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[SouravMay]

Yummy, Malc, Bre, was the young femininity due to surroundings? Like did you grow up with alot of sisters or women as a child?

No sisters. Oldest of two. I did have very long pretty dreadlocks as a kid and a pretty girl like face I guess. I sometimes think, that because to many people I looked like a female, I liked to associate with them and play with them because they found me cute and embraced me, while white boys would tease me, also about my hair.


It was only later I realized all this "girly" behavior or activities, I actually found shitty and I don't think it is innately me, I just adapted to how I looked. People always asked if I was a girl as a kid. Like sports is literally a million times better than doing stereotypically girly stuff.. Back then I think I tried to identify with that, cause I could fit in somewhere...

I don't know if looking like a girl as a young kid (4-5) to other kinder garten kids made me gay or not, but I just don't feel any connection to females or femininity anymore whatsoever... I don't have any female friends, cause I don't like being around them, I feel like I can't be comfortable around them for some reason. I can more easily be close friends with guys.

[Buy The Stars✨]

In looking for a partner I don't like  masc/muscle  guys at all I prefer very gay acting type of guys

I can be friends with almost anyone though

So u associate a certain body type with masculinity? Thank you for the specifics btw.

Yes and no. There are A lot of muscle guys that are big ol bottom queens and that's a no for me too.
I like a smaller framed skinny bottom type guy who you can look at and know they are gay.

Thats interesting. So do u know why u prefer someone to be blatantly gay? Like is that a conscious thing? Can a person be this smaller framed skinny bottom type and be just an everyday guy  and u still be attracted to them? Or u need to know they're gay upon first impression for u to be into em?

I just prefer to be the dominate one and I guess it's also a looks thing for me too. Im a more built bigger guy so to me it feels normal to be with someone who is smaller than me. It just looks right to me. In my case opposites really do attract.
I don't have to know they are gay to date them if they are still skinny that's more important to me

What about height? I ask because my bf normally dated shorter guys before me. He's 6'2 and I'm 6'1. He got over that I guess.

Well im about 6 ft so I can only date guys shorter or my height. I hve Fuckdd taller skinny bottoms before and it always felt weird ha

[GRAND]

I kinda developed a great deal of respect for gay Blk men(especially), Str8  Blk men, and women who were unabashedly themselves.

!!!

I changed SO much once I became exposed to more gay people. Specifically drag queens and trans people. I experience discrimination as a black man, of course

But when I went out to the club then to get food with a trans that wasn't passable, my eyes opened the Fck UP



It made me in a way lose some insecurities I had about being gay

Cause Lord, people will blatantly disrespect trans and drags on a level I didn't know existed

[Buy The Stars✨]

In looking for a partner I don't like  masc/muscle  guys at all I prefer very gay acting type of guys

I can be friends with almost anyone though

So u associate a certain body type with masculinity? Thank you for the specifics btw.

Yes and no. There are A lot of muscle guys that are big ol bottom queens and that's a no for me too.
I like a smaller framed skinny bottom type guy who you can look at and know they are gay.

Thats interesting. So do u know why u prefer someone to be blatantly gay? Like is that a conscious thing? Can a person be this smaller framed skinny bottom type and be just an everyday guy  and u still be attracted to them? Or u need to know they're gay upon first impression for u to be into em?

I just prefer to be the dominate one and I guess it's also a looks thing for me too. Im a more built bigger guy so to me it feels normal to be with someone who is smaller than me. It just looks right to me. In my case opposites really do attract.
I don't have to know they are gay to date them if they are still skinny that's more important to me

So dominance in ur mind is im big ur small and because I'm bigger, im dominant?

Yeah I can't be with anyone who wants to be dominant. I only can be with submissive guys only

[SouravMay]

And early on as a young black/Middle Eastern male I realized if I have a more sweet/soft demeanor and voice, I would not be villainified and demonized by teachers into some gangsta hoodlum. I developed an overtly articulate way of expressing myself and being super bubbly, so no one would ever think I am ghetto, mean or aggressive. The social stigma with being male and of color and working class, is hard to escape. You can basically x it out by acting a lil SWEET.

[KING BENTLEY.]

this is a question I've had about that Todd Chrisley guy

I have always classified being a dad as a very MANLY thing

but he's clearly very fem and the head of the household ....

