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Title: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 02:19:54 PM


@ the 11:37 mark.

:'( :'( :'(
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 02:24:19 PM
I feel for her because that would be the one thing that would break me.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 02:27:40 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 02:24:19 PM
I feel for her because that would be the one thing that would break me.

!!

I can definitely relate to her on this topic. The more she lets go of that hurt and pain, the better she'll be.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Gilgamesh. on April 30, 2017, 02:37:28 PM
Aww, I didn't even know her Mother had passed.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 02:38:12 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 02:27:40 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 02:24:19 PM
I feel for her because that would be the one thing that would break me.

!!

I can definitely relate to her on this topic. The more she lets go of that hurt and pain, the better she'll be.
!!!
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Marilyn on April 30, 2017, 02:41:03 PM
We must appreciate our parents.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Real on April 30, 2017, 02:45:52 PM
Quote from: Gilgamesh. on April 30, 2017, 02:37:28 PM
Aww, I didn't even know her Mother had passed.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 02:46:06 PM
I didn't even know her mother died
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Kaeli. on April 30, 2017, 02:46:51 PM
Honestly don't know what I would do without my parents

I really feel for people that lost theirs or don't have them in their lives
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Real on April 30, 2017, 02:48:02 PM
Quote from: Kaeli. on April 30, 2017, 02:46:51 PM
Honestly don't know what I would do without my parents

I really feel for people that lost theirs or don't have them in their lives

!!!
Don't think I'll ever be prepared for the days
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 02:49:47 PM
Quote from: Kaeli. on April 30, 2017, 02:46:51 PM
Honestly don't know what I would do without my parents

I really feel for people that lost theirs or don't have them in their lives
Id get over my dad dying tbh :dead:
But my MOMMA, JESUS! :gorlonfire:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Lazarus on April 30, 2017, 02:54:17 PM
Yeah this was sad. Her mother passed a month after her son was born. 🙏😥
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: b7 on April 30, 2017, 02:54:54 PM
Good to see her actually opening up. I wouldn't wish that pain on anyone

And who is this guy? His questions >>>>

Soooo much better than the SHIT we endure here in the states
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: MAY on April 30, 2017, 03:01:36 PM
This made me tear up. Kelly is such a sweetheart.

Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: MAY on April 30, 2017, 03:02:26 PM
Quote from: 1RIG on April 30, 2017, 02:54:54 PM
Good to see her actually opening up. I wouldn't wish that pain on anyone

And who is this guy? His questions >>>>

Soooo much better than the SHIT we endure here in the states

!!!
I actually sat through this whole thing. It was really good.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Real on April 30, 2017, 03:03:36 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 02:49:47 PM
Id get over my dad dying tbh :dead:

:omgwatshappening:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: MAY on April 30, 2017, 03:10:40 PM
Quote from: Real on April 30, 2017, 02:48:02 PM
Quote from: Kaeli. on April 30, 2017, 02:46:51 PM
Honestly don't know what I would do without my parents

I really feel for people that lost theirs or don't have them in their lives

!!!
Don't think I'll ever be prepared for the days

!!!
The thought of losing my mom scares me beyond belief.

I don't know what I'll do
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: b7 on April 30, 2017, 03:14:03 PM
Quote from: MΛΥDΛΥ on April 30, 2017, 03:02:26 PM
Quote from: 1RIG on April 30, 2017, 02:54:54 PM
Good to see her actually opening up. I wouldn't wish that pain on anyone

And who is this guy? His questions >>>>

Soooo much better than the SHIT we endure here in the states

!!!
I actually sat through this whole thing. It was really good.
"so how is it balancing being a mommy and singer? Please tell us for the thousandth time lol!!"

:uhh: girl
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 03:22:05 PM
Quote from: MΛΥDΛΥ on April 30, 2017, 03:10:40 PM
Quote from: Real on April 30, 2017, 02:48:02 PM
Quote from: Kaeli. on April 30, 2017, 02:46:51 PM
Honestly don't know what I would do without my parents

I really feel for people that lost theirs or don't have them in their lives

!!!
Don't think I'll ever be prepared for the days

!!!
The thought of losing my mom scares me beyond belief.

I don't know what I'll do
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Rxxf on April 30, 2017, 03:37:00 PM
Loved the entire interview.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Young on April 30, 2017, 03:43:17 PM
Quote from: Gilgamesh. on April 30, 2017, 02:37:28 PM
Aww, I didn't even know her Mother had passed.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Rxxf on April 30, 2017, 03:47:52 PM
We had a scare in my family recently... with one of my parents.
Everything is ok, though.  Thank God.

