Coz no shade, I don't have the patience and I don't feel like typing mess out only for someone to play devil's advocate, pick bits apart, ask loaded questions and twist what I wrote into something even they don't know how to argue and then go around in circles splitting hairs till we're arguing about random shit like grape juice or something

Aaaaannnnd it isn't my resposbibulty, I can only give you my experience as a Gay black man, like many others in here, but if that isn't enough and you need someone of more authority and I can mock up a list and PM you if you're really interested.