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[Ashley Bank$]

have u guys ever been in a situation where ur like really feeling someone and feel they are such a good catch, BUT at the same time ur at a place where u just wanna have fun? not fun as in being a complete whore, but i mean u don't want bible study either sssss 

and u know that they seem like the type to try and pin someone down.....its almost like u dont wanna move forward cuz u know where ur mind is at right now but a part of u still wants to roll the dice cuz u like them so much ?

but, u have a feeling inside that u may end up hurting them? and u dont wanna do it cuz they're super sweet?

doesn't have to be this exact scenario but anything like it. tell me ur experiences. and how u handled it. please

[Eternal Bell]

lemme jus tells ya bby tht i completely get where u comin' frm
if i were u i would def' bombard him n tell him wats up
he will mos likely go for it, hes a guy after all
def' not tryna stir u wrong

[Harlem]

OMG I literally just went thru this 2 months ago with this Nigerian Gawd I was talkin too, he had everything going on for himself, body, job but he wanted to work on a relationship and I wasn't ready for that yet cuz I just got outta one and really didn't have the chance to enjoy myself and to keep it a buck fuck around... I kinda do wanna be a hoe for a lil bit, have fun, be single & free just to get it out my system and then maybe down the line be in something again

[Harlem]

I def had to keep it a buck cuz it was getting to a point where feelings was getting involved and he was territorial too... and he kept saying he wasn't tryna rush me is he understood my feelings but I had to keep reiterating myself b/c he kept doing relationship type shit... after a while the calls stop, he started to be distant and I respect it... but I can say I have moments where I'm just like am I being dumb right now cuz he's everything but then it's like it's not fair I didn't get a chance to be selfish after being in a relationship for 3 years...

[BrokenHeartsHeal]

its times like this where you wish Y2K actually brought upon a futuristic mess owt. Don't you wish u had a freeze machine, just lock em away and bring them back to real-time whenever you're ready

[BAPHOMET.]

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[Harlem]

I def had to keep it a buck cuz it was getting to a point where feelings was getting involved and he was territorial too... and he kept saying he wasn't tryna rush me is he understood my feelings but I had to keep reiterating myself b/c he kept doing relationship type shit...

see this is the shit i was worried about.

that even if u DO lay down the expectations, its still rolling the dice because they may just try to EASE it up on in there.  and if ur really feeling them, u may end up committing when u didn't have the goal or intention to.

not that this would be a HORRIBLE thing to happen...because obviously if u willfully commit it means they're a good catch. but....at the same time u want what the fuck u want...and in this moment u just wanna have fun.

after a while the calls stop, he started to be distant and I respect it... but I can say I have moments where I'm just like am I being dumb right now cuz he's everything but then it's like it's not fair I didn't get a chance to be selfish after being in a relationship for 3 years...

Would u say that u regret pushing them away a bit?

I do but then I don't... cuz even together I was entertaining other ppl and I knew I wasn't ready for a relationship... but then I b like damn, the taste of him treating me right and being everything was like I might lose out on a good thing... at the end of the day I went with my gut and was selfish cuz the end of my last relationship was draining and I just need me time for a while

[BranLover]

I would just explain where I was at the moment, as far as dating goes. I'd think of myself in his shoes; wouldn't want someone stringing me along if I were looking for something serious. Honesty is usually appreciated. If doesn't get the hint, ignore him lol.