But that night, was one of the longest nights of my life... I kept saying "I'm not ready for this..."
And you never really are.
I broke down in tears... even when we found out everything was ok.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Rxxf on April 30, 2017, 03:49:42 PM
Quote from: Real on April 30, 2017, 03:03:36 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 02:49:47 PM
Id get over my dad dying tbh :dead:

:omgwatshappening:

Aw, Vonc.
Sorry that your dad hasn't made a great impression in your life.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 03:55:31 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 03:49:42 PM
Quote from: Real on April 30, 2017, 03:03:36 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 02:49:47 PM
Id get over my dad dying tbh :dead:

:omgwatshappening:

Aw, Vonc.
Sorry that your dad hasn't made a great impression with you.
its fine :dead:
I don't dislike him we just aint extremely close and i just know id be ok.  I guess it's "shocking" to be that honest but that's the truth.  I wouldnt be heartbroken or anything
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on April 30, 2017, 03:58:35 PM
damn kelly but the songs and videos they used were a bit shady

Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 03:59:17 PM
I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: yummy on April 30, 2017, 04:02:15 PM
Aww Kells
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Rxxf on April 30, 2017, 04:03:18 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 03:55:31 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 03:49:42 PM
Quote from: Real on April 30, 2017, 03:03:36 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 02:49:47 PM
Id get over my dad dying tbh :dead:

:omgwatshappening:

Aw, Vonc.
Sorry that your dad hasn't made a great impression with you.
its fine :dead:
I don't dislike him we just aint extremely close and i just know id be ok.  I guess it's "shocking" to be that honest but that's the truth.  I wouldnt be heartbroken or anything

It's not shocking... I come from a LARGE Caribbean family and the MESS that be taking place, CH :dead:
But any way you slice it, it's unfortunate that certain things happen.  But all you can do is acknowledge, accept, and live your best life.  Parents were once children and you have no idea what their experiences were, or what their parents experienced, and so forth and so forth.  It can be as simple as not ever learning how to be "affectionate".
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Sovereign. on April 30, 2017, 04:11:21 PM
Kelly has always been beautiful inside and out. Love her.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: GRAND on April 30, 2017, 04:14:15 PM
v
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:18:01 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 03:59:17 PM
I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.
Life is so crazy. About 4 years ago my dad and my step mom were hit head on by a drunk driver, my step mom died on impact but my dad survived. We never really had a strong bond because to be honest he was an absentee father. He has had a lot of health problems since and I feel like a higher power is urging me to deal with my issues before it is too late. We are closer but it feels fake. He tells me he loves me and it may be genuine on his part but I feel like he is just trying to make himself feel better. Should anything happen to him, that would probably be a struggle for me.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 04:18:09 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 04:03:18 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 03:55:31 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 03:49:42 PM
Quote from: Real on April 30, 2017, 03:03:36 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 02:49:47 PM
Id get over my dad dying tbh :dead:

:omgwatshappening:

Aw, Vonc.
Sorry that your dad hasn't made a great impression with you.
its fine :dead:
I don't dislike him we just aint extremely close and i just know id be ok.  I guess it's "shocking" to be that honest but that's the truth.  I wouldnt be heartbroken or anything

It's not shocking... I come from a LARGE Caribbean family and the MESS that be taking place, CH :dead:
But any way you slice it, it's unfortunate that certain things happen.  But all you can do is acknowledge, accept, and live your best life.  Parents were once children and you have no idea what their experiences were, or what their parents experienced, and so forth and so forth.  It can be as simple as not ever learning how to be "affectionate".
Yea, my dad isn't affectionate or a talker really.  He's moreso just a provider, which i recognized YEARS ago and why I'm completely fine with our relationship the way it is.  Im not a sensitive person and adapt really well so it's no skin off my back.....like not even a lil bit :dead:
And its funny because my parents are still married, so this isn't some absentee father situation. i see him regularly but still will walk in the house and depending on how i feel either not acknowledge him at all, ask flat out "where's  my momma", or be like wassup.  We good but no heart strings will break if/when he passes.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: #Mu7 on April 30, 2017, 04:24:36 PM
Riveting. This is her most authentic interview. I believe that she needs to do one stateside. My heart breaks for her because I'm sure her being super duper close to Mama Tina and Beys family put more strain. In black families we don't fuck with treating than those with different blood better than your own.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Rxxf on April 30, 2017, 04:36:31 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 04:18:09 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 04:03:18 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 03:55:31 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 03:49:42 PM
Quote from: Real on April 30, 2017, 03:03:36 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 02:49:47 PM
Id get over my dad dying tbh :dead:

:omgwatshappening:

Aw, Vonc.
Sorry that your dad hasn't made a great impression with you.
its fine :dead:
I don't dislike him we just aint extremely close and i just know id be ok.  I guess it's "shocking" to be that honest but that's the truth.  I wouldnt be heartbroken or anything

It's not shocking... I come from a LARGE Caribbean family and the MESS that be taking place, CH :dead:
But any way you slice it, it's unfortunate that certain things happen.  But all you can do is acknowledge, accept, and live your best life.  Parents were once children and you have no idea what their experiences were, or what their parents experienced, and so forth and so forth.  It can be as simple as not ever learning how to be "affectionate".
Yea, my dad isn't affectionate or a talker really.  He's moreso just a provider, which i recognized YEARS ago and why I'm completely fine with our relationship the way it is.  Im not a sensitive person and adapt really well so it's no skin off my back.....like not even a lil bit :dead:
And its funny because my parents are still married, so this isn't some absentee father situation. i see him regularly but still will walk in the house and depending on how i feel either not acknowledge him at all, ask flat out "where's  my momma", or be like wassup.  We good but no heart strings will break if/when he passes.

