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Title: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on July 19, 2016, 05:11:06 PM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dHmfUIK6e5A

:omgwatshappening: :everythingok:
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: GRAND on July 19, 2016, 05:14:04 PM
Gross no

I'd rather be a whore than settle

and I've done that before

:heyddy:
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: b7 on July 19, 2016, 05:14:44 PM
Not in this lifetime Lolz still single btw
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Jon on July 19, 2016, 05:16:37 PM
i feel like everyone has to do that at some point.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Treasure on July 19, 2016, 05:16:39 PM
i jus wann' keep my friens

bein in luv is none of my concern an'more
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on July 19, 2016, 05:18:40 PM
I couldnt IMAGINE. What's the point?
If there were things about my boyfriend that I just couldnt stand I would definitely leave him.

the mentality is disgusting tbh
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: D.I.E.G.O. on July 19, 2016, 05:18:49 PM
Quote from: GRAND on July 19, 2016, 05:14:04 PM
Gross no

I'd rather be a whore than settle

and I've done that before

:heyddy:

You've been a whore or you've settled before?  :usuresis:
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on July 19, 2016, 05:20:01 PM
Quote from: Chao on July 19, 2016, 05:16:39 PM
i jus wann' keep my friens

bein in luv is none of my concern an'more

Glad you've accepted the fact that Vonc doesnt really want./
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: GRAND on July 19, 2016, 05:21:16 PM
Quote from: GoDiegoGo on July 19, 2016, 05:18:49 PM
Quote from: GRAND on July 19, 2016, 05:14:04 PM
Gross no

I'd rather be a whore than settle

and I've done that before

:heyddy:

You've been a whore or you've settled before?  :usuresis:
fag didn't you just tell me to stay on topic in another thread

answer the question and stay on topic

:hmph:

Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Boomz on July 19, 2016, 05:21:40 PM
Quote from: Jonovan on July 19, 2016, 05:16:37 PM
i feel like everyone has to do that at some point.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: D.I.E.G.O. on July 19, 2016, 05:21:47 PM
 :plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop:
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: D.I.E.G.O. on July 19, 2016, 05:22:27 PM
I'd rather be single than settle. Being alone doesn't scare me. Being with someone I can't fucking stand does.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Kurama on July 19, 2016, 05:23:27 PM
Im fully okay with being alone. I enjoy it most times.


I don't think I settle, I am flexible though. Allowing for people to have room for growth rather than demanding they be all I want in a boyfriend immediately.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: b7 on July 19, 2016, 05:24:46 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:21:40 PM
Quote from: Jonovan on July 19, 2016, 05:16:37 PM
i feel like everyone has to do that at some point.
n

Nah. We all have to realize that there will be things about someone that we don't always like, but "settling" suggests something else entirely, and I'm never doing it lol
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Zankou. on July 19, 2016, 05:25:21 PM
know your worth gorls
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on July 19, 2016, 05:25:47 PM
I will say I dont expect someone to give me what im not willing to give.

But giving me less than what I give is a BIG NO.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: 4 fucking k on July 19, 2016, 05:29:38 PM
I could never. I see so many who do and they're miserable.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Glenda on July 19, 2016, 05:30:21 PM
Nope. Haven't done it yet and will continue not to do so.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: GRAND on July 19, 2016, 05:31:20 PM
I know a very sweet girl who I think has settled because they have a baby now

But he's cheated and he refuses to give her a ring. And he's unemployed.

I'm trying to get her to cheat. :bvy:
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Boomz on July 19, 2016, 05:32:37 PM
Quote from: GRAND on July 19, 2016, 05:31:20 PM
I know a very sweet girl who I think has settled because they have a baby now

But he's cheated and he refuses to give her a ring. And he's unemployed.

I'm trying to get her to cheat. :bvy:
dfdsfvv

:omgwatshappening:
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on July 19, 2016, 05:33:03 PM
Quote from: GRAND on July 19, 2016, 05:31:20 PM
I know a very sweet girl who I think has settled because they have a baby now

But he's cheated and he refuses to give her a ring. And he's unemployed.

