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[ya rock muh world.]

tangy too

[Rxxf]

But I do agree that some people are more about the whole "event" of an apology than the actual results it can provide.

It's usually painfully obvious when someone's doing something simply to make themselves look better or "bigger" than others, and when someone is being honest and transparent as possible.

Anytime someone leads their apology with "Imma be the bigger person and....", they might as well just stop talking to me because that's an insult. I'm the smaller person in this situation? You can't apologize to me by insulting me first.

The foundation of a genuine apology is accountability - and accountability is something that can not only be useful in friendships, but business relationships as well. You should never be too big to admit your fault, own it, make no excuses for it, and keep it moving. Don't wait on an apology from the other person, or a pat on the back for the gesture. You shouldn't expect a cookie for something you should be doing as an adult anyway.

!!!!!

[Scott.]

Yeah, but it takes me a few days to do so.

[ya rock muh world.]

But I do agree that some people are more about the whole "event" of an apology than the actual results it can provide.

It's usually painfully obvious when someone's doing something simply to make themselves look better or "bigger" than others, and when someone is being honest and transparent as possible.

Anytime someone leads their apology with "Imma be the bigger person and....", they might as well just stop talking to me because that's an insult. I'm the smaller person in this situation? You can't apologize to me by insulting me first.

The foundation of a genuine apology is accountability - and accountability is something that can not only be useful in friendships, but business relationships as well. You should never be too big to admit your fault, own it, make no excuses for it, and keep it moving. Don't wait on an apology from the other person, or a pat on the back for the gesture. You shouldn't expect a cookie for something you should be doing as an adult anyway.

!!!!!

Lemme announce how great I am for apologizing first! Then we'll get to me taking accountability, etc.

If a gesture is that grand/humble it should speak for itself.

[Rxxf]

Yeah, but it takes me a few days to do so.

I love you.

[Rxxf]

It is important for you to know what you are apologizing for, exactly?
I tend to have to know WHAT I'm apologizing for... and WHY (mainly for myself and others, for peace), too.

[Scott.]

And when people apologize to me, I accept it but I don't fuck with them again right away. It takes me some time to absorb it all.

[Scott.]

Yeah, but it takes me a few days to do so.

I love you.

I'm just being honest. I'm very stubborn (Aquarian all the way), so when I know I'm wrong I don't even care at that moment, but a few days later after thinking it through, I'll apologize.

[b7]

Even if I feel I was in the right or justified in my actions, I still apologize if I feel that I've done something wrong or out of my character.

[b7]

Taking responsibility or at least attempting to understand the other person and their point of view, is very important IMO. I can?t do the hard headed stubborn mess

[Scott.]

Taking responsibility or at least attempting to understand the other person and their point of view, is very important IMO. I can?t do the hard headed stubborn mess

Oh hush

[KING BENTLEY.]

I gotta story ...

So yawl know I?ve been really laid back lately, not really wanting to be in mess, more so just typing, usually on the go. I?m on a whole spiritual path. It?s wonderful.

But ... I went to a girl here ... in private, didn?t publicize it. I didn?t tell anyone else here. And mind you, a lot of girls told me, ?look don?t even try to be nice to her, she?s a lost cause?

But I was trying to do what I felt was the correct thing to do.

So I says to this girl .... look, we?ve interacted for years, there?s no deep beef.
We don?t have agree, but I can guarantee yo, we will be able to respectfully disagree!

Boom, bam. Short and straight to the point.

And I said .... sista .. never again can we do the foolishness of disagreeing in a malicious manner ..... in public!

So time passes, I?m ... of my word. Cause I really don?t like misunderstandings n mess.

And this next part isn?t shocking

The first opportunity this girl gets, she tries to cover up the entire convo, and go back to ?oh I?m being picked at! You just wanna get into it!? and proceeded to lie and make another member feel she was attacked. And this other member wasn?t able to pull the receipts of her being attacked either. It was a complete shit show.

And for me .... I really can?t do, catty sissies and messy punks. I refuse to.

What I?m saying is ... you have to be careful, who you extend genuine kindness to.

Because see, not every phagg even loves themselves to conduct themselves in a proper manner. Some girls are so used to being th brunt of the joke ... that they make themselves into a fckn clown

And see ... this sista here was so ready to get ?INTO IT? ... that she forgot that convo.

At times ... ppl are ugly on the outside and inside. So be weary of petty phagg s like that. Thank you for your time.

[Rxxf]

omf

[ya rock muh world.]

Thought we were done, Bent.
Seems like you're the one who needs to "move on".

It was clear you wanted to argue with me today.
I wasn't addressing you, and you found a need to cape for Hugo when no one was even attacking him.

And I know how you look so I won't even bother to address a conversation about looks with you.