He pretty much created that "language" between you two.
I get it.  There's no right or wrong. 
As long as you're content.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 04:36:50 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:18:01 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 03:59:17 PM
I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.
Life is so crazy. About 4 years ago my dad and my step mom were hit head on by a drunk driver, my step mom died on impact but my dad survived. We never really had a strong bond because to be honest he was an absentee father. He has had a lot of health problems since and I feel like a higher power is urging me to deal with my issues before it is too late. We are closer but it feels fake. He tells me he loves me and it may be genuine on his part but I feel like he is just trying to make himself feel better. Should anything happen to him, that would probably be a struggle for me.

I'm very sorry to hear about your step mom, I hope that drunk driver was charged, piece of shit. But anywho, I think you should continue on building that relationship with your dad now. I cannot stress that enough. I tell that to my cousin all the time because his relationship with my uncle is damaged.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Real on April 30, 2017, 04:38:09 PM
Getting too real in here haha
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Rxxf on April 30, 2017, 04:40:02 PM
How do you think your dad would feel about that though? @Vonc
Knowing that you wouldn't lose sleep if, God forbid, he passed?
Do you think deep down it would sting him?
Or is he just so stuck in his personality/ways, that you think he wouldn't care you felt that way?
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Rxxf on April 30, 2017, 04:40:26 PM
Quote from: Real on April 30, 2017, 04:38:09 PM
Getting too real in here haha

Speaking of REAL...
:ohwow:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Eternal Bell on April 30, 2017, 04:40:32 PM
dunno 'bout parents

but id go into a SORROW FEST if an'thing happen to my sisters n brothers
:stressed:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 04:41:42 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 04:36:31 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 04:18:09 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 04:03:18 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 03:55:31 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 03:49:42 PM
Quote from: Real on April 30, 2017, 03:03:36 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 02:49:47 PM
Id get over my dad dying tbh :dead:

:omgwatshappening:

Aw, Vonc.
Sorry that your dad hasn't made a great impression with you.
its fine :dead:
I don't dislike him we just aint extremely close and i just know id be ok.  I guess it's "shocking" to be that honest but that's the truth.  I wouldnt be heartbroken or anything

It's not shocking... I come from a LARGE Caribbean family and the MESS that be taking place, CH :dead:
But any way you slice it, it's unfortunate that certain things happen.  But all you can do is acknowledge, accept, and live your best life.  Parents were once children and you have no idea what their experiences were, or what their parents experienced, and so forth and so forth.  It can be as simple as not ever learning how to be "affectionate".
Yea, my dad isn't affectionate or a talker really.  He's moreso just a provider, which i recognized YEARS ago and why I'm completely fine with our relationship the way it is.  Im not a sensitive person and adapt really well so it's no skin off my back.....like not even a lil bit :dead:
And its funny because my parents are still married, so this isn't some absentee father situation. i see him regularly but still will walk in the house and depending on how i feel either not acknowledge him at all, ask flat out "where's  my momma", or be like wassup.  We good but no heart strings will break if/when he passes.

He pretty much created that "language" between you two.
I get it.  There's no right or wrong. 
As long as you're content.
EXACTLY! I don't know any other relationship with him and honestly have never longed for anything more.  My mother kinda filled all the requirements.  Luv that trick  :stressed:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Rxxf on April 30, 2017, 04:42:18 PM
I know I would lose my shit if anything happened to my nephews or nieces.
They're like MY children, since I don't have any.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: FlowerBomb on April 30, 2017, 04:42:35 PM
Not trick
  :ummwhat:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Rxxf on April 30, 2017, 04:44:43 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 04:41:42 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 04:36:31 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 04:18:09 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 04:03:18 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 03:55:31 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 03:49:42 PM
Quote from: Real on April 30, 2017, 03:03:36 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 02:49:47 PM
Id get over my dad dying tbh :dead:

:omgwatshappening:

Aw, Vonc.
Sorry that your dad hasn't made a great impression with you.
its fine :dead:
I don't dislike him we just aint extremely close and i just know id be ok.  I guess it's "shocking" to be that honest but that's the truth.  I wouldnt be heartbroken or anything

It's not shocking... I come from a LARGE Caribbean family and the MESS that be taking place, CH :dead:
But any way you slice it, it's unfortunate that certain things happen.  But all you can do is acknowledge, accept, and live your best life.  Parents were once children and you have no idea what their experiences were, or what their parents experienced, and so forth and so forth.  It can be as simple as not ever learning how to be "affectionate".
Yea, my dad isn't affectionate or a talker really.  He's moreso just a provider, which i recognized YEARS ago and why I'm completely fine with our relationship the way it is.  Im not a sensitive person and adapt really well so it's no skin off my back.....like not even a lil bit :dead:
And its funny because my parents are still married, so this isn't some absentee father situation. i see him regularly but still will walk in the house and depending on how i feel either not acknowledge him at all, ask flat out "where's  my momma", or be like wassup.  We good but no heart strings will break if/when he passes.

He pretty much created that "language" between you two.
I get it.  There's no right or wrong. 
As long as you're content.
EXACTLY! I don't know any other relationship with him and honestly have never longed for anything more.  My mother kinda filled all the requirements.  Luv that trick  :stressed:

And that's beautiful, referring to your mom creating that bond.
SIS knows.  I'm sure she would have been the same anyway... but she knows how your father is. Lol. 

That's why I tell friends who didn't have fathers growing up... it's not the "title" or the "physical presence" you're longing for... it's the "connection".  Cause a dad could be IN THE HOME, and be INVISIBLE.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 04:46:02 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 04:40:02 PM
How do you think your dad would feel about that though? @Vonc
Knowing that you wouldn't lose sleep if, God forbid, he passed?
Do you think deep down it would sting him?
Or is he just so stuck in his personality/ways, that you think he wouldn't care you felt that way?
The way that nigga is set up :plzstop:
He'd be ight tbh. My farher is almost completely (seemingly) detached from his emotions. And he knows he hasnt been a great father in that way. I know he definitely wouldn't lose any sleep and that's why when his time comes, neither will i :plzstop:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 04:46:15 PM
But yea :hmph:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: GRAND on April 30, 2017, 04:46:39 PM
:guys:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:47:35 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 04:36:50 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:18:01 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 03:59:17 PM
I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.
Life is so crazy. About 4 years ago my dad and my step mom were hit head on by a drunk driver, my step mom died on impact but my dad survived. We never really had a strong bond because to be honest he was an absentee father. He has had a lot of health problems since and I feel like a higher power is urging me to deal with my issues before it is too late. We are closer but it feels fake. He tells me he loves me and it may be genuine on his part but I feel like he is just trying to make himself feel better. Should anything happen to him, that would probably be a struggle for me.

I'm very sorry to hear about your step mom, I hope that drunk driver was charged, piece of shit. But anywho, I think you should continue on building that relationship with your dad now. I cannot stress that enough. I tell that to my cousin all the time because his relationship with my uncle is damaged.
Honestly my step moms passing wasn't painful for me. It is a long story but the short of it is that my stepmom had a hand in busting up my Mom and Dad's marriage...oh and she was my cousin too but I digress. Yea the driver was charged and is in prison. You're right, I am just going to continue building with my dad. I will admit that it's much better than acting as if he doesn't exist.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 04:48:47 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 04:44:43 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 04:41:42 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 04:36:31 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 04:18:09 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 04:03:18 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 03:55:31 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 03:49:42 PM
Quote from: Real on April 30, 2017, 03:03:36 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 02:49:47 PM
Id get over my dad dying tbh :dead:

:omgwatshappening:

Aw, Vonc.
Sorry that your dad hasn't made a great impression with you.
its fine :dead:
I don't dislike him we just aint extremely close and i just know id be ok.  I guess it's "shocking" to be that honest but that's the truth.  I wouldnt be heartbroken or anything

It's not shocking... I come from a LARGE Caribbean family and the MESS that be taking place, CH :dead:
But any way you slice it, it's unfortunate that certain things happen.  But all you can do is acknowledge, accept, and live your best life.  Parents were once children and you have no idea what their experiences were, or what their parents experienced, and so forth and so forth.  It can be as simple as not ever learning how to be "affectionate".
Yea, my dad isn't affectionate or a talker really.  He's moreso just a provider, which i recognized YEARS ago and why I'm completely fine with our relationship the way it is.  Im not a sensitive person and adapt really well so it's no skin off my back.....like not even a lil bit :dead:
And its funny because my parents are still married, so this isn't some absentee father situation. i see him regularly but still will walk in the house and depending on how i feel either not acknowledge him at all, ask flat out "where's  my momma", or be like wassup.  We good but no heart strings will break if/when he passes.

He pretty much created that "language" between you two.
I get it.  There's no right or wrong. 
As long as you're content.
EXACTLY! I don't know any other relationship with him and honestly have never longed for anything more.  My mother kinda filled all the requirements.  Luv that trick  :stressed:

And that's beautiful, referring to your mom creating that bond.
SIS knows.  I'm sure she would have been the same anyway... but she knows how your father is. Lol. 

That's why I tell friends who didn't have fathers growing up... it's not the "title" or the "physical presence" you're longing for... it's the "connection".  Cause a dad could be IN THE HOME, and be INVISIBLE.
Yea, everything u said here. My father has shown lil things in HIS way and he's always been a great provider. Ive always given him that.  But yea, he isn't an outlet for me
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 04:50:25 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:47:35 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 04:36:50 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:18:01 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 03:59:17 PM
I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.
Life is so crazy. About 4 years ago my dad and my step mom were hit head on by a drunk driver, my step mom died on impact but my dad survived. We never really had a strong bond because to be honest he was an absentee father. He has had a lot of health problems since and I feel like a higher power is urging me to deal with my issues before it is too late. We are closer but it feels fake. He tells me he loves me and it may be genuine on his part but I feel like he is just trying to make himself feel better. Should anything happen to him, that would probably be a struggle for me.

