First of all, Happy Holidays
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I need your expert advice, sisters. If a guy that you like and are friends with is struggling with his sexuality and he latches on to you a bit, how do you deal with that?
I mean, it's cute that he wants to hook up and explore a bit, but I'm looking for something more. I need to figure out where his head is at before I drop down to my knees for him and stuff. But at the same time I'm like... this fag is giving me a headache with his foolishness and I want out.
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This morning I woke up to a message from him after not talking for like a week and he apologized for being a mess and he says that he knows I'm worthy and he wants to build a connection... but nigga I need to see actions. Words without action is fluff, boo. :ermm:
What would you do?
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If it were me, I'd drop him
Don't have time for that foolishness
I agree with Jay'd....Glenda you are a great guy honestly it feels like he's messing with your emotion and trying to explore the sexual side and not the compassionate side tbh just be careful when it boils down to the final decision of what you wanna do with this guy.
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:01:44 PM
If it were me, I'd drop him
Don't have time for that foolishness
I've dropped him like 4 times tho
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Quote from: LiBra on December 21, 2016, 06:03:24 PM
I agree with Jay'd....Glenda you are a great guy honestly it feels like he's messing your emotion and trying to explore the sexual side and not the compassionate side tbh
!!!!!!!!!!!!! That's what it feels like to me too :fuming:
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:03:35 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:01:44 PM
If it were me, I'd drop him
Don't have time for that foolishness
I've dropped him like 4 times tho
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If he's curious and you're open to showing him thats fine. Don't get too attached though that curiosity can turn into full fledged immersion, no telling how he will be when he really dabbles in the culture.
I wouldn't though, I can't deal with anyone who isn't secure with who they are, even while discovering new facets of life.
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:03:35 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:01:44 PM
If it were me, I'd drop him
Don't have time for that foolishness
I've dropped him like 4 times tho
(http://i41.tinypic.com/r7ngnr.jpg)
wait what...the fifth time is the charm :dead: is the same one we use to chat about?
cut him off, those closet cases can get too attached and stalkerish
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Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:05:34 PM
cut him off, those closet cases can get too attached and stalkerish
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
!!!! they don't know what they want till you move to greener pastures ...all of sudden they keep popping up and wanna be there for you (https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:04:34 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:03:35 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:01:44 PM
If it were me, I'd drop him
Don't have time for that foolishness
I've dropped him like 4 times tho
(http://i41.tinypic.com/r7ngnr.jpg)
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
This fag takes me back even after I block him on all social media for a month
"Sor' bae! I know we didn't talk for a month. You know I'm kinda craz' and 'motional! LMAO!"
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:07:17 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:04:34 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:03:35 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:01:44 PM
If it were me, I'd drop him
Don't have time for that foolishness
I've dropped him like 4 times tho
(http://i41.tinypic.com/r7ngnr.jpg)
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
This fag takes me back even after I block him on all social media for a month
"Sor' bae! I know we didn't talk for a month. You know I'm kinda craz' and 'motional! LMAO!"
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
fffff he's a liar and a user
I see MESS
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Quote from: LiBra on December 21, 2016, 06:06:57 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:05:34 PM
cut him off, those closet cases can get too attached and stalkerish
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
!!!! they don't know what they want till you move to greener pastures ...all of sudden they keep popping up and wanna be there for you (https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
Gorl Imma have to send you the messages, because....
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Quote from: LiBra on December 21, 2016, 06:05:13 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:03:35 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:01:44 PM
If it were me, I'd drop him
Don't have time for that foolishness
I've dropped him like 4 times tho
(http://i41.tinypic.com/r7ngnr.jpg)
wait what...the fifth time is the charm :dead: is the same one we use to chat about?
YES! The Latino dude. :dead: :plzstop:
Quote from: Kurama on December 21, 2016, 06:04:55 PM
If he's curious and you're open to showing him thats fine. Don't get too attached though that curiosity can turn into full fledged immersion, no telling how he will be when he really dabbles in the culture.
I wouldn't though, I can't deal with anyone who isn't secure with who they are, even while discovering new facets of life.
!!!!!!!!!!!
This poor closet case....
I have a soft spot for him because he's so sweet. But I see he can be manipulative af.
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Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:05:34 PM
cut him off, those closet cases can get too attached and stalkerish
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
Ch
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Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:11:17 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:05:34 PM
cut him off, those closet cases can get too attached and stalkerish
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
Ch
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
seriously though
kill him off
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:12:09 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:11:17 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:05:34 PM
cut him off, those closet cases can get too attached and stalkerish
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
Ch
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
seriously though
kill him off
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
I thought I did but he just pops up out of fucking no where.
His best friend even told me he's mentioned me to him before.
My dating life needs its own show.
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:13:49 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:12:09 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:11:17 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:05:34 PM
cut him off, those closet cases can get too attached and stalkerish
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
Ch
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
seriously though
kill him off
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
I thought I did but he just pops up out of fucking no where.
His best friend even told me he's mentioned me to him before.
My dating life needs its own show.
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
He's talked about to you to his friend?
