A person who I thought was a really good friend didnt come to my bday party because she claims she didn't like the people who were coming.
So I was just gonna write her ass off because it was MY birthday :uhh:
But she starts hitting me up again. And I send all her mess to voice mail
But I shouldn't feel guilty right?
I was the victim in this. Right?
If someone feels uncomfortable you need to respect that.
Just place yourself in their shoes for a second.
Lastly you should be happy they chose not to come then to come and there to be a potential mess at your party.
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 01:36:33 PM
A person who I thought was a really good friend didnt come to my bday party because she claims she didn't like the people who were coming.
So I was just gonna write her ass off because it was MY birthday :uhh:
But she starts hitting me up again. And I send all her mess to voice mail
But I shouldn't feel guilty right?
I was the victim in this. Right?
Don't get mad at her.
She still adores you.
You both should PLAN your own date together.
I really don't want an explanation.
She's the type of person who has a problem with everyone so this behavior isn't new
I feel like if you're a real friend you would have been there regardless
And when I texted her if she was coming she replied
"Doubt it"
Like GORl are you foreal?
There are other bitches more than willing to feel your space
:uhh:
You're doing too much.
Talk to her.
Understand why.
Create events for just you and her.
:kii: :kii: :kii: :kii:
Quote from: SingBran on March 12, 2017, 01:44:06 PM
You're doing too much.
Talk to her.
Understand why.
Create events for just you and her.
This was my day and she wasn't there for me when I needed her
That's just how I feel
(https://uploadir.com/u/e9zk9fgm)
If you feel there are others to fill her place don't worry about it because you don't seem that caring of her feelings because of your birthday.
If she always has a problem with others don't force her to be uncomfortable for you.
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 01:47:13 PM
Quote from: SingBran on March 12, 2017, 01:44:06 PM
You're doing too much.
Talk to her.
Understand why.
Create events for just you and her.
This was my day and she wasn't there for me when I needed her
That's just how I feel
(https://uploadir.com/u/e9zk9fgm)
Was it your quinceanera??
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 01:47:13 PM
Quote from: SingBran on March 12, 2017, 01:44:06 PM
You're doing too much.
Talk to her.
Understand why.
Create events for just you and her.
This was my day and she wasn't there for me when I needed her
That's just how I feel
(https://uploadir.com/u/e9zk9fgm)
You can feel that way.
But it doesn't make it true.
You both sound selfish.
It's best to come together, TALK, and figure out how GROWN people can stay connected without all the extra negative energy they choose to not be around.
These are not the responses that I wanted
:guys:
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 01:50:42 PM
These are not these responses that I wanted
:guys:
Well it's the ones you're getting HUN.
d
My friend just had a bday celebration and i didn't go. I was going thru some shit of my own and just wasnt in the mood tbh. I told my friend just that and she understood. Honestly, if she didn't then i would have a problem with her and not really care about the friendship. Yea, its your bday. Congrats. My life and my problems don't cease because of that.
Get to the truth of it
Don't be a brat, cause then you're acting "the same way" as your friend
TALK about it
One-on-One
Some people just don't care to MINGLE in a group setting like that, with people they have issues with
Especially if the only person they care for is the Birthday Boy -- who will be too busy jumping from friend to friend all night
Allow her to celebrate you in her OWN way
Not celebrate you the WAY YOU WANT IT
Smh
n
Why am I being attacked. I'm the victim in this
:diddraispoot:
Everyone who I invited showed up. There were people there who didn't like eachother but they came because it was my day and they put the mess aside.
If I cant even get your ass to come to my birthday day are you not going to show up to my wedding, baby shower etc?
'Chard isn't telling the full truth. A bit of alternative facts tea
This girl is prolly fed up with how 'Chard act, cause why would she say "doubt it"
I don't think 'Chard is good friend material, I wouldn't go to his parties unless it was to steal the show or fight him tbh
:damselindistress:
Oh .... and also .... none of this story is true. So we have to remember that as well
:butwait!:
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 01:41:17 PM
She's the type of person who has a problem with everyone so this behavior isn't new
So why are you friends with her? :uhh:
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 01:58:20 PM
Why am I being attacked. I'm the victim in this
:diddraispoot:
Everyone who I invited showed up. There were people there who didn't like eachother but they came because it was my day and they put the mess aside.
If I cant even get your ass to come to my birthday day are you not going to show up to my wedding, baby shower etc?
The KII is...
The same people who showed up, probably don't give a fuck about you, really.
Friendship isn't always measured in that way.
Quote from: SingBran on March 12, 2017, 02:00:46 PM
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 01:58:20 PM
Why am I being attacked. I'm the victim in this
:diddraispoot:
Everyone who I invited showed up. There were people there who didn't like eachother but they came because it was my day and they put the mess aside.
