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[ya rock muh world.]

I'm realizing that frustration, sadness, worry, etc. all are things that are well within our control.

A friend of mine was telling me how coworkers frustrate her, and after she went on for about 20 minutes, the only thing I could ask her once she was done was, "Why are you giving them this much of your time?"

This is 20 minutes you've wasted talking about them. What has this solved for you? Are they aware that you have this problem? Have you talked to them about it? Or are you sitting here fuming for hours as they stroll around totally unaware and unbothered?

I understand that it's good to vent, but if you're at the point where you need to vent, it means that you've let someone frustrate you and get under your skin really easily. Check your emotions. It's not as hard to do as we make it seem.

Our go-to excuse for letting our feelings run wild is usually "it's human, it's OK." But it's not OK to devote countless minutes and hours of your time to something that is totally negative and unproductive. And it's not really healthy for you, either.

Once you feel a negative emotion knocking on your door, check it. Don't invite it in for snacks and drinks. Acknowledge it, but take time to realize that you are in control of it. Don't ignore the root of your frustration, though. If there's an issue, figure out a way to fix it. Strategize. If it's not fixable, accept that and move the hell on with your day.

You have better things to do. Period.

Happy Monday. 

[XXX.]

Thank you for this, Afro!  Good morning baby boo! <3

Maybe it's a Cancer thing, but I've been on the same wave length.  I was driving to work this morning and was cussing this lady out, because she was driving so stupid in front of me.  And I literally said out loud, "Why am I giving her so much energy?  I left early.  I won't be late.  Why am I doing the most and she's probably in her car humming Christmas carols. "

I know that's a simplified example of what you're talking about, but it totally applies.  We are in control and really do create our own energy.  And with that energy there are consequences or, for a less dramatic wording, subsequent steps.  Me being pissed about the lady driving turns into me having a bad attitude which turns into me not being nice when I come into the office which turns into..... etc.

I've been working a lot on myself lately.  And with it being the end of the year, self-reflection is almost a default. 

Positive energy is even more important in thoughts than it is in our actual actions, because it starts there first. 

Happy Monday!!!!! 

[ya rock muh world.]

Thank you for this, Afro!  Good morning baby boo! <3

Maybe it's a Cancer thing, but I've been on the same wave length.  I was driving to work this morning and was cussing this lady out, because she was driving so stupid in front of me.  And I literally said out loud, "Why am I giving her so much energy?  I left early.  I won't be late.  Why am I doing the most and she's probably in her car humming Christmas carols. "

I know that's a simplified example of what you're talking about, but it totally applies.  We are in control and really do create our own energy.  And with that energy there are consequences or, for a less dramatic wording, subsequent steps.  Me being pissed about the lady driving turns into me having a bad attitude which turns into me not being nice when I come into the office which turns into..... etc.

I've been working a lot on myself lately.  And with it being the end of the year, self-reflection is almost a default. 

Positive energy is even more important in thoughts than it is in our actual actions, because it starts there first. 

Happy Monday!!!!!

So true.

Right. You're sitting there raising your blood pressure, screaming, cursing - starting your day on the wrong foot. All about something that you can't even work to change or reverse.

I think we're just used to letting our emotions do what they'd like. Letting them run our show until they're completely dissolved. But it's OK to stop them and check them sometimes. It's really about being more mindful of the moment and thinking a bit more.

enjoy your monday bvy!!!!

[ya rock muh world.]

bitch i just got back to work after a week vacation..im sitting next to my coworkers like 

thanks af hun 

[XXX.]

Thank you for this, Afro!  Good morning baby boo! <3

Maybe it's a Cancer thing, but I've been on the same wave length.  I was driving to work this morning and was cussing this lady out, because she was driving so stupid in front of me.  And I literally said out loud, "Why am I giving her so much energy?  I left early.  I won't be late.  Why am I doing the most and she's probably in her car humming Christmas carols. "

I know that's a simplified example of what you're talking about, but it totally applies.  We are in control and really do create our own energy.  And with that energy there are consequences or, for a less dramatic wording, subsequent steps.  Me being pissed about the lady driving turns into me having a bad attitude which turns into me not being nice when I come into the office which turns into..... etc.