I'm trying to get her to cheat. :bvy:

:rudone: Not him being unemployed and a cheater too.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: b7 on July 19, 2016, 05:33:19 PM
Quote from: Kurama on July 19, 2016, 05:23:27 PM
Im fully okay with being alone. I enjoy it most times.


I don't think I settle, I am flexible though. Allowing for people to have room for growth rather than demanding they be all I want in a boyfriend immediately.
wow wow wow

Yea lolz
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on July 19, 2016, 05:33:24 PM
makes sense that he cant give her a ring tho'. He's fucking BROKE
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Zankou. on July 19, 2016, 05:33:35 PM
is she ugly insecure?
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Boomz on July 19, 2016, 05:34:25 PM
Quote from: RIGGY on July 19, 2016, 05:24:46 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:21:40 PM
Quote from: Jonovan on July 19, 2016, 05:16:37 PM
i feel like everyone has to do that at some point.
n

Nah. We all have to realize that there will be things about someone that we don't always like, but "settling" suggests something else entirely, and I'm never doing it lol
;

Even if you're in your late 40's, early 50's and still haven't found what you are looking for?

Shit, at that point...if you are sane, have a 401K & a clean bill of health...I'll take it. I don't have to be in love or even find you cute.  :kii:

I'm okay with being alone now (in fact I prefer it @ this age) but when I enter that age bracket I can't imagine still being alone.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Glenda on July 19, 2016, 05:34:53 PM
Quote from: RIGGY on July 19, 2016, 05:33:19 PM
Quote from: Kurama on July 19, 2016, 05:23:27 PM
Im fully okay with being alone. I enjoy it most times.


I don't think I settle, I am flexible though. Allowing for people to have room for growth rather than demanding they be all I want in a boyfriend immediately.
wow wow wow

Yea lolz

!!!! That's the space I'm in now.

Gotta allow people to do their own thang.  :ohwow:
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: b7 on July 19, 2016, 05:36:17 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:34:25 PM
Quote from: RIGGY on July 19, 2016, 05:24:46 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:21:40 PM
Quote from: Jonovan on July 19, 2016, 05:16:37 PM
i feel like everyone has to do that at some point.
n

Nah. We all have to realize that there will be things about someone that we don't always like, but "settling" suggests something else entirely, and I'm never doing it lol
;

Even if you're in your late 40's, early 50's and still haven't found what you are looking for?

Shit, at that point...if you are sane, have a 401K & a clean bill of health...I'll take it. I don't have to be in love or even find you cute.  :kii:

I'm okay with being alone now (in fact I prefer it @ this age) but when I enter that age bracket I can't imagine still being alone.
yikes

Sorry to hear that you're putting so much pressure on ur self. Hopefully you'll grow out of that
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Boomz on July 19, 2016, 05:37:25 PM
I feel like there are levels to "settling"

In my head, I want my hubby to give Tyson Beckford aging wise and make 6 figures but I've realized that's not living in reality.

Now me settling would be going for someone who is jobless and looks like Flavor Flav. :uhh:
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on July 19, 2016, 05:37:42 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:34:25 PM
Quote from: RIGGY on July 19, 2016, 05:24:46 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:21:40 PM
Quote from: Jonovan on July 19, 2016, 05:16:37 PM
i feel like everyone has to do that at some point.
n

Nah. We all have to realize that there will be things about someone that we don't always like, but "settling" suggests something else entirely, and I'm never doing it lol
Shit, at that point...if you are sane, have a 401K & a clean bill of health...I'll take it. I don't have to be in love or even find you cute.  :kii:

But why?
For the comforting "thought" that you wont die alone?

