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Title: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: hewritez on October 12, 2016, 10:31:30 PM
If you were to identify yourself using a generic category like race, religion, ethnicity, etc.
What would come to mind most quickly?

In other words, what do you feel the strongest affiliation to?
Most people lean towards race/ethnicity.
Some, religion.
I know alot of gay guys who are all about the queer lifestyle and everything is gay this, gay that.

I don't really know where I belong.
I don't feel very "Indian"
I also don't feel very "gay".
I'm not overly concerned with gay issues.
I think I'm more concerned with race issues if anything.
Sometimes I feel more "black" than anything. i know that's weird considering I'm not black.
but my parents are from east Africa and speak Swahili and feel more of a connection to Kenya and Tanzania than India. I don't know.

I would like to identify as an American but, given the social/political climate of our country, I really don't feel like I can.

Does anyone else get confused?
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Vonc2002 on October 12, 2016, 10:33:52 PM
A black male, that's what comes to mind automatically
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: hewritez on October 12, 2016, 10:42:29 PM
To me, being gay isn't really a part of who I am.

I think for a lot of white people who don't really have a defining culture, being gay becomes their culture. They flock to it. It's like they've been waiting their whole lives to finally belong to a subculture and now they do. Yippee!

:dead:

I guess I can identify with being a minority.
But even that seems too vague to connect with.
I've been reading "Americanah" by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie and it's making me think about all these things.

It's difficult, as the child of immigrants, to really know where you belong.
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: wizzy on October 12, 2016, 10:44:55 PM
white transmale I s'pport everyone
cept privileged cismale assholes
:letsmessfag:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Real on October 12, 2016, 10:46:09 PM
Black man
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: FlowerBomb on October 12, 2016, 10:48:35 PM
Black British I guess
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on October 12, 2016, 10:48:46 PM
white and bisexual
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: KING BENTLEY. on October 12, 2016, 10:49:56 PM
Dominican.
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: MelMel on October 12, 2016, 10:50:13 PM
an alcoholic :stressed:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Vonc2002 on October 12, 2016, 10:50:25 PM
Quote from: BENTLEY! on October 12, 2016, 10:49:56 PM
Dominican.
sddddddddddd
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Vonc2002 on October 12, 2016, 10:50:40 PM
Quote from: MelMel on October 12, 2016, 10:50:13 PM
an alcoholic :stressed:
I agree
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Real on October 12, 2016, 10:50:44 PM
Quote from: BENTLEY! on October 12, 2016, 10:49:56 PM
Dominican.

:plzstop:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: MelMel on October 12, 2016, 10:52:19 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on October 12, 2016, 10:50:40 PM
Quote from: MelMel on October 12, 2016, 10:50:13 PM
an alcoholic :stressed:
I agree
bitch
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: GRAND on October 12, 2016, 10:53:01 PM
What's THE most EDGED label these days
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Vonc2002 on October 12, 2016, 10:54:17 PM
Quote from: hewritez on October 12, 2016, 10:42:29 PM
To me, being gay isn't really a part of who I am.
This is what i was thinking too. Like I guess some people really do wear their sexuality on their sleeves but  who u fck shouldnt be how u identify yourself imo.

On the flip side, i know some people where probably forced to feel ashamed of themselves and now they like to scream it from the rafters. I guess i can see the argument both ways when i think about it
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Rxxf on October 12, 2016, 10:54:43 PM
black male
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Real on October 12, 2016, 10:55:38 PM
Quote from: R on October 12, 2016, 10:54:43 PM
black male

:stressed: :stressed:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Vonc2002 on October 12, 2016, 10:56:00 PM
Quote from: R on October 12, 2016, 10:54:43 PM
black male
Do u renounce ur asian heritage  :damselindistress:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: hewritez on October 12, 2016, 10:57:11 PM
Quote from: mixed wit african on October 12, 2016, 10:48:05 PM
Quote from: hewritez on October 12, 2016, 10:31:30 PM
If you were to identify yourself using a generic category like race, religion, ethnicity, etc.
What would come to mind most quickly?

In other words, what do you feel the strongest affiliation to?
Most people lean towards race/ethnicity.
Some, religion.
I know alot of gay guys who are all about the queer lifestyle and everything is gay this, gay that.

I don't really know where I belong.
I don't feel very "Indian"
I also don't feel very "gay".
I'm not overly concerned with gay issues.
I think I'm more concerned with race issues if anything.
Sometimes I feel more "black" than anything. i know that's weird considering I'm not black.
but my parents are from east Africa and speak Swahili and feel more of a connection to Kenya and Tanzania than India. I don't know.

I would like to identify as an American but, given the social/political climate of our country, I really don't feel like I can.

Does anyone else get confused?
Just read the entire thing.