I've been working a lot on myself lately.  And with it being the end of the year, self-reflection is almost a default. 

Positive energy is even more important in thoughts than it is in our actual actions, because it starts there first. 

Happy Monday!!!!!

So true.

Right. You're sitting there raising your blood pressure, screaming, cursing - starting your day on the wrong foot. All about something that you can't even work to change or reverse.

I think we're just used to letting our emotions do what they'd like. Letting them run our show until they're completely dissolved. But it's OK to stop them and check them sometimes. It's really about being more mindful of the moment and thinking a bit more.

enjoy your monday bvy!!!!

This part I bolded in particular is a damn WORD!

And that's something I'm trying to learn as an adult.  Really existing and understanding what's taking place in the moment.  And slowing TF down in my response and emotional reactions.  It starts to trip you out how much you realize your emotions are a choice after going so many years thinking, "Well, I can't control how I feel!"

HA!  The biggest lie we've ever told ourselves.

[ya rock muh world.]

Thank you for this, Afro!  Good morning baby boo! <3

Maybe it's a Cancer thing, but I've been on the same wave length.  I was driving to work this morning and was cussing this lady out, because she was driving so stupid in front of me.  And I literally said out loud, "Why am I giving her so much energy?  I left early.  I won't be late.  Why am I doing the most and she's probably in her car humming Christmas carols. "

I know that's a simplified example of what you're talking about, but it totally applies.  We are in control and really do create our own energy.  And with that energy there are consequences or, for a less dramatic wording, subsequent steps.  Me being pissed about the lady driving turns into me having a bad attitude which turns into me not being nice when I come into the office which turns into..... etc.

I've been working a lot on myself lately.  And with it being the end of the year, self-reflection is almost a default. 

Positive energy is even more important in thoughts than it is in our actual actions, because it starts there first. 

Happy Monday!!!!!

So true.

Right. You're sitting there raising your blood pressure, screaming, cursing - starting your day on the wrong foot. All about something that you can't even work to change or reverse.

I think we're just used to letting our emotions do what they'd like. Letting them run our show until they're completely dissolved. But it's OK to stop them and check them sometimes. It's really about being more mindful of the moment and thinking a bit more.

enjoy your monday bvy!!!!

This part I bolded in particular is a damn WORD!

And that's something I'm trying to learn as an adult.  Really existing and understanding what's taking place in the moment.  And slowing TF down in my response and emotional reactions.  It starts to trip you out how much you realize your emotions are a choice after going so many years thinking, "Well, I can't control how I feel!"

HA!  The biggest lie we've ever told ourselves.

Perfect.

[XXX.]

BOY... if you don't!

[ya rock muh world.]

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luh u boo

[Navyman]

Thank you for this, Afro!  Good morning baby boo! <3

Maybe it's a Cancer thing, but I've been on the same wave length.  I was driving to work this morning and was cussing this lady out, because she was driving so stupid in front of me.  And I literally said out loud, "Why am I giving her so much energy?  I left early.  I won't be late.  Why am I doing the most and she's probably in her car humming Christmas carols. "

I know that's a simplified example of what you're talking about, but it totally applies.  We are in control and really do create our own energy.  And with that energy there are consequences or, for a less dramatic wording, subsequent steps.  Me being pissed about the lady driving turns into me having a bad attitude which turns into me not being nice when I come into the office which turns into..... etc.

I've been working a lot on myself lately.  And with it being the end of the year, self-reflection is almost a default. 

Positive energy is even more important in thoughts than it is in our actual actions, because it starts there first. 

Happy Monday!!!!!

So true.

Right. You're sitting there raising your blood pressure, screaming, cursing - starting your day on the wrong foot. All about something that you can't even work to change or reverse.

I think we're just used to letting our emotions do what they'd like. Letting them run our show until they're completely dissolved. But it's OK to stop them and check them sometimes. It's really about being more mindful of the moment and thinking a bit more.

enjoy your monday bvy!!!!

This part I bolded in particular is a damn WORD!

And that's something I'm trying to learn as an adult.  Really existing and understanding what's taking place in the moment.  And slowing TF down in my response and emotional reactions.  It starts to trip you out how much you realize your emotions are a choice after going so many years thinking, "Well, I can't control how I feel!"