I dunno, do yawl get closet or cover up tea from it?

Which is why i dont limit feminity to gay or straight. He's very effeminate to me but from what i know, he's a heterosexual male. I dont think he's gay but i don't care either. He says he's not gay, who am i to question it because he doesnt fit what i feel a stereotypical straight male is.

!!!!!!!
Great point. And if the black community came to this conclusion in the 50's or 60's we would've been so far ahead

they intertwine the two. At one point I was actually MORE concerned about being viewed as feminine or "not a man" rather than actually clocked for liking booch/dooch ... if that makes sense

[Real]

Yummy, Malc, Bre, was the young femininity due to surroundings? Like did you grow up with alot of sisters or women as a child?

No sisters. Oldest of two. I did have very long pretty dreadlocks as a kid and a pretty girl like face I guess. I sometimes think, that because to many people I looked like a female, I liked to associate with them and play with them because they found me cute and embraced me, while white boys would tease me, also about my hair.


It was only later I realized all this "girly" behavior or activities, I actually found shitty and I don't think it is innately me, I just adapted to how I looked. People always asked if I was a girl as a kid. Like sports is literally a million times better than doing stereotypically girly stuff.. Back then I think I tried to identify with that, cause I could fit in somewhere...

I don't know if looking like a girl as a young kid (4-5) to other kinder garten kids made me gay or not, but I just don't feel any connection to females or femininity anymore whatsoever... I don't have any female friends, cause I don't like being around them, I feel like I can't be comfortable around them for some reason. I can more easily be close friends with guys.

That's really interesting

[SouravMay]

Do you guys like women and girls around as friends? Could you chill on a bed/couch with them or travel with them, share your deep feelings etc?

[yummy]

I kinda developed a great deal of respect for gay Blk men(especially), Str8  Blk men, and women who were unabashedly themselves.

!!!

I changed SO much once I became exposed to more gay people. Specifically drag queens and trans people. I experience discrimination as a black man, of course

But when I went out to the club then to get food with a trans that wasn't passable, my eyes opened the Fck UP



It made me in a way lose some insecurities I had about being gay

Cause Lord, people will blatantly disrespect trans and drags on a level I didn't know existed

omg!

the clockable trans gorls have it the absolute worst; the stares, the way the trade cuts up, little kids pointing...

I couldn't imagine tbh.

[Kurama]

I kinda developed a great deal of respect for gay Blk men(especially), Str8  Blk men, and women who were unabashedly themselves.

!!!

I changed SO much once I became exposed to more gay people. Specifically drag queens and trans people. I experience discrimination as a black man, of course

But when I went out to the club then to get food with a trans that wasn't passable, my eyes opened the Fck UP



It made me in a way lose some insecurities I had about being gay

Cause Lord, people will blatantly disrespect trans and drags on a level I didn't know existed

!!!!

I tell some of my trans clients all the time they're so fuckin powerful to me. To literally be attacked from cis, queer, straight,rich, black, and white folks all the time and still be able to face the world and be who you are...I could fuckin never 

[Zankou.]

Do you guys like women and girls around as friends? Could you chill on a bed/couch with them or travel with them, share your deep feelings etc?

we could chill in bed but we don't need to touch



my best friend is a woman and we have been friends for almost 10 years

[Kurama]

Do you guys like women and girls around as friends? Could you chill on a bed/couch with them or travel with them, share your deep feelings etc?

Some of my best friends in life or women. We do all of the above and more.

[GRAND]

And early on as a young black/Middle Eastern male I realized if I have a more sweet/soft demeanor and voice, I would not be villainified and demonized by teachers into some gangsta hoodlum. I developed an overtly articulate way of expressing myself and being super bubbly, so no one would ever think I am ghetto, mean or aggressive. The social stigma with being male and of color and working class, is hard to escape. You can basically x it out by acting a lil SWEET.

it's pretty much like that in America



When you're a black male you're assumed to be aggressive and possibly violent but fags for the most part escape some of the sigma 

[yummy]

I have great relationships with my femalr friends. Most of them are dykes tho.

[Zankou.]

Do you guys like women and girls around as friends? Could you chill on a bed/couch with them or travel with them, share your deep feelings etc?

Some of my best friends in life or women. We do all of the above and more.

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