In what capacity?
Quote from: Kurama on December 21, 2016, 06:04:55 PM
Don't get too attached though that curiosity can turn into full fledged immersion, no telling how he will be when he really dabbles in the culture.
!!!!
mess mess mess mess mess MeSS MESS MESS MESSSSS
Quote from: Tahj Zezo. on December 21, 2016, 06:14:39 PM
How attractive is he?
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I haven't seen him in person in years. He's Latino. He's about an 8.
LiBra has seen him.
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:14:38 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:13:49 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:12:09 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:11:17 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:05:34 PM
cut him off, those closet cases can get too attached and stalkerish
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
Ch
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
seriously though
kill him off
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
I thought I did but he just pops up out of fucking no where.
His best friend even told me he's mentioned me to him before.
My dating life needs its own show.
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
He's talked about to you to his friend?
In what capacity?
I'm not sure, but I know it was all good things according to his friend. We all went to HS together.
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:16:18 PM
Quote from: Tahj Zezo. on December 21, 2016, 06:14:39 PM
How attractive is he?
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
I haven't seen him in person in years.
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:15:38 PM
Quote from: Kurama on December 21, 2016, 06:04:55 PM
Don't get too attached though that curiosity can turn into full fledged immersion, no telling how he will be when he really dabbles in the culture.
!!!!
mess mess mess mess mess MeSS MESS MESS MESSSSS
Are you gorls saying he's going to become a hoe when he comes owt the closet?
:howfestive:
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:17:16 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:16:18 PM
Quote from: Tahj Zezo. on December 21, 2016, 06:14:39 PM
How attractive is he?
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
I haven't seen him in person in years.
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
FFFFffffffff
We've been talking on and off since summer.
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:09:40 PM
Quote from: LiBra on December 21, 2016, 06:05:13 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:03:35 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:01:44 PM
If it were me, I'd drop him
Don't have time for that foolishness
I've dropped him like 4 times tho
(http://i41.tinypic.com/r7ngnr.jpg)
wait what...the fifth time is the charm :dead: is the same one we use to chat about?
YES! The Latino dude. :dead: :plzstop:
oh shit...GORL we need to talk (https://media.giphy.com/media/3oEduEaZUHHgNvIjYY/giphy.gif)
Quote from: LiBra on December 21, 2016, 06:21:15 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:09:40 PM
Quote from: LiBra on December 21, 2016, 06:05:13 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:03:35 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:01:44 PM
If it were me, I'd drop him
Don't have time for that foolishness
I've dropped him like 4 times tho
(http://i41.tinypic.com/r7ngnr.jpg)
wait what...the fifth time is the charm :dead: is the same one we use to chat about?
YES! The Latino dude. :dead: :plzstop:
oh shit...GORL we need to talk (https://media.giphy.com/media/3oEduEaZUHHgNvIjYY/giphy.gif)
We sure do, sis.
(http://i41.tinypic.com/r7ngnr.jpg)
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:22:18 PM
Quote from: LiBra on December 21, 2016, 06:21:15 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:09:40 PM
Quote from: LiBra on December 21, 2016, 06:05:13 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:03:35 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:01:44 PM
If it were me, I'd drop him
Don't have time for that foolishness
I've dropped him like 4 times tho
(http://i41.tinypic.com/r7ngnr.jpg)
wait what...the fifth time is the charm :dead: is the same one we use to chat about?
YES! The Latino dude. :dead: :plzstop:
oh shit...GORL we need to talk (https://media.giphy.com/media/3oEduEaZUHHgNvIjYY/giphy.gif)
We sure do, sis.
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when i get off work :plzstop:
Quote from: Tahj Zezo. on December 21, 2016, 06:14:39 PM
How attractive is he?
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
he's actually handsome
Quote from: LiBra on December 21, 2016, 06:22:53 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:22:18 PM
Quote from: LiBra on December 21, 2016, 06:21:15 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:09:40 PM
Quote from: LiBra on December 21, 2016, 06:05:13 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:03:35 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:01:44 PM
If it were me, I'd drop him
Don't have time for that foolishness
I've dropped him like 4 times tho
(http://i41.tinypic.com/r7ngnr.jpg)
wait what...the fifth time is the charm :dead: is the same one we use to chat about?
YES! The Latino dude. :dead: :plzstop:
oh shit...GORL we need to talk (https://media.giphy.com/media/3oEduEaZUHHgNvIjYY/giphy.gif)
We sure do, sis.
(http://i41.tinypic.com/r7ngnr.jpg)
when i get off work :plzstop:
Message me asap.
:stressed:
Let him go boo . You know who you are , he doesn't . He will never choose you over a woman if he's struggling with his sexuality . Image is everything for these types . I've been there before . I don't care how fine he is . Not worth the headache . He's going to have you on an emotional roller coaster as long as you allow it .
Quote from: Ntwadumela on December 21, 2016, 06:32:49 PM
Let him go boo . You know who you are , he doesn't . He will never choose you over a woman if he's struggling with his sexuality . Image is everything for these types . I've been there before . I don't care how fine he is . Not worth the headache . He's going to have you on an emotional roller coaster as long as you allow it .
