Let's chat a bit gorls :sobusyjetsetter:
Some backstory: Ever since I was younger, my dad has always tried to push my life in a certain direction. He's always giving me these little talks like 'I feel like it would be good if you did x' or 'so-so did y and you should look into it too'. I've always went along with it but recently it's getting annoying because I'm older and I'm trying to do what I want in MY life.
So this evening, he walked into my room and suddenly told me that he thinks after I finish with my degree, I should go back to my home country (Nigeria) for a year. Then he starts going on about how it'd be good for me because Barack Obama went back to his home country and now he's president, it would bring me out of my 'shell', don't forget your roots, blah blah blah. Then he starts going on about my life after that, like he legit has MY life all planned out ssssss.
In my mind while he's talking I'm just like:
(http://33.media.tumblr.com/ed3a08864bd4bad672479d98df289e6b/tumblr_ncsew7oApW1qk08n1o1_500.gif)
Anyway, have you guys ever experienced this? I've always had issues standing up to my dad and voicing my opinion on things, but I'm not about to get roped into him living his life out through me :uhh:
dddd sorry for the blog post but yeah, had to rant a bit
:bvy:
Do you stay home? They're gonna do that until you're on your own
Pretty much until they don't give you cash. Even then they're going to give you their input because 'they created you'
But your dad sounds like he's trying to live through you or something bvvv
Why can't you do what you want? The Fck is Obama have to do with your life
In fact tell your dad I said Fck him
My dad used to try to plot my life.....until I stopped taking his cash and did wtf I want
Best decision I ever made
"it'd be good for me because Barack Obama went back to his home country and now he's president"
Im sorry but ccccccccfffjjgbbbvv
No not at all. I'm closer to my mother than my father anyway.
Nah, not ever tbh.
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME on October 25, 2016, 03:37:58 PM
Do you stay home? They're gonna do that until you're on your own
Pretty much until they don't give you cash. Even then they're going to give you their input because 'they created you'
But your dad sounds like he's trying to live through you or something bvvv
Why can't you do what you want? The Fck is Obama have to do with your life
fffff omg I was waiting for you :stressed:
Yeah I live at home right now, looking to move out again soon tbh
Its so fckin weird, he's always going about Obama and Mark Zuckerberg's recent trip to Nigeria. I'm like I don't give a FUCK, damn :uhh:
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME on October 25, 2016, 03:38:38 PM
In fact tell your dad I said Fck him
My dad used to try to plot my life.....until I stopped taking his cash and did wtf I want
Best decision I ever made
Can't fckin WAIT tbh :bvy:
Quote from: Almost on October 25, 2016, 03:38:41 PM
"it'd be good for me because Barack Obama went back to his home country and now he's president"
Im sorry but ccccccccfffjjgbbbvv
:plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop:
He's been telling me to read Obama's books (he owns them all) for ages. I'm like 'Yeah I'll get to them eventually :popeyes: '
Nah, my mother let me walk my own path once we began to get along. I don't know her helper in creating me lolz.
Quote from: Cartier on October 25, 2016, 03:43:24 PM
Quote from: Almost on October 25, 2016, 03:38:41 PM
"it'd be good for me because Barack Obama went back to his home country and now he's president"
Im sorry but ccccccccfffjjgbbbvv
:plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop:
He's been telling me to read Obama's books (he owns them all) for ages. I'm like 'Yeah I'll get to them eventually :popeyes: '
fdgfdg
my dad did the same thing to me
I threw the books away
Quote from: Kurama on October 25, 2016, 04:35:13 PM
Nah, my mother let me walk my own path once we began to get along. I don't know her helper in creating me lolz.
She does just push for me to be a good person and to achieve SOMETHING.
Quote from: Cartier on October 25, 2016, 03:41:44 PM
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME on October 25, 2016, 03:37:58 PM
Do you stay home? They're gonna do that until you're on your own
Pretty much until they don't give you cash. Even then they're going to give you their input because 'they created you'
But your dad sounds like he's trying to live through you or something bvvv
Why can't you do what you want? The Fck is Obama have to do with your life
fffff omg I was waiting for you :stressed:
Yeah I live at home right now, looking to move out again soon tbh
Its so fckin weird, he's always going about Obama and Mark Zuckerberg's recent trip to Nigeria. I'm like I don't give a FUCK, damn :uhh:
:dead: :dead: :dead: :dead:
I understand how that is.
My dad isn't very engulfed in his own culture anymore, but he used to expect me to live the way he did.
Kenya! Vegetarian! College! Money! Wife! Job!