I'm very sorry to hear about your step mom, I hope that drunk driver was charged, piece of shit. But anywho, I think you should continue on building that relationship with your dad now. I cannot stress that enough. I tell that to my cousin all the time because his relationship with my uncle is damaged.
Honestly my step moms passing wasn't painful for me. It is a long story but the short of it is that my stepmom had a hand in busting up my Mom and Dad's marriage...oh and she was my cousin too but I digress. Yea the driver was charged and is in prison. You're right, I am just going to continue building with my dad. I will admit that it's much better than acting as if he doesn't exist.

Wow I really wasn't expecting to read that, but yeah continue building that bond with him. I wish I still have both of them here with me, but everyday gets easier. Something that you will never get over.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:54:53 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 04:50:25 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:47:35 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 04:36:50 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:18:01 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 03:59:17 PM
I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.
Life is so crazy. About 4 years ago my dad and my step mom were hit head on by a drunk driver, my step mom died on impact but my dad survived. We never really had a strong bond because to be honest he was an absentee father. He has had a lot of health problems since and I feel like a higher power is urging me to deal with my issues before it is too late. We are closer but it feels fake. He tells me he loves me and it may be genuine on his part but I feel like he is just trying to make himself feel better. Should anything happen to him, that would probably be a struggle for me.

I'm very sorry to hear about your step mom, I hope that drunk driver was charged, piece of shit. But anywho, I think you should continue on building that relationship with your dad now. I cannot stress that enough. I tell that to my cousin all the time because his relationship with my uncle is damaged.
Honestly my step moms passing wasn't painful for me. It is a long story but the short of it is that my stepmom had a hand in busting up my Mom and Dad's marriage...oh and she was my cousin too but I digress. Yea the driver was charged and is in prison. You're right, I am just going to continue building with my dad. I will admit that it's much better than acting as if he doesn't exist.

Wow I really wasn't expecting to read that, but yeah continue building that bond with him. I wish I still have both of them here with me, but everyday gets easier. Something that you will never get over.
She was a mess, I didn't use at all. Lord forgive me. You're completely right. My Aunt and her sons have been on a downward spiral ever since my uncle passed.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: MAY on April 30, 2017, 04:54:54 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 03:55:31 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 03:49:42 PM
Quote from: Real on April 30, 2017, 03:03:36 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 02:49:47 PM
Id get over my dad dying tbh :dead:

:omgwatshappening:

Aw, Vonc.
Sorry that your dad hasn't made a great impression with you.
its fine :dead:
I don't dislike him we just aint extremely close and i just know id be ok.  I guess it's "shocking" to be that honest but that's the truth.  I wouldnt be heartbroken or anything

I honestly feel the same way. It would be sad in the sense that it's "my dad",
but I honestly wouldn't be too broken up. It is what it is.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: GRAND on April 30, 2017, 04:56:01 PM
I'm always here to comfort you, vonc 😜
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 04:57:36 PM
Dont need comforting, im good lolz
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: MAY on April 30, 2017, 05:00:06 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 03:59:17 PM
I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.

I'm so sorry about your mom. I can't even imagine how hard that must have been for you guys.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: GRAND on April 30, 2017, 05:06:57 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 04:57:36 PM
Dont need comforting, im good lolz
no no no I insist

Let me rest my head on your lap....

I mean, rest your head on my shoulder and let it out Lolz 😇
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: b7 on April 30, 2017, 05:07:34 PM
The lyrics to that dirty laundry mess are so damn stupid btw

Not placing Bey over her parents :dead: "especially not bey"! girl
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: MAY on April 30, 2017, 05:07:40 PM
He doesn't want AIDS fag
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Eternal Bell on April 30, 2017, 05:08:52 PM
Quote from: 1RIG on April 30, 2017, 05:07:34 PM
The lyrics to that dirty laundry mess are so damn stupid btw

Not placing Bey over her parents :dead: "especially not bey"! girl
ggggggggggggggggggggggggggggg
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Eternal Bell on April 30, 2017, 05:09:23 PM
(https://uploadir.com/u/bkgedf3r)
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: GRAND on April 30, 2017, 05:10:18 PM
Real don't want you at ALL
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Real on April 30, 2017, 05:11:27 PM
 :gotchafag:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 05:19:39 PM
Quote from: MΛΥDΛΥ on April 30, 2017, 05:00:06 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 03:59:17 PM
I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.

I'm so sorry about your mom. I can't even imagine how hard that must have been for you guys.

Thanks May, it was extremely hard because I kept it all bottled in until last year when I finally released all of that hurt and pain I dealt with watching them both die. I still replay it in my mind daily with my "whats" and "ifs".
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on April 30, 2017, 05:20:30 PM
Poor vonc
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 05:20:51 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:54:53 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 04:50:25 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:47:35 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 04:36:50 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:18:01 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 03:59:17 PM
I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.
Life is so crazy. About 4 years ago my dad and my step mom were hit head on by a drunk driver, my step mom died on impact but my dad survived. We never really had a strong bond because to be honest he was an absentee father. He has had a lot of health problems since and I feel like a higher power is urging me to deal with my issues before it is too late. We are closer but it feels fake. He tells me he loves me and it may be genuine on his part but I feel like he is just trying to make himself feel better. Should anything happen to him, that would probably be a struggle for me.