Im trying to understand
(http://i.imgur.com/4585GLp.gif)
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Glenda on July 19, 2016, 05:38:01 PM
Quote from: r u ok on July 19, 2016, 05:36:38 PM
My older sister rejected her bf's proposal because of the lackluster ring. Her theory was that if he couldn't afford to get a decent ring then he wasn't ready for a family! :cheerup:

Thought it was kinda mean but didn't like him anyway , knew she could do way better , so I had to agree! :cheerup:

Gargoyle faced nigger

inbvccccc
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Zankou. on July 19, 2016, 05:38:24 PM
boom' hun get you a dog and call it a day
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: GRAND on July 19, 2016, 05:38:57 PM
Quote from: Nice Stereo. on July 19, 2016, 05:33:35 PM
is she ugly insecure?
she's gorgeous!

That's the infuriating part.

He's gotten fat and nasty. I just wanna choke her sometimes.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Glenda on July 19, 2016, 05:39:07 PM
praying that my husband is loyal and cute with money.

(http://i.imgur.com/4585GLp.gif)
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: b7 on July 19, 2016, 05:39:15 PM
Quote from: Baphomet. on July 19, 2016, 05:37:42 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:34:25 PM
Quote from: RIGGY on July 19, 2016, 05:24:46 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:21:40 PM
Quote from: Jonovan on July 19, 2016, 05:16:37 PM
i feel like everyone has to do that at some point.
n

Nah. We all have to realize that there will be things about someone that we don't always like, but "settling" suggests something else entirely, and I'm never doing it lol
Shit, at that point...if you are sane, have a 401K & a clean bill of health...I'll take it. I don't have to be in love or even find you cute.  :kii:

But why?
For the comforting "thought" that you wont die alone?

Im trying to understand
(http://i.imgur.com/4585GLp.gif)
right, like who are you trying to impress?

n

I'm never doing it

Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Boomz on July 19, 2016, 05:39:15 PM
Quote from: Baphomet. on July 19, 2016, 05:37:42 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:34:25 PM
Quote from: RIGGY on July 19, 2016, 05:24:46 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:21:40 PM
Quote from: Jonovan on July 19, 2016, 05:16:37 PM
i feel like everyone has to do that at some point.
n

Nah. We all have to realize that there will be things about someone that we don't always like, but "settling" suggests something else entirely, and I'm never doing it lol
Shit, at that point...if you are sane, have a 401K & a clean bill of health...I'll take it. I don't have to be in love or even find you cute.  :kii:

But why?
For the comforting "thought" that you wont die alone?

Im trying to understand
(http://i.imgur.com/4585GLp.gif)

Yes  :'(
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: b7 on July 19, 2016, 05:40:51 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:39:15 PM
Quote from: Baphomet. on July 19, 2016, 05:37:42 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:34:25 PM
Quote from: RIGGY on July 19, 2016, 05:24:46 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:21:40 PM
Quote from: Jonovan on July 19, 2016, 05:16:37 PM
i feel like everyone has to do that at some point.
n

Nah. We all have to realize that there will be things about someone that we don't always like, but "settling" suggests something else entirely, and I'm never doing it lol
Shit, at that point...if you are sane, have a 401K & a clean bill of health...I'll take it. I don't have to be in love or even find you cute.  :kii:

But why?
For the comforting "thought" that you wont die alone?

Im trying to understand
(http://i.imgur.com/4585GLp.gif)

Yes  :'(
aw wait

:stressed:

Thought u were just a gold digging coon ddfffff I'm sorry luv
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: FAMÈ on July 19, 2016, 05:40:59 PM
Settling for anything that isn't real love? No.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on July 19, 2016, 05:41:57 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:39:15 PM
Quote from: Baphomet. on July 19, 2016, 05:37:42 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:34:25 PM
Quote from: RIGGY on July 19, 2016, 05:24:46 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:21:40 PM
Quote from: Jonovan on July 19, 2016, 05:16:37 PM
i feel like everyone has to do that at some point.
n

Nah. We all have to realize that there will be things about someone that we don't always like, but "settling" suggests something else entirely, and I'm never doing it lol
Shit, at that point...if you are sane, have a 401K & a clean bill of health...I'll take it. I don't have to be in love or even find you cute.  :kii:

But why?
For the comforting "thought" that you wont die alone?

