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Title: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: GLOCK on May 05, 2017, 10:27:53 PM
Let's chat.



Giving advice, them making mistakes, the ppl they choose to date..their style, their weight, appearance etc :ohwow:
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: GRAND on May 05, 2017, 10:31:13 PM
No

They can do what they want, idc as long as it's not unhealthy

I'm not here to sit up and judge and critique my friends

And if they're doing that to me, we're done lol
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Rxxf on May 05, 2017, 10:37:41 PM
Not hard, just real... but comforting.
With my FRIENDS (I don't use that word loosely).  We are with each other.
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: MelMel on May 05, 2017, 10:41:25 PM
no
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Stunna Gor’ on May 05, 2017, 10:45:39 PM
Quote from: LORD GRAND SUPREME MARSHALL on May 05, 2017, 10:31:13 PM
No

They can do what they want, idc as long as it's not unhealthy

I'm not here to sit up and judge and critique my friends

And if they're doing that to me, we're done lol
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>>><<<

Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Young on May 05, 2017, 10:52:30 PM
Quote from: GLO' on May 05, 2017, 10:27:53 PM
Let's chat.



Giving advice, them making mistakes, the ppl they choose to date..their style, their weight, appearance etc :ohwow:

Just got into some mess with one about their weight .

Unh unh. If I'm a friend imma keep it 100.
Another one has relationship issues and I make sure they're given some sound advice
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Stunna Gor’ on May 05, 2017, 10:52:34 PM
It's one thing to give honest advice when ASKED, but I'm not bout to sit up here n judge n lecture grown ass people. And I'm not looking for the same in return. We're not kids anymore... if I feel that strongly against things my friends are doing, it might just be time to move on and find a new circle.
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Young on May 05, 2017, 10:53:26 PM
If I'm your friend imma tell you wtf is WHAT

Sorr'

Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Stunna Gor’ on May 05, 2017, 10:56:03 PM
Quote from: Young on May 05, 2017, 10:53:26 PM
If I'm your friend imma tell you wtf is WHAT

Sorr'
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My comment wasn't in response to yours btw. Just generally speaking
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Kaeli. on May 05, 2017, 10:58:48 PM
If u ask me then yea I'm gonna tell ya the tea. Or if I see that several people are talkin mess about the same thing I'll bring it to your attention in a nice way.
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Vonc2002 on May 05, 2017, 11:05:22 PM
No
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Jon on May 05, 2017, 11:06:38 PM
yeah he's cute and shirtless all the time.

Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Rxxf on May 05, 2017, 11:07:07 PM
Quote from: Jonovan on May 05, 2017, 11:06:38 PM
yeah he's cute and shirtless all the time.

Whew!
(https://68.media.tumblr.com/1cb077d0f694f4f26e313d6c2370b0d1/tumblr_olefuyrCGy1vt28ybo1_400.gif)
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: GRAND on May 05, 2017, 11:17:51 PM
Quote from: Trey on May 05, 2017, 10:45:39 PM
Quote from: LORD GRAND SUPREME MARSHALL on May 05, 2017, 10:31:13 PM
No

They can do what they want, idc as long as it's not unhealthy

I'm not here to sit up and judge and critique my friends

And if they're doing that to me, we're done lol
SSDDDSSSDSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSDSDDDSSSSSS

>>><<<
hey twins
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: MelMel on May 05, 2017, 11:28:24 PM
Quote from: Trey on May 05, 2017, 10:52:34 PM
It's one thing to give honest advice when ASKED, but I'm not bout to sit up here n judge n lecture grown ass people. And I'm not looking for the same in return. We're not kids anymore... if I feel that strongly against things my friends are doing, it might just be time to move on and find a new circle.
I forgot to tell you that you were TRASH the last time I saw you  :supluv:
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: GLOCK on May 06, 2017, 12:02:07 AM
Quote from: Young on May 05, 2017, 10:52:30 PM
Quote from: GLO' on May 05, 2017, 10:27:53 PM
Let's chat.



Giving advice, them making mistakes, the ppl they choose to date..their style, their weight, appearance etc :ohwow:

Just got into some mess with one about their weight .

Unh unh. If I'm a friend imma keep it 100.
Another one has relationship issues and I make sure they're given some sound advice
i agree
Why call someone ur friend if u can't be upfront with them even if it will hurt a bit
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: GLOCK on May 06, 2017, 12:03:57 AM
Brutal honesty in a friendship >
I just think people get a bit too comfortable in telling others what type of friend to be and that really pisses me off
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Vonc2002 on May 06, 2017, 01:15:49 AM
But why are y'all going on about brutal honesty? That's not the question u asked. U asked are u hard on your friends.  Being honest with ur friends is not the same as u imposing your views on their lives on them.  I don't think anyone in here meant that they arent honest with their friends but im
definitely  not bombarding someone with my thoughts, especially about things as supeficial and shallow as how they dress and weight :dead:
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: LOONA. on May 06, 2017, 01:18:45 AM
Quote from: Trey on May 05, 2017, 10:52:34 PM
It's one thing to give honest advice when ASKED, but I'm not bout to sit up here n judge n lecture grown ass people. And I'm not looking for the same in return. We're not kids anymore... if I feel that strongly against things my friends are doing, it might just be time to move on and find a new circle.

!!!!

I had to do one boy like this.
   

Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Lazarus on May 06, 2017, 01:28:03 AM
No. Not at all. 
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Vonc2002 on May 06, 2017, 01:28:26 AM
Quote from: Drais. on May 06, 2017, 01:18:45 AM
Quote from: Trey on May 05, 2017, 10:52:34 PM
It's one thing to give honest advice when ASKED, but I'm not bout to sit up here n judge n lecture grown ass people. And I'm not looking for the same in return. We're not kids anymore... if I feel that strongly against things my friends are doing, it might just be time to move on and find a new circle.

!!!!

I had to do one boy like this.
   

And yea, i meant to agree with this too. If i feel tha need to constantly chastize u then yea we need to discontinue our friendship. I dont wanna be a nag just like im sure someone doesnt want someone nagging them.  If we differ to that degree then we're probably not suited to be friendly. Ive definitely done this too. Not saying that you're wrong and im right but if our views and outlooks are constantly conflicting (especially on certain things), then imma let u do you
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: GRAND on May 06, 2017, 08:19:15 AM
Quote from: Tahj Zezo. on May 06, 2017, 08:03:35 AM
I would never comment on a friends weight to their face.

If they're fat, they KNOW they're fat and they're the only person who can do something about it.

Now, if they were dangerously obese, yeah, I'd have to sit down and talk to them about their "health", most definitely.
!!

They were fat when we met

WhI am I? God?' Lmao
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: 🦚 on May 06, 2017, 08:28:13 AM
All my friends are a 10 and most of us have similar styles and interests. I tend to keep my opinion to myself unless I'm asked and they only ask when they want the unfiltered truth.
I'm always 50/50 when it comes to whether or not to chime in on their dating life and if I do I try to see the mess from both sides.
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Kaeli. on May 06, 2017, 08:46:38 AM
When it comes to dating I don't say shit about their relationships unless I catch some tea on
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Stunna Gor’ on May 06, 2017, 09:17:35 AM
Quote from: LORD GRAND SUPREME MARSHALL on May 06, 2017, 08:19:15 AM
Quote from: Tahj Zezo. on May 06, 2017, 08:03:35 AM
I would never comment on a friends weight to their face.

If they're fat, they KNOW they're fat and they're the only person who can do something about it.

Now, if they were dangerously obese, yeah, I'd have to sit down and talk to them about their "health", most definitely.
!!

They were fat when we met

WhI am I? God?' Lmao
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SSSSSSSSSSDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDSSDDDDSSSSSSDDDDSSDSSSSSS

And I have another friend that smokes cigarettes. I don't support it and he know that.... But damnit, when I met him, he was SMOKING. :uhh:
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Stunna Gor’ on May 06, 2017, 09:19:18 AM
Quote from: MelMel on May 05, 2017, 11:28:24 PM
Quote from: Trey on May 05, 2017, 10:52:34 PM
It's one thing to give honest advice when ASKED, but I'm not bout to sit up here n judge n lecture grown ass people. And I'm not looking for the same in return. We're not kids anymore... if I feel that strongly against things my friends are doing, it might just be time to move on and find a new circle.
I forgot to tell you that you were TRASH the last time I saw you  :supluv:
SSDDSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

am pretty sure I didn't forget to tell you though.

(http://i64.tinypic.com/3502n8n.jpg)
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: GRAND on May 06, 2017, 09:30:07 AM
Quote from: Trey on May 06, 2017, 09:17:35 AM
Quote from: LORD GRAND SUPREME MARSHALL on May 06, 2017, 08:19:15 AM
Quote from: Tahj Zezo. on May 06, 2017, 08:03:35 AM
I would never comment on a friends weight to their face.

If they're fat, they KNOW they're fat and they're the only person who can do something about it.

Now, if they were dangerously obese, yeah, I'd have to sit down and talk to them about their "health", most definitely.
!!

They were fat when we met

WhI am I? God?' Lmao
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SSSSSSSSSSDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDSSDDDDSSSSSSDDDDSSDSSSSSS

And I have another friend that smokes cigarettes. I don't support it and he know that.... But damnit, when I met him, he was SMOKING. :uhh:
!!!

I don't feel like I should/want to change a friend

They're perfect the way they are, as my friend

If I have to change them, we shouldn't be friends

I honestly don't understand people who try to change their friends

Seems like control issues or something

(http://i64.tinypic.com/3502n8n.jpg)
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: b7 on May 06, 2017, 04:06:25 PM
Just like anything, there should be a balance. If ur always nagging and being negative toward them, why should they even listen? They'll take you seriously when you usually uplift and inspire them

Sometimes if they need to snap out of it, tough love is imperative.
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: sawayama on May 06, 2017, 04:43:47 PM
Kii
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: RatherBe on May 06, 2017, 04:48:32 PM
there's a time and place for everything, i think knowing how to decipher when its time to be a listening ear or just get them together is what makes you a good friend sometimes.
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Vonc2002 on May 06, 2017, 06:02:01 PM
Quote from: AJ on May 06, 2017, 04:48:32 PM
there's a time and place for everything, i think knowing how to decipher when its time to be a listening ear or just get them together is what makes you a good friend sometimes.
True. I actually love being a support system for my friends
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: MelMel on May 06, 2017, 06:28:49 PM
Quote from: Trey on May 06, 2017, 09:19:18 AM
Quote from: MelMel on May 05, 2017, 11:28:24 PM
Quote from: Trey on May 05, 2017, 10:52:34 PM
It's one thing to give honest advice when ASKED, but I'm not bout to sit up here n judge n lecture grown ass people. And I'm not looking for the same in return. We're not kids anymore... if I feel that strongly against things my friends are doing, it might just be time to move on and find a new circle.
I forgot to tell you that you were TRASH the last time I saw you  :supluv:
SSDDSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

am pretty sure I didn't forget to tell you though.

(http://i64.tinypic.com/3502n8n.jpg)
love you  :wub: :wub: :wub:
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: MelMel on May 06, 2017, 06:29:08 PM
Quote from: AJ on May 06, 2017, 04:48:32 PM
there's a time and place for everything, i think knowing how to decipher when its time to be a listening ear or just get them together is what makes you a good friend sometimes.
yessssssssssssssss
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: KING BENTLEY. on May 06, 2017, 06:33:56 PM
Quote from: LORD GRAND SUPREME MARSHALL on May 06, 2017, 09:30:07 AM
Quote from: Trey on May 06, 2017, 09:17:35 AM
Quote from: LORD GRAND SUPREME MARSHALL on May 06, 2017, 08:19:15 AM
Quote from: Tahj Zezo. on May 06, 2017, 08:03:35 AM
I would never comment on a friends weight to their face.

If they're fat, they KNOW they're fat and they're the only person who can do something about it.

Now, if they were dangerously obese, yeah, I'd have to sit down and talk to them about their "health", most definitely.
!!

They were fat when we met

WhI am I? God?' Lmao
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SSSSSSSSSSDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDSSDDDDSSSSSSDDDDSSDSSSSSS

And I have another friend that smokes cigarettes. I don't support it and he know that.... But damnit, when I met him, he was SMOKING. :uhh:
!!!

I don't feel like I should/want to change a friend

They're perfect the way they are, as my friend

If I have to change them, we shouldn't be friends

I honestly don't understand people who try to change their friends

Seems like control issues or something

(http://i64.tinypic.com/3502n8n.jpg)
this too
I think the exchange of opinions is what makes some friends revolve tbh
and you have different personalities

one friend is supportive of every decision good or bad, just very upbeat and positive
and one friend that's blunt, and always put it in question form :dead:
and I like that because it's almost like challenging to think and do better

"um ... you don't think you have too much on your plate in 2017? why do you always overwhelm yourself, you like being stressed out or something?"
(http://i.imgur.com/iZg4Zxg.jpg)

and I'll just sit there
(http://i64.tinypic.com/3502n8n.jpg)

knowing he's right  :plzstop:
but as far as tryna change core attributes of friends ... nah
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Real on May 06, 2017, 06:34:32 PM
Nah. My friends are just as amazing as I am. Nothing to be hard  on them about :letsmessfag:
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Drogon on May 06, 2017, 06:53:17 PM
Quote from: GLO' on May 05, 2017, 10:27:53 PM
Let's chat.



Giving advice, them making mistakes, the ppl they choose to date..their style, their weight, appearance etc :ohwow:

I hold NO punches. I tell them the shit other ppl to pussy to tell them
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: GLOCK on May 07, 2017, 12:31:54 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on May 06, 2017, 06:02:01 PM
Quote from: AJ on May 06, 2017, 04:48:32 PM
there's a time and place for everything, i think knowing how to decipher when its time to be a listening ear or just get them together is what makes you a good friend sometimes.
True. I actually love being a support system for my friends
!
❤️
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Vonc2002 on June 18, 2017, 07:36:55 AM
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Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: GRAND on June 18, 2017, 07:39:48 AM
:guys:

I saw that

Did you have to read glock or something
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Vonc2002 on June 18, 2017, 07:42:56 AM
Mistake. Iono how i even got in this old thread tbh
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: GRAND on June 18, 2017, 07:45:48 AM
c

:bvy:
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: #Mu7 on June 18, 2017, 07:49:21 AM
Yes very, but then again that's why we are all very successful and happy !  We were very hard on another Especially when were in undergrad, we had to be though! Ain't nobody got time for you to be in all that student debt and  STILL end up working in call centers, Walmart, Starbucks, clothing stores etc. Da fuck!?
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Real on June 18, 2017, 08:33:21 AM
I encourage my friends and vice versa. But we're all adults. It's not my place to scold them.
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: GLOCK on June 18, 2017, 08:38:42 AM
Quote from: LORD GRAND SUPREME PRIME CELESTIAL MARSHALL on June 18, 2017, 07:39:48 AM
:guys:

I saw that

Did you have to read glock or something
:uhh:
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: BigDawg on June 18, 2017, 08:49:00 AM
Quote from: Real on June 18, 2017, 08:33:21 AM
I encourage my friends and vice versa. But we're all adults. It's not my place to scold them.
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Kurama on June 18, 2017, 02:21:27 PM
Eh, it really depends on context for a question like this.

My friends aren't perfect. Im not perfect. So whenever something arises that may seem a little off we are completely able to have a transparent conversation and give constructive feedback. As long as you know feedback is coming from a place of love and care then its all good.

If ever I have concerns about something they're doing I bring the pro's and cons to their attention, how it affects us, while accepting that it's there right to choose, and we move on.

Luckily my friends and I have this and Im thankful for it. They inspire me and help me to be better in all facets. That's what I think friends should do.
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: BrokenHeartsHeal on June 18, 2017, 02:23:41 PM
Quote from: Young on May 05, 2017, 10:52:30 PM
Quote from: GLO' on May 05, 2017, 10:27:53 PM
Let's chat.



Giving advice, them making mistakes, the ppl they choose to date..their style, their weight, appearance etc :ohwow:

Just got into some mess with one about their weight .

Unh unh. If I'm a friend imma keep it 100.
Another one has relationship issues and I make sure they're given some sound advice

did u invite a makeover expert to the villa?  :ohwow:
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: KING BENTLEY. on June 18, 2017, 02:25:17 PM
Quote from: Mu on June 18, 2017, 07:49:21 AM
Yes very, but then again that's why we are all very successful and happy !  We were very hard on another Especially when were in undergrad, we had to be though! Ain't nobody got time for you to be in all that student debt and  STILL end up working in call centers, Walmart, Starbucks, clothing stores etc. Da fuck!?
sssssssssssssssss

str8 outta the OWN network brosis!
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Young on June 18, 2017, 02:27:19 PM
Quote from: G-L-O-C-K on May 05, 2017, 10:27:53 PM
Let's chat.



Giving advice, them making mistakes, the ppl they choose to date..their style, their weight, appearance etc :ohwow:

Oh yes.

We motivated and push each other to greatness.
Only kind of friends to have tbh
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: GLOCK on June 18, 2017, 02:31:08 PM
nklbkjnjk

yes young for both of these replies
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Opposites Attract. on June 18, 2017, 02:32:40 PM
Yes but in a loving supportive kinda way. I don't nitpick or judge them because they don't judge me but I always encourage and uplift them. Brotherhood is a beautiful thing when done right.
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: KING BENTLEY. on June 18, 2017, 02:34:26 PM
Margy do you know how to get tickets to that new history museum for black folks?
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: Opposites Attract. on June 18, 2017, 02:37:27 PM
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on June 18, 2017, 02:34:26 PM
Margy do you know how to get tickets to that new history museum for black folks?
1. Wake up hella early to be online by 6:30 to get tickets on the site or be at the Museum by 1pm to get walk up tickets.
Title: Re: Are you hard on your friends?
Post by: LOONA. on June 18, 2017, 02:49:04 PM
Quote from: Kurama on June 18, 2017, 02:21:27 PM
Eh, it really depends on context for a question like this.

My friends aren't perfect. Im not perfect. So whenever something arises that may seem a little off we are completely able to have a transparent conversation and give constructive feedback. As long as you know feedback is coming from a place of love and care then its all good.

If ever I have concerns about something they're doing I bring the pro's and cons to their attention, how it affects us, while accepting that it's there right to choose, and we move on.

Luckily my friends and I have this and Im thankful for it. They inspire me and help me to be better in all facets. That's what I think friends should do.

What this faggot said.