I'm very sorry to hear about your step mom, I hope that drunk driver was charged, piece of shit. But anywho, I think you should continue on building that relationship with your dad now. I cannot stress that enough. I tell that to my cousin all the time because his relationship with my uncle is damaged.
Honestly my step moms passing wasn't painful for me. It is a long story but the short of it is that my stepmom had a hand in busting up my Mom and Dad's marriage...oh and she was my cousin too but I digress. Yea the driver was charged and is in prison. You're right, I am just going to continue building with my dad. I will admit that it's much better than acting as if he doesn't exist.

Wow I really wasn't expecting to read that, but yeah continue building that bond with him. I wish I still have both of them here with me, but everyday gets easier. Something that you will never get over.
She was a mess, I didn't use at all. Lord forgive me. You're completely right. My Aunt and her sons have been on a downward spiral ever since my uncle passed.

You have been through it, chile. Well the good thing about all of this is that you didn't let it hinder you at all. Most people can't say that.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 05:22:57 PM
Quote from: LORD GRAND SUPREME MARSHALL on April 30, 2017, 05:10:18 PM
Real don't want you at ALL
:kii:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Rxxf on April 30, 2017, 05:35:43 PM
Quote from: Corporate Cannibal. on April 30, 2017, 05:32:15 PM
Please tell your parents that you love them.

Thank you.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 05:38:59 PM
Quote from: Corporate Cannibal. on April 30, 2017, 05:32:15 PM
Please tell your parents that you love them.
!!!!!!!!!!
I'll stop by my parent's house and tell my mom i love her just because. That's why  i don't even like disagreeing with my mom. I'll be mad for a minute and just call back and clear the air. Appreciate em while u can :stressed:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: b7 on April 30, 2017, 05:40:07 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 05:38:59 PM
Quote from: Corporate Cannibal. on April 30, 2017, 05:32:15 PM
Please tell your parents that you love them.
!!!!!!!!!!
I'll stop by my parent's house and tell my mom i love her just because. That's why  i don't even like disagreeing with my mom. I'll be mad for a minute and just call back and clear the air. Appreciate em while u can :stressed:
!!!! a just kidding hehe mess after the lashings

:stressed:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 05:41:42 PM
Quote from: 1RIG on April 30, 2017, 05:40:07 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 05:38:59 PM
Quote from: Corporate Cannibal. on April 30, 2017, 05:32:15 PM
Please tell your parents that you love them.
!!!!!!!!!!
I'll stop by my parent's house and tell my mom i love her just because. That's why  i don't even like disagreeing with my mom. I'll be mad for a minute and just call back and clear the air. Appreciate em while u can :stressed:
!!!! a just kidding hehe mess after the lashings

:stressed:
Well not KIDDING, cause i usually meant wtf i said  :nowgorl:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 05:44:33 PM
:stressed:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 05:45:40 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 05:20:51 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:54:53 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 04:50:25 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:47:35 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 04:36:50 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:18:01 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 03:59:17 PM
I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.
Life is so crazy. About 4 years ago my dad and my step mom were hit head on by a drunk driver, my step mom died on impact but my dad survived. We never really had a strong bond because to be honest he was an absentee father. He has had a lot of health problems since and I feel like a higher power is urging me to deal with my issues before it is too late. We are closer but it feels fake. He tells me he loves me and it may be genuine on his part but I feel like he is just trying to make himself feel better. Should anything happen to him, that would probably be a struggle for me.

I'm very sorry to hear about your step mom, I hope that drunk driver was charged, piece of shit. But anywho, I think you should continue on building that relationship with your dad now. I cannot stress that enough. I tell that to my cousin all the time because his relationship with my uncle is damaged.
Honestly my step moms passing wasn't painful for me. It is a long story but the short of it is that my stepmom had a hand in busting up my Mom and Dad's marriage...oh and she was my cousin too but I digress. Yea the driver was charged and is in prison. You're right, I am just going to continue building with my dad. I will admit that it's much better than acting as if he doesn't exist.

Wow I really wasn't expecting to read that, but yeah continue building that bond with him. I wish I still have both of them here with me, but everyday gets easier. Something that you will never get over.
She was a mess, I didn't use at all. Lord forgive me. You're completely right. My Aunt and her sons have been on a downward spiral ever since my uncle passed.