Thanks for your honest advice, sis.
:stressed:
I've already told him what it is in terms of me wanting a relationship. I guess I should have just followed my initial instinct and kept his ass blocked the first time.
:hmph:
Quote from: Tahj Zezo. on December 21, 2016, 07:27:02 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:16:18 PM
Quote from: Tahj Zezo. on December 21, 2016, 06:14:39 PM
How attractive is he?
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
I haven't seen him in person in years. He's Latino. He's about an 8.
LiBra has seen him.
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
Oh boy. Just block his number and keep it to moving.
(https://uploadir.com/u/nti6y7o3)
I block him but then I always end up feeling bad and unblock his ass.
He's a mess.
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with someone who is struggling with their sexuality you have to make them feel that its okay to talk about it
ok to explore and be supportive in their journey and thats as a friend first
if you are trying to get him to do some hanky panky or trying to push his boundaries pre maturely it will reverse the process
its not an overnight deal
if you want to at least be friends with him your going to have to guide him thru it
Quote from: TheNextLew on December 21, 2016, 07:30:07 PM
with someone who is struggling with their sexuality you have to make them feel that its okay to talk about it
ok to explore and be supportive in their journey and thats as a friend first
if you are trying to get him to do some hanky panky or trying to push his boundaries pre maturely it will reverse the process
its not an overnight deal
if you want to at least be friends with him your going to have to guide him thru it
I mean, I want to be his friend but this nigga needs to find some stability and consistency. He's so hot and cold. I've blown up on him once about it before. Even if we never end up dating, I still do care about him and his well being.
:dead:
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 07:44:56 PM
Quote from: TheNextLew on December 21, 2016, 07:30:07 PM
with someone who is struggling with their sexuality you have to make them feel that its okay to talk about it
ok to explore and be supportive in their journey and thats as a friend first
if you are trying to get him to do some hanky panky or trying to push his boundaries pre maturely it will reverse the process
its not an overnight deal
if you want to at least be friends with him your going to have to guide him thru it
I mean, I want to be his friend but this nigga needs to find some stability and consistency. He's so hot and cold. I've blown up on him once about it before. Even if we never end up dating, I still do care about him and his well being.
:dead:
I see well the best thing you can do is show him that its okay and that its normal
and wait for him to come around and decide whats what
some guys hide behind a girlfriend or whatever its a security blanket sometimes lol
just hug him and tell him you care :wub:
Quote from: TheNextLew on December 21, 2016, 07:50:40 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 07:44:56 PM
Quote from: TheNextLew on December 21, 2016, 07:30:07 PM
with someone who is struggling with their sexuality you have to make them feel that its okay to talk about it
ok to explore and be supportive in their journey and thats as a friend first
if you are trying to get him to do some hanky panky or trying to push his boundaries pre maturely it will reverse the process
its not an overnight deal
if you want to at least be friends with him your going to have to guide him thru it
I mean, I want to be his friend but this nigga needs to find some stability and consistency. He's so hot and cold. I've blown up on him once about it before. Even if we never end up dating, I still do care about him and his well being.
:dead:
some guys hide behind a girlfriend or whatever its a security blanket sometimes lol
just hug him and tell him you care :wub:
:usuresis:
Just use him for what he wants, when you want the same thing. If you think he only wants to explore sexually, then oblige when you want a nut and let that be that.
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:09:40 PM
Quote from: LiBra on December 21, 2016, 06:05:13 PM
Quote from: Glenda on December 21, 2016, 06:03:35 PM
Quote from: Baeomi on December 21, 2016, 06:01:44 PM
If it were me, I'd drop him
Don't have time for that foolishness
I've dropped him like 4 times tho
(http://i41.tinypic.com/r7ngnr.jpg)
wait what...the fifth time is the charm :dead: is the same one we use to chat about?
YES! The Latino dude. :dead: :plzstop:
:ohwow:
wait he's Latino? girl suck his dick fuck you waiting for :uhh:
Quote from: L0NZ. on December 21, 2016, 08:29:37 PM
wait he's Latino? girl suck his dick fuck you waiting for :uhh:
:dead: :dead: :dead: :dead: :dead: :dead:
Quote from: L0NZ. on December 21, 2016, 08:29:37 PM
wait he's Latino? girl suck his dick fuck you waiting for :uhh:
ok!!! :uhh:
Quote from: L0NZ. on December 21, 2016, 08:29:37 PM
wait he's Latino? girl suck his dick fuck you waiting for :uhh:
:plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop:
Ffxnxvxxcvvvvfffff
Gorls, I have a little more self-respect than that :uhh:
He keep playing his cards right tho...
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Quote from: L0NZ. on December 21, 2016, 08:25:20 PM
Just use him for what he wants, when you want the same thing. If you think he only wants to explore sexually, then oblige when you want a nut and let that be that.
I'm not gonna lie, I kind of do want to feel on his fione self just a bit.
:stressed: :hmph: