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Title: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: HUGO on June 13, 2017, 05:58:58 AM
I've always been a shy person since my childhood. It's gotta better with age but when I'm in large crowds I fuckin freeze up

:stressed:
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: HUGO on June 13, 2017, 05:59:40 AM
I had someone tell me as a man my age I shouldn't be as shy as I am.... :uhh:
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: b7 on June 13, 2017, 06:03:04 AM
Absolutely. I've never really been shy, but you can try different things that may pull you out of ur comfort zone, and once u face those fears, normal settings may not seem like such a task.
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: b7 on June 13, 2017, 06:03:13 AM
Maybe a theatre class
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Gilgamesh. on June 13, 2017, 06:05:41 AM
I was very timid as a kid. I think I grew out of it around 8/9 years old.
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: HUGO on June 13, 2017, 06:13:18 AM
Quote from: 1RIG on June 13, 2017, 06:03:04 AM
Absolutely. I've never really been shy, but you can try different things that may pull you out of ur comfort zone, and once u face those fears, normal settings may not seem like such a task.

It's not even normal settings I have problems with. I'm just naturally a low key mysterious awkward person. Like when I meet people for the first time I don't give too much and I think my friends considering it as me being "stand-offish" whenever they introduce me to someone  :plzstop:
But it's just how I am. I open up at my own pace I think.
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: HUGO on June 13, 2017, 06:15:16 AM
Quote from: 1RIG on June 13, 2017, 06:03:13 AM
Maybe a theatre class


Oh God! I thought about this but I'd probably be too nervous
:plzstop:
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Mel. on June 13, 2017, 06:26:38 AM
I don't think so...I'm just like you
in large crowds or awkward situations, I tend to close myself off and get timid, quiet, etc..

I don't really come out or show my true self unless I'm comfortable.
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Mel. on June 13, 2017, 06:27:13 AM
And it's absolutely nothing wrong with it.
it's just how you are....

embrace it.
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on June 13, 2017, 07:38:32 AM
speaking from experience

yes it is something to grow out of but my love for singing and the arts helped
and practice with giving presentations and an acting class helped me

also barney taught me that the things that used to bother me really arent so scary at all no theyre not so scary at all
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on June 13, 2017, 07:41:56 AM
Quote from: Khoi Zan on June 13, 2017, 06:25:19 AM
I'm actually kind of quiet and shy in person.


i kinda stopped right here

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:dead:


Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on June 13, 2017, 07:44:12 AM
Quote from: ♊ on June 13, 2017, 06:26:38 AM

I don't really come out or show my true self unless I'm comfortable.

or on a forum for about ten years :wub:
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on June 13, 2017, 08:10:09 AM
lol well lets do lunch :feelinmyself:
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on June 13, 2017, 08:21:29 AM
lol whats so scary about that
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on June 13, 2017, 08:27:38 AM
Quote from: Khoi Zan on June 13, 2017, 08:25:39 AM
cuz ur a bitch hun

[youtube autoplay=1 start=35 end=37]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mBwyEur4LUQ[/youtube]
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Kaeli. on June 13, 2017, 08:48:13 AM
Quote from: HUGO on June 13, 2017, 06:13:18 AM
Quote from: 1RIG on June 13, 2017, 06:03:04 AM
Absolutely. I've never really been shy, but you can try different things that may pull you out of ur comfort zone, and once u face those fears, normal settings may not seem like such a task.

It's not even normal settings I have problems with. I'm just naturally a low key mysterious awkward person. Like when I meet people for the first time I don't give too much and I think my friends considering it as me being "stand-offish" whenever they introduce me to someone  :plzstop:
But it's just how I am. I open up at my own pace I think.

r u a capricorn
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: 'ology on June 13, 2017, 08:51:03 AM
Quote from: Khoi Zan on June 13, 2017, 08:25:39 AM
cuz ur a bitch hun

:plzstop:
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Admin on June 13, 2017, 09:20:39 AM
I think it really depends on the person.

However I think shyness isn't bad. Society always tells us not to be shy. Be open! Introverted=bad. Extroverted=good. Especially in workplace.
But shy people are often very observant and tend to be good listeners.
If you're naturally shy, embrace it and work from there. Try to find a balance that you're still comfortable with.
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Barbie Dangerous on June 13, 2017, 09:28:09 AM
It depends on the environment and the person so I don't think it's something a person necessarily "outgrows." I've always been outgoing but I did become a bit shy from ages 11-13. You add a little puberty and a few life lessons to the mix and, VOILA! Here I am today!
:cheerup:
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: HUGO on June 13, 2017, 11:45:04 AM
Quote from: Khoi Zan on June 13, 2017, 06:25:19 AM
I'm actually kind of quiet and shy in person.
Really have to get comfortable around people before I begin opening up.

