But if their energy is toxic and bringing u down
Sometimes u gotta cut em loose 🤷🏽
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basically.
Kinda defeats the purpose of having friends if they bring nothing but negative tea to ur life
unless u actually enjoy engaging in that mess with them 🤷🏾
I had to cut off a long term friend. Every time she got a boyfriend she wanted to get me and him into it with each other and she kept trying to start arguments with me out of the blue. I think she called herself liking me.
Quote from: Saint on January 11, 2022, 01:27:20 PM
I had to cut off a long term friend. Every time she got a boyfriend she wanted to get me and him into it with each other and she kept trying to start arguments with me out of the blue. I think she called herself liking me.
makin the womens moist huh
:wellheythere:
I have a hard Time doing the kind of thing.
I can be too forgiving at times
We both indirectly shade each other
She'll send me a pic of her funny looking bby and I'll reply asking what I should eat for dinner without acknowledging it
She'll bring up embarrassing mess that happened at a party and I'll kii like I don't hate her for bringing it up
But that mess weighs on u after a while and she recently took it too far
:rudone:
Quote from: Young on January 11, 2022, 01:36:33 PM
I have a hard Time doing the kind of thing.
I can be too forgiving at times
i think it almost always depends on the length/depth of the friendship
Even if I have someone around who is negative all the time , if I know it's something more recent for them and unusual behavior due to situations in their life of course I'd understand and stick it in with them .
But if it's someone I barely fuck with like that on some deep shit and all they have for me is a bunch of mess and negativity nonstop . Snip muthafuckin snip
Let's keep it playful fun and light . Too much real shit to be focused on and working towards without letting anything slow me down or distract me too much .
Quote from: There's Sum Bout Choke on January 11, 2022, 01:42:49 PM
We both indirectly shade each other
She'll send me a pic of her funny looking bby and I'll reply asking what I should eat for dinner without acknowledging it
She'll bring up embarrassing mess that happened at a party and I'll kii like I don't hate her for bringing it up
But that mess weighs on u after a while and she recently took it too far
:rudone:
That sounds exhausting.
If you can't even have serious conversations then that's not a friendship.
Quote from: 𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉 on January 11, 2022, 01:50:06 PM
Quote from: There's Sum Bout Choke on January 11, 2022, 01:42:49 PM
We both indirectly shade each other
She'll send me a pic of her funny looking bby and I'll reply asking what I should eat for dinner without acknowledging it
She'll bring up embarrassing mess that happened at a party and I'll kii like I don't hate her for bringing it up
But that mess weighs on u after a while and she recently took it too far
:rudone:
That sounds exhausting.
If you can't even have serious conversations then that's not a friendship.
!!!!!!!!!!!
It was so surface level but that's why I used for so long but I knew it wasn't real when I told her she was out of line and we weren't talkin anymore and she couldn't even apologize
It'll take a few weeks for me to completely forget ha but she was my closest sis for a min
I still might tell ha husband she got a nig on the side tho 🤷🏽
Quote from: #stillpretty on January 11, 2022, 01:45:12 PM
Quote from: Young on January 11, 2022, 01:36:33 PM
I have a hard Time doing the kind of thing.
I can be too forgiving at times
i think it almost always depends on the length/depth of the friendship
Even if I have someone around who is negative all the time , if I know it's something more recent for them and unusual behavior due to situations in their life of course I'd understand and stick it in with them .
But if it's someone I barely fuck with like that on some deep shit and all they have for me is a bunch of mess and negativity nonstop . Snip muthafuckin snip
Let's keep it playful fun and light . Too much real shit to be focused on and working towards without letting anything slow me down or distract me too much .
dddsdddddddddd
right. true.
I have female friends that love to gossip and just SIT on the phone..I can't handle it :udontlookok:
Quote from: Young on January 11, 2022, 01:36:33 PM
I have a hard Time doing the kind of thing.
I can be too forgiving at times
Same. I can tolerate a lot, but a boundary that I'm 1000% firm with is public embarrassment. If you embarrass me one time, that's it.
SNNDNDNFNDNDNFMNDNDNDFFFG
:udontlookok:
I can handle a lil gossip
me and my bestie can be on the phone for hours talking about just mess but we eventually switch it to more Serious tea . it's variety . Really feel like we have grown together .
when I think "toxic" I think someone who's always hating on other people ... downing people constantly ... just misery personified . I wouldn't be able to deal
nothing worse to me than someone who needs to put others down to elevate themselves . If I need to spend 50% of our conversation wondering why I'm still talking to u there's a problem
If u feel a need to elevate urself just ... elevate urself . Thinking others will be ur stepping stools to that is a simply figment of ur imagination . After all the mess u talk , ull still be at square one .
But at the same time.... idk. I have a tendency to just silently remove myself from friendships without explanation. People think that's childish/toxic because you don't give the other person an opportunity to be aware and change...
But I know myself... and it takes a lot for me to get mad... so if I'm at the point where I'm ready to detach from you, there's really no resolution. I'm done.