You have been through it, chile. Well the good thing about all of this is that you didn't let it hinder you at all. Most people can't say that.
That is very true. I can't imagine going what you have gone through, definitely speaks volumes about how you have made it through.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Real on April 30, 2017, 05:47:35 PM
Love my mom to DEATH but I can't talk to her everyday. Woman is long winded af. Ain't no 5 minutes bih :dead:

But yeah,  tell em often 🙏
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on April 30, 2017, 05:49:56 PM
i just finished watching and i teared up at work chile

my moms passing has really turned me into a crybaby
i cry at anything and its annoying as fuck
and its like i didnt have this before

ugh

i need to have a child i feel as thought thats the only way to work through it
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: FlowerBomb on April 30, 2017, 05:51:48 PM
This thread is too much
I can't read this
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Eternal Bell on April 30, 2017, 05:53:03 PM
Quote from: Black Bitch on April 30, 2017, 05:51:48 PM
This thread is too much
I can't read this
nnnnnnfbvc
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Eternal Bell on April 30, 2017, 05:53:22 PM
im bouta start tearin up if yall dnt quit
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Vonc2002 on April 30, 2017, 05:54:07 PM
Quote from: Tinkerfly on April 30, 2017, 05:53:03 PM
Quote from: Black Bitch on April 30, 2017, 05:51:48 PM
This thread is too much
I can't read this
nnnnnnfbvc
Trans get out
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: AIDS on April 30, 2017, 06:04:27 PM
Quote from: Corporate Cannibal. on April 30, 2017, 05:51:20 PM
I really don't even like to tell friends goodbye. When I say it it gives me a weird feeling. You truly never know the last time you'll talk to someone.

My granny always tells us to say "so long" or "see you later" instead of goodbye
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Real on April 30, 2017, 06:05:26 PM
Granny
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Rxxf on April 30, 2017, 06:05:50 PM
Quote from: Corporate Cannibal. on April 30, 2017, 05:51:20 PM
I really don't even like to tell friends goodbye. When I say it it gives me a weird feeling. You truly never know the last time you'll talk to someone.

Thank you for saying this.  Even tho it may be difficult.
It really helps.
You are helping others.
Love you.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: AIDS on April 30, 2017, 06:05:59 PM
Queen will be 96 (great grandmother)
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: AIDS on April 30, 2017, 06:06:20 PM
Quote from: Real on April 30, 2017, 06:05:26 PM
Granny

:uhh:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Nine on April 30, 2017, 06:08:55 PM
Wow, I didn't know that.

Kelly

:stressed:
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on April 30, 2017, 06:17:30 PM
Quote from: Corporate Cannibal. on April 30, 2017, 06:11:42 PM
Quote from: SingBran on April 30, 2017, 06:05:50 PM
Quote from: Corporate Cannibal. on April 30, 2017, 05:51:20 PM
I really don't even like to tell friends goodbye. When I say it it gives me a weird feeling. You truly never know the last time you'll talk to someone.

Thank you for saying this.  Even tho it may be difficult.
It really helps.
You are helping others.
Love you.

Love you too :)

Can i have a hug?
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 09:42:48 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 05:45:40 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 05:20:51 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:54:53 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 04:50:25 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:47:35 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 04:36:50 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:18:01 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 03:59:17 PM
I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.
Life is so crazy. About 4 years ago my dad and my step mom were hit head on by a drunk driver, my step mom died on impact but my dad survived. We never really had a strong bond because to be honest he was an absentee father. He has had a lot of health problems since and I feel like a higher power is urging me to deal with my issues before it is too late. We are closer but it feels fake. He tells me he loves me and it may be genuine on his part but I feel like he is just trying to make himself feel better. Should anything happen to him, that would probably be a struggle for me.

I'm very sorry to hear about your step mom, I hope that drunk driver was charged, piece of shit. But anywho, I think you should continue on building that relationship with your dad now. I cannot stress that enough. I tell that to my cousin all the time because his relationship with my uncle is damaged.
Honestly my step moms passing wasn't painful for me. It is a long story but the short of it is that my stepmom had a hand in busting up my Mom and Dad's marriage...oh and she was my cousin too but I digress. Yea the driver was charged and is in prison. You're right, I am just going to continue building with my dad. I will admit that it's much better than acting as if he doesn't exist.

Wow I really wasn't expecting to read that, but yeah continue building that bond with him. I wish I still have both of them here with me, but everyday gets easier. Something that you will never get over.
She was a mess, I didn't use at all. Lord forgive me. You're completely right. My Aunt and her sons have been on a downward spiral ever since my uncle passed.

You have been through it, chile. Well the good thing about all of this is that you didn't let it hinder you at all. Most people can't say that.
That is very true. I can't imagine going what you have gone through, definitely speaks volumes about how you have made it through.

Its crazy for real. I honestly thought I was never going to pull through it though. I have to catch myself sometimes when I want to pick up the phone and call them. I came home from the gym one night on the anniversary of my mom's death and saw a picture on the computer of my parents and my grandmother and immediately just lost it. I heard my dad's voice telling me to pull it together lol.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: FAMÈ on April 30, 2017, 09:44:55 PM
Quote from: Tinkerfly on April 30, 2017, 05:53:22 PM
im bouta start tearin up if yall dnt quit
cffffgggvvnnnnnZDDCCCCCCC
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 09:49:36 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 09:42:48 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 05:45:40 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 05:20:51 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:54:53 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 04:50:25 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:47:35 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 04:36:50 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:18:01 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 03:59:17 PM
I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.
Life is so crazy. About 4 years ago my dad and my step mom were hit head on by a drunk driver, my step mom died on impact but my dad survived. We never really had a strong bond because to be honest he was an absentee father. He has had a lot of health problems since and I feel like a higher power is urging me to deal with my issues before it is too late. We are closer but it feels fake. He tells me he loves me and it may be genuine on his part but I feel like he is just trying to make himself feel better. Should anything happen to him, that would probably be a struggle for me.

