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Title: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 09:34:39 AM
For example...

Let's say you introduce your best friend to another friend of yours in a group setting and they start contacting each other behind your back.


edit: They are also going places and hanging out without inviting you

edit: An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also


:ohwow:
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Young on November 05, 2018, 09:35:53 AM
No

Let people connect if they do, is how I Feel.
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Gilgamesh. on November 05, 2018, 09:37:30 AM
I don't mind. I actually prefer it 'cause it means I don't have play "go between".

As long as I get an invite when y'all link :everythingok:
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 09:38:01 AM
ok let's spice things up a bit. Let's say they are going places and hanging out without inviting you?
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: GLOCK on November 05, 2018, 09:38:52 AM
What did ton do, faggot?
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Barbie Dangerous on November 05, 2018, 09:39:22 AM
If I introduce you to one another don?t contact each other behind my fckn back. If you wanna talk to each other that?s all fine but I better be included in a group chat, even if I don?t reply.
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:40:20 AM
I wouldn't say that scenario is a selfish friend but I'm neither.  I try to link my friends together if anything
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Young on November 05, 2018, 09:40:46 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:38:01 AM
ok let's spice things up a bit. Let's say they are going places and hanging out without inviting you?

That means they get along and are pretty close

Don't always need an invite

Now if you get TOTALLY kicked to the side then that's a shade

But you could have just been someone who introduced your friends to each other--and they end up being best friends.
Stuff like that can happen.

Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Scott. on November 05, 2018, 09:40:57 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:34:39 AM
For example...

Let's say you introduce your best friend to another friend of yours in a group setting and they start contacting each other behind your back.


edit: They are also going places and hanging out without inviting you

How would you feel?

:ohwow:

I wouldn't care tbh. I actually love it when my friends are cool with each other.
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 09:41:10 AM
If I find out ya'll are hanging out behind my fckin back it's a wrap

:overit:
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Young on November 05, 2018, 09:41:16 AM
Quote from: BowDown on November 05, 2018, 09:39:22 AM
If I introduce you to one another don?t contact each other behind my fckn back. If you wanna talk to each other that?s all fine but I better be included in a group chat, even if I don?t reply.

That's a damn mess
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Young on November 05, 2018, 09:41:54 AM
I've introduced so many of my friends who have created their own bonds/friendships and vise versa
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:42:31 AM
Responding to the edit:
I would feel ok if there were reason i wasnt invited but them just creating a whole friend circle outside of me would probably make me feel a way.  The intention is for us to hang with each other.  Not y'all clique up and leave me out to dry. Ive recently introduced a couple of my friends and it's going pretty well. 
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:43:59 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:41:10 AM
If I find out ya'll are hanging out behind my fckin back it's a wrap

:overit:
This is petty and territorial :kii:
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 09:44:20 AM
An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also?
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:44:44 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:44:20 AM
An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also?
No
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 09:44:57 AM
:fuming:
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Barbie Dangerous on November 05, 2018, 09:44:58 AM
Quote from: Young on November 05, 2018, 09:41:16 AM
Quote from: BowDown on November 05, 2018, 09:39:22 AM
If I introduce you to one another don?t contact each other behind my fckn back. If you wanna talk to each other that?s all fine but I better be included in a group chat, even if I don?t reply.

That's a damn mess
No it?s not. I need some of my friends in separate groups. I know I?m a handful sometimes but I don?t need them joining up to bitch about me.
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Barbie Dangerous on November 05, 2018, 09:46:28 AM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:44:44 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:44:20 AM
An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also?
No
Exactly
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:47:17 AM
Yea, this title is better
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:48:05 AM
Quote from: BowDown on November 05, 2018, 09:44:58 AM
Quote from: Young on November 05, 2018, 09:41:16 AM
Quote from: BowDown on November 05, 2018, 09:39:22 AM
If I introduce you to one another don?t contact each other behind my fckn back. If you wanna talk to each other that?s all fine but I better be included in a group chat, even if I don?t reply.

That's a damn mess
No it?s not. I need some of my friends in separate groups. I know I?m a handful sometimes but I don?t need them joining up to bitch about me.
VERY true. I only link certain friends.  I also like my stand-alone friends as well. 
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:49:44 AM
Yeah im territorial af over my friends. I used to be more so possessive when I was younger and had those flop friendships.

It really depends on the kind of friendship you and your friends have. Id talk to my friend about it, mention my feelings, and get feedback from them.
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:50:14 AM
Faghot you should have added all the deets in the 1st post

:fuming:
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: CHOKE on November 05, 2018, 09:51:00 AM
Yeah, all my friends think the other has a problem with the other because of me.

That?s how I like to keep it.

Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 09:51:00 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:49:44 AM
Yeah im territorial af over my friends. I used to be more so possessive when I was younger and had those flop friendships.

It really depends on the kind of friendship you and your friends have. Id talk to my friend about it, mention my feelings, and get feedback from them.


finally someone with some damn sense

I recently had a blowup with a friend of mine who had started hanging out with someone I introduced him to without EVER inviting me. He did apologize but our friendship isn't the same
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 09:51:13 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:50:14 AM
Faghot you should have added all the deets in the 1st post

:fuming:

ssssssssssssshbhda

you're right
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:51:54 AM
Quote from: Choke on November 05, 2018, 09:51:00 AM
Yeah, all my friends think the other has a problem with the other because of me.

That?s how I like to keep it.
:kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii:
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Young on November 05, 2018, 09:52:53 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:44:20 AM
An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also?

No necessarily. Unless it was something SUPER foul
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: GRAND ETERNAL SUPREME on November 05, 2018, 09:53:08 AM
Faggot who is your friend that is more important than me
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:53:12 AM
Jxjxjjxjdd

Terrible. All my real(best) friends get along. You just gotta have ppl OF you in ur circle. Sounds like yall have some deeper stuff to work through tho
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 09:53:20 AM
this is about you
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 09:53:49 AM
Quote from: Young on November 05, 2018, 09:52:53 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:44:20 AM
An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also?

No necessarily. Unless it was something SUPER foul

you're such a sweet person. all of this would have be HAWT and ready to fight
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:54:23 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:51:00 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:49:44 AM
Yeah im territorial af over my friends. I used to be more so possessive when I was younger and had those flop friendships.

It really depends on the kind of friendship you and your friends have. Id talk to my friend about it, mention my feelings, and get feedback from them.


finally someone with some damn sense

I recently had a blowup with a friend of mine who had started hanging out with someone I introduced him to without EVER inviting me. He did apologize but our friendship isn't the same
Were they romantic?  That's another level that u aren't necessarily entitled to either
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Young on November 05, 2018, 09:54:44 AM
Quote from: BowDown on November 05, 2018, 09:44:58 AM
Quote from: Young on November 05, 2018, 09:41:16 AM
Quote from: BowDown on November 05, 2018, 09:39:22 AM
If I introduce you to one another don?t contact each other behind my fckn back. If you wanna talk to each other that?s all fine but I better be included in a group chat, even if I don?t reply.

That's a damn mess
No it?s not. I need some of my friends in separate groups. I know I?m a handful sometimes but I don?t need them joining up to bitch about me.

lemma fix it

YOU a damn mess

They should have nothing to bitch about--nothing seriously anyway
(http://i64.tinypic.com/2rhphqr.jpg)
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Gilgamesh. on November 05, 2018, 09:55:11 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:44:20 AM
An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also?

No. That is so juvenile.
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 09:55:13 AM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:54:23 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:51:00 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:49:44 AM
Yeah im territorial af over my friends. I used to be more so possessive when I was younger and had those flop friendships.

It really depends on the kind of friendship you and your friends have. Id talk to my friend about it, mention my feelings, and get feedback from them.


finally someone with some damn sense

I recently had a blowup with a friend of mine who had started hanging out with someone I introduced him to without EVER inviting me. He did apologize but our friendship isn't the same
Were they romantic?  That's another level that u aren't necessarily entitled to either

no they weren't.

:fuming:
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 09:55:23 AM
Quote from: Gilgamesh. on November 05, 2018, 09:55:11 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:44:20 AM
An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also?

No. That is so juvenile.

fuck you!
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Young on November 05, 2018, 09:56:02 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:51:00 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:49:44 AM
Yeah im territorial af over my friends. I used to be more so possessive when I was younger and had those flop friendships.

