We live in a heteronormative society, which is how we all got here. Anytime you do something that deviates from the norm you'll be subject to scrutiny. You guys have got to stop expecting gay to become mainstream, be secure in your actions and surround yourself with people who accept you.
I think a lot of you are forgetting how far lgbt people have come, there was once a time you were relegated to being in a basement with fear of being raided by the police, and now you new age punks are considering suicide over twitter commentary. Those out gay men living during the 70's - 90's were so brave. Now it seems like the fight is more so for the scared DL men to be able to come out without any fear of rejection.