If I cant even get your ass to come to my birthday day are you not going to show up to my wedding, baby shower etc?
The KII is...
The same people who showed up, probably don't give a fuck about you, really.
Friendship isn't always measured in that way.
what the
:omgwatshappening:
Quote from: Drais. on March 12, 2017, 02:00:31 PM
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 01:41:17 PM
She's the type of person who has a problem with everyone so this behavior isn't new
So why are you friends with her? :uhh:
All my friends share at least some part of my personality
We both like to sit back and kii at people and she's the only girl that can stay in the mall as long as me and not get tired
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 01:58:20 PM
Why am I being attacked. I'm the victim in this
:diddraispoot:
U sound like a terrible friend. Did u die? She told u that she was uncomfortable and ur response is "so what. ME! MY BIRTHDAY!" Everyone isnt the same. Just because someone else can deal with confrontation or being in the midst of people they arent comfortable around doesnt mean this girl should just suck it up cause they did. U aren't being considerate of her at all but somehow u expect all the consideration in the world. She should just say good riddance and call it a day
Quote from: Drais. on March 12, 2017, 02:00:31 PM
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 01:41:17 PM
She's the type of person who has a problem with everyone so this behavior isn't new
So why are you friends with her? :uhh:
And this!!!!!!!!
U don't sound like u give 2 shits about her anyway. U sound like one of those shady friends that talk about her when she isn't around. Just leave each other alone tbh :dead:
You're not being attacked you're getting a difference of opinions. I think you're maybe being a brat and you are hurt that she's not putting it aside for you but..... You're gonna have more birthdays. If she sticks around she will come to one lol.
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 02:02:37 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 12, 2017, 02:00:31 PM
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 01:41:17 PM
She's the type of person who has a problem with everyone so this behavior isn't new
So why are you friends with her? :uhh:
All my friends share at least some part of my personality
We both like to sit back and kii at people and she's the only girl that can stay in the mall as long as me and not get tired
f
wtf
:omgwatshappening:
Am not here for these excuses that y'all are making for this inconsiderate gorl
Quote from: Vonc2002 on March 12, 2017, 02:04:05 PM
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 01:58:20 PM
Why am I being attacked. I'm the victim in this
:diddraispoot:
U sound like a terrible friend. Did u die? She told u that she was uncomfortable and ur response is "so what. ME! MY BIRTHDAY!" Everyone isnt the same. Just because someone else can deal with confrontation or being in the midst of people they arent comfortable around doesnt mean this girl should just suck it up cause they did. U aren't being considerate of her at all but somehow u expect all the consideration in the world. She should just say good riddance and call it a day
:letsmessfag:
U asked a question and u got an answer. Don't start crying about this too
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 02:08:00 PM
wtf
:omgwatshappening:
Am not here for these excuses that y'all are making for this inconsiderate gorl
s
Tell the full story then girl
Why would she text you "doubt it"
Sounds like yawl had a conversation or disagreement from that response alone.
Kinda seems like you did her dirty and tried to turn around and ask her to come TBH
Am gonna write her off
And thats kinda THAT
:uhh:
Quote from: stillpretti. on March 12, 2017, 02:08:29 PM
hol up
ya'll aint bout 2 gang up on my lil cuz like this :calmdownsis:
lets calm down
fuck u
"only girl who can stay in the mall as long as me and not get tired"
Hold on...
Is this shit even real?
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on March 12, 2017, 02:09:19 PM
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 02:08:00 PM
wtf
:omgwatshappening:
Am not here for these excuses that y'all are making for this inconsiderate gorl
s
Tell the full story then girl
Why would she text you "doubt it"
Sounds like yawl had a conversation or disagreement from that response alone.
Kinda seems like you did her dirty and tried to turn around and ask her to come TBH
Well
I responded
"Wow ok"
Then she replied
"Well if it was a solo thing"
But am not HERE for that
So I didn't respond back and haven't talked to her in a week until she called me today
(http://i.imgur.com/vdbvf4L.gif)
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 02:09:33 PM
Am gonna write her off
And thats kinda THAT
:uhh:
No one cares. We just don't think ur as right as u think u are. :dead:
Ur probably doing her a favor tbh. U don't sound like a good friend. Why do u like her? Because we like to ki at People and stay in the mall together :uhh:
Did u just turn 15 ? U sound like an adolescent and that's the way this all comes across
If you guys don't stop..
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 02:12:09 PM
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on March 12, 2017, 02:09:19 PM
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 02:08:00 PM
wtf
:omgwatshappening:
Am not here for these excuses that y'all are making for this inconsiderate gorl
s
Tell the full story then girl
Why would she text you "doubt it"
Sounds like yawl had a conversation or disagreement from that response alone.