It really depends on the kind of friendship you and your friends have. Id talk to my friend about it, mention my feelings, and get feedback from them.


finally someone with some damn sense

I recently had a blowup with a friend of mine who had started hanging out with someone I introduced him to without EVER inviting me. He did apologize but our friendship isn't the same

That's what the fight was about
(http://i64.tinypic.com/2rhphqr.jpg)
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:56:17 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:51:00 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:49:44 AM
Yeah im territorial af over my friends. I used to be more so possessive when I was younger and had those flop friendships.

It really depends on the kind of friendship you and your friends have. Id talk to my friend about it, mention my feelings, and get feedback from them.


finally someone with some damn sense

I recently had a blowup with a friend of mine who had started hanging out with someone I introduced him to without EVER inviting me. He did apologize but our friendship isn't the same

So you just dont vibe with the other friend and their connection wasnt romantic? Or are you cool with both and by their actions it seems like they enjoy each other more than they do you?
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:57:43 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:55:23 AM
Quote from: Gilgamesh. on November 05, 2018, 09:55:11 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:44:20 AM
An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also?

No. That is so juvenile.

fuck you!
:kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii:
So u want one to stop talking to the other?  Once u introduce people their connection is out of your hands. U can't dictate the way people are with each other :dead:
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: GRAND ETERNAL SUPREME on November 05, 2018, 09:59:05 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:53:20 AM
this is about you
C VUGVGGIBTIVB
I don't know any of your friends
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: FlowerBomb on November 05, 2018, 09:59:57 AM
Yh my last ex became friends with all MY friends when we broke up lol
I cut them all off
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Young on November 05, 2018, 10:00:03 AM
So it sounds like the other two just.."click" more right?

One is still very close to you, the other is a friend but not quite the same after a falling out. (About this very thing?)

Why would you  feel a way about that bby? --do you not like the fact that they might have a closer connection?
(http://i64.tinypic.com/2rhphqr.jpg)
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Young on November 05, 2018, 10:00:48 AM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:57:43 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:55:23 AM
Quote from: Gilgamesh. on November 05, 2018, 09:55:11 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:44:20 AM
An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also?

No. That is so juvenile.

fuck you!
:kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii:
So u want one to stop talking to the other?  Once u introduce people their connection is out of your hands. U can't dictate the way people are with each other :dead:

!!!!!  dssssssssssssssssssssssss

Be friends--but under my rules!
gor..
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Gilgamesh. on November 05, 2018, 10:01:54 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:55:23 AM
Quote from: Gilgamesh. on November 05, 2018, 09:55:11 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:44:20 AM
An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also?

No. That is so juvenile.

fuck you!

dndndnd

Let me explain, my best friend fell out with another friend in our group (someone i'm not close with) anyhow, they stopped talking for five years and made up earlier this year. I didn't mind but I found out she was crying her eyes out and saying shew was "blacklisted" from our group because most of us had taken my bestie's side.

So now I don't take sides and I always give the person chance to explain themselves.
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Barbie Dangerous on November 05, 2018, 10:02:02 AM
Quote from: Young on November 05, 2018, 09:54:44 AM
Quote from: BowDown on November 05, 2018, 09:44:58 AM
Quote from: Young on November 05, 2018, 09:41:16 AM
Quote from: BowDown on November 05, 2018, 09:39:22 AM
If I introduce you to one another don?t contact each other behind my fckn back. If you wanna talk to each other that?s all fine but I better be included in a group chat, even if I don?t reply.

That's a damn mess
No it?s not. I need some of my friends in separate groups. I know I?m a handful sometimes but I don?t need them joining up to bitch about me.

lemma fix it

YOU a damn mess

They should have nothing to bitch about--nothing seriously anyway
(http://i64.tinypic.com/2rhphqr.jpg)
I?m not the problem. I know them well enough to know that their friendship won?t really last.

(http://i64.tinypic.com/2rhphqr.jpg)
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 10:02:36 AM
Quote from: Young on November 05, 2018, 10:00:48 AM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:57:43 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:55:23 AM
Quote from: Gilgamesh. on November 05, 2018, 09:55:11 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:44:20 AM
An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also?

No. That is so juvenile.

fuck you!
:kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii:
So u want one to stop talking to the other?  Once u introduce people their connection is out of your hands. U can't dictate the way people are with each other :dead:

!!!!!  dssssssssssssssssssssssss

Be friends--but under my rules!
gor..
!!!!!!!!! :kii:
People are a damn mess
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 10:03:48 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:56:17 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:51:00 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:49:44 AM
Yeah im territorial af over my friends. I used to be more so possessive when I was younger and had those flop friendships.

It really depends on the kind of friendship you and your friends have. Id talk to my friend about it, mention my feelings, and get feedback from them.


finally someone with some damn sense

I recently had a blowup with a friend of mine who had started hanging out with someone I introduced him to without EVER inviting me. He did apologize but our friendship isn't the same

So you just dont vibe with the other friend and their connection wasnt romantic? Or are you cool with both and by their actions it seems like they enjoy each other more than they do you?

this.

So the total story is I established a "friendship" (I use quotes because I take the term very seriously) with this guy (let's call him J). After several months I invited him to dinner with my best friend (let's call him M) of about 4 years. We all had a good time and said we would get together again. They exchanged numbers (I had been drinking so I didn't think too much of it).

In the beginning of myself and J's friendship I would have to practically beg him to go out and do anything as he is extremely introverted so it was quite surprising to me when I found out he had been asking M to go out and do things.


Anyway I mentioned it to M (best friend) and he said he agreed that it was strange and apologized. As far as I know now they don't communicate but the whole situation has left a bad taste in my mouth.
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 10:04:54 AM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:57:43 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:55:23 AM
Quote from: Gilgamesh. on November 05, 2018, 09:55:11 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:44:20 AM
An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also?

No. That is so juvenile.

fuck you!
:kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii:
So u want one to stop talking to the other?  Once u introduce people their connection is out of your hands. U can't dictate the way people are with each other :dead:

you wanna bet? :fuming:
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 10:05:13 AM
Quote from: WTF on November 05, 2018, 09:59:57 AM
Yh my last ex became friends with all MY friends when we broke up lol
I cut them all off

love this
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Young on November 05, 2018, 10:17:49 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 10:03:48 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:56:17 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:51:00 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:49:44 AM
Yeah im territorial af over my friends. I used to be more so possessive when I was younger and had those flop friendships.

It really depends on the kind of friendship you and your friends have. Id talk to my friend about it, mention my feelings, and get feedback from them.


finally someone with some damn sense

I recently had a blowup with a friend of mine who had started hanging out with someone I introduced him to without EVER inviting me. He did apologize but our friendship isn't the same

So you just dont vibe with the other friend and their connection wasnt romantic? Or are you cool with both and by their actions it seems like they enjoy each other more than they do you?

this.

So the total story is I established a "friendship" (I use quotes because I take the term very seriously) with this guy (let's call him J). After several months I invited him to dinner with my best friend (let's call him M) of about 4 years. We all had a good time and said we would get together again. They exchanged numbers (I had been drinking so I didn't think too much of it).

In the beginning of myself and J's friendship I would have to practically beg him to go out and do anything as he is extremely introverted so it was quite surprising to me when I found out he had been asking M to go out and do things.


Anyway I mentioned it to M (best friend) and he said he agreed that it was strange and apologized. As far as I know now they don't communicate but the whole situation has left a bad taste in my mouth.

ohhhh okay I got it

Well it sounds like this Introvert, J, feels very comfortable with being around M. Nothing against you per-say but some people just naturally click more in some ways. And if he is just a "friend" I wouldn't take it to heart too much .
Especially if you guys still have your own connection.


I wouldn't start to side eye unless you invited them to come over to your place and you keep getting ditched
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 10:20:56 AM
they're both dead to me babe
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Young on November 05, 2018, 10:22:24 AM
cxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx  gorl
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 10:24:10 AM
whew thanks guys. Glad you all agree with me
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: GRAND ETERNAL SUPREME on November 05, 2018, 10:25:05 AM
S still trying to figure out who these faggots are
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: yummy on November 05, 2018, 11:04:18 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:51:00 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:49:44 AM
Yeah im territorial af over my friends. I used to be more so possessive when I was younger and had those flop friendships.

It really depends on the kind of friendship you and your friends have. Id talk to my friend about it, mention my feelings, and get feedback from them.


finally someone with some damn sense

I recently had a blowup with a friend of mine who had started hanging out with someone I introduced him to without EVER inviting me. He did apologize but our friendship isn't the same

Maybe they bonded over some things that you weren?t interested in? They probably thought you wouldn?t enjoy yourself.
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 11:13:21 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 10:03:48 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:56:17 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:51:00 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:49:44 AM
Yeah im territorial af over my friends. I used to be more so possessive when I was younger and had those flop friendships.

It really depends on the kind of friendship you and your friends have. Id talk to my friend about it, mention my feelings, and get feedback from them.


finally someone with some damn sense

I recently had a blowup with a friend of mine who had started hanging out with someone I introduced him to without EVER inviting me. He did apologize but our friendship isn't the same

So you just dont vibe with the other friend and their connection wasnt romantic? Or are you cool with both and by their actions it seems like they enjoy each other more than they do you?

this.

So the total story is I established a "friendship" (I use quotes because I take the term very seriously) with this guy (let's call him J). After several months I invited him to dinner with my best friend (let's call him M) of about 4 years. We all had a good time and said we would get together again. They exchanged numbers (I had been drinking so I didn't think too much of it).

In the beginning of myself and J's friendship I would have to practically beg him to go out and do anything as he is extremely introverted so it was quite surprising to me when I found out he had been asking M to go out and do things.


Anyway I mentioned it to M (best friend) and he said he agreed that it was strange and apologized. As far as I know now they don't communicate but the whole situation has left a bad taste in my mouth.

Where do you and J stand now? It could just be he was more comfortable going out with M or he could have been attracted to him and wanted alone time.

I'd also be curious about what M thought when J used to invite him out and not you. If he didn't know then how did he feel when you didn't show up to some of these outtings? U sure they don't still speak?
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 11:18:59 AM
I don't speak to J anymore.

M claims he though J was inviting me but that I was turning him down. They may still speak tbh
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 11:23:56 AM
Yeah...what you thinking? Cause this sounds a lil sketch.
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 11:24:37 AM
and bish this beyond territorial sdsdsd

this pretty possessive if you want M to disconnect from J because yall no longer speak.
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Gilgamesh. on November 05, 2018, 11:27:57 AM
Okay I gotta ask, are you and M just friends?
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 11:34:24 AM
Quote from: Gilgamesh. on November 05, 2018, 11:27:57 AM
Okay I gotta ask, are you and M just friends?

absolutely :dead:
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 05, 2018, 11:35:56 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 11:24:37 AM
and bish this beyond territorial sdsdsd

this pretty possessive if you want M to disconnect from J because yall no longer speak.


sssssssssssshblshbvhlsvs

I know it is.

fck it. J tried to fuck my man and I don't anyone should be friends with his ass
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 11:41:14 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 11:35:56 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 11:24:37 AM
and bish this beyond territorial sdsdsd

this pretty possessive if you want M to disconnect from J because yall no longer speak.


sssssssssssshblshbvhlsvs

I know it is.

fck it. J tried to fuck my man and I don't anyone should be friends with his ass

wdertrer

WTF. He knew he was your dude!?

Yeah that's a character flaw, that's mess, that's thirst, that's a lack of integrity. If M is close to you and he knows that he should want to fallback for himself, not even including your thoughts.
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Young on November 05, 2018, 11:58:55 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 11:35:56 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 11:24:37 AM
and bish this beyond territorial sdsdsd

this pretty possessive if you want M to disconnect from J because yall no longer speak.


sssssssssssshblshbvhlsvs

I know it is.

fck it. J tried to fuck my man and I don't anyone should be friends with his ass

ohhhh hell no!
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: 🦚 on November 05, 2018, 12:01:02 PM
Nope. I introduce all my friends to each other and encourage them to kick it.

I?m very secure in who I am and what I bring to the table.
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 12:06:21 PM
Quote from: Slei talks that Cash Cash Shit on November 05, 2018, 12:01:02 PM
Nope. I introduce all my friends to each other and encourage them to kick it.

I?m very secure in who I am and what I bring to the table.

This also helped me too. Aint no replacing me. We're all gonna be one big happy family together. Security and knowing its reciprocal is a beautiful thing.
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: Scott. on November 05, 2018, 12:08:15 PM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:44:20 AM
An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also?

