It's a real issue. I think it's more with women than it is men.
I rarely see men sitting around talking about how they want to manufacture their bvy. Or seriously cringing at the thought of their children coming out with kinky hair.
While I was researching hair care I ran across a FEW videos of dark skinned, kinky haired women who were on Youtube showing off their mixed children's hair. It kinda made me cringe. Of course they presented it as an "educational video", but there definitely was an underlying self hate. One woman actually said "Don't know what type of hair my child has, but it's DEFINITELY not type 4." And the sad part is that her child actually had beautiful, soft type 4 hair.

Which some of the commenters pointed out to her.

embarrassing. on so many levels
Imma try to find the vidya.