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Title: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Kurama on September 21, 2016, 03:35:10 PM
What are some changes in your vibe or the way you carry yourself in contrast to when you were younger [younger can be a few years ago],  If any?

What prompted the changes [significant events]?

Are you content with the changes?

Any changes you still working on?

:ohwow:
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: FINE. on September 21, 2016, 03:42:41 PM
Jdjdj

These threads.

The psychologist in you. :wub:
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: GRAND on September 21, 2016, 03:44:27 PM
Yeah

I'm nice these days
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: FINE. on September 21, 2016, 03:46:05 PM
But I don't think I've changed. I feel like I'm more sensitive now tho. But I've always been reserved, cool and laid back. I remember being a loner which I still am. People approached me and that's how we became friends.

I want to be less in my head and more in the moment.
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: XXX. on September 21, 2016, 03:46:59 PM
Quote from: FINE. on September 21, 2016, 03:46:05 PM
But I don't think I've changed. I feel like I'm more sensitive now tho. But I've always been reserved, cool and laid back. I remember being a loner which I still am. People approached me and that's how we became friends.

I want to be less in my head and more in the moment.


n
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: FlowerBomb on September 21, 2016, 03:47:53 PM
Quote from: FINE. on September 21, 2016, 03:46:05 PM
But I don't think I've changed. I feel like I'm more sensitive now tho. But I've always been reserved, cool and laid back. I remember being a loner which I still am. People approached me and that's how we became friends.

I want to be less in my head and more in the moment.
are we the same person
:ohwow:
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Kurama on September 21, 2016, 03:49:16 PM
Quote from: FINE. on September 21, 2016, 03:42:41 PM
Jdjdj

These threads.

The psychologist in you. :wub:

dfgfty5

Are they too much Quemon?
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: yummy on September 21, 2016, 03:51:45 PM
IDK about anyone else but I shudder when I think about how I was at 17-18. The way I was trying to fit in with a group of friends who clearly didn't fuck with me, I didn't have a mind of my own at all, and was more narrowminded than ever.

Somewhere along the line, I started questioning a lot of things and my viewpoint eventually transformed. And I'm still changing my mind on a lot of shit.
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: FINE. on September 21, 2016, 03:52:04 PM
Quote from: FAD?. on September 21, 2016, 03:46:59 PM
Quote from: FINE. on September 21, 2016, 03:46:05 PM
But I don't think I've changed. I feel like I'm more sensitive now tho. But I've always been reserved, cool and laid back. I remember being a loner which I still am. People approached me and that's how we became friends.

I want to be less in my head and more in the moment.


n
:dead:
Boy fuck u
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: KING BENTLEY. on September 21, 2016, 03:52:35 PM
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME on September 21, 2016, 03:44:27 PM
Yeah

I'm nice these days
s

Remember how vicious our fights were!
And how I manipulated n plotted to take you out haha

Good thing that hitman in Florida didn't answer LOLZ!


sigh .... Good times!
:traciandchelle:
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: XXX. on September 21, 2016, 03:52:51 PM
Quote from: FINE. on September 21, 2016, 03:52:04 PM
Quote from: FAD?. on September 21, 2016, 03:46:59 PM
Quote from: FINE. on September 21, 2016, 03:46:05 PM
But I don't think I've changed. I feel like I'm more sensitive now tho. But I've always been reserved, cool and laid back. I remember being a loner which I still am. People approached me and that's how we became friends.

I want to be less in my head and more in the moment.


n
:dead:
Boy fuck u

:suplol:
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Kurama on September 21, 2016, 03:54:17 PM
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME on September 21, 2016, 03:44:27 PM
Yeah

I'm nice these days

sd

wtfh
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: FINE. on September 21, 2016, 03:54:19 PM
Quote from: COCO on September 21, 2016, 03:47:53 PM
Quote from: FINE. on September 21, 2016, 03:46:05 PM
But I don't think I've changed. I feel like I'm more sensitive now tho. But I've always been reserved, cool and laid back. I remember being a loner which I still am. People approached me and that's how we became friends.

I want to be less in my head and more in the moment.
are we the same person
:ohwow:
what kinda

(http://www.collativelearning.com/PICS%20FOR%20WEBSITE/SHINING%20EXPANDED/symmetry%20twins.jpg)
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Kurama on September 21, 2016, 03:55:02 PM
I think overall though I've become much more accepting of certain qualities about myself and the way I live life, while learning to let go.

