he def grew up hearing it
he admitted to me that his mother told him not to bring home anyone darker than him with "nappy" hair.
and it def goes towards #protectblackwomen not
just because he repeated/said it
but because i took time to help him understand why he SHOULDNT say it. and how it can affect the women he's talking about.
that's where the "protection" comes in.
it's all about thinking further than ourselves in that moment. watching the way we speak about one another.
like.... you dont HAVE to say shit like that.

it costs u nothing to keep it to urself.
i know he felt that i may not have been offended but i wasnt gonna sit there and hehe and haha with him about it, or even be silent. im gonna call u on ur shit
i did it very nicely and gently. but i def checked him. and was ready for him to feel a type a way about it. and maybe be a lil mad at me . btut i couldn't care about that.
thankfully, he actually understood. and is now checking himself.