This is America, and although labels can be very....non-spiritual, it's important to know that your label in this country generally is based off of what people see with their eyes. Not so much what you feel in your soul.

I think it's totally fine to have your own personal definitions of who you are. If you feel "Black" that's totally cool but just realize if you walked into a room full of Blacks and claimed you were AA, you'd get the side eye. That's just the reality.

There's this non-Black woman at my job who said she loves eating "ghetto chinese food" and loves listening to rap. She claimed she was listening to Master P on her way in to work. Me and the other Black gorls were kii'ing at her cuz she clearly is not Black but is trying so hard to be. :plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop:

And it came off as offensive , even. When she used the word "ghetto". I know she meant no harm but it just shows how clueless she is when it comes to our culture.  It's "Chinese food from the hood". Everyone knows the best chinese food is in the hood. we don't call it "ghetto chinese food". sdsddssssdsdsdsdsds dumb bitch.

But I totally get what you're saying, absolutely get it. I know that your connection to Blackness is WAY deeper than "ghetto chinese food". You have connections to Africa, etc. which is amazing. I'd just say have your own personal mess but be aware of social labeling.

No I get what you're saying.
It's like these white girls I knew in school who dated black guys and listened to hip-hop music and felt that they were "black" inside.

But you can never be "black" if you're not black, because being black in America, and sometimes abroad, is a specific political experience that no one else can have.

I can relate to black people on so many things, even on the subject of discrimination, but even I have my limitations. At the end of the day I'm not black, and my parents weren't black in spite of their African heritage. And i would never claim to be in public  :dead: But I do, at times, especially when I'm in a room comprised of only blacks and whites (which was my experience growing up in Illinois), feel more connected to black people than anyone else.

Often times more than Indians  :dead:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Rxxf on October 12, 2016, 10:57:33 PM
I'm responding to the FIRST thing that comes to mind
I can only add on things after the fact
If that makes sense
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Eternal Bell on October 12, 2016, 10:57:39 PM
triricial cisgender half-playtrans blue wit splash of green eyed young man

im means..if we talmbout jus offa tha top of our heads..
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on October 12, 2016, 10:57:59 PM
Quote from: hewritez on October 12, 2016, 10:42:29 PM
To me, being gay isn't really a part of who I am.

I think for a lot of white people who don't really have a defining culture, being gay becomes their culture. They flock to it. It's like they've been waiting their whole lives to finally belong to a subculture and now they do. Yippee!

:dead:

I guess I can identify with being a minority.
But even that seems too vague to connect with.
I've been reading "Americanah" by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie and it's making me think about all these things.

It's difficult, as the child of immigrants, to really know where you belong.

Whites dont  really have a culture their claim is usually a lack of culture

Lack of rythym
Lack of real identity
Lack of ass
Lack of strength

They do have a theme of oppression tho
And gay only became a big issue to them because whites that were gay began experiencing minority related issues of discrimination and isolation and separation and the law supported it so gay for them became more of a way to say he im white and im being disriminated against something is not right in the world

And some blacks with their dumb desperate asses have fallen for the hype that a white struggle

But nehoo

I identify and a black american male who is bisexual

I wish i was samoan tho

Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: GRAND on October 12, 2016, 10:58:45 PM
Quote from: Tinker Hell on October 12, 2016, 10:57:39 PM
cisgender
I thought you were trans
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Kurama on October 12, 2016, 11:00:07 PM
Black & gay(or SGL).
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Eternal Bell on October 12, 2016, 11:00:19 PM
u are so ignorant

u can b cisgender & trans-curious
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Real on October 12, 2016, 11:00:26 PM
Quote from: TheNextLew on October 12, 2016, 10:57:59 PM

I wish i was samoan tho

I just screamed
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Vonc2002 on October 12, 2016, 11:00:31 PM
Quote from: R on October 12, 2016, 10:57:33 PM
I'm responding to the FIRST thing that comes to mind
I can only add on things after the fact
If that makes sense
Now just a reminder, who's asian? And are u 50% or like 25% Asian. We've never had this discussion. U can take this time to expound :dead:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on October 12, 2016, 11:00:38 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on October 12, 2016, 10:54:17 PM
Quote from: hewritez on October 12, 2016, 10:42:29 PM
To me, being gay isn't really a part of who I am.
This is what i was thinking too. Like I guess some people really do wear their sexuality on their sleeves but  who u fck shouldnt be how u identify yourself imo.

On the flip side, i know some people where probably forced to feel ashamed of themselves and now they like to scream it from the rafters. I guess i can see the argument both ways when i think about it

Your sayin alot carl
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Eternal Bell on October 12, 2016, 11:00:40 PM
Quote from: TheNextLew on October 12, 2016, 10:57:59 PM
Quote from: hewritez on October 12, 2016, 10:42:29 PM
To me, being gay isn't really a part of who I am.

I think for a lot of white people who don't really have a defining culture, being gay becomes their culture. They flock to it. It's like they've been waiting their whole lives to finally belong to a subculture and now they do. Yippee!

:dead:

I guess I can identify with being a minority.
But even that seems too vague to connect with.
I've been reading "Americanah" by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie and it's making me think about all these things.

It's difficult, as the child of immigrants, to really know where you belong.

Whites dont  really have a culture their claim is usually a lack of culture

Lack of rythym
Lack of real identity
Lack of ass
Lack of strength

They do have a theme of oppression tho
And gay only became a big issue to them because whites that were gay began experiencing minority related issues of discrimination and isolation and separation and the law supported it so gay for them became more of a way to say he im white and im being disriminated against something is not right in the world

And some blacks with their dumb desperate asses have fallen for the hype that a white struggle

But nehoo

I identify and a black american male who is bisexual

I wish i was samoan tho
fffffffffffffffffffffffffffffwe
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: KING BENTLEY. on October 12, 2016, 11:01:32 PM
This lady on the airplane recently told me I looked Dominican

And the checkout lady at Target said it

Oh and the blind guy on the park bench

I'm Dominican.
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Eternal Bell on October 12, 2016, 11:02:17 PM
 bevfngv

bent'
:omgwatshappening:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Real on October 12, 2016, 11:02:19 PM
Bent get out :dead:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Eternal Bell on October 12, 2016, 11:02:57 PM
ffffxn
bent'  :omgwatshappening:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: KING BENTLEY. on October 12, 2016, 11:11:15 PM
Quote from: mixed wit african on October 12, 2016, 11:10:16 PM
n

bent...
did anyone tell ur Black ass that u were white? besides ur mirror?

deal with that reality, hun.
i know it's harsh. sdssd you'z a nigga! :cheerup:

i just wanna know what world u were living in during that time in ur life. very interesting
and weird as hell. i don't know how someone who is clearly Black convince themselves that they are an ENTIRELY different race. :plzstop:

you didn't stop in the islands....u went straight to the UK!

by urself. cuz no one else sees or saw that mess. sdbduvyscgtdvysiub'dspisd'uvoysd
s
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: KING BENTLEY. on October 12, 2016, 11:11:48 PM
I'm








Dominican
:hmph:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: wizzy on October 12, 2016, 11:13:08 PM
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME on October 12, 2016, 10:58:45 PM
Quote from: Tinker Hell on October 12, 2016, 10:57:39 PM
cisgender
I thought you were trans
wow I hate him
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on October 12, 2016, 11:14:31 PM
 Bent is the absolute worst
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Kaeli. on October 12, 2016, 11:16:09 PM
A mostly black female
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: wizzy on October 12, 2016, 11:16:35 PM
this is verrrrrry verrrrry edgy
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Vonc2002 on October 12, 2016, 11:17:50 PM
Quote from: Kaeli. on October 12, 2016, 11:16:09 PM
A mostly black female
What are the other elements
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: GRAND on October 12, 2016, 11:19:47 PM
Quote from: Tinker Hell on October 12, 2016, 11:00:19 PM
u are so ignorant

u can b cisgender & trans-curious
curious about bring another gender?

:omgwatshappening:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: KING BENTLEY. on October 12, 2016, 11:22:59 PM
 :supluv:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Kurama on October 12, 2016, 11:23:47 PM
b

i hate you
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Vonc2002 on October 12, 2016, 11:28:19 PM
SDDSSDDDDSSSSSSSSZSSSSSSSSSSS
Boy, u are TOO MUCH :dead:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Real on October 12, 2016, 11:33:44 PM
s
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: yummy on October 12, 2016, 11:41:21 PM
Quote from: DOMINICAN. on October 12, 2016, 11:01:32 PM
This lady on the airplane recently told me I looked Dominican

And the checkout lady at Target said it

Oh and the blind guy on the park bench

I'm Dominican.

:plzstop:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: wizzy on October 12, 2016, 11:42:31 PM
 :omgwatshappening:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Heated🔥 on October 13, 2016, 12:17:10 AM
Alien.
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Young on October 13, 2016, 12:21:19 AM
A Queen.
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Jon on October 13, 2016, 12:22:49 AM
a person
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 12:27:34 AM
White gay. I can't stand when my fellow white gorls give an "Oh! Black woman trapped in a phag's body! Sassy! Lmao!"

:omgwatshappening:

So embarrassing.
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Vonc2002 on October 13, 2016, 12:32:13 AM
Quote from: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 12:27:34 AM
White gay. I can't stand when my fellow white gorls give an "Oh! Black woman trapped in a phag's body! Sassy! Lmao!"

