um ... has anybody ever considered the stylist was trying to get to her appreciate her OWN hair type and the styles she could attain with that kinda hair?
cause from the beginning of the text chain she was rude, so she's clearly just a person who says things bluntly
with that being said, it's not really a "black hair" issue, she didn't suddenly get rude during that part of the exchange.
I'm just missing the correlation of how the way she said it ... determines if it's a cultural black issue or not
sure she could've said
"sweetie, you want a style that's emulating pasty European women, so you have to relax your hair of all texture so I can do it"black women scream protect us, love us ... but are fighting for a sleek pony ... not rocking an afro... that's very telling

She's a rude stylist ... that's about as far as this goes IMO.