Im trying to understand
(http://i.imgur.com/4585GLp.gif)

Yes  :'(
awww
:stressed: As long you have GOOD trustworthy and loyal friends you'll never have that feeling. tbh
They'll always be by your side.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Boomz on July 19, 2016, 05:43:00 PM
Quote from: RIGGY on July 19, 2016, 05:40:51 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:39:15 PM
Quote from: Baphomet. on July 19, 2016, 05:37:42 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:34:25 PM
Quote from: RIGGY on July 19, 2016, 05:24:46 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:21:40 PM
Quote from: Jonovan on July 19, 2016, 05:16:37 PM
i feel like everyone has to do that at some point.
n

Nah. We all have to realize that there will be things about someone that we don't always like, but "settling" suggests something else entirely, and I'm never doing it lol
Shit, at that point...if you are sane, have a 401K & a clean bill of health...I'll take it. I don't have to be in love or even find you cute.  :kii:

But why?
For the comforting "thought" that you wont die alone?

Im trying to understand
(http://i.imgur.com/4585GLp.gif)

Yes  :'(
aw wait

:stressed:

Thought u were just a gold digging coon ddfffff I'm sorry luv

fdsarhgkkjjgjfdl

u kno wha
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: D.I.E.G.O. on July 19, 2016, 05:43:12 PM
I can't imagine being part of one of those couples you see around and you can tell they don't like one another. No eye contact, no emotion, nothing. They are like roommates. Keep it. I'll stay picky
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: b7 on July 19, 2016, 05:45:29 PM
Quote from: GoDiegoGo on July 19, 2016, 05:43:12 PM
I can't imagine being part of one of those couples you see around and you can tell they don't like one another. No eye contact, no emotion, nothing. They are like roommates. Keep it. I'll stay picky
always sad to see

Affection and PDA is one thing, and I can see people not always being into that, but u can literally SEE the awkwardness and low level chemistry in others.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Just Dropped In To See What Condition My Condition Was In on July 19, 2016, 05:57:49 PM
It seems as the older I get, the more content I am with being alone and single. I refuse to settle. I did it once in my 20's and it turned out to be a disaster. Never again. I'll rather wait for the right one to come along and enjoy living my life. I live alone, have a very good job, and putting my career front and center. And get to go out drinking whenever I want. Hehe
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Nine on July 19, 2016, 06:00:27 PM
No, I'd rather just be alone.

I think I love being in my own company too much actually.

Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Jon on July 19, 2016, 06:01:27 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:34:25 PM
Quote from: RIGGY on July 19, 2016, 05:24:46 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:21:40 PM
Quote from: Jonovan on July 19, 2016, 05:16:37 PM
i feel like everyone has to do that at some point.
n

Nah. We all have to realize that there will be things about someone that we don't always like, but "settling" suggests something else entirely, and I'm never doing it lol
;

Even if you're in your late 40's, early 50's and still haven't found what you are looking for?

Shit, at that point...if you are sane, have a 401K & a clean bill of health...I'll take it. I don't have to be in love or even find you cute.  :kii:

I'm okay with being alone now (in fact I prefer it @ this age) but when I enter that age bracket I can't imagine still being alone.


!!! Your priorities change as you get older. It could even be a open relationship as long as they come home to me.  :'(
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: FRANCE on July 19, 2016, 06:02:36 PM
Definitely not. There have been some close calls though. But when I stand back and realize the picture was blurred, too close to read the words but as I stand back and start to see much better, I just hit the block button.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Boomz on July 19, 2016, 06:05:37 PM
Quote from: Jonovan on July 19, 2016, 06:01:27 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:34:25 PM
Quote from: RIGGY on July 19, 2016, 05:24:46 PM
Quote from: Boomer on July 19, 2016, 05:21:40 PM
Quote from: Jonovan on July 19, 2016, 05:16:37 PM
i feel like everyone has to do that at some point.
n

Nah. We all have to realize that there will be things about someone that we don't always like, but "settling" suggests something else entirely, and I'm never doing it lol
;

Even if you're in your late 40's, early 50's and still haven't found what you are looking for?