When I was younger I really vied for acceptance from others by emulating them(In high school).I was a belligerent psedo-DL mess and I adhered to views that matched. This continued up until my late years in college.

I really didn't start accepting things about myself until a few years ago. It's okay to be feminine, its okay to be a Black man without dreads or braids or a fade, its okay to not be the smartest or richest in the room, and it's okay to be kind and not so guarded.

I try to accept that it's cool if I gave it my all and it didn't work out.
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: FINE. on September 21, 2016, 03:59:00 PM
Wow ummm this is totally irrelevant and I don't wanna make this about myself  :ohwow:
But I feel like this has always been me.

http://universal-tao-eproducts.com/mp/files/sun-moon_taurus-sagittarius.pdf
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: MelMel on September 21, 2016, 03:59:21 PM
I am less optimistic about the world and I drink more
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Kurama on September 21, 2016, 04:01:35 PM
Quote from: MelMel on September 21, 2016, 03:59:21 PM
I am less optimistic about the world and I drink more

Whoa, yeah forgot to include this.
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Kurama on September 21, 2016, 04:02:21 PM
I also care about people a lot more. I dont really like that much. I feel like im trying to make amends for how shitty of a person I was when I was younger or something  :dead:
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: FlowerBomb on September 21, 2016, 04:04:36 PM
Quote from: FINE. on September 21, 2016, 03:59:00 PM
Wow ummm this is totally irrelevant and I don't wanna make this about myself  :ohwow:
But I feel like this has always been me.

http://universal-tao-eproducts.com/mp/files/sun-moon_taurus-sagittarius.pdf
whats your star sign
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Kurama on September 21, 2016, 04:05:38 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on September 21, 2016, 03:51:45 PM
IDK about anyone else but I shudder when I think about how I was at 17-18. The way I was trying to fit in with a group of friends who clearly didn't fuck with me, I didn't have a mind of my own at all, and was more narrowminded than ever.

Somewhere along the line, I started questioning a lot of things and my viewpoint eventually transformed. And I'm still changing my mind on a lot of shit.

:wub: :wub: :wub:
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: FINE. on September 21, 2016, 04:05:49 PM
Quote from: COCO on September 21, 2016, 04:04:36 PM
Quote from: FINE. on September 21, 2016, 03:59:00 PM
Wow ummm this is totally irrelevant and I don't wanna make this about myself  :ohwow:
But I feel like this has always been me.

http://universal-tao-eproducts.com/mp/files/sun-moon_taurus-sagittarius.pdf
whats your star sign
I didn't know there was a such thing :jarvwhereru:

Lemme find out
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Scott. on September 21, 2016, 04:05:51 PM
I would definitely say that I'm still working on myself. I'm still healing over old wounds and allowing myself to be free and I'm taking a different approach when it relates to my temper issues. I have a bad temper and in the past, I've always let my anger get the best of me. But I'm starting to see that I'm getting a little bit of control over that. I'd rather not deal with confrontation at all.

I do still have my moments where I'm very defensive, but I'm still working. I've always had a reason to be defensive, but I'm slowly learning that everyone isn't always trying to hurt me or come for me.
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Kaeli. on September 21, 2016, 04:26:20 PM
I stopped being a people pleaser and started focusing more on myself and MY happiness. Helped me weed out a few bad seeds.
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Kurama on September 21, 2016, 04:27:15 PM
Quote from: Scott. on September 21, 2016, 04:05:51 PM
I would definitely say that I'm still working on myself. I'm still healing over old wounds and allowing myself to be free and I'm taking a different approach when it relates to my temper issues. I have a bad temper and in the past, I've always let my anger get the best of me. But I'm starting to see that I'm getting a little bit of control over that. I'd rather not deal with confrontation at all.

I do still have my moments where I'm very defensive, but I'm still working. I've always had a reason to be defensive, but I'm slowly learning that everyone isn't always trying to hurt me or come for me.

Im still working on being too defensive in certain sectors too Scott. It's tough. We got it tho!
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Sonic on September 21, 2016, 04:28:16 PM
ive def' change but not TOO much

ive kinda found my safe place to b alone
so i thrive on tha idea of bein independent forevr
ive fallen in luv..WIT ME!!
like truly in luv
im rlly amazin' & i started to get this 'round 2011
bein growin evr since

I. luv. ME!
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: GRAND on September 21, 2016, 04:28:35 PM
Quote from: BENTLEY! on September 21, 2016, 03:52:35 PM
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME on September 21, 2016, 03:44:27 PM
Yeah

I'm nice these days
s

Remember how vicious our fights were!
And how I manipulated n plotted to take you out haha

Good thing that hitman in Florida didn't answer LOLZ!


sigh .... Good times!
:traciandchelle:
yeah I remember I used to have you HOT

LMAO.

Good times

:suplol:
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Zankou. on September 21, 2016, 04:29:28 PM
Quote from: MelMel on September 21, 2016, 03:59:21 PM
I am less optimistic about the world and I drink more

wtf
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Sonic on September 21, 2016, 04:30:26 PM
lemme say it 'gain

I.
Luv.
..

.
.
.
...
..

ME!
(https://uploadir.com/u/stqnosx8)
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Sonic on September 21, 2016, 04:30:41 PM
Quote from: Nice Stereo. on September 21, 2016, 04:29:28 PM
Quote from: MelMel on September 21, 2016, 03:59:21 PM
I am less optimistic about the world and I drink more

wtf
:omgwatshappening:
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Gilgamesh. on September 21, 2016, 04:38:41 PM
I'm sooo much more passive these days. I used to overthink everything (I spoke a bout it in one of your other threads) but now I tend to let things be. Smoking weed has helped a lot :dead:

Also I trust my judgement a lot more now.
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Kurama on September 21, 2016, 04:45:15 PM
Oh ive become a lot more adventurous and less reserved.
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Kurama on September 21, 2016, 04:45:35 PM
Quote from: Gilgamesh. on September 21, 2016, 04:38:41 PM


Aldo I trust my judgement a lot more now.

important af
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: 4everEric on September 21, 2016, 07:22:55 PM
I am way more sarcastic now. When I was younger I always wanted to please everyone doing things they wanted me to do,  it made me unhappy. Now I'm like "F it, it's not me". I've always been outspoken but now I know how to control it and use it better. I used to use my honesty as an excuse for being rude. Now I can apologize. I have gotten more serious and get paranoid quicker. I'm still Tryna figure out why. And lastly I am opened to other people's views on things and are interested in others feelings

Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: KING BENTLEY. on September 21, 2016, 07:26:16 PM
Quote from: FINE. on September 21, 2016, 03:59:00 PM
Wow ummm this is totally irrelevant and I don't wanna make this about myself  :ohwow:
But I feel like this has always been me.

http://universal-tao-eproducts.com/mp/files/sun-moon_taurus-sagittarius.pdf
oh GORL :uhh:
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: XXX. on September 21, 2016, 07:28:59 PM
Quote from: MelMel on September 21, 2016, 03:59:21 PM
I am less optimistic about the world and I drink more

Same.
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: KING BENTLEY. on September 21, 2016, 07:30:38 PM
Quote from: Gilgamesh. on September 21, 2016, 04:38:41 PM
I'm sooo much more passive these days. I used to overthink everything (I spoke a bout it in one of your other threads) but now I tend to let things be. Smoking weed has helped a lot :dead:

Also I trust my judgement a lot more now.
It's medicinal. I will swear by it.

I'm trying to open a dispensary in Denver until they legalize in my state.
You can come visit if you want 'Mero
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: como la whore on September 21, 2016, 08:01:53 PM
Definitely.

In my younger years (18-23) I was really reckless and well....a huge bitch. Now that I'm 28 I'm much more calm, and a nicer person overall. The way I treat people has changed significantly and for the better.

I still talk about people behind their backs but only with people I trust.
:caramelapple:
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: GRAND on September 21, 2016, 08:03:33 PM
Quote from: CDY on September 21, 2016, 08:01:53 PM


I still talk about people behind their backs but only with people I trust.
:caramelapple:
SDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD

luv the person that you are

:caramelapple:
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Just Dropped In To See What Condition My Condition Was In on September 21, 2016, 08:06:36 PM
I've always been extremely shy and reserved. The only thing that has changed about me over the years was accepting and being okay with being mature and to stop vying for love and acceptance from my parents and family. I've learned to be okay with the fact that my friends are more important and care more about me than my family.
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Kurama on September 21, 2016, 08:12:20 PM
Quote from: Jay. on September 21, 2016, 08:06:36 PM
I've always been extremely shy and reserved. The only thing that has changed about me over the years was accepting and being okay with being mature and to stop vying for love and acceptance from my parents and family. I've learned to be okay with the fact that my friends are more important and care more about me than my family.

Some of this resonates with me Jay
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Kurama on September 21, 2016, 08:13:44 PM
Quote from: 4everEric on September 21, 2016, 07:22:55 PM
I am way more sarcastic now. When I was younger I always wanted to please everyone doing things they wanted me to do,  it made me unhappy. Now I'm like "F it, it's not me". I've always been outspoken but now I know how to control it and use it better. I used to use my honesty as an excuse for being rude. Now I can apologize. I have gotten more serious and get paranoid quicker. I'm still Tryna figure out why. And lastly I am opened to other people's views on things and are interested in others feelings
:wub:
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: GRAND on September 21, 2016, 08:29:17 PM
oh wait i never gave a normal response

I've become much more aware of who I am as a person, and much more confident. But I'm still changing.

I was sooooo lost up until I was 24? I literally had no fcking idea who I was. Then I found love blada-blada-blah and for a few years sought validation and purpose through love and others. Once that was over, and I was heartbroken and miserable and at my lowest point ever, I realized someone who doesn't value you will never do anything for you but waste precious time in your life. After that, I became career focused (present day) and recently I've realized work also isn't who I am. I've been pondering that popular quote lately 'What defines Us?'. And I've realized it's a combination of everything. Some people let their passions or children or jobs define them, but we're not just one thing -- and we shouldn't be. Life is literally full of endless possibilities, and I wish we could explore them all. While it's not possible, it is probable, so experiencing even 1% of what life offers is more than enough for one lifetime.

I really look forward to the future, because I'm going through a change right now. It's me realizing that Antonio at 27 won't be the same one at 21, 24, 30, 35, 37, 40, so on and so on. And I'm sooooooo thankful, because change is necessary, and invited. I've always known I've hated when my life became repetitive and stagnant, and that's who I think I'll always be.
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: wizzy on September 21, 2016, 08:54:02 PM
I have far less/lower expectations for others and higher for myself. I'm a bit more realistic in my thinking. I think I trust less, but do more for people who surprise me (in a good way).
Oh and I've lost my love for/value placed on monetary things which is strange af
:shannonsmissing:
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: FUCK Bey on September 21, 2016, 09:10:30 PM
I've changed so much.... In every way.  :dead: I'm not getting into it all, but I just wish the person I am now I was years ago...  At the age of 25, I know who I am and know where I'm going in life. . I'm so fearless, confident, and mature now... Just from last year alone. :uhh: I think moving across the country played a major role in it all. Like just 2 years ago, my biggest concern was the cancellation of Gossip Girl.... Ddsnsndnssnnsnsssssss


Well maybe not that much changed.... But y'all get my fucking point.
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: CHOKE on September 21, 2016, 10:06:34 PM
Yes

I use to walk in a room and get nervous because I was shy now I'm offended if all eyes aren't on me
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on September 21, 2016, 10:15:38 PM
I would hope so.
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Rxxf on September 21, 2016, 10:27:15 PM
You either live or you don't.
There's no room for botching your blessings or potential.
Trust God, trust your intuition -- and know that PEACE and HEALTH is most important for yourself and those you love.
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Kurama on September 21, 2016, 10:57:34 PM
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME on September 21, 2016, 08:29:17 PM
oh wait i never gave a normal response

I've become much more aware of who I am as a person, and much more confident. But I'm still changing.

I was sooooo lost up until I was 24? I literally had no fcking idea who I was. Then I found love blada-blada-blah and for a few years sought validation and purpose through love and others. Once that was over, and I was heartbroken and miserable and at my lowest point ever, I realized someone who doesn't value you will never do anything for you but waste precious time in your life. After that, I became career focused (present day) and recently I've realized work also isn't who I am. I've been pondering that popular quote lately 'What defines Us?'. And I've realized it's a combination of everything. Some people let their passions or children or jobs define them, but we're not just one thing -- and we shouldn't be. Life is literally full of endless possibilities, and I wish we could explore them all. While it's not possible, it is probable, so experiencing even 1% of what life offers is more than enough for one lifetime.

I really look forward to the future, because I'm going through a change right now. It's me realizing that Antonio at 27 won't be the same one at 21, 24, 30, 35, 37, 40, so on and so on. And I'm sooooooo thankful, because change is necessary, and invited. I've always known I've hated when my life became repetitive and stagnant, and that's who I think I'll always be.

:flamebroiled: :flamebroiled: :flamebroiled:
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Kurama on September 21, 2016, 10:57:56 PM
Quote from: orgulloso. on September 21, 2016, 09:41:51 PM


weird but as i get older im feeling younger

!!! Yeah
Title: Re: Have you changed over the years?
Post by: Kurama on September 21, 2016, 10:58:19 PM
Yall I really appreciate the posts!!!