It's something I never really noticed until my best friend pointed it out.

But funnily enough, I'm very quick to make new friends. I'm always seen to be very approachable and friendly.
I guess it's the 100% Herb experience that doesn't come until I know you're good peeps.
I think that's what my bestie was referring to -- all the laughing, silliness and mess. I'm very reserved until I warm up to you.

I'm the same way Herb. If it's one to one. But when it's a large ass group of people (I just came off this travel venture trip) just doing the most it's a lot for me to take in
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: HUGO on June 13, 2017, 11:46:11 AM
Quote from: Kaeli. on June 13, 2017, 08:48:13 AM
Quote from: HUGO on June 13, 2017, 06:13:18 AM
Quote from: 1RIG on June 13, 2017, 06:03:04 AM
Absolutely. I've never really been shy, but you can try different things that may pull you out of ur comfort zone, and once u face those fears, normal settings may not seem like such a task.

It's not even normal settings I have problems with. I'm just naturally a low key mysterious awkward person. Like when I meet people for the first time I don't give too much and I think my friends considering it as me being "stand-offish" whenever they introduce me to someone  :plzstop:
But it's just how I am. I open up at my own pace I think.

r u a capricorn

Scorpio
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: LOONA. on June 13, 2017, 12:11:31 PM
I used to think i was shy until I realize I was just an introvert and asocial.   
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: sawayama on June 13, 2017, 01:24:55 PM
It's a personality trait. You can do things to overcome it, but for the most part it's not going to go away entirely. And it shouldn't be viewed as a negative thing.
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: sawayama on June 13, 2017, 01:27:57 PM
Quote from: squid on June 13, 2017, 09:20:39 AM
I think it really depends on the person.

However I think shyness isn't bad. Society always tells us not to be shy. Be open! Introverted=bad. Extroverted=good. Especially in workplace.
But shy people are often very observant and tend to be good listeners.
If you're naturally shy, embrace it and work from there. Try to find a balance that you're still comfortable with.

!!
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on June 13, 2017, 01:41:26 PM
u guys are funny

here i am was diagnosed with having social difficulties when i was younger

and look at me know

as social butterfly

who woulda thunk it
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: HUGO on June 13, 2017, 04:07:00 PM
Quote from: DAMN. on June 13, 2017, 02:42:58 PM
Quote from: JaySeeJay on June 13, 2017, 01:24:55 PM
It's a personality trait. You can do things to overcome it, but for the most part it's not going to go away entirely. And it shouldn't be viewed as a negative thing.
!!!

I've been shy since like forever. There's nothing wrong with it.

People make it seem like it is.
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Kurama on June 13, 2017, 04:08:14 PM
Nah not really. Depends on the degree of shyness though.

I think people learn better ways to mask & overcome it.
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Aamerie. on June 13, 2017, 10:32:21 PM
"Shy" is a broad term. It could be some form of anxiety.
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: BrokenHeartsHeal on June 13, 2017, 11:27:06 PM
I haven't. I always have to challenge myself day b day,
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on June 13, 2017, 11:29:55 PM
not all dese niggas giving shy teas

Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: BrokenHeartsHeal on June 14, 2017, 02:47:21 AM
:justabit:
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Inject My Lips on June 14, 2017, 03:24:18 AM
You might grow out of it a little since other peoples opinions of you become less important as you age, but you still might have to be proactive and do things out of your comfort zone to fully let go of the terrible trait. 
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Real on June 14, 2017, 04:17:17 AM
I'm not shy, but I'm not a big talker. I have to warm up to people first. I'm the worst small talk person ever :dead:
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: CHOKE on June 14, 2017, 09:44:09 AM
Am a shy introverted girl at heart

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Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: LOONA. on June 14, 2017, 09:48:13 AM
g
Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on June 14, 2017, 10:14:13 AM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4GukcfY9pNw
:enchantress:

Title: Re: Is shyness something you grow out of?
Post by: Scott. on June 14, 2017, 11:10:19 AM
Walking in large crowds are a chore for me. I've always hated it