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[Scott.]

I also think people's responses are probably a reflection of their own lives (completely and absolutely no shade). My parents are still married and I don't have step siblings, half brothers, WHATEVER.  Ive never experienced being an extra child or the child out of the family unit, so i think it's utterly ridiculous for a bitch to pay for another hoe's child to go on a Damn trip. The argument would be stronger if they were married but her boyfriend? Gtfoh

But reading that, I didn't get that there was an issue with him paying for his child. The issue is that she never had a desire to include the other child at all and that's why he was pissed about it.

She didn't mention the whole, Well, you and your baby momma can pay for her and then she can come" thing until he expressed that she was wrong for not thinking of their children's other sibling.

[Bentley. HARRIS!]

hmm first things first,
I noticed she opened with the phrases "my boyfriend" and "our kids", so yea ....

she really shouldn't be asking for conventional advice for an unconventional situation
but she's not linked to this man, so she's not link to that child yet. So she's not "wrong"

but ... in my opinion, because I have a half hellraiser sister
she should take the kid

having beef or separation between siblings always starts when one woman decides her children are different. It's not about you anymore, it's about your kids family

So she can exclude him to save a lil coin, but when she doesn't have it and his new girlfriend excludes her little hellraisers, and they come home crying because they can't spend time with their bro/sis, she looks like she'll be the first one in the street wanting baby mama drama

you really can't play those exclusion kinds of games with kids because it will come back to bite you

[Scott.]

And on top of that, she has kids by him, knowing that he also has a child with someone else. The kids are siblings. Why not include them all? I mean, women always say, "I'm a packaged deal!" when it comes to them and their kids. So are men and their kids.

[Vonc2002]

I also think people's responses are probably a reflection of their own lives (completely and absolutely no shade). My parents are still married and I don't have step siblings, half brothers, WHATEVER.  Ive never experienced being an extra child or the child out of the family unit, so i think it's utterly ridiculous for a bitch to pay for another hoe's child to go on a Damn trip. The argument would be stronger if they were married but her boyfriend? Gtfoh

But reading that, I didn't get that there was an issue with him paying for his child. The issue is that she never had a desire to include the other child at all and that's why he was pissed about it.

She didn't mention the whole, Well, you and your baby momma can pay for her and then she can come" thing until he expressed that she was wrong for not thinking of their children's other sibling.

I just dont agree. Sorry. If she flat out didn't want the child to go then paying for the child to go wouldn't be the convo.  Fuethermore, if she's planning a trip for her family and her nigga why tf WOULD She just include another woman's child?  They aren't married. That's not her obligation.  That's that mans and his baby mama's obligation to take their child on vacations at this point. And honestly we don't even know the relationships or the dynamics because my momma couldn't invite your other child on a trip with us and that's how it is sometimes.  Nah, she ain't wrong

[Scott.]

I also think people's responses are probably a reflection of their own lives (completely and absolutely no shade). My parents are still married and I don't have step siblings, half brothers, WHATEVER.  Ive never experienced being an extra child or the child out of the family unit, so i think it's utterly ridiculous for a bitch to pay for another hoe's child to go on a Damn trip. The argument would be stronger if they were married but her boyfriend? Gtfoh

But reading that, I didn't get that there was an issue with him paying for his child. The issue is that she never had a desire to include the other child at all and that's why he was pissed about it.

She didn't mention the whole, Well, you and your baby momma can pay for her and then she can come" thing until he expressed that she was wrong for not thinking of their children's other sibling.

I just dont agree. Sorry. If she flat out didn't want the child to go then paying for the child to go wouldn't be the convo.  Fuethermore, if she's planning a trip for her family and her nigga why tf WOULD She just include another woman's child?  They aren't married. That's not her obligation.  That's that mans and his baby mama's obligation to take their child on vacations at this point. And honestly we don't even know the relationships or the dynamics because my momma couldn't invite your other child on a trip with us and that's how it is sometimes.  Nah, she ain't wrong

Like you said, your parents are still together and you don't have half-siblings, so of course you're not understanding it and that's fine.

[🦚]

And on top of that, she has kids by him, knowing that he also has a child with someone else. The kids are siblings. Why not include them all? I mean, women always say, "I'm a packaged deal!" when it comes to them and their kids. So are men and their kids.

but why isn't he coughing up the coin?

[L0NZ.]