Kinda seems like you did her dirty and tried to turn around and ask her to come TBH
Well
I responded
"Wow ok"
Then she replied
"Well if it was a solo thing"
But am not HERE for that
So I didn't respond back and haven't talked to her in a week until she called me today
This is why I can't BACK YOU UP with your foolery
Someone lock this please
You're not being a bad friend at all, and you don't have to justify you not fucking with her no more. It sounds like this was just the last straw with this person (coupled with other issues), and you naturally feel bad because she WAS your friend at some point.
I would leave that situation right where it is, because sometimes I've gone back to a friend thinking I rushed to judgement too quickly & you soon encounter the issues again to validate why you stopped using them to begin with.
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 02:15:32 PM
Someone lock this please
So things didn't go your way
And now you wanna be a brat
Sounds familiar
Yeah, you're wrong
Let me read this
Yeah you're a damn brat. Now that I've read everything
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 02:12:09 PM
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on March 12, 2017, 02:09:19 PM
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 02:08:00 PM
wtf
:omgwatshappening:
Am not here for these excuses that y'all are making for this inconsiderate gorl
s
Tell the full story then girl
Why would she text you "doubt it"
Sounds like yawl had a conversation or disagreement from that response alone.
Kinda seems like you did her dirty and tried to turn around and ask her to come TBH
Well
I responded
"Wow ok"
Then she replied
"Well if it was a solo thing"
But am not HERE for that
So I didn't respond back and haven't talked to her in a week until she called me today
youre being petty as fuck. Couldn't be my friend cause I do pop ups
Would it have been better for her to show up and make a scene? I know me and If I know there will be people in an uncontrolled environment that I do not fuck with, I'm not going because I can't hide my feelings.
Quote from: stillpretti. on March 12, 2017, 02:08:29 PM
hol up
ya'll aint bout 2 gang up on my lil cuz like this :calmdownsis:
lets calm down
g
boy shut tha hell up
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 01:58:20 PM
Why am I being attacked. I'm the victim in this
:diddraispoot:
Everyone who I invited showed up. There were people there who didn't like eachother but they came because it was my day and they put the mess aside.
If I cant even get your ass to come to my birthday day are you not going to show up to my wedding, baby shower etc?
true
Quote from: Jonovan on March 12, 2017, 07:18:36 PM
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 01:58:20 PM
Why am I being attacked. I'm the victim in this
:diddraispoot:
Everyone who I invited showed up. There were people there who didn't like eachother but they came because it was my day and they put the mess aside.
If I cant even get your ass to come to my birthday day are you not going to show up to my wedding, baby shower etc?
true
:sistas:
I say fuck that gorl. It's your day, not hers.
(https://uploadir.com/u/e9zk9fgm)
how old are you? is it important in determining why this is bothering you so much
Quote from: Kaeli. on March 12, 2017, 07:54:08 PM
I say fuck that gorl. It's your day, not hers.
(https://uploadir.com/u/e9zk9fgm)
Thank you sis
That's how I felt. It's not about you it's about me and my day.
Have already unfriended her and removed ha from my contacts
:feelinmyself:
Quote from: MelMel on March 12, 2017, 09:40:00 PM
how old are you? is it important in determining why this is bothering you so much
Just turned 24
But I look 19
:damselindistress:
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 09:46:35 PM
Quote from: MelMel on March 12, 2017, 09:40:00 PM
how old are you? is it important in determining why this is bothering you so much
Just turned 24
But I look 19
:damselindistress:
gerl....
Quote from: SingBran on March 12, 2017, 02:00:46 PM
Quote from: Cho-Ku on March 12, 2017, 01:58:20 PM
Why am I being attacked. I'm the victim in this
:diddraispoot:
Everyone who I invited showed up. There were people there who didn't like eachother but they came because it was my day and they put the mess aside.
If I cant even get your ass to come to my birthday day are you not going to show up to my wedding, baby shower etc?
The KII is...
The same people who showed up, probably don't give a fuck about you, really.
Friendship isn't always measured in that way.
omg RALF! :-o
Here's my take on the situation: You just turned 24, would you rather your friend feel uncomfortable in an environment that she shouldn't be in or would you try to plan something for the two of you to do together to celebrate your birthday? Think about that. You need to be considerate of other people's feelings as well. It shouldn't be a ME, ME, ME situation. That's incredibly narcissistic behavior that you're displaying. You want it to be all about you, sorry hun, that doesn't work in the real world. K? And then writing her off because she didn't want to be in an uncomfortable situation. You're being a bitch about it. Simple as that. If I were that friend I'd come up to your fucking face and tell your ass to fuck off and fuck your fucking life.
yea don't listen to jay
fuck u
If you can cut a friend off for petty bullshit like this then you were just waiting on a reason which is wack af