Why should they? They have nothing to do with our issue
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 12:14:33 PM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 11:35:56 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 11:24:37 AM
and bish this beyond territorial sdsdsd

this pretty possessive if you want M to disconnect from J because yall no longer speak.


sssssssssssshblshbvhlsvs

I know it is.

fck it. J tried to fuck my man and I don't anyone should be friends with his ass
Oh well ir friend should just want to fall back for himself.  There are certain situations where i feel like friends should follow suit
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Scott. on November 05, 2018, 12:30:02 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on November 05, 2018, 11:04:18 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:51:00 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 09:49:44 AM
Yeah im territorial af over my friends. I used to be more so possessive when I was younger and had those flop friendships.

It really depends on the kind of friendship you and your friends have. Id talk to my friend about it, mention my feelings, and get feedback from them.


finally someone with some damn sense

I recently had a blowup with a friend of mine who had started hanging out with someone I introduced him to without EVER inviting me. He did apologize but our friendship isn't the same

Maybe they bonded over some things that you weren?t interested in? They probably thought you wouldn?t enjoy yourself.

I agree
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Scott. on November 05, 2018, 12:34:09 PM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 11:35:56 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 11:24:37 AM
and bish this beyond territorial sdsdsd

this pretty possessive if you want M to disconnect from J because yall no longer speak.


sssssssssssshblshbvhlsvs

I know it is.

fck it. J tried to fuck my man and I don't anyone should be friends with his ass

Ggggggg

Why didn?t you make this clear?

Why dudhr
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: GRAND ETERNAL SUPREME on November 05, 2018, 01:11:09 PM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 11:35:56 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 11:24:37 AM
and bish this beyond territorial sdsdsd

this pretty possessive if you want M to disconnect from J because yall no longer speak.


sssssssssssshblshbvhlsvs

I know it is.

fck it. J tried to fuck my man and I don't anyone should be friends with his ass
let me fight him King
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Barbie Dangerous on November 05, 2018, 01:12:15 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 12:14:33 PM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 11:35:56 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 11:24:37 AM
and bish this beyond territorial sdsdsd

this pretty possessive if you want M to disconnect from J because yall no longer speak.


sssssssssssshblshbvhlsvs

I know it is.

fck it. J tried to fuck my man and I don't anyone should be friends with his ass
Oh well ir friend should just want to fall back for himself.  There are certain situations where i feel like friends should follow suit
Exactly. That?s why I like to keep the bitches separated.
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Barbie Dangerous on November 05, 2018, 01:15:27 PM
What scares me most is that they?d fall out though. It?s happened before where friends of mine have become friends and then they have a fight that leaves me in a position where I have to almost choose. Just stay in your respective lanes.
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Scott. on November 05, 2018, 01:25:41 PM
I just don?t pick sides and l annoy people with that and l don?t give a fuck.

I could fall out with people and my cousin would still fuck with them. However, if he falls out with someone, I?m supposed to do the same. No
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: MelMel on November 05, 2018, 01:32:05 PM
nope
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Lazarus on November 05, 2018, 01:34:56 PM
Quote from: MelMel on November 05, 2018, 01:32:05 PM
nope
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 02:36:41 PM
Quote from: tontonton on November 05, 2018, 01:11:09 PM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 11:35:56 AM
Quote from: Kurama on November 05, 2018, 11:24:37 AM
and bish this beyond territorial sdsdsd

this pretty possessive if you want M to disconnect from J because yall no longer speak.


sssssssssssshblshbvhlsvs

I know it is.

fck it. J tried to fuck my man and I don't anyone should be friends with his ass
let me fight him King

Can I come guys?
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Stunna Gor’ on November 05, 2018, 03:17:02 PM
D

I had this convo with Bre and Mel not too long ago. I think I am... and my friends told me I?m kinda jealous and territorial. I?m always the type to go and become friends with a friend that my friend introduces me to and build a separate relationship, but when it?s done to me, I guess I?m like...

:omgwatshappening:

SDDDDDDDDDDDDVGFFFFFF

I learned I just don?t like to feel excluded. Even if I don?t want to go, invite my ass and let me tell you I?m not fucking coming.

(http://i66.tinypic.com/2hwlp90.png)
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: MelMel on November 05, 2018, 03:46:00 PM
Quote from: Trey on November 05, 2018, 03:17:02 PM
D

I had this convo with Bre and Mel not too long ago. I think I am... and my friends told me I?m kinda jealous and territorial. I?m always the type to go and become friends with a friend that my friend introduces me to and build a separate relationship, but when it?s done to me, I guess I?m like...

