing feelings between the two situations cause I can feel the love,
I attribute my insecurity to my past experiences with his type and how it's ended, probably not your case tho

but it sounds like it's great between you two and he makes these little gestures to show his affection. It'll pass over time IMO