HA!  The biggest lie we've ever told ourselves.

Check out mindful meditations

[ya rock muh world.]

Thank you for this, Afro!  Good morning baby boo! <3

Maybe it's a Cancer thing, but I've been on the same wave length.  I was driving to work this morning and was cussing this lady out, because she was driving so stupid in front of me.  And I literally said out loud, "Why am I giving her so much energy?  I left early.  I won't be late.  Why am I doing the most and she's probably in her car humming Christmas carols. "

I know that's a simplified example of what you're talking about, but it totally applies.  We are in control and really do create our own energy.  And with that energy there are consequences or, for a less dramatic wording, subsequent steps.  Me being pissed about the lady driving turns into me having a bad attitude which turns into me not being nice when I come into the office which turns into..... etc.

I've been working a lot on myself lately.  And with it being the end of the year, self-reflection is almost a default. 

Positive energy is even more important in thoughts than it is in our actual actions, because it starts there first. 

Happy Monday!!!!!

So true.

Right. You're sitting there raising your blood pressure, screaming, cursing - starting your day on the wrong foot. All about something that you can't even work to change or reverse.

I think we're just used to letting our emotions do what they'd like. Letting them run our show until they're completely dissolved. But it's OK to stop them and check them sometimes. It's really about being more mindful of the moment and thinking a bit more.

enjoy your monday bvy!!!!

This part I bolded in particular is a damn WORD!

And that's something I'm trying to learn as an adult.  Really existing and understanding what's taking place in the moment.  And slowing TF down in my response and emotional reactions.  It starts to trip you out how much you realize your emotions are a choice after going so many years thinking, "Well, I can't control how I feel!"

HA!  The biggest lie we've ever told ourselves.

Check out mindful meditations

Yasss.

I've done one before. Promised myself I'd do it more often but haven't followed up just yet.

It really is an experience.

It forces you to really stop thinking about what happened and what will happen ...and just focus on what is happening. Where you are right now. How you're feeling. It got surprisingly emotional for me. You feel as if you're one with your body. Just to feel your heart beat. It reminded me how important it is to take care of my body.

[Annie]

That is why I cant look love and hiphop, these girls don?t know how to control their emotions. They are wasting too much time and they look like fools

[ya rock muh world.]

That is why I cant look love and hiphop, these girls don?t know how to control their emotions. They are wasting too much time and they look like fools

[b7]

Thank you for this, Afro!  Good morning baby boo! <3

Maybe it's a Cancer thing, but I've been on the same wave length.  I was driving to work this morning and was cussing this lady out, because she was driving so stupid in front of me.  And I literally said out loud, "Why am I giving her so much energy?  I left early.  I won't be late.  Why am I doing the most and she's probably in her car humming Christmas carols. "

I know that's a simplified example of what you're talking about, but it totally applies.  We are in control and really do create our own energy.  And with that energy there are consequences or, for a less dramatic wording, subsequent steps.  Me being pissed about the lady driving turns into me having a bad attitude which turns into me not being nice when I come into the office which turns into..... etc.

I've been working a lot on myself lately.  And with it being the end of the year, self-reflection is almost a default. 

Positive energy is even more important in thoughts than it is in our actual actions, because it starts there first. 

Happy Monday!!!!!

SSSDSDSDSDSDSDSDS

[ya rock muh world.]

I've been a lot more mindful of music that I choose to listen to, as well.

I think we underestimate how much of an impact music can have on our emotions. If we listen to happy/dance music, it makes us wanna dance and it kinda energizes us. If we listen to sad/heartbreak music, it tends to bring back unsavory memories and get us in a certain mood.

As much as I LOVE LOVE Toni, I've had to be a lot more selective of which tunes of hers I turn on. I'm not going to voluntarily get myself in a somber mood. And if I already feel a somber mood knocking at my door, I'm not going to invite it in for Netflix n Chill by turning on sad music. I'd rather check that emotion. Tell it to try again some other time.

We all know how important a balanced food diet is but I think a music diet is important too. Treat the sad songs like fried foods. Kept to a minimum.