:omgwatshappening:

SDDDDDDDDDDDDVGFFFFFF

I learned I just don?t like to feel excluded. Even if I don?t want to go, invite my ass and let me tell you I?m not fucking coming.

(http://i66.tinypic.com/2hwlp90.png)
like you did today with Shaking Crab, fag?
:hmph:
Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: b7 on November 05, 2018, 04:16:17 PM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:44:20 AM
An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also?
nah that?s pretty immature IMO unless it?s something unforgivable like sleeping with ur nigga or stealing or some crazy shit

But even then, I?d probably only side eye em and warn them about the friend and their ways
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: b7 on November 05, 2018, 04:17:41 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:51:54 AM
Quote from: Choke on November 05, 2018, 09:51:00 AM
Yeah, all my friends think the other has a problem with the other because of me.

That?s how I like to keep it.
:kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii:
bbbhhhhhhhhhhj
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: GRAND ETERNAL SUPREME on November 05, 2018, 04:22:19 PM
Quote from: 1RIG on November 05, 2018, 04:17:41 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:51:54 AM
Quote from: Choke on November 05, 2018, 09:51:00 AM
Yeah, all my friends think the other has a problem with the other because of me.

That?s how I like to keep it.
:kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii:
bbbhhhhhhhhhhj
I'm crying
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: GRAND ETERNAL SUPREME on November 05, 2018, 04:22:47 PM
I can't breathe
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Stunna Gor’ on November 05, 2018, 04:35:48 PM
Quote from: MelMel on November 05, 2018, 03:46:00 PM
Quote from: Trey on November 05, 2018, 03:17:02 PM
D

I had this convo with Bre and Mel not too long ago. I think I am... and my friends told me I?m kinda jealous and territorial. I?m always the type to go and become friends with a friend that my friend introduces me to and build a separate relationship, but when it?s done to me, I guess I?m like...

:omgwatshappening:

SDDDDDDDDDDDDVGFFFFFF

I learned I just don?t like to feel excluded. Even if I don?t want to go, invite my ass and let me tell you I?m not fucking coming.

(http://i66.tinypic.com/2hwlp90.png)
like you did today with Shaking Crab, fag?
:hmph:
ssddddddddddddsssss

Or like you going to BBQs without me. That was our thing.

Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Stunna Gor’ on November 05, 2018, 04:37:47 PM
Quote from: tontonton on November 05, 2018, 04:22:19 PM
Quote from: 1RIG on November 05, 2018, 04:17:41 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on November 05, 2018, 09:51:54 AM
Quote from: Choke on November 05, 2018, 09:51:00 AM
Yeah, all my friends think the other has a problem with the other because of me.

That?s how I like to keep it.
:kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii: :kii:
bbbhhhhhhhhhhj
I'm crying
SSSDDDDDDDDDDDSSDDDDDSDSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSDCCFFDDSDDDDSSSSSDDDDSSDDD
DS
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Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: b7 on November 06, 2018, 04:12:13 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 11:18:59 AM
I don't speak to J anymore.

M claims he though J was inviting me but that I was turning him down. They may still speak tbh
sssddsds were u attracted to J at all? btw, i would feel some kinda way after reading ur full story, but im not
sure i would say anything about it. I would just have to assume he's more comfortable with M for whatever reason
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Sinpool on November 06, 2018, 05:08:48 AM
I am tbh

I remember I'd be pissed when I saw my best friend hanging out with someone else and they looked like they were having too much fun or it seemed like he was more outgoing with them

Mind you this is when me and him were attached at the hips. When we'd hang out we'd hang from like 9pm to 4am, I'd sit and comb his beard in his bed even though he didn't like it, and he'd have to literally ask me to go home cause my ass would be perched not moving. We were together so much people started mixing us up

I told him he didn't wanna hang and do stuff enough and he said I'm sorry I don't give you 24 hours of my day everyday

f
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Gilgamesh. on November 06, 2018, 06:46:11 AM
Quote from: Sinyonc? on November 06, 2018, 05:08:48 AM
I am tbh

I remember I'd be pissed when I saw my best friend hanging out with someone else and they looked like they were having too much fun or it seemed like he was more outgoing with them

Mind you this is when me and him were attached at the hips. When we'd hang out we'd hang from like 9pm to 4am, I'd sit and comb his beard in his bed even though he didn't like it, and he'd have to literally ask me to go home cause my ass would be perched not moving. We were together so much people started mixing us up

I told him he didn't wanna hang and do stuff enough and he said I'm sorry I don't give you 24 hours of my day everyday

f

This sounds crazy  :uhh: :uhh: :uhh:
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Gilgamesh. on November 06, 2018, 06:47:06 AM
Sin, what in the Single Black Faggot is going on?  :mmyulost:
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Barbie Dangerous on November 06, 2018, 07:01:18 AM
Combing beards until 4am?

