Gorls, could you be in a relationship w/a guy who isn't out to his family?

Started by MAY, October 20, 2015, 06:59:52 PM

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Plank

i use to woulda saids no

def' tougher wen u dnt ask these quesions at firs & u fall for them onl' to find out noone but u knows tha real them
my man dnt talk to his fam' an'way so i guess its ok

MAY

It's a really touchy subject.

I have a few gay Middle Eastern friends, and one of them just got married about 2 weeks ago. His family are all in Saudi Arabia, and of course they don't know he's gay or else all hell would break loose.

But as his partner it has to feel kinda strange that no one important in his life knows about you at all. Understandably so, but still.

On the other hand I really felt for my Arabic friend. To have such a special day and none of your family is there had to be tough, especially when his husband (who is White) got to dance with his mom and celebrate with all of his family.

It really got me thinking about this.

BAPHOMET.

Quote from: Drais. on October 20, 2015, 07:07:13 PM
but you can't be a paranoid mess either.   


I just dont see how a guy cant be out and be in a relationship with another guy and not be paranoid... Is it that he doesnt care if people put two and two together?


LOONA.

Quote from: Baphomet. on October 20, 2015, 07:11:20 PM
Quote from: Drais. on October 20, 2015, 07:07:13 PM
but you can't be a paranoid mess either.   


I just dont see how a guy cant be out and be in a relationship with another guy and not be paranoid... Is it that he doesnt care if people put two and two together?

That's how my ex was. He didn't see the point of announcing he was gay but he really didn't care if he was seen w/ me or engaged in PDA.   

BAPHOMET.

Quote from: Drais. on October 20, 2015, 07:13:45 PM
Quote from: Baphomet. on October 20, 2015, 07:11:20 PM
Quote from: Drais. on October 20, 2015, 07:07:13 PM
but you can't be a paranoid mess either.   


I just dont see how a guy cant be out and be in a relationship with another guy and not be paranoid... Is it that he doesnt care if people put two and two together?

That's how my ex was. He didn't see the point of announcing he was gay but he really didn't care if he was seen w/ me or engaged in PDA.   

See, I could deal with this tbh. Thats how I was with my first BF.
You see us kissing.. What the fuck you think is going on.



LOONA.

Quote from: MΛΥDΛΥ on October 20, 2015, 07:11:07 PM
It's a really touchy subject.

I have a few gay Middle Eastern friends, and one of them just got married about 2 weeks ago. His family are all in Saudi Arabia, and of course they don't know he's gay or else all hell would break loose.

But as his partner it has to feel kinda strange that no one important in his life knows about you at all. Understandably so, but still.

On the other hand I really felt for my Arabic friend. To have such a special day and none of your family is there had to be tough, especially when his husband (who is White) got to dance with his mom and celebrate with all of his family.

It really got me thinking about this.

Now this is a mess. Ain't no way I'm about to marry someone when they're family isn't aware of my existence.  :uhh:   

Scott.

I've done it and it wasn't the best experience. But I wrote some great songs due to the situation so I guess it was good for my creative juices lol



Phantom

Quote from: SUPREME on October 20, 2015, 07:05:56 PM
I don't date families

Basically lol I'm not out to my family or have any plans 2 be so it's kinda ideal. No pressure.

Buy The Stars✨

no cause it took me a while to come out .. i dont mind a guy who is OUT to most ppl but not family cause thats a different issue.. i am not one of those gays that MAKES you meet your fami


i did have a bf who broke up with me cause he couldnt meet my fam for the holidays.. he cried and cried cause all his friends go to go to their BFS house but he couldnt come eat thanksgiving dinner with  my family... i tried to tell him that even if they KNEW that we STILL wouldnt be welcomed .. sighh


L0NZ.

Quote from: SCOTTland on October 20, 2015, 07:23:46 PM
Quote from: L0NZ. on October 20, 2015, 07:18:26 PM
what in the k michelle fuck

I use my talent to cope with my heartbreak. Is that wrong? :uhh:

whats wrong is you thinking that was shade.  :uhh: damn bitch