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[BigDawg]

I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.

Life is so crazy. About 4 years ago my dad and my step mom were hit head on by a drunk driver, my step mom died on impact but my dad survived. We never really had a strong bond because to be honest he was an absentee father. He has had a lot of health problems since and I feel like a higher power is urging me to deal with my issues before it is too late. We are closer but it feels fake. He tells me he loves me and it may be genuine on his part but I feel like he is just trying to make himself feel better. Should anything happen to him, that would probably be a struggle for me.

I'm very sorry to hear about your step mom, I hope that drunk driver was charged, piece of shit. But anywho, I think you should continue on building that relationship with your dad now. I cannot stress that enough. I tell that to my cousin all the time because his relationship with my uncle is damaged.

Honestly my step moms passing wasn't painful for me. It is a long story but the short of it is that my stepmom had a hand in busting up my Mom and Dad's marriage...oh and she was my cousin too but I digress. Yea the driver was charged and is in prison. You're right, I am just going to continue building with my dad. I will admit that it's much better than acting as if he doesn't exist.

[Vonc2002]

Id get over my dad dying tbh

Aw, Vonc.
Sorry that your dad hasn't made a great impression with you.

its fine
I don't dislike him we just aint extremely close and i just know id be ok.  I guess it's "shocking" to be that honest but that's the truth.  I wouldnt be heartbroken or anything

It's not shocking... I come from a LARGE Caribbean family and the MESS that be taking place, CH
But any way you slice it, it's unfortunate that certain things happen.  But all you can do is acknowledge, accept, and live your best life.  Parents were once children and you have no idea what their experiences were, or what their parents experienced, and so forth and so forth.  It can be as simple as not ever learning how to be "affectionate".

Yea, my dad isn't affectionate or a talker really.  He's moreso just a provider, which i recognized YEARS ago and why I'm completely fine with our relationship the way it is.  Im not a sensitive person and adapt really well so it's no skin off my back.....like not even a lil bit
And its funny because my parents are still married, so this isn't some absentee father situation. i see him regularly but still will walk in the house and depending on how i feel either not acknowledge him at all, ask flat out "where's  my momma", or be like wassup.  We good but no heart strings will break if/when he passes.

He pretty much created that "language" between you two.
I get it.  There's no right or wrong. 
As long as you're content.

EXACTLY! I don't know any other relationship with him and honestly have never longed for anything more.  My mother kinda filled all the requirements.  Luv that trick 

And that's beautiful, referring to your mom creating that bond.
SIS knows.  I'm sure she would have been the same anyway... but she knows how your father is. Lol. 

That's why I tell friends who didn't have fathers growing up... it's not the "title" or the "physical presence" you're longing for... it's the "connection".  Cause a dad could be IN THE HOME, and be INVISIBLE.

Yea, everything u said here. My father has shown lil things in HIS way and he's always been a great provider. Ive always given him that.  But yea, he isn't an outlet for me

[M-Rocka]

I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.

Life is so crazy. About 4 years ago my dad and my step mom were hit head on by a drunk driver, my step mom died on impact but my dad survived. We never really had a strong bond because to be honest he was an absentee father. He has had a lot of health problems since and I feel like a higher power is urging me to deal with my issues before it is too late. We are closer but it feels fake. He tells me he loves me and it may be genuine on his part but I feel like he is just trying to make himself feel better. Should anything happen to him, that would probably be a struggle for me.

I'm very sorry to hear about your step mom, I hope that drunk driver was charged, piece of shit. But anywho, I think you should continue on building that relationship with your dad now. I cannot stress that enough. I tell that to my cousin all the time because his relationship with my uncle is damaged.

Honestly my step moms passing wasn't painful for me. It is a long story but the short of it is that my stepmom had a hand in busting up my Mom and Dad's marriage...oh and she was my cousin too but I digress. Yea the driver was charged and is in prison. You're right, I am just going to continue building with my dad. I will admit that it's much better than acting as if he doesn't exist.

Wow I really wasn't expecting to read that, but yeah continue building that bond with him. I wish I still have both of them here with me, but everyday gets easier. Something that you will never get over.

[BigDawg]

I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.

Life is so crazy. About 4 years ago my dad and my step mom were hit head on by a drunk driver, my step mom died on impact but my dad survived. We never really had a strong bond because to be honest he was an absentee father. He has had a lot of health problems since and I feel like a higher power is urging me to deal with my issues before it is too late. We are closer but it feels fake. He tells me he loves me and it may be genuine on his part but I feel like he is just trying to make himself feel better. Should anything happen to him, that would probably be a struggle for me.

I'm very sorry to hear about your step mom, I hope that drunk driver was charged, piece of shit. But anywho, I think you should continue on building that relationship with your dad now. I cannot stress that enough. I tell that to my cousin all the time because his relationship with my uncle is damaged.

Honestly my step moms passing wasn't painful for me. It is a long story but the short of it is that my stepmom had a hand in busting up my Mom and Dad's marriage...oh and she was my cousin too but I digress. Yea the driver was charged and is in prison. You're right, I am just going to continue building with my dad. I will admit that it's much better than acting as if he doesn't exist.

Wow I really wasn't expecting to read that, but yeah continue building that bond with him. I wish I still have both of them here with me, but everyday gets easier. Something that you will never get over.

She was a mess, I didn't use at all. Lord forgive me. You're completely right. My Aunt and her sons have been on a downward spiral ever since my uncle passed.

[MAY]

Id get over my dad dying tbh

Aw, Vonc.
Sorry that your dad hasn't made a great impression with you.

its fine
I don't dislike him we just aint extremely close and i just know id be ok.  I guess it's "shocking" to be that honest but that's the truth.  I wouldnt be heartbroken or anything

I honestly feel the same way. It would be sad in the sense that it's "my dad",
but I honestly wouldn't be too broken up. It is what it is.

[GRAND]

I'm always here to comfort you, vonc 😜

[Vonc2002]

Dont need comforting, im good lolz

[MAY]

I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.

I'm so sorry about your mom. I can't even imagine how hard that must have been for you guys.

[GRAND]

Dont need comforting, im good lolz

no no no I insist

Let me rest my head on your lap....

I mean, rest your head on my shoulder and let it out Lolz 😇

[b7]

The lyrics to that dirty laundry mess are so damn stupid btw

Not placing Bey over her parents "especially not bey"! girl

[MAY]

He doesn't want AIDS fag

[Eternal Bell]

The lyrics to that dirty laundry mess are so damn stupid btw

Not placing Bey over her parents "especially not bey"! girl

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[Eternal Bell]

[GRAND]

Real don't want you at ALL