Dropping a friend isnt that hard for me. If I chose to unfriend someone then it's warranted. I'm a good friend so I don't have a high tolerance for bullshit. I actually probably move TOO fast to cut someone off actually tbh
Quote from: Trey on January 11, 2022, 02:45:29 PM
But at the same time.... idk. I have a tendency to just silently remove myself from friendships without explanation. People think that's childish/toxic because you don't give the other person an opportunity to be aware and change...
But I know myself... and it takes a lot for me to get mad... so if I'm at the point where I'm ready to detach from you, there's really no resolution. I'm done.
Mfs know what tf they did. I have done it both ways. Im confrontational so I definitely have no issue letting someone know why I feel wronged but sometimes I don't fckn feel like it. U know what u did and I ain't fckn EXPLAINING it
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 11, 2022, 03:00:56 PM
Quote from: Trey on January 11, 2022, 02:45:29 PM
But at the same time.... idk. I have a tendency to just silently remove myself from friendships without explanation. People think that's childish/toxic because you don't give the other person an opportunity to be aware and change...
But I know myself... and it takes a lot for me to get mad... so if I'm at the point where I'm ready to detach from you, there's really no resolution. I'm done.
Mfs know what tf they did. I have done it both ways. Im confrontational so I definitely have no issue letting someone know why I feel wronged but sometimes I don't fckn feel like it. U know what u did and I ain't fckn EXPLAINING it
Are you sure? Lots of ppl aren't able to self reflect. And I don't have the energy to tell someone that they fucked up.
I've dealt with a narcissistic close friend for 10 years, but I'm so happy now without that person.
Quote from: 𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉 on January 11, 2022, 03:10:43 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 11, 2022, 03:00:56 PM
Quote from: Trey on January 11, 2022, 02:45:29 PM
But at the same time.... idk. I have a tendency to just silently remove myself from friendships without explanation. People think that's childish/toxic because you don't give the other person an opportunity to be aware and change...
But I know myself... and it takes a lot for me to get mad... so if I'm at the point where I'm ready to detach from you, there's really no resolution. I'm done.
Mfs know what tf they did. I have done it both ways. Im confrontational so I definitely have no issue letting someone know why I feel wronged but sometimes I don't fckn feel like it. U know what u did and I ain't fckn EXPLAINING it
Are you sure? Lots of ppl aren't able to self reflect. And I don't have the energy to tell someone that they fucked up.
I've dealt with a narcissistic close friend for 10 years, but I'm so happy now without that person.
U know what, that's fair. I just feel like if we were good and then all of a sudden we weren't, you should be able to infer sum shit. Sometimes I don't feel like explaining some shit to a grown mf.
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 11, 2022, 03:00:56 PM
Quote from: Trey on January 11, 2022, 02:45:29 PM
But at the same time.... idk. I have a tendency to just silently remove myself from friendships without explanation. People think that's childish/toxic because you don't give the other person an opportunity to be aware and change...
But I know myself... and it takes a lot for me to get mad... so if I'm at the point where I'm ready to detach from you, there's really no resolution. I'm done.
Mfs know what tf they did. I have done it both ways. Im confrontational so I definitely have no issue letting someone know why I feel wronged but sometimes I don't fckn feel like it. U know what u did and I ain't fckn EXPLAINING it
DHDJJCJDNDNFNFNDNFNNFFFNFNDNNFDNFNDNN
>>><<<
You know what you did. And if you don't, that's more of a reason for me to get the fuck on. We're not children. I'm not teaching anyone how to be a good friend to me.
:udontlookok:
And I'm not really a confrontational person. But if I DO choose to confront an issue with you, it usually means I'm very on edge. So you just better be careful and just listen....
cuz I can turn into Porsha real quick.
:udontlookok:
I'm generally a very empathetic person and I am literally ALWAYS seeing things from more than one point of view or angle .
I try to be reasonable as possible and consider everything I know about someone before drawing conclusions. Or even consider things that I may NOT know before drawing conclusions or "taking sides"..... even when it's behavior that I am strongly against or personally offended by.
I'm a neutral ass bitch.
So if I'm at a point where im ready to just stop contact with you, you have to be like .. on some BEYOND next level type shit. Just completely past the point of me being able to rationalize or understand or explain or give you some sort of pass on your behavior and/or attitude .
It's very rare that I simply cannot understand where someone is coming from.
I cut off one of my best friends for about 16 around Thanksgiving last year... It's weird but I felt it was best.
It's crazy bc I have literally cut no one out my life ever, I always just let them leave or stop talking/hanging with them that much but never block them
It felt good tbh
There were times I would type out how I really felt but then erase it and post a gif or some but this time I told sis she was outta line and it was over
(https://i.makeagif.com/media/5-24-2015/rG62ZT.gif)
Quote from: There's Sum Bout Choke on January 11, 2022, 01:42:49 PM
We both indirectly shade each other
She'll send me a pic of her funny looking bby and I'll reply asking what I should eat for dinner without acknowledging it
She'll bring up embarrassing mess that happened at a party and I'll kii like I don't hate her for bringing it up
But that mess weighs on u after a while and she recently took it too far
:rudone:
u sound very passive aggressive bby
i think THAT needs to addressed first. start communicating what upsets you. only then can you more accurately guage how important your feelings are to this person. but if you kii at her mess you make her think its okay to bring up, so you cant really be mad at her if she don't know u actually hate it.