:omgwatshappening:

So embarrassing.
Ur white? I never knew
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: MelMel on October 13, 2016, 12:54:26 AM
Quote from: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 12:27:34 AM
White gay. I can't stand when my fellow white gorls give an "Oh! Black woman trapped in a phag's body! Sassy! Lmao!"

:omgwatshappening:

So embarrassing.
explains so much
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 12:55:11 AM
Quote from: MelMel on October 13, 2016, 12:54:26 AM
Quote from: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 12:27:34 AM
White gay. I can't stand when my fellow white gorls give an "Oh! Black woman trapped in a phag's body! Sassy! Lmao!"

:omgwatshappening:

So embarrassing.
explains so much

m

:letsmessfag:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: MelMel on October 13, 2016, 12:57:14 AM
Quote from: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 12:55:11 AM
Quote from: MelMel on October 13, 2016, 12:54:26 AM
Quote from: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 12:27:34 AM
White gay. I can't stand when my fellow white gorls give an "Oh! Black woman trapped in a phag's body! Sassy! Lmao!"

:omgwatshappening:

So embarrassing.
explains so much

m

:letsmessfag:
kkjjjpoo  :19k:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: ♛MANNY♛ on October 13, 2016, 01:01:29 AM
Quote from: MelMel on October 12, 2016, 10:50:13 PM
an alcoholic :stressed:

bfddfggvcvvvvvvvvv
sis  :dead:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Heated🔥 on October 13, 2016, 01:04:50 AM
Quote from: 1 9 9 2 on October 13, 2016, 01:01:29 AM
Quote from: MelMel on October 12, 2016, 10:50:13 PM
an alcoholic :stressed:

bfddfggvcvvvvvvvvv
sis  :dead:
:damselindistress:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 01:05:36 AM
Quote from: MelMel on October 13, 2016, 12:57:14 AM
Quote from: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 12:55:11 AM
Quote from: MelMel on October 13, 2016, 12:54:26 AM
Quote from: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 12:27:34 AM
White gay. I can't stand when my fellow white gorls give an "Oh! Black woman trapped in a phag's body! Sassy! Lmao!"

:omgwatshappening:

So embarrassing.
explains so much

m

:letsmessfag:
kkjjjpoo  :19k:

When I went to the meet and greet after Chicago, I was the only white person there. I got a lot of

:everythingok:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: MelMel on October 13, 2016, 01:15:44 AM
Quote from: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 01:05:36 AM
Quote from: MelMel on October 13, 2016, 12:57:14 AM
Quote from: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 12:55:11 AM
Quote from: MelMel on October 13, 2016, 12:54:26 AM
Quote from: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 12:27:34 AM
White gay. I can't stand when my fellow white gorls give an "Oh! Black woman trapped in a phag's body! Sassy! Lmao!"

:omgwatshappening:

So embarrassing.
explains so much

m

:letsmessfag:
kkjjjpoo  :19k:

When I went to the meet and greet after Chicago, I was the only white person there. I got a lot of

:everythingok:
:plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop:

well as long as you love Ghandy bby  :stressed:

but watch it about Bey bby  :watchit:
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on October 13, 2016, 03:31:19 AM
Quote from: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 01:05:36 AM
Quote from: MelMel on October 13, 2016, 12:57:14 AM
Quote from: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 12:55:11 AM
Quote from: MelMel on October 13, 2016, 12:54:26 AM
Quote from: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 12:27:34 AM
White gay. I can't stand when my fellow white gorls give an "Oh! Black woman trapped in a phag's body! Sassy! Lmao!"

:omgwatshappening:

So embarrassing.
explains so much

m

:letsmessfag:
kkjjjpoo  :19k:

When I went to the meet and greet after Chicago, I was the only white person there. I got a lot of

:everythingok:

Lmao i remember of  yeah we was giving u a bit of

(http://pic100.picturetrail.com/VOL669/13509671/24166422/409522346.jpg)

I honestly thought u were just a passerby at first
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: SouravMay on October 13, 2016, 04:07:52 AM
Male and black
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: Zankou. on October 13, 2016, 07:23:42 AM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on October 12, 2016, 11:41:21 PM
Quote from: DOMINICAN. on October 12, 2016, 11:01:32 PM
This lady on the airplane recently told me I looked Dominican

And the checkout lady at Target said it

Oh and the blind guy on the park bench

I'm Dominican.

:plzstop:


Fffffgbbb
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: wizzy on October 13, 2016, 09:35:34 AM
Quote from: TogetherAgain on October 13, 2016, 12:27:34 AM
White gay. I can't stand when my fellow white gorls give an "Oh! Black woman trapped in a phag's body! Sassy! Lmao!"

:omgwatshappening:

So embarrassing.
!
Title: Re: How do you identify yourself?
Post by: LOONA. on October 13, 2016, 09:42:19 AM
A man

Race doesn't really pop up in my head.