I'm very sorry to hear about your step mom, I hope that drunk driver was charged, piece of shit. But anywho, I think you should continue on building that relationship with your dad now. I cannot stress that enough. I tell that to my cousin all the time because his relationship with my uncle is damaged.
Honestly my step moms passing wasn't painful for me. It is a long story but the short of it is that my stepmom had a hand in busting up my Mom and Dad's marriage...oh and she was my cousin too but I digress. Yea the driver was charged and is in prison. You're right, I am just going to continue building with my dad. I will admit that it's much better than acting as if he doesn't exist.

Wow I really wasn't expecting to read that, but yeah continue building that bond with him. I wish I still have both of them here with me, but everyday gets easier. Something that you will never get over.
She was a mess, I didn't use at all. Lord forgive me. You're completely right. My Aunt and her sons have been on a downward spiral ever since my uncle passed.

You have been through it, chile. Well the good thing about all of this is that you didn't let it hinder you at all. Most people can't say that.
That is very true. I can't imagine going what you have gone through, definitely speaks volumes about how you have made it through.

Its crazy for real. I honestly thought I was never going to pull through it though. I have to catch myself sometimes when I want to pick up the phone and call them. I came home from the gym one night on the anniversary of my mom's death and saw a picture on the computer of my parents and my grandmother and immediately just lost it. I heard my dad's voice telling me to pull it together lol.
I can't even imagine, that is pure strength. My mom is my lifeline and losing her will be a test of everything for me. When she battled breast cancer I tried to prepare myself but it was hard because during her chemo her brother in law and father passed away and it just played in my head on repeat.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 11:21:09 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 09:49:36 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 09:42:48 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 05:45:40 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 05:20:51 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:54:53 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 04:50:25 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:47:35 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 04:36:50 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on April 30, 2017, 04:18:01 PM
Quote from: M-Rocka on April 30, 2017, 03:59:17 PM
I had a similar situation like Kelly's. Prior to my mom's passing, we had an argument basically about how she was ready to go on home with the Lord because she was tired of battling with her breast cancer. There was a lot of guilt coming from her and resentment that she felt that I had towards her growing up. I can tell that she wasn't going to be the same after my dad died a year prior to her passing.
Life is so crazy. About 4 years ago my dad and my step mom were hit head on by a drunk driver, my step mom died on impact but my dad survived. We never really had a strong bond because to be honest he was an absentee father. He has had a lot of health problems since and I feel like a higher power is urging me to deal with my issues before it is too late. We are closer but it feels fake. He tells me he loves me and it may be genuine on his part but I feel like he is just trying to make himself feel better. Should anything happen to him, that would probably be a struggle for me.

I'm very sorry to hear about your step mom, I hope that drunk driver was charged, piece of shit. But anywho, I think you should continue on building that relationship with your dad now. I cannot stress that enough. I tell that to my cousin all the time because his relationship with my uncle is damaged.
Honestly my step moms passing wasn't painful for me. It is a long story but the short of it is that my stepmom had a hand in busting up my Mom and Dad's marriage...oh and she was my cousin too but I digress. Yea the driver was charged and is in prison. You're right, I am just going to continue building with my dad. I will admit that it's much better than acting as if he doesn't exist.

Wow I really wasn't expecting to read that, but yeah continue building that bond with him. I wish I still have both of them here with me, but everyday gets easier. Something that you will never get over.
She was a mess, I didn't use at all. Lord forgive me. You're completely right. My Aunt and her sons have been on a downward spiral ever since my uncle passed.

You have been through it, chile. Well the good thing about all of this is that you didn't let it hinder you at all. Most people can't say that.
That is very true. I can't imagine going what you have gone through, definitely speaks volumes about how you have made it through.

Its crazy for real. I honestly thought I was never going to pull through it though. I have to catch myself sometimes when I want to pick up the phone and call them. I came home from the gym one night on the anniversary of my mom's death and saw a picture on the computer of my parents and my grandmother and immediately just lost it. I heard my dad's voice telling me to pull it together lol.
I can't even imagine, that is pure strength. My mom is my lifeline and losing her will be a test of everything for me. When she battled breast cancer I tried to prepare myself but it was hard because during her chemo her brother in law and father passed away and it just played in my head on repeat.

It's a lot of us here that have dealt with this and its crazy how we all are bonding over this, but I can definitely understand where you are coming from. I'm sorry to hear about your other family members.
Title: Re: Kelly Rowland Opens Up About Mother's Death
Post by: LOONA. on May 01, 2017, 11:54:03 AM
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Id get over my dad dying tbh :dead:

:omgwatshappening:

Aw, Vonc.
Sorry that your dad hasn't made a great impression with you.
its fine :dead:
I don't dislike him we just aint extremely close and i just know id be ok.  I guess it's "shocking" to be that honest but that's the truth.  I wouldnt be heartbroken or anything

I know what you mean. I'm like that with alot of my family too but I'm not a very emotional person to begin with.