Shit, at that point...if you are sane, have a 401K & a clean bill of health...I'll take it. I don't have to be in love or even find you cute.  :kii:

I'm okay with being alone now (in fact I prefer it @ this age) but when I enter that age bracket I can't imagine still being alone.


!!! Your priorities change as you get older. It could even be a open relationship as long as they come home to me.  :'(

(http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lqyws5VL311qii6tmo1_400.gif)
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on July 19, 2016, 06:06:27 PM
praying
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: BigDawg on July 19, 2016, 06:17:52 PM
Dont want L.A.N.C.E.

(https://media0.giphy.com/media/Dgktz1xXLAc2A/200w.gif)
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: LOONA. on July 19, 2016, 09:51:08 PM
Quote from: Kurama on July 19, 2016, 05:23:27 PM
Im fully okay with being alone. I enjoy it most times.


I don't think I settle, I am flexible though. Allowing for people to have room for growth rather than demanding they be all I want in a boyfriend immediately.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: BigDawg on July 19, 2016, 10:32:06 PM
Personally being alone doesnt scare me as much as devoting time and energy to someone that is not worthy and is only around to take what I allow them to have. My biggest problem has always been giving more of myself than the other person deserved. Then I got hurt. Then I got angry and withdrew. Then I found out that wasnt beneficial to anyone....most importantly me. With all that said, I no longer put stock into being with the one for the moment to fill a void. I would much rather allow that good energy find me and devote my time to taking care of me and becoming a better person.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: FUCK Bey on July 19, 2016, 10:55:36 PM
Quote from: Kurama on July 19, 2016, 05:23:27 PM
Im fully okay with being alone. I enjoy it most times.


I don't think I settle, I am flexible though. Allowing for people to have room for growth rather than demanding they be all I want in a boyfriend immediately.
>>>><<<<

I don't even look tbh. I just prefer things to happen and fall into place on its own. I just don't see myself settling for something I don't want... Especially since I enjoy my personal space n privacy so much. I more so look for a best friend, not "the perfect partner".... Like until then, I'm good... Im willing to wait. :dead:
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on July 19, 2016, 10:58:27 PM
no sir ree booooooooobbb

I cannot deal with a situation that makes me unhappy

i will buy body pillows

and i have 2
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: b7 on July 20, 2016, 03:33:46 AM
Quote from: TheNextLew on July 19, 2016, 10:58:27 PM
no sir ree booooooooobbb

I cannot deal with a situation that makes me unhappy

i will buy body pillows

and i have 2
:wub:
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: whatever on July 20, 2016, 07:12:52 AM
Right now no I don't settle.

But once I get upper age like 40-50's it will be more about companionship instead of the perfect one.

I don't want to be that gay single black uncle lmao nahhhh

I do want a fam of my own one day.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Gilgamesh. on July 20, 2016, 07:25:11 AM
Not settling. In the past three years i've compromised a lot for someone, and the very things I chose to overlook initially end up being major issues later on. I always say, two people that won't lie to you; God and yourself. If your instinct is telling you something's not right, you're betting off leaving it alone or letting them know what you expect before either one of you are too invested.
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: b7 on July 20, 2016, 02:43:56 PM
Quote from: Gilgamesh. on July 20, 2016, 07:25:11 AM
Not settling. In the past three years i've comporimsied a lot for someone, and the very things I chose to overlook initially end up being major issues later down the road. I always say, two people thatwon't lie to you; God and yourself. If your instict is telling you something not right, you're betting off leaving it alone or letting them know what you expect before either one fo you are too invested.
!!!!

It just becomes a MESS for both involved
Title: Re: Do you just settle to avoid being alone?
Post by: Real on July 20, 2016, 02:45:34 PM
Never have, never will.