I did communicate OPH that's the whole point :uhh:
Either agree with me or get OWT
:disgusted:
Quote from: There's Sum Bout Choke on January 11, 2022, 05:21:39 PM
I did communicate OPH that's the whole point :uhh:
Either agree with me or get OWT
:disgusted:
vvvvvvccccccv u didn't say that at all FAGGOT
Quote from: There's Sum Bout Choke on January 11, 2022, 01:42:49 PM
She'll bring up embarrassing mess that happened at a party and I'll kii like I don't hate her for bringing it up
:ATLcameo:
Quote from: There's Sum Bout Choke on January 11, 2022, 05:21:39 PM
Either agree with me or get OWT
:disgusted:
BDNDNDNNSNDNENNDNENDNENE
are you Porsha?
:udontlookok:
Its been 3 months of no contact for me. It was a very dear friend of mine, best friend for the past couple of years. But I was betrayed and hurt in ways that I couldn't easily get over. In the end everything pointed to narcissism and according to experts, no contact seems to be the only healthy thing to do, although we had plenty of good times and (what i thought was) a meaningful connection. Part of me wants to contact that person again but I know all the progress I made would be meaningless then.
If bad far outweighs the good it's best to keep it pushing
Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on January 11, 2022, 06:07:00 PM
Its been 3 months of no contact for me. It was a very dear friend of mine, best friend for the past couple of years. But I was betrayed and hurt in ways that I couldn't easily get over. In the end everything pointed to narcissism and according to experts, no contact seems to be the only healthy thing to do, although we had plenty of good times and (what i thought was) a meaningful connection. Part of me wants to contact that person again but I know all the progress I made would be meaningless then.
I feel you. Humans are really trash sometimes.
Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on January 11, 2022, 06:07:00 PM
Its been 3 months of no contact for me. It was a very dear friend of mine, best friend for the past couple of years. But I was betrayed and hurt in ways that I couldn't easily get over. In the end everything pointed to narcissism and according to experts, no contact seems to be the only healthy thing to do, although we had plenty of good times and (what i thought was) a meaningful connection. Part of me wants to contact that person again but I know all the progress I made would be meaningless then.
YEA. Stay the fuck away hun
Quote from: 𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉 on January 11, 2022, 06:13:35 PM
Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on January 11, 2022, 06:07:00 PM
Its been 3 months of no contact for me. It was a very dear friend of mine, best friend for the past couple of years. But I was betrayed and hurt in ways that I couldn't easily get over. In the end everything pointed to narcissism and according to experts, no contact seems to be the only healthy thing to do, although we had plenty of good times and (what i thought was) a meaningful connection. Part of me wants to contact that person again but I know all the progress I made would be meaningless then.
I feel you. Humans are really trash sometimes.
yes :(
Quote from: Trey on January 11, 2022, 05:56:41 PM
Quote from: There's Sum Bout Choke on January 11, 2022, 05:21:39 PM
Either agree with me or get OWT
:disgusted:
BDNDNDNNSNDNENNDNENDNENE
are you Porsha?
:udontlookok:
NCVCCVXCCCCXCCXCXCXXCXVXCCCCXCV
Quote from: Young on January 11, 2022, 02:05:18 PM
Quote from: #stillpretty on January 11, 2022, 01:45:12 PM
Quote from: Young on January 11, 2022, 01:36:33 PM
I have a hard Time doing the kind of thing.
I can be too forgiving at times
i think it almost always depends on the length/depth of the friendship
Even if I have someone around who is negative all the time , if I know it's something more recent for them and unusual behavior due to situations in their life of course I'd understand and stick it in with them .
But if it's someone I barely fuck with like that on some deep shit and all they have for me is a bunch of mess and negativity nonstop . Snip muthafuckin snip
Let's keep it playful fun and light . Too much real shit to be focused on and working towards without letting anything slow me down or distract me too :gorlonfire:much .
dddsdddddddddd
right. true.
I have female friends that love to gossip and just SIT on the phone..I can't handle it :udontlookok:
xbbxnxnncnc oh no ma'am
Quote from: Trey on January 11, 2022, 02:32:39 PM
Quote from: Young on January 11, 2022, 01:36:33 PM
I have a hard Time doing the kind of thing.
I can be too forgiving at times
Same. I can tolerate a lot, but a boundary that I'm 1000% firm with is public embarrassment. If you embarrass me one time, that's it.
SNNDNDNFNDNDNFMNDNDNDFFFG
:udontlookok:
:plzstop: :plzstop:
kgkdfjg yeah 'friends' that like to embarrass or humiliate you in a public setting are no real friends IMO.
I can't stand fake shit like that.
She jus sent me a random tik tok mess like non happen
:diddraispoot:
Quote from: There's Sum Bout Choke on January 13, 2022, 03:23:38 PM
She jus sent me a random tik tok mess like non happen
:diddraispoot:
bbggvvdfcvvvcvvvcvvccvvvbnvccvvb
FAG did u tell her you're pissed and why ?