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[KING BENTLEY.]

Would that be a person(s) you wanted in your life?

[BAPHOMET.]

I'd like to think my friends cared about the things I was doing to actually give them some thought. ? whether they think it's wrong or right.

But as long as they weren't trying to condemn me. and vice versa.

[death]

im means..if we click fckin TIGHT

then ok
like i have a group of bruvs, i consider them BLOOD n am alway open wit them

but if u dnt kno me...move on weirdo! lols!

[Herb.]

My loved ones always keep it 100 with me. If they see something toxic in my life, or (negative) behavior that's not in line with my usual behavior , they will pull me to the side and question it a bit. I wouldn't want people in my life that never challenged me.  But I mean, there are people in life that won't challenge you, but these aren't the people I'd consider to be close friends or family.

My best friend is quick to call me out if she feels I need a wake up call. At first it's always like bitch, how dare you , but in retrospect, just makes me even more thankful for her being in my life. A true friend will temporarily disregard your feelings to get a valuable point through to you. I've had to do the same thing to her before. And I got the same initial reaction of

But when she looks back on the mess she knows I got her fucking back.

[KING BENTLEY.]

I'd like to think my friends cared about the things I was doing to actually give them some thought. ? whether they think it's wrong or right.

But as long as they weren't trying to condemn me. and vice versa.

!!!

I think there's a FINE line between caring about someone and being judgmental.

And if you only see a bit or piece of what someone is going through or just interpreting small pieces of your friends life... you can end up looking like an asshole by just blindly inserting your opinions 

[Herb.]

But being caring or judgmental can be fairly subjective.

A lot of times people confuse genuine concern with judgement or even condemnation.
It comes down to the level of sensitivity a person has IMO.
Or more importantly a misinterpretation of message or intent.

[KING BENTLEY.]

Maybe

but being judgmental is defined as "having or displaying an excessively critical point of view."

am sorry but being caring should never cross that line.

and as Baph said, there's a certain level of condemnation that shouldn't happen with caring ... there's definitely a way to be a caring person without being judgmental regardless of someone's sensitivity level

[Herb.]

Maybe it doesn't cross that line, Bent
but it's all about how its received. You totally missed the point of my post.

[RekeRig]

There's a definite difference. judgement implies exactly what you just posted, and no, I don't want anyone like that around me. But I'd like to think my discernment is good enough and at a level to where I won't ever have to worry about advice or critique coming from any other place but a loving one.

it's ALL about delivery. We've all been taught that it's not what you say, but how you say it, and I practice that in my every day life. period.

[RekeRig]

When I give advice and I see some fuck shit, sometimes I even bring it back around to myself and let them know that I've either seen, done, or accepted some of the very same things I'm getting on them about. I can relate and THAT is why I'm saying this to you or warning you.

[KING BENTLEY.]

Maybe it doesn't cross that line, Bent
but it's all about how its received. You totally missed the point of my post.

I didn't miss the point sis

I just simply don't agree

[Herb.]

http://vocaroo.com/i/s03stZTCNa9a

[RekeRig]

But being caring or judgmental can be fairly subjective.

A lot of times people confuse genuine concern with judgement or even condemnation.
It comes down to the level of sensitivity a person has IMO.
Or more importantly a misinterpretation of message or intent.

yea some people don't wanna hear SHIT but I don't keep those people around either. Ur not gonna keep fucking up, bringing everyone else down with that shitty energy and not expect to get a nice little wake up call. Absolutely not

Then you have the ones that ASK for advice and have a heart attack when you give it to them. I can't and won't

[FUCK Bey]

It just depends... I always cherish honest and unquestionable friendships. But there's a difference between calling out things because you care and just being judged...

If someone judges you and doesnt agree with attributes that define you as an individual, then I dont see how yall can truly be friends..

[Herb.]

!!!!

if I don't use someone why the hell are we friends to begin with.
I damn sure wouldn't perch somewhere with a drug dealer/lowlife and call him bestie.

Only to use it against him later down the line

"waii. hol up. just realized ur a cokehead, and a loser also unemployed.  y r u here "

But if I know who my friend is, and see them straying away from their straight and narrow, I damn sure will pull them to the side and book them out of love.