(http://i64.tinypic.com/2rhphqr.jpg)
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: GRAND ETERNAL SUPREME on November 06, 2018, 07:11:29 AM
I'm crying
Let's close this thread
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Young on November 06, 2018, 08:14:23 AM
Quote from: Sinyonc? on November 06, 2018, 05:08:48 AM
I am tbh

I remember I'd be pissed when I saw my best friend hanging out with someone else and they looked like they were having too much fun or it seemed like he was more outgoing with them

Mind you this is when me and him were attached at the hips. When we'd hang out we'd hang from like 9pm to 4am, I'd sit and comb his beard in his bed even though he didn't like it, and he'd have to literally ask me to go home cause my ass would be perched not moving. We were together so much people started mixing us up

I told him he didn't wanna hang and do stuff enough and he said I'm sorry I don't give you 24 hours of my day everyday

f

(http://i64.tinypic.com/2rhphqr.jpg)
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Nine on November 06, 2018, 09:16:45 AM
I mean, yeah.

friendship! connection!

I'm the fckn glue and don't y'all forget it.

:hmph:
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Sinpool on November 07, 2018, 02:06:50 PM
Quote from: Gilgamesh. on November 06, 2018, 06:47:06 AM
Sin, what in the Single Black Faggot is going on?  :mmyulost:

kjdnjknjkdddddddddddddddddddddddd
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Sinpool on November 07, 2018, 02:07:05 PM
What happened in here wtf
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: LOONA. on November 07, 2018, 08:15:46 PM
I mean if I'm introducing friends to each other I'd kinda want them to get along. IDC about them going places without inviting me

Gur you're crazy     

Title: Re: Are you a selfish friend?
Post by: LOONA. on November 07, 2018, 08:18:16 PM
Quote from: Gilgamesh. on November 05, 2018, 09:55:11 AM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:44:20 AM
An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also?

No. That is so juvenile.

ffjjfff

Bran hun 

You must have feelings for one of these "friends" 


Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 07, 2018, 08:30:19 PM
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Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: LOONA. on November 07, 2018, 09:48:19 PM
Everybody dragged you hun     
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on November 07, 2018, 09:52:40 PM
I made up the story anyway ?????
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on November 07, 2018, 10:10:59 PM
Quote from: Zanny on November 05, 2018, 09:34:39 AM
For example...

Let's say you introduce your best friend to another friend of yours in a group setting and they start contacting each other behind your back.


edit: They are also going places and hanging out without inviting you

edit: An additional layer:

You have fallen out with one of the friends (not the best friend). Would you expect your best friend to stop talking to the friend also


:ohwow:

Im experiencing this now and it has me the fuck fuming

So when i was hiring manager at pizza hut I hired L and YK was a re hire whom i re interviewed and YA was working with me at the other job and i hired her at the hut part time
and we all clicked and became friends

but  L and YK started callin each other bestie all the time
and we all went out for my bday and i felt like i was just a prop for them to hang out

so fast forward yk is pregnant from who i assume was some other guys whe was messin with
but L and YK  facebooked me on video to tell me the lastest gossip about the hut and how things werre goin and was like oh check this out and L AND YK started kissin

and i said yawl over there playin spin the bottle

and they kissed a gain with toungue and im just like  :-o :-o :-o :-o :-o :-o :-o :-o :-o :-o :-o :-o :-o :-o :-o :-o

YA said yeah dey a couple now

Im jealous cause i wanted L inside me lol hes my nigga for real
i know i moved out the city but i feel betrayed lol eventho im happy for them lol
Title: Re: Are you a territorial friend?
Post by: Sinpool on November 07, 2018, 10:11:59 PM
djbjhbddddddddddddd

Y'all falling in loves with these niggas smh