:kii: :kii: :kii:
He didn't understand the term 'hypocrite' or something, but I didn't say much when I was younger cause he was paying my rent while I moved away to another city :mmyulost:
But seriously. Do what you want. Because next thing you know you'll be 30 and realize you spent your youth trying to please others. I was fortunate enough to escape my parents GRASP and influence at about 22 but everyone isn't so lucky. For those who have overbearing and heavily involved parents that is.
Do wtf you want. They live their life how they want. You deserve the same.
When was the list time you visited Nigeria?
Quote from: Kurama on October 25, 2016, 04:38:45 PM
Quote from: Kurama on October 25, 2016, 04:35:13 PM
Nah, my mother let me walk my own path once we began to get along. I don't know her helper in creating me lolz.
She does just push for me to be a good person and to achieve SOMETHING.
This is reasonable at least, all parents should want their children to achieve something but not to the point of being overbearing.
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME on October 25, 2016, 04:40:04 PM
Quote from: Cartier on October 25, 2016, 03:41:44 PM
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME on October 25, 2016, 03:37:58 PM
Do you stay home? They're gonna do that until you're on your own
Pretty much until they don't give you cash. Even then they're going to give you their input because 'they created you'
But your dad sounds like he's trying to live through you or something bvvv
Why can't you do what you want? The Fck is Obama have to do with your life
fffff omg I was waiting for you :stressed:
Yeah I live at home right now, looking to move out again soon tbh
Its so fckin weird, he's always going about Obama and Mark Zuckerberg's recent trip to Nigeria. I'm like I don't give a FUCK, damn :uhh:
:dead: :dead: :dead: :dead:
I understand how that is.
My dad isn't very engulfed in his own culture anymore, but he used to expect me to live the way he did.
Kenya! Vegetarian! College! Money! Wife! Job!
:kii: :kii: :kii:
He didn't understand the term 'hypocrite' or something, but I didn't say much when I was younger cause he was paying my rent while I moved away to another city :mmyulost:
But seriously. Do what you want. Because next thing you know you'll be 30 and realize you spent your youth trying to please others. I was fortunate enough to escape my parents GRASP and influence at about 22 but everyone isn't so lucky. For those who have overbearing and heavily involved parents that is.
Do wtf you want. They live their life how they want. You deserve the same.
Ugh yeah that's my biggest fear tbh, I don't wanna wake up one day with some ugly bitch I married to please my parents
:gorlonfire: :gorlonfire: :gorlonfire: :gorlonfire: :gorlonfire:
As soon as I finish uni, I'm cutting ALL financial ties. Fuck living life for someone else.
Quote from: RON. on October 25, 2016, 05:04:11 PM
When was the list time you visited Nigeria?
Haven't been since I left 14 years ago.
Quote from: Cartier on October 25, 2016, 05:23:02 PM
Quote from: RON. on October 25, 2016, 05:04:11 PM
When was the list time you visited Nigeria?
Haven't been since I left 14 years ago.
WHAT!!!
You should go tf back, I LOVE Nigeria every time I go.
(http://i.imgur.com/mSyTCE1.gif)
Quote from: Magnolia Maymuru on October 25, 2016, 05:24:50 PM
Quote from: Cartier on October 25, 2016, 05:23:02 PM
Quote from: RON. on October 25, 2016, 05:04:11 PM
When was the list time you visited Nigeria?
Haven't been since I left 14 years ago.
WHAT!!!
You should go tf back, I LOVE Nigeria every time I go.
(http://i.imgur.com/mSyTCE1.gif)
It's not that I don't WANT to go back, I just want to go back on my own terms. My dad wants me to go for a full fckin YEAR, fuck that :uhh:
Quote from: Cartier on October 25, 2016, 05:23:02 PM
Quote from: RON. on October 25, 2016, 05:04:11 PM
When was the list time you visited Nigeria?
Haven't been since I left 14 years ago.
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0DWXOe0TJj8
Quote from: Cartier on October 25, 2016, 05:23:02 PM
Quote from: RON. on October 25, 2016, 05:04:11 PM
When was the list time you visited Nigeria?
Haven't been since I left 14 years ago.
I understand why you feel like he's running your life. Many African parents do that intuitively. But personally, I've always loved going back to my homeland (C?te d'Ivoire). It gives me a sense of belonging and allows me to remember my people and culture. Maybe that's what he wants for you. But it has to come from within though. Are you of Ibo descent?
Quote from: Magnolia Maymuru on October 25, 2016, 05:27:41 PM
Quote from: Cartier on October 25, 2016, 05:23:02 PM
Quote from: RON. on October 25, 2016, 05:04:11 PM
When was the list time you visited Nigeria?
Haven't been since I left 14 years ago.
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0DWXOe0TJj8 (http://vocaroo.com/i/s0DWXOe0TJj8)
ffffff your Nigerian accent sucks bby
I'm in the UK and I'm Yoruba actually :justabit:
Oh I'm just reading ur story. I have an African friend and he said his father treats him the same way. And this nigga is like 28, so im like :uhh:
I think some of this is cultural because Americans are more adamant about being independent and u have those other ethnicities that really follow that don't talk back to parents, let them guide u sorta thing. I left my parent's house when i was 16 and a junior in high school tbh. Ive always been one to speak my mind. I just couldn't imagine sitting in silence while my parent's ramble on about some shit im just not gonna do
Quote from: RON. on October 25, 2016, 05:28:04 PM
Quote from: Cartier on October 25, 2016, 05:23:02 PM
Quote from: RON. on October 25, 2016, 05:04:11 PM
When was the list time you visited Nigeria?
Haven't been since I left 14 years ago.
I understand why you feel like he's running your life. Many African parents do that intuitively. But personally, I've always loved going back to my homeland (C?te d'Ivoire). It gives me a sense of belonging and allows me to remember my people and culture. Maybe that's what he wants for you. But it has to come from within though. Are you of Ibo descent?
Yeah I want to go back, but not for my dad's reasonings. I miss it a lot but I'm not about to go after so long and stay there for a year.
No, I'm Yoruba.
Quote from: Cartier on October 25, 2016, 05:29:47 PM
Quote from: Magnolia Maymuru on October 25, 2016, 05:27:41 PM
Quote from: Cartier on October 25, 2016, 05:23:02 PM
Quote from: RON. on October 25, 2016, 05:04:11 PM
When was the list time you visited Nigeria?
Haven't been since I left 14 years ago.
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0DWXOe0TJj8 (http://vocaroo.com/i/s0DWXOe0TJj8)
ffffff your Nigerian accent sucks bby
I'm in the UK and I'm Yoruba actually :justabit:
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0c5IBSbf4RO
I slip right into it every time I fly back... It is just a lil rusty. Do you speak Yoruba or Pidgin?
:letsmessfag:
The Yorubas go to England, and the Igbos to the States, it is really funny.
Quote from: Magnolia Maymuru on October 25, 2016, 05:32:46 PM
Quote from: Cartier on October 25, 2016, 05:29:47 PM
Quote from: Magnolia Maymuru on October 25, 2016, 05:27:41 PM
Quote from: Cartier on October 25, 2016, 05:23:02 PM
Quote from: RON. on October 25, 2016, 05:04:11 PM
When was the list time you visited Nigeria?
Haven't been since I left 14 years ago.
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0DWXOe0TJj8 (http://vocaroo.com/i/s0DWXOe0TJj8)
ffffff your Nigerian accent sucks bby
I'm in the UK and I'm Yoruba actually :justabit:
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0c5IBSbf4RO (http://vocaroo.com/i/s0c5IBSbf4RO)
I slip right into it every time I fly back... It is just a lil rusty. Do you speak Yoruba or Pidgin?
:letsmessfag:
I don't speak either
:udontlookok:
I understand both tho.
No but aren't you Nigerian?
They seem to be very controlling and crazy
:udontlookok:
malc has me screaming in here
Quote from: Cartier on October 25, 2016, 05:22:44 PM
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME on October 25, 2016, 04:40:04 PM
Quote from: Cartier on October 25, 2016, 03:41:44 PM
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME on October 25, 2016, 03:37:58 PM
Do you stay home? They're gonna do that until you're on your own
Pretty much until they don't give you cash. Even then they're going to give you their input because 'they created you'
But your dad sounds like he's trying to live through you or something bvvv
Why can't you do what you want? The Fck is Obama have to do with your life
fffff omg I was waiting for you :stressed:
Yeah I live at home right now, looking to move out again soon tbh
Its so fckin weird, he's always going about Obama and Mark Zuckerberg's recent trip to Nigeria. I'm like I don't give a FUCK, damn :uhh:
:dead: :dead: :dead: :dead:
I understand how that is.
My dad isn't very engulfed in his own culture anymore, but he used to expect me to live the way he did.
Kenya! Vegetarian! College! Money! Wife! Job!
:kii: :kii: :kii:
He didn't understand the term 'hypocrite' or something, but I didn't say much when I was younger cause he was paying my rent while I moved away to another city :mmyulost:
But seriously. Do what you want. Because next thing you know you'll be 30 and realize you spent your youth trying to please others. I was fortunate enough to escape my parents GRASP and influence at about 22 but everyone isn't so lucky. For those who have overbearing and heavily involved parents that is.
Do wtf you want. They live their life how they want. You deserve the same.
Ugh yeah that's my biggest fear tbh, I don't wanna wake up one day with some ugly bitch I married to please my parents
DSMNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNDSM
(https://uploadir.com/u/gd2yn6bp)
D
Yea...... and literally still trying.