Depends on the type of vacation too. If you dont want to pay for another Disney ticket, I get it. But if you being petty over hotel room space and another mouth to feed at the steakhouse then you buggin

[Scott.]

And on top of that, she has kids by him, knowing that he also has a child with someone else. The kids are siblings. Why not include them all? I mean, women always say, "I'm a packaged deal!" when it comes to them and their kids. So are men and their kids.

but why isn't he coughing up the coin?

As I said in one of my previous posts, I don't think the "coin" was ever the issue here? I took it as he was upset because she didn't want to include the child at all from the beginning.

[Vonc2002]

hmm first things first,
I noticed she opened with the phrases "my boyfriend" and "our kids", so yea ....

she really shouldn't be asking for conventional advice for an unconventional situation
but she's not linked to this man, so she's not link to that child yet. So she's not "wrong"

but ... in my opinion, because I have a half hellraiser sister
she should take the kid

having beef or separation between siblings always starts when one woman decides her children are different. It's not about you anymore, it's about your kids family

So she can exclude him to save a lil coin, but when she doesn't have it and his new girlfriend excludes her little hellraisers, and they come home crying because they can't spend time with their bro/sis, she looks like she'll be the first one in the street wanting baby mama drama

you really can't play those exclusion kinds of games with kids because it will come back to bite you

Now THIS argument sounds better.  SHOULD she do it to be kind and inclusive?  Maybe.  But to argue that she's wrong like it's her obligation is pure comedy

[Navyman]

This nigger needs to leave her. There's plenty of desperate women out there for him.

You said enough and a handful right here. S/o to this queen for having some self respect and not going for this ride or die mentality, show him I'm worthy type shit.

There's another out there he can goop to carry his responsibilities, she said naw.

[🦚]

And on top of that, she has kids by him, knowing that he also has a child with someone else. The kids are siblings. Why not include them all? I mean, women always say, "I'm a packaged deal!" when it comes to them and their kids. So are men and their kids.

but why isn't he coughing up the coin?

As I said in one of my previous posts, I don't think the "coin" was ever the issue here? I took it as he was upset because she didn't want to include the child at all from the beginning.

that is an assumption based on your interpretation of the post.
word by word she made it clear his external kids could come, but she wouldn't be the one paying for them.

and if he can't afford to pay for ALL his kids to go.. maybe it's time to keep his damn dick in his pants.

[Scott.]

And on top of that, she has kids by him, knowing that he also has a child with someone else. The kids are siblings. Why not include them all? I mean, women always say, "I'm a packaged deal!" when it comes to them and their kids. So are men and their kids.

but why isn't he coughing up the coin?

As I said in one of my previous posts, I don't think the "coin" was ever the issue here? I took it as he was upset because she didn't want to include the child at all from the beginning.

that is an assumption based on your interpretation of the post.
word by word she made it clear his external kids could come, but she wouldn't be the one paying for them.

and if he can't afford to pay for ALL his kids to go.. maybe it's time to keep his damn dick in his pants.

Well I could say your argument is based on your interpretation of the post as well because she said he felt she was wrong for not including the child, THEN she said, well she can come, but y'all would have to pay. I'm not saying she's wrong for THAT part. But including the child IS wrong. I mean, let's just agree to disagree. I don't have the energy today at all 

[Navyman]

And why yall not questioning why this nigga making her pay for everybody vacation? This shouldn't even be an issue if the father is doing what he supposed to because he would already be coming up off the coin. 

[Vonc2002]

This nigger needs to leave her. There's plenty of desperate women out there for him.

You said enough and a handful right here. S/o to this queen for having some self respect and not going for this ride or die mentality, show him I'm worthy type shit.

There's another out there he can goop to carry his responsibilities, she said naw.

[Vonc2002]

And on top of that, she has kids by him, knowing that he also has a child with someone else. The kids are siblings. Why not include them all? I mean, women always say, "I'm a packaged deal!" when it comes to them and their kids. So are men and their kids.

but why isn't he coughing up the coin?

As I said in one of my previous posts, I don't think the "coin" was ever the issue here? I took it as he was upset because she didn't want to include the child at all from the beginning.

that is an assumption based on your interpretation of the post.
word by word she made it clear his external kids could come, but she wouldn't be the one paying for them.

and if he can't afford to pay for ALL his kids to go.. maybe it's time to keep his damn dick in his pants.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm not here for assumptions. She said if u pay for em then cool.  That's what was SAID.  PERIOD!